anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?

[stillvicarinatutu]

come on then.
moan away.
ill start. i m just so fucking fucked off. lost one last year at 44....i thought its a miracle!! wasnt to be but filled me with what appears to be false hope.

been trying ever since. and no. every month the same. this month as well as AF ive another surprise - a cyst. where no one ever ever wants one.
so this month will be lost. along with all dignity as i beg the hospital to lance it.

moan away. go on. you know you want to.

Nimble that's terribly insensitive. I'd accidentally drop that. On a tiled floor. Repeatedly.

Bubblegum it's the same here. I am very blessed by DD, of course. I always wanted a large family, and more so want a baby with my partner who is 100 times the man ex is. He's also younger and it niggles me he may be giving up parenthood based on my aging ovaries. Same with the miscarriage, at least you know you can get pregnant. Not exactly a comfort when said pregnancy is dripping onto the bathroom floor. Tmi sorry just enraged me.

nimble ugh why do people do that? It’s just so incredibly selfish, I’m sorry she’s like that :( like it isn’t difficult enough.

limp having a child already doesn’t automatically mean you can’t be disappointed about not having another. You can have no babies or 5 babies and still have that longing. It’s such an insensitive argument. My DD dad walked out on me when she was 6 months old after cheating on me with another man during my whole pregnancy. My partner now, I’ve been with him for over 4 years and he is a great guy and I worry he will end up leaving if I can’t give him his own baby but I know deep down he wouldn’t as he is far too nice lol. I just wish we could have a baby together instead of my only child being the spawn of that lying cheating twat. I got told once to not be greedy. Apparently wanting two children is being greedy... I’m sorry to hear you had a mc :( I’m very fortunate I’ve never had one, I just don’t get pregnant at all

@LimpLettice that really sucks.

One of my main reasons for wanting a baby is because my husband is awesome and there should be more him in the world (I know 🤢)

Your situation is no different to mine in that sense. No matter how well intentioned the person saying it is, that’s a shitty thing to say

Ah Bubblegum don't think like that. We are planning a small wedding next year but I do wonder if its unfair to ask him to commit to that level if I can't give him a child. He just laughs and says not to be ridiculous but you do worry. My ex was a serial cheater (never admits it) and we ended up out on ears when DD was 18 months, and I never thought I would meet anyone I would trust enough to consider it again. I did and it isn't happening.

Haha Nimble. That is sweet not pukey. Well a bit pukey :)

It was very early, btw, pretty much a chemical, but that didn't stop me feeling grief. I read a horrid thread on here the other day about how a CP is not as griefworthy - well, I had a much later one years ago, and they both sucked. Why do people feel the need to measure other peoples grief, longing or fucked offness?

nimble that mug, bloody hell - passive aggressive much...follow limp's advice. Repeatedly. :)

Really sorry about the insensitive things being said to you guys; I know people get frustrated when loss isn't acknowledged but do wonder whether it's sometimes best to zip it...

On cycle 12, which is just aces. Have a family thing this weekend and couple who got married after us aren't there as she's due. Which is great.

Totally get the previous comment about wondering if I'm just barren - how could I have gone this long without a scare? But kind of comforting to hear others think like this - thought it was just me...

Is it wrong of me to want to punch someone for referring to her kid as 'the Little One' at all times? Every time she says it, it sounds so smug. Feel bad as it would probably sound less smug if I had a kid - so it's my issue, not hers...

Bloody hell Nimble I'd definitely be smashing that mug!

it's one of the positives that I took when my sister announced her pregnancy that at least there's let pressure to produce a grandchild for my parents! Grr, why is it about them? I'd love a child of my own, never mind a bloody grandchild! I'll be long dead by the time any child of mine has a kid at this rate!

I remember my friend telling me that she took the morning after pill because she'd taken her pill late and was worried about having another child and I thought "ooh so it's that easy?" if only I'd known! I could have saved a load of hassle with pills for the past 15 years!

limp god, men can just be the worst! And then the good ones we eventually find, things don’t go how we want. So frustrating!

QuietTime I’m on cycle 11 and I’ve not had even a hint of pregnancy. Most women I’ve seen posting that have been trying for a similar amount have time have got pregnant once or twice but sadly had a CP or MC. Obviously I’m glad I’ve not had either but it makes me wonder what’s wrong with me that in almost a year I’ve not even been close to being pregnant....

Fucking hell nimble what a shitty gift. I'd be suggesting she shoves it where the sun doesn't shine!

I know right? I mean, if you already have all the kids you currently or will ever want (including zero, if that’s your bag), I can see how it MIGHT be funny. But in most situations?

Who MAKES these things?!

bubble join the shitty club, mate. I sometimes look down at my body and think, what the fuck is going on in there...is it just tumbleweed blowing about...

Also, I don't want to be rude,
but seriously: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3058395-Did-we-have-sex-to-late-to-conceive

Or AIBU...

@QuietTime Ah I was excited the first month TTC too...little did I know I'd never even get as far as taking a pregnancy test!!! It's weird cos half of me was pessimistic and half of me was shocked when it didn't happen straight away ! Now I exist in some weird parallel TTC universe where I don't know what I feel from one minute to another.

Met up with an old friend today. They have a 3 year old but struggled to have her and also had a miscarriage. She was fab to talk to and had loads of (genuinely helpful) advice which is rare. She's also just been diagnosed with PTSD from the birth - so it's not all rosier on the other side. Just shows tho, some people with kids do understand

@NimbleKnitter really don't know many people who'd find that mug funny. Even my friends who don't want kids get upset that their parents are always making digs about it!

QuietTime lol at tumbleweed. That’s exactly what I think every month. I dunno if my uterus just fell asleep or something!

@QuietTime there’s an even more 🙄post up now. Darwinism in action

The irony being those muppets will likely conceive within 1-2 months as well.

Nimble was that the sex after ovulation one?

You were very kind to the first poster - I should be more patient...I actually don't mind the ones getting anxious or sad early, as I felt the same due to my glass-half-empty outlook (though didn't start whole threads about it, obvs)...but the ones asking unanswerable questions (can you tell me if I've probably conceived)...just...facepalm

Am a big fan of physicskate's responses - always on the mark.

juney too bloody right!! Argh.

Some of the threads on here do make me lol did you see the one last week, the woman that wanted to let us all know that if we’re not getting pregnant then it’s because we’re not trying hard enough and not having enough sex...

Me and OH dtd yesterday and today but I didn’t get a positive opk until about an hour ago and we aren’t going to get a chance to have sex again until Saturday. I know sperm can still live for a few days and catch the egg anyway but my brain tells me if you don’t dtd on the day you ovulate then you won’t get pregnant. I just imagine all the untimely deaths of the little spermies

I'm fed up. Beginning to wonder if i should have let my need for another baby go. My cycles are suddenly all over the place, i've no idea whats going on. I've gone from a regular 28 days to last month being 42!

How long do I let it go on for before i either throw in the towel or go insane.

That’s the one. Can’t imagine all that baby shagging (as opposed to fun shagging) for the wrong week.

Can’t blame her though, I had no frigging idea until January this year (at the grand old age of 32!) that you weren’t fertile in the week before your period.

If I hadn’t been such a celibate nerd in my twenties, maybe I’d be asking people on the internet if I could be pregnant

Oh my goodness @NimbleKnitter - what a bloody insensitive gift & from your Mum too! I hope you smashed it & chucked it asap - you don't need that in your life! Just blame it on another tragic washing up breakage!

@nimble ah what a shitter! Casually wear this teeshirt next time you see her...

@jane hope everything was ok at the docs?

@bubblegum if it makes you feel better I'm on cycle 12 and not even the sniff of a line...

@Mrsjones17 thanks - I have a fungal infection he thinks! So he's give me a spray! Sorry for the drama. And he's also referred me on to the gynaecologists for the next stage of fertility treatment.

Went to see play tonight about a same sex couple who were trying to conceive. It was really good actually. But at one point they said "if we were a heterosexual couple we could just get pregnant without thinking, by accident". I wanted to stand up and shout "no you bloody couldn't" but it didn't seem appropriate so I sat there and watched :)

@jane well done for not shouting out at the theater that must have been some restraint!!! Well I suppose it's good news that you haven't got German measels!! Drama is what this thread is all about!