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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?

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stillvicarinatutu · 06/08/2017 23:31

come on then.
moan away.
ill start. i m just so fucking fucked off. lost one last year at 44....i thought its a miracle!! wasnt to be but filled me with what appears to be false hope.

been trying ever since. and no. every month the same. this month as well as AF ive another surprise - a cyst. where no one ever ever wants one.
so this month will be lost. along with all dignity as i beg the hospital to lance it.

moan away. go on. you know you want to.

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LovePinaColada · 10/10/2017 21:44

Thanks @micropig - this is cycle 5 so I am all folicced up! (Not a word!) 😂

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 10/10/2017 21:45

I'm going to go ahead and leave the thread too. Very happy for everyone getting their BFPs but really terribly depressed and sad right now and it doesn't help to look at positive pregnancy tests. Wishing you all the best!

LovePinaColada · 10/10/2017 21:46

Sorry you're off @juneybean - I don't know how to PM! Want to keep in touch, will work it out!

Eliza9917 · 10/10/2017 21:56

I'm sorry for posting here, it was insensitive, especially where I haven't read the whole thread yet. I just expect to still be here next month, and the one after, and the one after that. I drove myself mad trying to see lines and had to force myself to stop poas all the time so it's hard to see these lines as confirmation and believe it. I don't, I'm still expecting BFN's when using anything other than these crappy Tesco sticks.

Please don't leave the thread, I'll ask mnhq to remove my posts.

SoozC · 10/10/2017 21:57

Sorry you guys are leaving. I was enjoying having a moan on this thread! I guess it's turned into any other thread though which defeats the purpose. I wish you guys lots of luck and baby dust Smile

hellybellyjellybean · 10/10/2017 22:00

Let's just get back to moaning shall we?! Can feel af coming on, bastard! I'll be crappy until Friday when she kicks in properly just to drag it out for more than enough time! Wine on Friday then!!x

hellybellyjellybean · 10/10/2017 22:02

I really need this thread tbh, my friend I was finding the only solace in talking to is pregnant and I can't get this out with anyone else.

Mrsjones17 · 10/10/2017 22:15

@hellybelly I'm more than happy to keep the thread going I have plenty to moan about haha!

Not only does DH deploying a day before fertile window for 9 weeks we have just found out today he will be home for around 4 weeks before deploying again and we're not sure how long for. A big part of me wants to stop down to his commanders house and shout 'can you just fuck off on trying to get fucking pregnant here and you keep sending him away!!!' although maybe not as hell get sacked Hmm

@eliza I think it's really tricky as the title probably points out the thread is for lots of us that have been trying all sorts just to get a squinter of a line and nothing. Some may find it a little hard to look at your bfp and I can see why. I hope it does work out for you.

micropig · 10/10/2017 22:16

Helly well I'm still here and still not pregnant!

micropig · 10/10/2017 22:19

Mrs you should demand he gets sent home each month just for your ovulation window lol

Mrsjones17 · 10/10/2017 22:21

@micro oh how I wish! I am going to see the families support officer to see if there is anything we can do like get a 'break' from Deployment whilst TTC. I just feel like it's all come at once!

Eliza9917 · 10/10/2017 22:46

It's not a bfp, I just did a clear blue early one and nothing.

Justwaitingforaline · 11/10/2017 00:14

I’m sorry Eliza, that’s rubbish. I stay away from Tesco tests for that reason, I don’t know why they still make them.

I’m still unfertilised over here. I got very angry at the new Louis Theroux program about drugs earlier. There was a baby born to an addict mother who was going through withdrawal and I genuinely turned to DH and asked him why she could have a baby but I couldn’t.

micropig · 11/10/2017 06:55

Mrs hope family support can get you some help then!*

Just* ha I know how you feel 😩

On holiday now with a friend, she really wants to go to the sauna which I normally love but I now really don't wanna go into. Desperately hoping it turns out to be named ones (we've gone abroad) so I can avoid going in. I don't think I have any chance this month but I don't wanna risk anything anyway.

micropig · 11/10/2017 06:58

Naked not named lol.

Also re: pregnancy tests, what would we all prefer happened if someone on here got a BFP? Obviously no posting tests (I've only ever even done two since TTC and they've both been so obviously negative you'd have to be drunk with double vision to think there was a line lol), they can do that in other threads, but should they say they got a BFP or just leave?

I'm kidding myself that I'll get a BFP sometime soon lol 😩

LimpLettice · 11/10/2017 07:12

I don't want anyone to leave the thread! Certainly not without a bfp anyway. Imo it would be nice to know that other fucked offers got a bfp, it's the pix which are too in your face.

3rd day of killer af for me and I'm so fucked off with it all. I had a jaydess coil which stopped all periods for years and was wonderful but now they are worse than ever. I'm going to have to have a stern word with myself by Christmas if I'm right and I've left it all too late. The total depression is bad enough but the messy painful period on top is far too much.

micropig · 11/10/2017 07:31

Oh limp so sorry for you. Periods really are a slap in the face when TTC, I find the hormones the worst. It wouldn't be quite so hard if it wasn't for them making us feel terrible too.

My fertile window is now seemingly over for this month so I'm officially in the TWW but as I've said I'm almost certain (other than the niggling doubt) that this isn't my month, so I'm kind of just eager to get AF over and done with so we can get into the next cycle. Of course though, no matter how convinced I think I am, I always have that little "maybe" to make the TWW feel longer and AF more depressing. I think I could have no sex all month and still convince myself there's a chance lol!

Summer1986 · 11/10/2017 07:37

Sorry to ladies that have left the thread.

AF is just utterly shit anyway but when TTC it's just a constant smack in the face. Last week during AF I was unbelievably low.

Officially in the FW now, expecting to ov in a few days. Trying desperately hard to try not to focus on cycle dates and try to make DTD more spontaneous.

Eliza-sorry your test was BFN.

DoAsDreamersDo · 11/10/2017 08:45

it's such a shame that people have left this thread. Please come back and we can all continue to moan together. Right now I've nothing to moan about except that I'm in the middle of FW and DH has decided that he's too stressed to DTD. Boo haha. Let's hope that I ovulate late this month (although all signs are pointing to it being smack bang on time).

micropig · 11/10/2017 08:54

Doas that's kinda what happened to me this time, DH was too tired and stressed (as he generally is most weekends due to work, weekdays are better) so we missed my most fertile three days. So frustrating!! Pretty certain we weren't successful this month.

Justwaitingforaline · 11/10/2017 08:55

Ahh, that’s a tricky one. Maybe we could have a catchphrase? ‘ I’ve got a golden ticket, guys! I hope to see you all on the flipside’ or something?

That way, everyone knows what it means but it avoids the whole ‘ hey, I’m leaving this board because I’m pregnant now. Yes, pregnant. Before you’ feeling which I think we all know too well. It’s rhbbish, because there are days I am so in a place where I’d be over the moon and cheering to see someone on here get a positive test but then there are also days when a little part of me dies every time someone around me gets pregnant. I know that’s crap but I can’t help it; I am trying!

Justwaitingforaline · 11/10/2017 08:57

Also, I took the plunge and emailed the GP yesterday morning. They have a new system where you email your ‘issue’ and they email back by the end of the next day surgery with an appointment time/test times. I’ve been wondering about going to the GP again for a while now after we were fobbed off by a previous one and then it hit me, there’s only 6 cycles left before there will be no 2018 baby.

So that freaked me out and I decided to get the ball rolling, whatever form that ball may take.

Summer1986 · 11/10/2017 09:13

That GP system sounds much better than what we have here.
I hope you aren't fobbed off again, if you know you are entitled to some tests and you aren't happy with their answer get a second opinion!

juneybean · 11/10/2017 10:49

Sorry still here because I love you guys. I would love nothing more than to see those who I've been chatting to for months to get their BFP! I truly would. But when someone joins one day then posts their BFP the next, it's a kick in the teeth. It's not what I joined this thread for and I left the buses for that kind of shit.

Justwaitingforaline · 11/10/2017 10:51

I’m stoll barren and will be for a while I imagine! More than here to keep being miserable and moaning.

I watched a BBC Three documentary last night about the old turkey baster method... starting to wonder if I could convince DH to give it a crack.