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anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?

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stillvicarinatutu · 06/08/2017 23:31

come on then.
moan away.
ill start. i m just so fucking fucked off. lost one last year at 44....i thought its a miracle!! wasnt to be but filled me with what appears to be false hope.

been trying ever since. and no. every month the same. this month as well as AF ive another surprise - a cyst. where no one ever ever wants one.
so this month will be lost. along with all dignity as i beg the hospital to lance it.

moan away. go on. you know you want to.

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Mrsjones17 · 03/10/2017 21:26

@juney good lets be bitter buddies!!

I keep thinking I need to come off mums net and give myself a break but you guys on this thread keep me sane. Thank you xx

Justwaitingforaline · 03/10/2017 21:28

Hello, I’d like to be bitter too!

It’s cycle 11 for us, a year off the pill and here we are, on my birthday, still not pregnant but I have seen 8 ( yes, 8!) pregnancy announcements today including a lovely one who bragged about the fact she was on two types of contraception so it must have been ‘fate’.

stripysleeves · 03/10/2017 21:44

the likely hood of me getting pg now is less than 5%

stillvicarinatutu if you don't mind me asking, where are you getting those stats from?

Did you know that the data quoted all over the place (e.g. NICE guidelines) on the chances of getting pregnant is NOT based on a modern study - or even on a study including women who were all actively trying to get pregnant.

It's based on records of women from the 17th - 19th centuries! Or at least I know this was true last time I looked into this, a few years back.

They have no idea of how much the older women were DTD or even if they were maybe actively trying NOT to get pregnant.

A much more recent study in 2004 found that 82% of women aged between 35 and 39 would get pregnant in a year.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24128176

SoozC · 03/10/2017 21:46

I've just read this whole thread. Love it!

Another fucked off person here, ttc for 20 months, no sniff of a BFP. I'm 36, DH is 48.

Hate fucking smug people getting pregnant so easily. I avoid most threads because I hate it when someone says "Can I join? We've been trying for a month and no BFP, I'm so upset" then they come back 2 days later with their fucking BFP and act surprised and say how they just know it'll happen for everyone else too if people just relaxed because that's what they did.

sigh

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 03/10/2017 21:46

Fate my fat arse!
Laughing at the "balancing in your head" - been there done that!
I've given up on the prenatal vitamins now so you can tell I've really been defeated. Will go see the GP in December. Just bracing myself for what kind of horrible news I'll be getting...

ARGH

stripysleeves · 03/10/2017 21:47

Sorry, I should have said. I posted that because it gave me hope when I was TTCing for ages and getting nowhere.

It helped to know that it might happen, given long enough, that it wasn't actially a ridiculous idea to think I could have a baby when pushing 40.

Mrsjones17 · 03/10/2017 22:00

Right just to rant one more time tonight but also fucked off at these people who keep posting about whoes the daddy?! (I know I shouldn't read them!)

I'm looking across at my wonderfully kind, caring, supportive and loving husband and we're doing everything possible to have a child. We work are arses off in good jobs in nice house nice holidays etc and get can't get pregnant for shit. Yet other people just sleeping around popping out babies left right and centre not knowing who the dad is.

It makes me so sad to see my DH disappointed month after month. He hides it well and is so kind to me but I know deep down he's bothered too. Hopefully the arrival of cycle 12 means we can get things looked into.

Hi to everyone above come have a laugh cos God knows we'll cry otherwise!

juneybean · 03/10/2017 22:34

Yep another one here who's given taking vitamins because it just seems a waste.

I gave up on the conception buses because of all those one monthers.

Welcome to our lovely newbies (or oldies since we've all been trying for months!!)

Janefx40 · 03/10/2017 22:57

@Mrsjones17 love it! Balancing on your head - we're not far off. Was doing shoulder stands but it got painful so now DP runs off and gets the yoga blocks to prop me up! And it has made NO difference at all - no sperm getting anywhere near any eggs!

Welcome @gonnabreakmyrustycage know what you mean about the sex. Fun the rest of the month. Not fun during fertile week!

SoozC · 04/10/2017 07:17

I stopped taking folic acid because I was fed up of pill popping. I must start again today because you never know. Right?!

Who am I fucking kidding?

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 04/10/2017 08:02

I know. My prenatal vitamins box is on the floor as I threw it from the bedside table in a fit of rage and dh is to uncomfortable to pick them up (probably doesn't know whether to put them on the bedside table again or not) and I don't even want to look at them.

DoAsDreamersDo · 04/10/2017 09:14

Id like to also have a moan about people who miss one pill and fall pregnant. I'm just jealous really but it does annoy me when people on the buses don't even get to the start of the month and they're already getting their BFP! I'm just bitter really and I wish them all the best, but I like the posts offering advice on how it worked for them and then I'd like them to bugger off to the pregnancy board and leave us to it Sad

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 04/10/2017 09:24

Anyone else at that phase where you just blatantly lie and say "I hate babies! They're so stupid and needy. And ugly. And fat. Ugh babies are just the worst, who would want them?"...

... And then cry?

Justwaitingforaline · 04/10/2017 09:29

I feel like a holiday retreat for all of us would be a great idea. Screw the TTC dos and donts - all of us drinking wine and moaning about smug fertile people. My grandma stated yesterday that she’s waiting around for another great GC yesterday and that I should get in with it now and I wanted to shout ‘IVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT FOR A YEAR NOW, IT ISNT WORKING’

Justwaitingforaline · 04/10/2017 09:31

Also please tell me I’m not the only one whose at their wits end with people asking if a test is positive when the test line is darker than the control line and it’s so positive even a child could tell you.

juneybean · 04/10/2017 09:44

@DoAsDreamersDo I don't think it's bitter, I think they're very insensitive tbh, those of us that have been trying 6+ cycles are fucking tired and done with it all and they have little accidents and it's just a massive fuck you from mother nature.

@Justwaitingforaline a retreat sounds awesome, I'm not even sure I'm going to do anything TTCing this month I will take the vitamins when I remember, I will not do my BBT, will not do any OPK, I will not symptom spot because I won't know when I ovulate so can't reliably know what DPO I am.

Justwaitingforaline · 04/10/2017 09:48

We’ve had a month off this month. DTD when we’ve wanted to, no OPKs ( although it’s hard to ignore O cramping and whatever), I’ve had wine whenever I wanted to and I’ve deleted every fertility app from my phone - it’s actually really liberating. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s just not going to happen so I’ve accepted a new job, and booked our honeymoon for January in a really not appropriate pregnant lady place and I am going to enjoy every bloody second of it.

juneybean · 04/10/2017 10:09

Ohh where are you going?

Steaksauce · 04/10/2017 10:11

@gonnabreakmyrustycage yes I do this.
If my mum hints about wanting more grandchildren, I always do an over the top shudder and eye roll, it's like a reflex, I can't help it.

I was making a brew in the kitchen at work the other day and this woman came in, massively pregnant and was chatting to someone else and she said "well I'm only having this one cos HE wanted a kid (she spat out the word "he" with distaste) I'm not having anymore, I look disgusting"

Yeah....cheers for trivialising it love.

And then there's another colleague, who got the job I wanted. Who somehow got pregnant whilst on the pill, who has managed to lose a stone while pregnant and who has now moved to a desk across from me so I can now see her floating around being all pregnant and looking fabulous.

FUCK. OFF.

Steaksauce · 04/10/2017 10:15

I also get pissed off with people on the buses who say things like "TTC #5 starting to think it'll never happen!"

Well you've already got 4. 5 is just greedy. Some of us are trying to have one. ONE.

juneybean · 04/10/2017 10:17

Omg yes @Steaksauce I hate that! Thought we'd try for number 20 then off they fuck all pregnant after one month of trying. Fertile bastards.

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 04/10/2017 10:23

Yes, fuck her right off. Who loses weight when pregnant? Who gets pregnant on the pill? I think they lie about that to make it sound unexpected so everyone is more understanding at work.
It will happen to us too and guess what... I'll tell everyone it was an accident and I was on the pill. Then I'll say "dh is really happy but I think this is not the right time and I'm dreading getting fat and having stretch marks..." just for shits and giggles.

God I'm awful

juneybean · 04/10/2017 10:40

Hahahaha yes I think me saying it was an accident would be fabulous!

DoAsDreamersDo · 04/10/2017 11:14

haha fertile bastards! Love it

secretly wishes I was a fertile bastard

I'd be ecstatic with one!!

LimpLettice · 04/10/2017 11:51

I think I love you all :) The line ones just make me go arghhhhhh it's a bloody line, just be honest and say 'look at meeee' instead of pretending you can't sodding see it.

Steak it sounds like you work at my place. I am about 5 stone fatter than the fell the first month not really been trying colleague. Which makes me feel even better haha.

A retreat sounds wicked. The 'Fuck the Fertile Fuckers Weekender' sponsored by Gin and Folic Fucking Acid.