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Hut of Gl/Doom, part IV - FTC, because that's what we do....

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duchesse · 23/03/2007 12:19

Et voila.

This Hut is more of a Bedouin or desert tent than anything too gloomy. We shall supply our our own gloom.

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scorpio1 · 12/05/2007 18:38

so am i beansprout . i am not very at all this evening

beansprout · 12/05/2007 18:40

Where are you at the moment Scorpio? I'm in the middle of the business end, wondering if we will ever have spontaneous sex again....

scorpio1 · 12/05/2007 18:42

i am CD23,af due thursday.just waiting for my period so i can do this ALL OVER AGAIN.

i am going to have a nice bath tonight

beansprout · 12/05/2007 18:46

I know exactly what you mean Scorpio. Not so much CD1 as square bloody one (again). Humph.

Right, off to get ds into bed and to sit, watch young men on Joseph and eat chocolate. And then summon the energy to shag. Jolly good.

scorpio1 · 12/05/2007 18:48

god we are so miserable arent we?!

beansprout · 12/05/2007 18:50

After my early m/c someone said, "ooh, think of all the fun you'll have trying again" and I swear I nearly decked them!
I actually just fixed them with my steely glare and said, "I'm not sure, but I think you've never had to try for a year to have a baby?", and that shut them up.

I don't need advice from fertile freaks thankyouforasking!

scorpio1 · 12/05/2007 18:54

i havent had a mc myself, but i read on here alot about how bloody insensitive people are when things like that happen

my dp is away this weekend for "work".he is now spending all night in the pub 200 miles from here, whilst i sit here ALONE AGAIN not going to the pub,because i am always the one at home doing things,cleaning,sorting out everything.i have been ill yesterday, and so was dp.he spent all day in bed whilst i was just as ill taking dc's to school,etc.just so fed up today.also had some news this evening that someone who started ttc same time as me is now pg.amazing how much of a crap person ttc makes me.

beansprout · 12/05/2007 21:30

I don't think it makes us crap, we are (in the immortal words of the Human League, no less) only human and this is a very difficult business. I think that half the crass comments are really founded in people not knowing what to say. It makes them feel uncomfortable on all sorts of levels.

lissielou · 13/05/2007 13:48

tbh i hate the person that ttc makes me. i find myself glaring at pg women on the buses, making excuses not to see my friend and her new baby. saw someone last week that id seen for the last time in feb when theyd just confirmed that my hcg levels had doubled just before i had the ep removed and she said, ooh you lucky thing youre not showing at all. so had to explain while thinking im not alright about it at all! i want to be happy for all the women i know who are pg and i cant. because it just brings home how badly ive failed at this "natural process"

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 12:46

stumps in, plonks self down and sulks

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scorpio1 · 14/05/2007 12:57

duchesse - dont think we have properly met before.

See you are having a day like i was on saturday. you ok?

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:03

Hi Scorpio, thank for asking.

Have reached a mental impasse in which I either have to stop ttc altogether, or go to GP to argue my case about investigations. Judging on past experience, it's going to be a struggle- they seemm exceedingly unwilling to help me in any way.

It just makes me so angry that it could be something as stupid as my thyroid levels needing adjusting, but they won't do anything about it as I am not hypothyroid enough. I'm just fed up.

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beansprout · 14/05/2007 13:09

Oh f*ck is it CD1 Duchesse?

Can you get a second opinion? Why won't they address this?

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:11

Yup

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It's like drawing blood from a stone

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scorpio1 · 14/05/2007 13:23

what about a change of GP?

sorry to hear its CD1....mine due this week, just waiting for it so i can do this again.hope you feel better

beansprout · 14/05/2007 13:23

Duchesse, sorry to hear that. Truly pants.

lissielou · 14/05/2007 13:31

oh duchesse, im sorry. can you change docs?

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:33

Very difficult to change practises around here (rural Devon) as they tend to be few and far between, although some GPs within the practise are better than others. Frankly though they are about thirty years in outlook behind other parts of the country.

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scorpio1 · 14/05/2007 13:38

duchesse - i understand, i live in cornwall.gp's here the same-and always the same old ones.and one hospital. see the one you like the most.

sideways · 14/05/2007 13:38

duchess - sorry, that's crap.

Have you thought about something like reflexology or acupuncture for your thyroid, as the drs are rubbish?

lissielou · 14/05/2007 13:38

well, (sorry to dredge it up again) your chemical pg a few months back can count as a mc so you can push on that basis. i know thats what i did with all mine. i made a point of traipsing into the doc every time it happened.

sorry, i know its not much help.

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:40

I am very seriously considering acupuncture (as in on the verge of picking up the phone). Acupuncturists are one thing there is a lot of in Devon.

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:43

I find it very hard to explain anything to anyone at my surgery without coming across as a hysterical female, even though I am not at all. They appear to dislike well-informed patients who arrive with an idea of what's wrong with them. It's very frustrating.

Also I kind of feel that fertility resources shouldn't be used on people like me, who already have three beautiful children, and that I may really be pushing my luck by seeking help. I guess I'm just struggling to come to terms with my fate.

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duchesse · 14/05/2007 13:45

Ah yes, Lissie, sorry- I was about to say that I will mention the chemical pregnancies (there was at least one other last year) but that you see them mentally tutting and raising their eyes when you mention pregnancies that miscarry at 4 or 5 weeks.

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lissielou · 14/05/2007 13:51

duchesse, you are as entitled to help as anyone. 2 out of my 4 mcs were at the 4-5w mark and tbh i did play the hysterical female card. i remember being told by 1 doc that at 4w it was a period, not a mc and i asked him how many times he'd been pg, and if he'd ever tried for a baby for this long only to see that line appear, start planning then see all that blood. its still a mc because conception had occured and it still hurts because you want that baby.