Thread 30, TTC #1 | Hilda hopefuls are still riding the shag wagon

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.


We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!


Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...


Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

FFS

just been baby bombed again by the same friend who babybombed me last year.

Oh Hep what a shitter. for you?

Flora hormones + baby bomb was indeed perfect mix. I woke up this morning left the house and proceeded to cry the entire train and tube journey to work. Literally just weeping. People must think I'm mental.

I don't know what it is about public transport and crying. When I look back on this period of my life I think I'll associate infertility with crying on public transport. It's mortifying!

Your holiday sounds dreamy by the way

Well done to mr chlo getting through the surgery, hope he has a nice quick recovery

Pyjamas being proactive does make a massive difference. For me getting in touch with the UK Fertility network and meeting a volunteer from there was a huge support. They also meet monthly near the Barbican.

Sorry hep that's shit I sometimes feel like I'm living in fear of pregnancy announcements. It's so shit.

I often cry in the car on the way home from work Jam - its probably the time of day when I have the most time to be alone with my thoughts and its just a disaster. Hasn't actually happened for a few weeks now... I must be making progress - or I'm just permanently numb now. Could you read or maybe listen to a Podcast or something on the train? Anything to keep your mind busy and the negative thoughts at bay?

Oh god jam - I'm the same on the tube and in restaurants! Last week when spotting got worse while at restaurant with DH, I just sat there and wept over my dinner. Good times.

I went to a support group (my clinic does one which anyone can go to - based near Sloane Square), it was a huge help. And the person who runs it is the counsellor I'm seeing tomorrow so it's good to know I already like her!

I don't cry at all any more, starting to think I don't care enough but when I think of all the appointments and procedures I've been through - I know that can't be true.

Oh girls where would I be without you. Can we please meet up when we have our beautiful babies xx

Just popping in to say hi 😊

How are you all doing?

Sorry for those who's af has turned up and also to those going through tough times.

Pyjamas your ring is beautiful!

Mouse I got a tattoo to remember my previous loss by. It's just a small love heart in the shape of the miscarriage ribbon and coloured blue and pink.

Jam - we should 100% do that, go for cake and tea in London or somewhere central to everyone and bring our babies.

Count me in! Ok I'm not London based, but we can have a NW splinter group.

Do you mind ladies if I have irrational sweary rant?

Ready?

Ffs and ffs again, can't even use my baby bombing as fuel for running, a few.paces in and painfully twinges in my hip GggRrrrr!!!!! Bollocks cunty shit fucking pointless baby bombs. And same to the twats at work letting me deal with my first and most importantly negotiation at work on my own after bastards are all on holiday .... Grrrr!!!!!!!!

Angry crocheting isn't the same. I'm not fucking pregnant, and my friends are now on their bloody second.

hep swear away - I feel your frustration, especially on running. Tweaked a muscle and have been off for over two weeks - have realised how much I'm now relying on it to escape my brain for a bit, esp. when am upset.

Work sounds like a pain in the ass - how did that happen?? Poor you

And am another emotional commuter (at times) - convinced looking miserable the other day was the reason a guy offered me a seat on the tube (am v clearly not pregnant...)

Hi love! How are things? Hope all's well xx

Good luck with counselling tomorrow, PJs, thinking of you

I'm doing great quiet thanks. Just the odd crampy feelings but other than that I don't really have any symptoms yet. I've booked a private scan for Monday when I'll be 6+4. Feeling very anxious so just want checked over asap.

chlo I know Santorini was so expensive - we opted for a 2 star hotel in Corfu... August is always so expensive!

pijamas my eggs are no good 😢 but IVI consultant explained that the most recent research indicates that mum that carries has much more genetic influence than they first thought - hence why I am okay do go down the double donor route.

FFS hep
Hope rant helped.

jamon not sure if it helps any, but been there, done that. And I am not a pretty crier...

BTW way on another thread I am on we did have a RL meet up and it went very well!!! Just saying...

Hep & quiet if you can't run have you tried yoga. Its amazing how stretching twisting and slow breathing makes me feel. I really need to start practicing more than once a week.

I can understand all the crying. I've been having a rough time as we are getting to the first anniversary of my dads death. Random things are setting me off again. I just can't believe its nearly a year which also means my ttc is nearly at a year. I'm going to ask the gp what the chances are we can start trying soon. Everything I read reckons 12-18months before trying but that would take me to nearly 32 which I know isn't old but still.

I would so be up for meeting up when we have our babies! I'm up for meeting up whenever even before our babies, but I know that's more difficult. Just throwing it out there in case!

That's really good to know kwick - logic tells me it should make no difference, but it does make a difference to me.

I get your rage hep!

Got my fingers firmly crossed for you rainbow

Just went out for some wine with one of my best friends - it was so good!!

Oooo yes we should definitely get together. Although I'm not sure I could look you in the eye given how much you all know about my lady bits!

Jam I'm a cryer. Cried over a glass of wine in a pub garden because of a private message Facebook baby bomb. Cried in my office after a colleagues baby bomb. I have no baby and no dignity any more!

Oooo we went to Santorini on our honeymoon. And naxos! Which was gorgeous and cheap!

Hep what a bastard lot of things to happen in one day..maybe you could crochet some swear words into whatever you're crocheting.

I agree pyjamas. A pre baby meet up could also involve wine!

How are you doing pyjamas? Glad you managed to book a counselling session and Emma cannon is supposed to be great. The support group sounds brilliant- that's such a good idea, and great to "test run" your counsellor! I know it's easy to say but try not to worry about follow up 💐

Kwick 😊 although I wish that we all had our sticky beans, it's great to have you with us again. Glad the new job is better stress wise. And massive Well done on the weight loss- fx crossed for the new FC

Sorry bitch hit mouse and skipper 💐 hope you're doing ok

Flora too found izzys book really good to normalise the feelings I have- and that is a great idea getting your mum to read it too. I am so jealous about your holiday! Sounds awesome!

Hope you're doing ok chlo- good news about DH op and hopefully the sperm improves quicker than expected 🤞

Welcome lemon 👋 I was surprised my gp actually took me seriously before the 1yr point (although did have a cyst rupture) so might be worth a try? The worst they can do is say come back?

Sorry about the baby bomb jam 💐 TTC is shite. Sorry you had a big cry this morning- Hope you're having a lovely distracting evening now and feeling a bit brighter. I love the idea of a meet up with our future babies

Hep ❤️ vent away- sometimes only swearing will do

I have my first fertility clinic appointment tomorrow. Had been totally calm but now feeling really sick and anxious. Anyone know anything about guys clinic?

Aww Hep - keep your chin up. Huge virtual hug from me 👊

Fucking fuckity fuck shits hep that fucking sucks. Bastards.

A huge hug for my fellow emotional commuters. Bless you all xxx

Basset that sounds like a really hard time sorry lovely xx

Binky I don't have experience of guys but would recommend writing down beforehand any concerns or questions as it's so easy to forget stuff when you're there

I'm up for meets! with or without babies. London easiest for me xx

Just had an interesting evening meeting with a good friend. I confided in her about our infertility and she rather unhelpfully went straight on to recommend relaxing and letting go then it will happen followed by we should consider adoption I found my inner peace by reminding myself she has no experience of ever TTC. She then proceeded to tell me about the incredibly difficult time she's going through with finding out her partner has a drug addiction we spent the rest of the evening talking about that. There is often so much going on in other people's lives that you just don't know about.

basset I concur! Last night I did my (now regular) yin yoga class and it was like dessert without the calories- feel amazing after.
Sorry to hear about your daddy

😘 binky and best of luck with your appt

jamon whilst I empathise for your friend who is dating a drug addict I must applaud your aplomb - I would have slapped her one when she started preaching about something she knows nothing about!
Actually the insensitivity of some continues to astound me - including my CIL - who went through rounds and rounds of IVF before finally adopting- has been very blase about both my MCs...

Rainbow that's a lovely idea. I wanted to get something for the garden too but still haven't brought myself to do it. I've booked my due date off work, may venture to the cemetery to see the rose garden where they scattered the ashes. Didn't really want to be in work around people that day, and I'm not sure how I'll feel about not being pregnant either. (Although there's still time to remain positive about that possibility)

Baby bombs are something I've gotten used to, I have a moment of FML but overall I've accepted other people get pregnant and have families and I'd be pretty sad if someone felt like that if it were me, so I try to practice what I preach, don't always get it right though.

Girl at work was telling me an ex-colleague is due any minute, and made a point to say 'oh they've only been married a year, that didn't take them long' - she knows I miscarried. 🖕 I used the smile and nod reply.

We started to TTC 4 years ago next month, which is crazy, 3 large breaks in that time, I'll be honest I still feel like a newbie to TTC and this is cycle 10. I think I've just become numb to disappointment. I cry about my loss more than anything, and all the guilt I feel. Not sure how to move that aside.

If I see pregnant ladies now I just think about ice cream and pizza. 😎

Basset once your levels are normal you'll be good to go. It took me 4 months for an OK but I should have had an appointment at 2 months so who knows, It may have been sooner. My doc gave me a 12 month timescale at first too. Keep positive. Ironically I have my 2 month check in a few weeks, he was enthusiastic about me giving him good news that I was pregnant as he wants to keep a close eye on me once I am, kinda feel like I'm wasting an appointment now. 😢

Hope your appointment goes well today binky don't feel nervous, feel excited things are moving forward!! X

Jam your friend sounds like a bit of an arsehole. 🤔

Sk1pper I hope your AF has calmed down.

AF is done for me btw, I was meant to temp this morning, forgot... ah well, tomorrow is a new day. Oh and meet up, yes please. Even though I'm up in Manchester, I can jump on a train no problem. Or even a fb group, I'd love to 'meet' all you ladies that have kept me sane on this weird and wonderful journey. X

Sending hugs!!!

lemon

flash oohhh sweary crochet... i like it.

got home yesterday afterwork to :

1. OH suggesting "comfort food" mac+cheese (he received baby bomb at same time as me)
2. our internet being out..... engineer not able to fix until thursday :(