Thread 30, TTC #1 | Hilda hopefuls are still riding the shag wagon

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.


We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!


Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...


Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Just to clarify - I meant casual the way forward to telling the ILs about IVF

Morning ladies!!
Welcome back kwick yay! I was going to pm you this morning 😎 glad to see you have a date to aim for. X

Sk1pper I'm sorry AF is bad. I sympathise.

Well AF finally showed her face late Saturday. I'm going to start on the OPK as soon as she's gone which I'm hoping will be tomorrow. (My glorious short cycles and 3-4 day Afs are a bitch)

I'm having a LARGE coffee this morning. 😊

Happy Monday!! X

Sorry for AF Mouse - enjoy that coffee, green tea for me I think.

Morning ladies,

Sorry I've been AWOL of late, struggled a bit lately but doing better now.

PJs - I am so sorry for the disappointment of your first IVF round. I really hope that you are looking after yourself and take some comfort from how you found the process and that its no longer a great unknown. You definitely gave everyone on here a very honest account so thank you for that.

Sorry for those that have recent visits from AF - she's a cowbag Skipper and Mouse -

Jam - I'd definitely recommend letting the inlaws know, but definitely be prepared for being told to relax. Mine have been really good and now just send messages to say they support whatever we do - and that's all we'd really hope for.

I had my third round of blood tests this morning - 21 day progesterone and thyroid function test so once that's done - we just wait for the FC referral to come through - although it'll likely be September at the earliest.
We are off on holiday in 2 weeks time and I absolutely cannot wait for that - it is so sorely needed.

I've really enjoyed Izzy Judd's book and learnt a great deal. I've asked my Mum to read it too so that she can understand some of the feelings and might do the same with the MIL. Obviously we know from here that our feelings are totally normal but its good to let others know that its normal to feel like a green eyed, failing monster!

On that happy note.... hope everyone has a good Monday - am looking forward to a week of sunshine - before AF most likely rocks up on Sunday.

Thanks everyone -
I'm back at work today and finding it really tough - I just feel flat and empty. I've made an appointment with the counsellors at my clinic - it's free so thought in may as well try it to see if it helps. I need to get my head straight. This is so up and down, one minute am fine, the next really not.

Sorry you had such a rough night skipper - hope the pain eases off soon.

And sorry about AF mouse - I hope you enjoyed that ☕️!

I'm now on Day 4 of AF. Unheard of before - AF usually lasts a day and a half at most for me 😒

Sorry you're still feeling miserable Pyjamas, I can imagine it's going to take you a little while to recover from what's happened. And being back at work is always tough when you have all this stuff to process. I don't know if this will make you feel better or not but I know a couple of people who have had a BFP after their first failed round of IVF, unassisted. It's pretty common. It's almost like the process fixes something so maybe this will happen with you? Hope the day goes quickly for you xx

Thanks skipper - yeah my best friend told me to be prepared for aftershocks when I told her I was feeling fine yesterday, she was so right. And you're right, you never know, we might get lucky before the next go. Need to keep hopeful!

Lemon - as you are under 35 they tend to say a year of TTC before a doctor will start to do tests etc.

We went after 10 months and doctor ordered very basic tests - 21 day bloods for me and an SA for my DH.

Hi Lemony. Under 35 they normally say a year, unless you have known health issues which might cause problems, then they might move things along a bit quicker. Also don't worry about being late, most of us have just been here too long now!

Pyjamas I think you're doing so well. It makes me so hopeful for you.

Kwick I'm good. Only news here is that I started Agnus Castus this cycle and am now 6 dpo with no spotting! For the first time in nearly 18 months! So bring on the BFP!

Sorry for AF skipper and mouse, she really needs to fuck right off for everyone here!

Also, has anyone seen the thread on Conception by someone trying to get pregnant by meeting up with a sperm donor one day a month for sex? I can't work out if it's a troll or someone who is incredibly secure in their fertility.

Anyone seen the

So sorry about AF Mouse, here's to the next cycle.

Sk1pper, I hope the pain is better today.

Sorry you've had a rough time of it lately flora but glad you're feeling a bit better. I think we all need a bit of a holiday at the moment, I know I certainly feel that way too.

Pyjamas, grief is funny like that isn't it? One moment you're fine and the next moment you're not. I hope the counselling and some time will help. Take good care of yourself

Welcome lemony, sorry you've been trying so long without any success. We kicked off private tests when we'd been trying for just under a year I think as I was getting impatient but I think the normal advice is a year.

Flash, getting to 6DPO without spotting is great! So glad the AC seems to be working for you. I haven't seen that thread in conception yet but I'm going to go and check it out now. I love the optimism...

Cramps have started here so think AF will arrive tomorrow bang on schedule.

It's by user1234 blah blah blah, I sortof wanted to reply as noone else has.

Maybe you could....

And thank you! It's the happiest I've felt in a year! I never thought I would get my body back!

And sorry you think AF is on the way. I make sure my house is stocked with painkillers, comfort food and plan what I'm going to watch on TV the day before AF so I can just wallow.

Sorry mouse

Good to see you flora sorry things have been tough. That's good things are moving with tests and referrals, September is just around the corner

Be prepared for aftershocks sounds like really good advice pyjamas take care of yourself

Welcome lemon we also kicked off with private tests at about 9 months in but went to GP at a year to get the NHS ball rolling

Just been baby bombed at work and my heart is racing. It's a friend who knows what I'm going through as she was kind of my TTC buddy at work. They were trying for a year. When will it be me? Another colleague is due in October and I was hoping to not be around bumps after that. Now there will be another bump until January. I hate how much a baby bomb gets me down

Sorry jam it is so hard. To be honest I've wracked my brain by I don't think there is anything like the pain of long term ttc and how it impacts life in so many ways that you have no control over.

So sorry about the baby bomb Jam, happened to us a few weeks ago. They only got married in March and she's now 14 weeks. It's heartbreaking isn't it?

We had another resignation at work today - the only working mother in our team of 50-odd. Apart from the big bosses, that means there's now only 1 person (male or female) in the whole team with children. Doesn't say much for diversity and inclusion does it? If I didn't feel like having a baby was a million years away for us, I'd be properly worrying.

Hi lemon - you could see if your GP surgery has any guidance on when to see them re TTC (ours did), otherwise around a year seems standard.

Sorry about AF skipper & mouse, skip hope the pain eases

Sending positive thoughts flora, glad to hear you're doing better - where are you going on holiday?

Damn baby bombs jam I know what you mean about hating how it makes you feel, it's like an extra kick in the face after my initial reaction - don't want to be that person...

flash haven't looked at the thread yet, but sounds...interesting...hooray on the spotting, btw!

P.S. kath that's shocking! Do people ever comment on it in staff meetings/HR surveys or that kind of thing? Pretty damning...

skipper I get horrific AF pains too - many years ago I got prescribed Naxosomething or other (which you can get over the counter in Spain) - been taking for years... only bothered to read small print when TTC and it says can harm fertility but I have carried on taking - only on worst day though. May be worth a try for you?

Congrats on your new 🏡 jam

Hello mouselove!!! Sorry about AF

pijamas failed treatment is a fcuker... I have done 9 all in all (2 IVFS and the rest IUIs) and had 2 BFPs along the way which both resulted in MC. This is a shit hard journey - take your time to be angry, grieve, but then dust yourself off and ride that horse again (figuratively and literally!!).

Welcome lemon!!

flash LSFX!!!

jamon I hate baby bombs too!!! I think most people and work think I have given up TTC and no one really mentions it any more - family included. That is fine by me - I think I over shared in the past.

kathrino guess I am lucky where I work - we have a lot of working mums, many in quite senior positions. All married though.

So I had my SW weigh-in another 1.5 lbs off - another digit down on BMI. Must keep going and resist

Happy Tuesday everyone!!!

That's shocking kath you'll have to trail blaze it when your lovely BFP comes along

Skipper I was prescribed mefanemic acid for bad period pains - it works a treat but is also not great for fertility. Like kwick I only take it one if I really need to

Had a very weepy evening and feeling very very premenstrual - insomnia, too hot, light headed, bloated, weepy and tummy ache. AF will be here tonight or tomorrow morning.

Meeting a friend after work tonight and it's my mums last week at work before she retires so I've got some nice distractions. Just need to get through some tactical crying at work and avoid my pregnant colleagues and I'll be through it!

That's crazy Kath - you are a solicitor aren't you? I've just moved from a department in which my boss told me that it "just didn't work for people that have children" - she is now 2 weeks from going off on maternity leave.

jam
Baby bombs are so hard and particularly when you are feeling pre-menstrual anyway.
Hope you enjoy your evening tonight and the celebrations for your Mum's retirement.

Well done on the weight loss Kwick

Quiet we are going to Croatia, Prague and Greece - a bit of a European multi-centre I guess. Cannot wait for some sunshine and relaxation for a change!

Hope you're doing ok pyjamas. It's weird how grief comes in waves but all you can do is ride it out and you've already dealt with it amazingly well. I've had friends who've had failed attempts and haven't got out of bed for weeks and not spoken to anyone so you are doing absolutely brilliantly so far.

flora the holiday sounds fab! Are you flying from place to place? We wanted to go somewhere different this year but I think we'll end up back in Spain. We're lucky that parents have a holiday home there so it's much much cheaper. I looked at a week in Santorini and it was over £10k!!

jam baby bombs are just the worst. The upsetting part is that they don't get any easier, they just get harder and it's absolutely shit. Hope you're alright.

DH had his varicocele op yesterday and all went ok. Felt a bit deflated when the surgeon said it will take a while to improve the sperm quality as consultant told us it would improve straight away but at least we're moving in the right direction. Am going to see a friends baby today and we thought we would have babies close in age and does feel pretty shit that we're still not even pregnant tbh. But hey ho... onwards and upwards. I've been feeling mainly positive recently so want to try to keep hold of that.

You're all so right - it's just like grief. Things feel a bit brighter today thank goodness and I'm able to focus a bit more at work. I've got my counselling appointment tomorrow morning and have made an appointment with Emma Cannon (she's written a few books) in August. Feels good to be proactive. Trying not to worry about our follow up appointment with consultant on the 4th - basically I'm scared she's going to say my eggs are no good, but we'll have to cross that bridge then I suppose.

Sorry to hear about baby bomb jam - I'm finding those more and more difficult to deal with. Someone in my team announced their pregnancy not too long ago and have avoided her. Not too difficult as I didn't like her and avoided her anyway before!

That's crazy kath - but can totally see it happening. Babies are pretty common in my team, but teams vary so massively at our firm don't they!

Good work on weight loss kwick!

Glad the op went well chlo - fingers crossed it's just what you need.