Thread 30, TTC #1 | Hilda hopefuls are still riding the shag wagon

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.


We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!


Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...


Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

pyjamas I think it's great you want to commemorate what you've been through. DH and I bought a copper heart tree decoration because our due date would have been mid december. It helps to have something.

I think I'm 3/4 dpo and have no spotting. The Agnus castus is amazing. I do have significant thick white cm though, so not sure if that's just hormone changes from the Agnus castus.

Beautiful ring and nails pyjamas

Mouse hope you get some clarity soon. A tattoo is a lovely idea

That's great the AC is making a difference so quickly flash

pyjamas, love your ring!

Sorry for those being trolled by AF.

Fertile window is coming up, but I think DH and i are basically going to miss it because of a conference. So that's another 6 weeks... stupid long cycles!

Mouse - you could get something to remember your little bean by, if that feels like the right thing to do. I think what Pyjamas has done is a lovely idea, it's so important to celebrate and remember it in a positive way like that. I hope AF arrives soon and gets you out of this limbo, I'm in a similar situ but she's technically not due until tomorrow so can't really complain.

Kath - will you test, or just going to ride it out? Well done for being so cool and collected!

Pyjamas - I think you deserve to let go quite a bit after going through that process! A very sensible idea for you both to have a relaxed cycle, sometimes TTC can seem like a full time job. I had a relaxed cycle for the honeymoon and although I was a little gutted that I didn't get a surprise BFP, I actually had a nice time just eating and drinking whatever I wanted and not worrying about POAS 2-3 times a day.

Flash - CM does thicken post ovulation. It that certainly seems very quick. As long as you had good CM during the fertile window, it's nothing to worry about. Your body's PH balance is very sensitive to any external or internal changes. There's always Preseed to fall back on if it starts impacting fertile week CM but you should be fine. A win so far on the spotting though.

Smitten - that is really tough honey, sorry xx

Ladies please may I rejoin?
I have been absent for a while as after MC number 2 was told by FC they would not treat me until I got BMI down to under 35. This REALLY pissed me off as in the two years they have been taking my money my weight had not been raised as an obstacle to treatment.
Anyway I am now with a new FC and am losing weight! Hoping to restart treatment (likely donor egg) in September.

Hope everyone is doing well - also hoping not too many familiar faces on the thread - as that means there were loads of BFPs!!

Happy Sunday everyone!

Kwiiiiiiiiiick!!! A huge welcome back. I was thinking the other day we were missing your positivity. Great news on the new clinic and well done losing weight, it's not easy.

Thanks jamon! Just your name makes me hungry !!!!
What a lovely thing to say about me being positive!
And whilst the weight loss thing is not easy it is not as hard as I thought it would be/has been on the past.
How are you doing?

Sk1pper, there's no chance this month for various reasons so just waiting it out and looking forward to the next cycle!

It's good to see you kwick!! Well done on the weight loss and sounds like a good idea to find a new FC. I'm more and more unimpressed with CRGH. Have you found somewhere new in London?

So good to see you kwick!! Well done on the weight loss and fab news on the new clinic - it sounds like you're in a happier place at the moment

Totally hear you skipper on the relaxed cycle - it's going to be so nice to have a month off from all the monitoring, obsessing, needles etc. I'm going to start seeing a new acupuncturist, but I see it as a way to relax and treat myself to something - any other positive effect it may or may not have is just a bonus.

Woke up feeling much brighter today - staying in and licking my wounds really helped and I'm starting to see some hope again. Not giving up yet!

Kwick - oh my god you're back! I'm so happy to see you again - I'm glad you've found somewhere else and loosing weight. Will be lovely to be trying alongside you again xxx

Kwick You are a shining beacon of positivity 😄 I'm doing okay thanks, coming to the end of my second cycle on clomid. I don't think I'll take it again, it didn't suit me very well plus it means ordering more online and quite frankly I can't be bothered. We've got about three months to go before our NHS round of IVF so I've been trying to get myself in a better frame of mind. More focus on physical and emotional wellbeing 😇 some days easier than others!

Pyjamas giving yourself that time and space is so important. Don't rush yourself. I've started (and nearly finished!) the Izzy Judd book this morning and am taking away from it how kind you need to be to yourself throughout all of this.

kwick hello! Sounds like you've been making great progress and roll on September!

Forgot to add - fairly painful FaceTime with the in laws this morning. I think they were expecting the Big News from us. Not sure why - well I guess they know we are trying and they are very excited. They said several times So... what's new, any news??? It made me feel so awful we couldn't make their dreams come true. They also told us about being invited to a friends grandchilds christening - the baby is called Romeo - and proceeded to ask us not to call our children weird and wonderful names. I think we both mustered a weak smile. They're coming down in a few weeks and I think we need to tell them. At the moment they have no idea and don't know they need to be sensitive.

Oh Kathrino sorry to hear CRGH not being great with you. They do have a lot of experience but they just always seem so busy... I am not sure how much they really personalise treatment. I am now with IVI (Wigmore or Wimpole Street - I always get confused which, very near to Debenhams on Oxford Street). IVI has this clinic in London - where you can do all treatment or like me just use for pre-treatment and then use one of their many Spanish clinics for actual treatment.
They have a very nice waiting room and my consultant always responds to my emails (and unlike CRGH I can email her direct!)

Hiya Pyjamas!!! Am defo in a better place.

Hello skipper!!! Lets cycle together!!! but please note I mean get preggers at the same time not ride a bike

Jamon such nice words sorry that Clomid did not do the trick. (Is that supposed to get you more eggs?)

Flash how's tricks? 😘

So here is the thing - the IVI consultant (lovely lady who took the time to really listen to me) told me to take a chill pill (okay so not quite in those words!) regarding time. She said I still had years to get preggers in (I will be 43 in a week) if I go down donor egg route. I know that will not suit everyone but what I truly believe is that the whole malarkey already puts so much pressure on, try not to add to it. It has been good for me to have a break - to get perspective, to grieve, to change jobs, to start yoga again, to lose weight and to start "kissing the joy as it flies" again.

Oh and Jamon please forgive my ignorance but are you Jam in disguise?

Ahh it's lovely to see you your usual chirpy self Kwick. And you're right, there's definitely an ageist stigma attached to TTC but its dumbfounded. Our medicine and methods are so much more advanced now, so many women are having children much later in life. No point worry about age and time, what will be will be and we all need to make sure we look after ourselves first and foremost on our journeys to becoming mothers.

We have definitely missed your positivity on this thread kwick, I feel all inspired just reading your message and it sounds like you've got a great new clinic and consultant!

Jam, I generally find my ILs quite irritating but your post makes me so glad that they don't seem at all interested in our children (or lack of). Do you think they'll be supportive if you tell them?

Glad you're feeling better today pyjamas. You're so bloody strong.

Ah periods finally here, and she's a right bitch this time. I've take the strong pain meds, had a bath and am now nursing my womb with a hot water bottle. Bad times

It is indeed I Jam kwick ** your consultant sounds like a keeper. Clomid is meant to improve egg quality and yes perhaps produce more eggs. The only things it's definitely done is turn me into a complete psychopath for the last 8 weeks crying at anything from a magazine cover to football transfers

Sorry skipper all the and chocolate for you

Kath they'll definitely be supportive but DH is going to have to ask instruct them not to give us their advice - they are both extremely keen on giving lots of unwarranted advice for any life situation. The last thing I can handle is his dad emailing me about the latest thing he's researched on OPKs and SMEP method. I seriously wouldn't put it past him. I think they would also be in danger of falling into the "just relax" advice category. And then I'd have to kill them.

Ah sk1pper, I'm so sorry. Hope the meds kick in soon so you can get some sleep tonight

Hello kwick

Is your new job less stressful with less traveling?

Sorry about AF skipper - hope the meds punch her right in the face.

DH told his dad about the IVF tonight - he dropped into conversation so casually as if he'd just told him what we'd got up to over the weekend. His poor dad probably didn't know what to do with himself! Hope your DH handles the ILs appropriately jam!

Back to work for me tomorrow - will be strange slipping back into old life and pretend nothing has happened.

skipper what an arse fcuk!! TAke care of you

Jam!!!!! How is the house buying going? Sorry about your horrific Clomid experience.
BTW my new consultant took me off DHEA - she said most recent studies indicate it means more eggs but not better quality (which seems to be my problem).
Please do not kill your ILs... I am not sure what prison visitation rights are for a fellow MNer

Hep!!!! Hello! I must say it is so nice to be welcomed back so warmly!!! How are you doing?
So new job is limited travel and whilst busy busy busy the issues/stress relate to keeping launches/change on track rather than dealing with "people" issues - which I find MUCH less stressful. The last couple of months have been manic whilst they searched for a replacement for my old job and I had to do both jobs but now replacement has started (although on holiday for next 2 weeks).

pyjamas bon courage my lovely. Take your time and prioritise yourself.

I have my SW weigh-in tonight - really hope I get a loss (last week did my last old job trip and found it hard to stick to plan).

Complete restless night, chronic pain that the Paramol didn't touch. I will need to get prescribed something for occasions like this I think.

However, that was as good a test as any. I literally had a month of eating/drinking whatever I wanted and that's the worst pain I've had so far this year. So for me personally, what I eat does impact my cycles - massively. And I assume that would be on the follicular phase as well as the luteal phase. Whelp, back to my normal eating habits this cycle.

Maybe casual is the way forward pyjamas?! Make out it's not a big deal? Hmm. Hope you're doing okay

Kwick we moved in in April all good apart from terrible neighbours - but they have now moved. Hurrah! Glad to hear you've got a better work life balance, you sound in a great place to start trying again

Sorry skipper period pain is salt in the wound. Good for you to know you have some control over it though, even if it means parking sugar.

I'm back to work this am after a lovely week off. Ugh honestly it sometimes doesn't feel worth it being off. The thought of all the work building up undoes any relaxation!