Thread 30, TTC #1 | Hilda hopefuls are still riding the shag wagon

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.


We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!


Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...


Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Mouse we were advised to go back to the doctors at one year to be referred. The fertility hospital then put us on the waiting list for IVF straight away because of the low morphology. Once his morphology came up to normal though we stayed on the waiting list and fell into the unexplained bracket. I'm not sure whether or not they take mc into account here, but I would go after a year personally and not wait two years.

Cheers to the champers flash!

It's all about managing expectations isn't it pyjamas. We have to have some hope as we are human and it's natural! Very glad to hear no more spotting now please sod off all blood and don't come back.

Thanks guys. Love having him around. He's a little cutie. My husband was the same flash but I think he realised I/we both could do with a little friend around to give some love to.

jamon it's £4500 which isn't cheap but then IMSI would be around £8000 and without sorting this, our consultant has advised it might not work for us so seems logical step. We're still trying now and can carry on pretty much straight away. It's FW at the moment so have been cracking on. I'm starting to feel like it's a case of when again and a bit more hopeful. Think that's always the case when you feel like you're doing something, so hard to just sit about waiting each month!

mouse I can't lose weight after mc either. I go to the gym a lot and eat healthily but just can't seem to shift it so I blame my hormones but then I've had bloods done and all that malarkey and came back ok so don't really understand it. Pretty frustrating when you're really trying though isn't it!

Absolutely everything crossed for you pyjamas xx

Well looks like I'll be taking my own advice it seems. I just started spotting. Today was CD24. 😐🖕

mouse shit, sorry - is it definitely AF? Hope you're OK

pyjamas best of best wishes for testing today, stay strong - you've done amazingly so far xxx

pyjamas 🌠 🙏 🙌

BFN. And looks like AF properly on her way. Devastated.

So sorry Pyjamas - there are no fucking words I can say to make you feel better, I know that. Just know we're all here for you honey xx

Mouse - hope its not AF for you too, could it be implantation spotting?

I am so so sorry pyjamas I was convinced I'd be coming on here to congratulate you. As another one pinning their hopes on IVF I can imagine how devastated you must feel. Please remember that although it hasn't worked this time it doesn't mean it won't again. Big un MN hug from me xx

So sorry pyjamas I know there's nothing anyone can say. Another un MN hug from over here

pyjamas I'm so so sorry

And you too mouse

Absolutely gutted for you pyjamas. Sending you lots of love and hugs

I'm so, so sorry pyjamas

God, I'm so sorry pyjamas - I hope you and your OH are able to take some time for yourselves. It's so shitty. Sending you lots of love xxx

pyjamas

so sorry.

So sorry pyjamas 💐

pyjamas that's so shit. you can get through this.

mouse sorry it looks like AF is arriving for you too.

So sorry pyjamas and mouse!! I truly had my fingers crossed for you both. Fx you're not out yet Mouse.

I'm also wondering about the when to refer mouse. Obviously we've had to stop for my thyroid issues but do I have to start the year again from when they say I can ttc again?? Had my scan last night. Lasted about 5 mins. The radiographer even said the words "nothing to worry about" so thats lifted a weight. Hopefully my blood test next week also shows promise that I am on the mend.

pyjamas

Thanks everyone for your support, I've finally stopped crying, for now at least.

It's hit me really hard and hurts a lot. The actual IVF process is easy compared to this. I could do all the injections, scans, tests, egg collections, transfers etc a million times over. But this, this, is what everyone talks about when they say how hard it is.

I had to call the clinic to tell them my result and they called me back saying that they usually advise people with a negative to carry on with the pessaries (progesterone) and re-test in 48hrs. When I said that I started spotting on Weds and it felt like period is trying to start (has stopped again) she said it may just be prolonging the agony and I can stop the progesterone today. Wtf? I've decided to carry on the progesterone just in case (or I'll always wonder) but accept it's all over and just see Sunday's test as absolute confirmation of what I already know.

This is cruel.

Absolutely awful pyjamas. After going through all of that, you just think it will work, it's just not fair and completely cruel when it doesn't. Will they be able to give some indication of why it hasn't been successful this time? We're all here to give you as much support as you need.

Thanks chlo - all the support on here is a lifesaver, my friends and family are supportive but of course don't really know what to say which is understandable.

You're right - even though we knew it was more likely to not work than work (average IVF success rates are around 27%), that hope that you'll be in the lucky 27 is all consuming and it's devastating when that hope is crushed.

They've already called to set up our follow-up appointment for 4th August so we can see where we go from here.

How does the funding work for this Pyjamas (sorry out of the loop because of my honeymoon)? I mean, have they collected a lot of eggs and will you get another go and it will still count as your first round of IVF?

Hi skipper - we went private as the wait is too long on NHS. I have low AMH so don't have time to wait for them. We didn't get any to freeze sadly (they said only 5-10% people do). We started off with 5 fertilised embryos which whittled down to two front runners (one significantly in front) by transfer day and they put that one in. The other one stopped developing, so nothing to freeze and we're back to square one 😞

Sorry - feel very bleak today - I'm made of strong stuff though and hopefully I'll feel brighter soon xx

I'm so sorry pyjamas, I was hoping and keeping everything crossed for you. But you're right, you're made of strong stuff. You will rise again and punch Mother Nature in the throat. She's a bitch anyways. Science is cooler. 😎🖕 Remember this is just the beginning. August 4th is not even far away either. Im at the specialist again on the 3rd so we can look forward to our appointments together. Sending you lots of squeezy hugs. X

Spotting is still very light almost not there but back and tummy ache is in full effect so I'm expecting AF full flow tomorrow. I've cried it out with DH this morning. I'm good now. At least that means I'll have had another 25 day cycle, counts for something even though right now I'm feeling delicate. I ate 2 croissants this morning. 🖕to the diet for this weekend. I'm home alone as DH is in the recording studio so I might go full mental and start my Christmas cards. 😂🙈

Oh I see Pyjamas - fucking hell what a pain in the ass. 😓 well don't let it deter you, as you say it's more likely to fail than succeed and the bonus is that you know the process now. You'll get there, I know you will xx