Thread 30, TTC #1 | Hilda hopefuls are still riding the shag wagon

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.


We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!


Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...


Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Bloody hell flora!

Sorry I seem to have been using this thread as a relationship sounding board, sorry if I'm bringing you all down. I'll try and keep it on TTC and more upbeat.

Hope everyone's enjoying the sun this weekend.

I know Jam - fucking mental.

And don't ever apologise for sounding off on here about whatever is going on - if it helps to get it all down then that's the main thing.

Hope everyone else is doing well too.

Definitely don't feel bad about posting about relationship woes! TTC has a direct effect on relationships so it's all related - you have all been lifesavers when me and DH have been going through shit times.

Haven't been on too much as was trying to take it easy - have I missed any AFs/BFPs?

Basset - sorry there's an issue, but glad you've got an answer. Good that there's something they can point to to treat.

Well AF due tomorrow for me and I started spotting last night so she's on her way. Obviously disappointed 😔 but glad I've at least got today to get my head around IVF kicking off on Tues/Weds. I'm pretty scared (more that it won't work than anything else), but just want to get on with it now.

In other news - went to see Guns n Roses last night with DH - they were AMAZING 🤘🏼🎸🤘🏼

Hello all, back from holiday now and already dreading going back to work tomorrow not least as I'm pretty sure AF will arrive this afternoon, bang on time.

Flora, so sorry for the stress you and DH have had this weekend plus the ridiculous comment you had last night. What planet are some people on?!

Jam, don't apologise! I don't think it's possible to disassociate TTC with the impact that it has on your relationship and I think it's so important to talk about these things. I'm sure you've mentioned before but have you thought about counselling for yourself too? I totally understand your anxiety but wonder if it might help you to talk to someone too. Sending you lots of love 😘

Basset, hopefully having a diagnosis will allow you to move forward now. Hopefully they'll come up with a good treatment plan when you see the doc tomorrow and get everything under control.

Chlo, I'm sorry I don't know a huge amount about fragmentation but hopefully knowing what the issue is will allow them to find a way to give you the best possible chance.

Jesus Flora I think I may have thrown a drink over her 😡

Wow flora how rude! What did you say?!

I have had the week from hell - we had to submit something at work which involved me being in the office until after midnight every night, and calls at 7am 3 of the days, plus a trip to Amsterdam on Monday...it was just awful. And then last night I came down with a uti so spent the evening in the hospital queuing for antibiotics (where our out of hours GP is) and feeling totally miserable. Apparently uti won't affect pregnancy chances but I find that hard to believe.

And now I really need some advice - I'm supposed to start my meds after ovulation but don't know if/when I ovulated. So clearblue is still bloody flashing today after 7 days. I had EWCM on tues, wed and thurs and then it stopped on Friday. I had an almost positive ic opk on Thursday evening. Is it possible the surge was overnight on thurs and then wasn't picked up on Friday am? I think it's either that or I've decided not to ovulate at all cos of all the stress.

If I did ovulate at some point on Friday then fw sex was only o-1 and o-3.

So should I take the meds from tomorrow on the off chance I did ovulate? I'm kind of thinking I probably will, but also know that the conditions were so bloody unfavourable - could barely have been worse if I'd tried - that I'm probably out. And so so so gutted because this was our last chance for 8 months. I think I really need to quit my job. Argh. Sorry for such a long message.

Ugh, so sorry Harriet, what a trial! O-3 and -1 sounds like a good spread, though! Not sure what to suggest re: the medication... just very sympathetic you've had such a trying week.

Thanks girls, I just don't want to overburden this place with the mess our marriage is right now. I feel like we've argued almost all weekend (making up in between but still).

Pyjamas sorry you're spotting it's a blow every time. Do you have all the kit / meds ready and waiting for Tuesday?

Kath hope you had a lovely holiday. You are completely right about counselling. I booked the counsellor at our clinic on 1 August and am going to try and get a cancellation to see her sooner

Goodness me that sounds so stressful harriet I hope you've been able to take it easy this weekend. You may well have ovulated and you have HS so I think it's definitely worth taking the meds. Fx

Sorry I've been awol. Been trying not to post as much so I don't get too worked up come the 2ww. I will go back and read properly but hugs for everyone who's having a tough time.

I'm temping and opking this month after last months weird early OV. Have HS CD 6,8,9 and 10 and got what I think is a positive opk tonight on cd11. Does this look positive and what should I do next, do I keep poas until its negative? Will keep shagging until temp goes up.

I'm weirdly actually ok about it jam - I think I've accepted what's happening and just want to get going! Still spotting - expect AF to be here tomorrow. Haven't got the meds/kit yet as nothing starts until AF arrives - as soon as that happens I call the clinic and then I go in for baseline scan, pick up and start meds on CD2. Sorry you've been arguing for a lot of the weekend - all of this can really make things so miserable Really hope you get an earlier appointment.

That looks positive to me flash! I'd go for a GOS tonight and tomorrow. Many advise the day after as well, but we're usually too knackered by then!

Welcome back kath! Hope you had a great holiday and that AF stays away 🤞🏼

That sounds like such a stressful nightmare Harriet! I hate CB opks, they never worked for me. You may well have surged overnight - your EWCM suggests you may have ovulated - I would take the medication.

And AF has landed - will call the clinic today. Aaaaaaaaargh this is really happening

Harriet that sounds a horrendous week! Surprised you have managed any GOS at all - I think my mind would have firmly been on sleep!! O-3 & O-1 sounds like a very good chance too!

Jam, hope you're able to get a cancellation before August, sounds like it would really do you both good to speak to someone impartial. And as everyone else has said, relationship issues are part & parcel of TTC, so this is the perfect sounding board!

Pyjamas sorry AF has landed for you! Glad you are in a good frame of mind to start your IVF though, will they get you straight in tomorrow for the baseline scan?

Flash that OPK does look positive, hope you managed to get a GOS in last night! As pyjamas says, today too if you can manage it should give you a great shot!

Flora I'm just at that lady!! Why? Just why??!!

Hello, does anyone have cysts here and ttc...i got bfp as i said before but i was just passing by on net about cysts and read cysts causes false positive???any one experienced here or know about that...:(

Morning everyone.
Well Sod's law, started spotting this morning at CD25 I swear it's like my body is having a right good laugh at me. First cycle back TTC and she decides to put her shades on and middle finger up. 😎🖕

Rabiya nope cysts are just where you release a big juicy egg. Normal. They shouldn't cause false positives so congratulations!!!

Harriet your -O numbers look good. I got my BFP on a O-5 I'm pretty sure. FX!

Pyjamas be excited!!!! IVF is a scary mofo but I'm sure you're ready to attack it. Don't worry about the what ifs, be confident! Sending hugs. X

Flash FXLS!!!!!

Flora sorry but I'd have punched her in the throat. 😇

Have a lovely sunny Monday people, remember today is one day closer to holding your sweet baby!!! X

Flash that looks positive to me 👍🏼

Sorry AF came pyjamas , good luck getting started with the clinic

Thanks scandal

Mouse it's good to have your positivity back. The flo is a bitch right? Hope it's just spotting and buggers off

Mouselove- hope so!! I have an appt after 1 week for blood test and scan etc...and also i have thyroid. ...my tsh was 4 hope that will not effect if i am pregnant!!!

Sorry about AF pyjamas, best of luck with the next stage. We're rooting for you 😘

So sorry 😐 pjs that af has got you.

Well thats my ttc journey on hold. My thyroxine was 63!!!! Got to book an urgent endocrinologist appointment. Just waiting for my prescription to be fulfilled now.

Im going to leave these boards for a while. Good luck to all!!

Do you have ovarian cyst a rabiya?

If you've missed periods and have positive pregnancy tests I'd say it's very unlikely it's a cyst causing it. Do you have any other symptoms of pregnancy or cysts?

Morning ladies,

Sorry to hear about AF PJs but exciting that it also brings about the next stage in the process. What is the timeline for it all? You mentioned a scan tomorrow? And then you start the drugs?

Have a great holiday Kath - sounds like just the ticket right now.

Argh that’s annoying about your weekend Jam - TTC really is so emotive though. Have you tried the Headspace App that PJs previously recommended? I’m a fan. Hope you and your DH are OK now.

Definitely looks +ive Flash - as the other ladies have said – SMEP would tell you to DTD for three days straight now.

Sounds horrific Harriet - I’ve been there with the long hours so the fact that you’ve managed any sort of GOS-ing… makes you a superhero in my book.

Thank you all for the support re. lady asking me if I was pregnant – she actually moved to poke my stomach too so was obviously just some sort of maniac – DH also suggested that I should have punched her in the throat. It was a Ted Baker skater style dress so perhaps that was also part of it but I’m also not about to blame myself either. Anyway – in other dramatics, DH went in to get his test results this morning and apparently our GP is not in today and the appointment had been made for next Monday – he’s clearly made a bit of a stink (that’s my boy!) and is seeing the Duty GP at 11.40am – then I’ve my 21 day bloods at 11.50am… so in any event we should know soon what we are dealing with. Didn’t really sleep at all last night

Flashinthepan-on page 8th i wrote about bfp but i don't think any1 have seen that..well i will copy paste my msg again here..u may have idea what had happened with me.

Ok so let me introduce..i was ttc 1 cycle 3 and suddenly my periods stopped.my last period was on march 30..my period ranges from 28 to 35so my periods were supposed to arrive on april 1st week and did not arrive so i took hpt it was negative then again negtive later on blood test negative...i kept on checking till i missed my 2nd period also...then i had an appointment for ultrasound to check whats wrong and they saw mild cyst on right ovary and also my tsh was 4 which normal but to conceive it should be 1-2 and prescribed me levo thyroxine 25mg and ...this ultra sound was on 5th june and after few days on 10th i did opk test coz my boobz were swollen so positive...my opk was showing postive from 2 3 days so i did hpt just for fun and it was positive ...so went today to hospi and they did urine test there and was positive so confused but happy....confused coz on 5th it was nothing in scan so maybe i ovulated very late and suddenly today 13th hpt positive !!! Hope everyone get there.bfp sooooon!!!!

What a palaver Flora! Well done to your DH for giving them what for. Hopefully his results and your blood tests will give you the info you need to move forward. And as for that woman, well I can only agree with what everyone else said! I tend to go with the truth now. Someone asked me if I was planning a football team and I said well I've lost one and only got one tube left so one baby would be a start! And it was a man that asked!

You've really been through the mill Harriet. Sorry if I missed this but why is this it for 8 months? I would take the meds if I were you. Then you know you did all you could.

Jam I'm sorry you're still having a tough time with your DH. Was the weekend arguing about TTC or just everything in general?

Sorry about AF PJs but got everything crossed for you for IVF. Just remember it's ok to hate the process at times, even if its taking you closer to your baby.

Mouse sorry about the spotting but fingers crossed it's just a blip and not af.

Basset sorry that your results weren't better but I hope they can now get things under control for you. Good luck.

Thanks everyone - it's going to be a bumpy ride!

Just waiting for clinic to calm me back now to book in baseline scan and go and pick up injections - likely to be tomorrow if not today. Then it's about a week of one injection, followed by another week or so of two injections (going in for scans throughout) then trigger injection, then 33-36 hrs later egg collection, then a few days of waiting to see what the results are, then embryo transfer (fx we get to this stage), then it's the worst TWW ever. All in all about a month, what a month!

Oh flora best of luck today. Well done your DH. Can't believe they were going to make him wait another week!

pyjamas I know it's scary but it's also exciting. Fx for you. Please keep us updated!

flash it's because DH is away for half of July and half of august with work, and his august trip is to a zika place. The official recommendation for men is not to ttc within 6 months of their last possible exposure. I'm looking into whether he can be tested once he's back so we don't have to do that because that would just be so hard.

Took my first steroids this morning along with my antibiotics for uti and the million supplements I'm taking and just feel utterly awful. I hate my job for ruining this important FW and my body for just constantly letting me down.

mouse nice to have you back. Could spotting be implantation???