P to the M to the A! Thread #6, here we go!

[ArchiesMamaBird]

So in the absence of our lovely founder Hippy, I've set up thread #6 to help us keep up the motivation and PMA.

Congratulations to all our grads, the rest of us may be slacking behind but we'll be there soon!

#bellasgirlgangforever

Have u changed ur username @Hippychic18 ?

amanda yes I have changed my username. I had such a toddler tantrum last af visit that I deleted my account. It really got to me last cycle and I've taken some further covert measures to ascertain why my bfp is being so hard to obtain !!!
Steps have now been put in place with both dp and myself ... he's now unknowingly on fertility supplements and taking reiki and I've booked to see the doctor today to get my bloods checked.

loa I would give it another day or two and then maybe test again and if still bfn then book in with doctors ? Just to be on safe side. I have read that stress can stop periods but I've also read that bfps can take weeks to show themselves. Please do keep us posted.
cakes thank you for clarifying my intentions ... your spot on of course.
I also think your right in taking a more chilled out approach... i am doing the same ... I don't think I can take any more pressure with this ttc journey ... so I'm holding back on using opks and just going with the flow. I can't dictate sex with dp anyway ... It happens when he's not working and when we're both in the mood so poas doesn't really help.
I've spent the last few weeks trying to ignore what cycle day I'm on and building what intimacy between dp and I back up ... which has been much more enjoyable that jumping out of bed and poas! That said I did use a boots opk last Friday and I'm confident I got my peak and fortunately managed to dtd that night so that's my one crack at the whip this month ... and puts me the same as you archies ... 2dpo and officially in the 2 ww.... but like you I'm just gonna chill and look forward to my forthcoming holiday .... I can't wait to get some much needed sunshine and chill time with dp :))

Grads .... please drop by and check in ... again i wasn't suggesting you leave altogether.... I was just wanting to bring the chat back to ttc

Xxx

hey Hippy, no hard feelings! i got over my micro huff pretty quickly.

I appreciated the honesty of your post, i am a straight down the line kinda girl myself. however i read it as the most sickly sweet coated "bugger off" ever (something to do with the "i can't make you set up another thread and leave us..." line) that cut to the bone.

if that wasn't your intention then let's put it down to head fuckery, which i know you'll all agree, this TTC journey can cause for us all!

i genuinely look forward to all the BFPs and always have. please make sure you post on both threads incase any of the grads miss your updates #girlpower 🤰🏼😘

Couldn't have put it better myself bella

I'm not the type of girl that's easily offended and I don't huff (prob the only two saving graces as to why DH married me!!) But I couldn't help but feel a tiny but hurt which I know a few of the other girls did too by your words, which I 100% know would never have been your intention. Like bella said, the line that cut me was the one where you mentioned about not being able to MAKE us leave. I also 100% disagreed with you with regards to the clique comment on the #girlgang. I hope that all newer members of the group can agree with me when I say that every single one of us made newcomers feel welcome and part of the group and will hopefully continue to do so.

I know for one that I never intentionally made this thread to be based around early pregnancy and I think one of the reasons it maybe had gone that way is because the thread had gone so quiet TTC wise. I now realise that may have been because others felt we had taken over and I can only apologise for that.

Anyway, I think we should all agree to draw a line in the sand. It's definitely for the best that a pregnancy thread has been started up and that way we can share our news while you guys can hopefully relax and focus on TTC info. Much love and PMA thrown everyone's way! ❤

I agree with what has been said by Amanda, Bella and dolly and a grads thread is actually a good idea as I think a lot of the pregnancy talk has been held back judging how busy the grads thread is already, but I imagine starting a grads thread when the grads had been asked to stay on here would've felt a bit clique at the time.

Also while we are being honest, Hippy I think you really need to get your DP on board ttc, I know you say you think he would be happy, but you should make sure and I'm scared what will happen if he finds out what's been going on. If you attend future fertility treatments with dp then they will mention your previous blood tests and the dates you had them. Also I think your making it very difficult for yourself to get a bfp this way. Get him on board and you will get your bfp I'm sure

Yeh I think @Roseandbee has hit the nail on the head. This is a journey u both need to be on. I'm really shocked at the fact your giving him supplements and he doesn't know? Like r u crushing them into his food???? Seems a little bit extreme.

8 dpo today. Yesterday was very bloated & looked pregnant. Had cramps on and off throughout the day and quite painful. Also TMI but had some diarrhea last night at around 9pm but nothing since. Felt nauseous when it happened too but didn't vomit. Xx

Ladies I have been reading the last couple of pages while trying to hide my eyes! Eek what happened?! 🙈

I have a long term ttc-er at 11 months and cn honestly say that you have major ups and downs during that time. In some ways I was more stressed at the 6 month mark than I am now. I am now embracing the PMA and making a plan of action if it doesn't work this month (4dpo today!).

Having the grads here reassures me that BFPs can be achieved and as I have already got a DS, I hope I can occasionally impart some wisdom on the topic.

TTC is a gruelling process for many of us and stress, worry and hormones can get the better of us. It's being able to let flashes of envy go that I think is helping me now.

I think the grads board is a good idea for the nitty gritty of pregnancy but the companionship and support of you grads is also needed as you have been on the journey with us. So don't desert us yet, even if we will all be grads soon! 😉

Bella and Dolly On reflection i can see why that line annoyed you guys and i certainly didn't mean it to.

Rose I appreciate what you are saying however the situation is really quite complicated and undoubtedly it adds to my stress. I do not wish to share the full details on the thread, but thank you for pointing out those details.

Amanda - there is no need to be rude, please do not make any further comments about me!

Hoping will you be testing early or waiting it out?

I'm hoping to wait it out hippy so far so good but I don't know when I will crack xx

Good luck hoping ... now I'm in the 2ww i will keep everything crossed for you.
xxx

@Hippychic18 it wasn't rude? I'm just asking how your giving someone supplements without them knowing? It's actually probably illegal. I wouldn't be happy if I thought my partner was doing it to me or anyone for that matter.

& to all the girls who are apprently messaging hippy saying I'm rude and not supportive I find that a bit of a shame.

I am basically putting a point out there that unwillingly giving someone else medication isn't right & it's an extreme length to go too.

I'm not arguing with people over a board it's so childish but clearly someone don't like the truth of the matter.

Tbh Hippy I do understand where you are coming from in that you are worried that the longer you wait, then your chances of becoming a Mama will decrease. So I do see why you are ttc now, even though your DP is not on board quite yet. But I do agree with Rose when she said that any future hospital/GP appointments will reveal to your DP that you have been trying for longer than he will have known about. And (from personal experience) your GP will try and encourage you to get him to go for a sperm analysis, and if he does then he will be asked all of the same questions regarding how long you have been trying, so it might all come out then. I obviously don't know your DP, but I know that DH would be FUMING with me if he knew that I'd gone behind his back (obvs I've never gone behind his back before )

And I think Amanda probably meant what she said above re supplements with the best of intentions. I also don't really agree with people private messaging to talk bad about others. By all means we can message each other privately, but if people aren't happy with how somebody is acting/behaving then please speak up on here. I think sometimes the problem with writing things online and not talking face to face is that things can come across completely wrong and not how they were intended to, so if we at least speak up on here, it gives everyone a chance to clarify themselves

Yeh @ArchiesMamaBird iv now had another message from @Hippychic18 saying "others where right about you"

So clearly there has been private messages passed back and forth between people in this group to hippy. Now if I recall hippy was upset about the whole #girlgang thing so how is it ok for folk to be private messaging being horrible about other members.

If anyone has an issue that you've clearly shared with @Hippychic18 about myself then please let me know.

So childish and pathetic. Iv always been supportive to people on here and for someone to say that comment to me and make me feel or think that people have been talking about me is out of order I thinkZ

Right ok - I feel like i have come under unnecessary, personal attack on here for speaking up and putting forward an opinion.
I am not asking you all what you think about my personal situation, especially you Amanda.
I think it's best i leave you all to it, I can't be bothered.

Only because of the comments ur making hippy.

You can't message someone and say "others where right about you" and not expect the person to speak up and ask what the problem is?

wishing you a speedy and relaxed tww @hoping and @hippy

Thanks for the mentions. I think I will leave it a few more days and test again. I have no signs of anything really, just a bit of dizziness and super tired but that's more me worrying about things I think. I read online to not go to docs until 3 missed afs, but I'll see how I feel.
I'm just remaining impartial really with a tiny bit of hope.

Clearly people do not feel they can express themselves freely anymore.

Amanda Just leave it. You can stay on this thread and the grads thread...

This is my last post as i truly cant be bothered.

I wish everyone the best of luck

Point proven. No your fine I'll go over to the grads thread. Shame it ended this way.

See all you lovely ladies over there hopefully wishing you all the best of luck see you soon x

Loa 3 missed AF's? That's aaaaaaaages! you could be 3 months preggers by then! The not knowing is so annoying though, I bet you'd rather know one way or the other.

Ooph 3 whole months?? Yikes! Hopefully it won't come to that. Could well be an elusive BFP. Keep going! Keep busy,it's the only way to pass the time! Our bodies do like to play tricks on us.

I know imagine being 3 months pregnant rocking up to the docs! haha I should imagine it would be a bit obvious by then?

I hate how 'stress' is a factor of delay... I'm getting more stressed trying not to be stressed. What a circle. ah well what will be will be. I'm more fussed because I want to know if I can plan a boozy birthday! #priorities

Haha loa these priorities are important!! I was sooooo drunk on Saturday night, and I was actually thinking "If I was upduffed now then I wouldn't be able to do this". Although I'll be honest and admit that my drunkenness resulted in me cutting my foot on broken glass, getting into a fight with some blokes on the train (I was just sticking up for my friend, honest )and spending a fortune as I was being generous and buying everyone drinks. Ah well, I won't be able to do it for another 9 months after I get my BFP on 5th June #pmapmapma

haha @archies LOVE IT ...sounds like one hell of a night! and a great way to send off ttc!! Fingers crossed for you.