Thread 29 | The one with the BFPs (please)

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

ana are you sure those are your levels?? The NHS guideline is definitely not 10 for TSH - it is 4.0 or 4.5 depending on your GP - see the levels here: http://www.thyroiduk.org.uk/tuk/testing/thyroidbloodd_tests.html

9.2 is pretty high and 10 weeks is a long time. When my levels were fluctuating I was tested every 6 weeks. I think you should try to see a different GP if you can.

Hi everyone -- sorry, I haven't been commenting, but I'm following along.
Sorry for the batshit crazy cycles, BFNs, baby bombs, and inconclusive test results.

Harriet, you know we are all thinking of you during this time.

I'm temping for the first time this cycle. FF thinks I'm trolling it because my cycles are so long. It gave me crosshairs today, but if my last two cycles are any indication I'm still about a week from ovulating. Oh, and DH is being sent on a business trip smack in the FW. 😵

I'm seeing my GP tomorrow to ask what's up with my super long cycles. I plan to say I know I haven't been trying long, but my cycles are very long, which aside from being frustrating for TTC, makes me wonder if there could be other underlying issues.

Is there anything else I should ask? (We've been TTC since Christmas, off the pill since September; last two cycles were 45 days w/ 11-day luteal phase based on positive opks)

AF arrived yesterday. Can you put me down for 23rd Jun?

Thank you so much for all the kindness and support yesterday. I took another FRER late last night and it was a bit better - darker than that morning's, and I think darker than two days earlier. Who knows, though. My breasts are less sore this morning. I guess I'll just have to see over the coming days. I'm trying not to get my hopes up.

Harriet - thinking of you today. I know exactly what you mean about wanting/not wanting a diagnosis.

Really sorry about AF hep. Hope you're doing ok.

Sorry about af hep. It's always such a slap in the face.

Good luck today harriet. Thinking of you.

Skipper yes she does know, and she knows about my ectopic last year. I think she's proof that people who've never been through it can't come close to understanding how heartbreaking it all is.

Smitten good luck with temping. I personally would play down the TTC bit and focus on wanting answers because you're worried something is wrong. In my experience Gps tend to roll their eyes and fob you off when they hear you're TTC.

flash - horrified to hear that your friend knows about your struggles and is still so insensitive. What an awful thing to do, and I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

Sorry hep will do xx

I'm day 1, cycle 19 over here today

Oh jam, I'm really sorry . Be really kind to yourself today.

What's happening this morning? Hep, Jam - sorry lovelies xx Hep are you okay, you seem quiet recently or are you just taking a back seat?

Flash - did she not even say something like "sorry I know you've been trying and I don't want to upset you but..."

Good luck today Harriet

Harriet those are 100 per cent my figures. Both sub "normal" but they want to retest before treating

I'm just looking for the NHS or NICE document which stated the 10 for TSH figure (saw it on Dr screen also)

My sister is a Dr and whilst about wildly helpful I did have some interpretation of the results before seeing the Dr

However Harriet I did loads of reading last night and all I can see in good documents is that if Su clinical and TTC to treat. I'm going to go back and see a different Dr. My cycles can be so long (up to 47 days) I don't want to wait 8 weeks for test to be repeated with anti body test, to then get drugs, to them wait for them to work

Flash - sorry about your friend. I can't bear the "we are still in shock, it happened so quickly, and we were only really thinking about it" announcements. I'm OK with babies, but announcements send me to the work loo in tears

Hep - I think just give it time post coming off the pill

Harriet - thinking of you

So sorry hep and jam - be kind to yourselves today. Day 1 is the absolute worst.

Let us know how it goes today Harriet xx

Fun packed day in store for me today - about to head off for morning work out class, massage and facial booked in along with a spin class, stretch and relax and body sculpt classes. Wish I could do this every month!

I think the worst pregnancy announcement is the 'it happened so quickly - DH was a bit disappointed as he was looking forward to more practice! Teehee!' ones. When I (stupidly) joined a 'due in...' thread with my first miscarriage quite a few people said that, even though there were other people on the thread who had had multiple years TTC/IVF/multiple miscarriages/etc. How thoughtless/stupid do you have to be?!

Oh Jam, so sorry. Hope you get some time today to enjoy the sun and get a bit of peace.

Ooo Pyjamas very jealous! Sounds lovely.

Lisa Ana Skipper no sensitivity from her at all I'm afraid. The first message I got from her yesterday was a photo of the scan. So I replied and said congratulations and I hoped all was well. And then she sent me a video of the scan and waxed lyrical about how the name was picked out because the sonographer was pretty sure about the sex.

The pregnancy was an accident. I tried to be open a few weeks ago about how I personally was struggling and all she said was 'I had friends who had to go abroad for IVF".

People don't want to hear that it can be hard, or that it might not happen for everyone.

I'm so sorry Flash - I just don't get people

I started off keeping TTC private - then told a couple of people as struggles etc. One person told me she wished she had struggled as she wanted more sex - as I was holding her newborn. It's hard not so snap

Eurgh Ana, what a shitty thing to say!

Yes we had no plans to tell people we were TTC but I had to have surgery and then had to tell friends as lots of cancelled plans etc, plus people used to take bets on when we'd have kids and I wanted that to stop!

Morning ladies,
So sorry for AF Hep and Jam - its already been said but be kind to yourselves today. Its the worst day of the month and you won't feel like this in a weeks time.
Flash I'm also so sorry about how insensitive your friend is being. Its 100% true that nobody understands the heartbreak of TTC unless they've struggled and I can't begin to imagine what the ectopic must have been like for you. I also don't really understand why people are insensitive - surely everyone has had something in life that they've found hard? Why does everyone just assume that TTC is hard because you must be doing something wrong? All that just relax crap for example - feck off!!
I had an argument with hubby last month after he told his brother that we were struggling and his brother said "oh we totally understand" - no you don't actually - SIL got pregnant first time around and it was "such a surprise" I believe that people can be sympathetic - but they certainly cannot understand.
Well that's turned into quite the rant....

Hi all well I got my results. As I suspected it's an autoimmune problem- I have high thyroid antibodies and also aggressive natural killer cells. Basically my immune system is treating the pregnancy as an infection and attacking it. I've been prescribed quite a scary treatment plan of steroids for 10 days a cycle (ovulation to 10dpo). Then I test at 10dpo and if no bfp stop the meds and wait until the next month. Feeling a bit overwhelmed right now but think it's good news.

That sounds really good Harriet - they've identified the problem and a proposed treatment!! Really pleased for you.

I think that's really positive Harriet!

Harriet that IS good news - its treatable and there's a plan
Xxx

I'm so pleased they've identified something that they think they can get under control Harriet. Understand it's scary but hopefully it makes you feel a bit more positive over time.

Rant away Flora. I had no idea how bad I'd felt about my friend until I started writing it on here. Sometimes you just need to get it all out!

Harriet is positive that you have a diagnosis and a plan now. Sounds scary but at least you have an answer and knowledge is power
Sorry for af Jam and Hep I hope you have nice plans for the weekend to take your mind off it
Flash people can be so thoughtless can't they. My friend told me they are going to start trying in July (good reason to wait till then) but that's she's still not sure she even wants a child and would be annoyed if it happened before September as oh birthday and plans! She knows that I have been trying since Jan 2016. Arghhh, had to change the subject quickly! Who knows maybe a year down the line she'll be where we are (hope not) and then will understand. Can't help worrying that they'll conceive before us which sounds so selfish but that's how I feel.

So sorry Jam and Hep Take care of yourselves. You must be hurting a lot xxx

Harriet I'm so pleased they've found the reason for your losses and that you've got a treatment plan! Sounds like the huge expense was definitely worth it. Hope this is the start of getting your thb.

pyjamas wow that sounds incredible!!!

Flash how very insensitive of your friend, especially since she knows you're struggling! It's extra salt in the wounds that her pregnancy was an "accident" too. I'd keep my distance from her if she carries on like that.

Sorry to everyone else who's had to deal with insensitive comments. People really just don't understand the heartache and mental torture that ttc is when they haven't had to struggle themselves

I met a "friend" on mumsnet when I'd already been trying 14 cycles at the time. She never acknowledged once how long I'd been trying, it was just all about her. Well typical she fell pregnant 2nd cycle (1st well timed cycle) after claiming she was out at only 8dpo and having a massive meltdown about how hard TTC is and that she doesn't know if she can do this anymore I can hardly believe her son is turning 4 months old very soon! It always hits me that she's up late at night feeding her beautiful baby whilst I'm crying my eyes out at 2am because we've not had sex and we can't make a baby. I have blocked her now but it still eats away at me daily.