Thread 29 | The one with the BFPs (please)

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Know how you feel Jam my moods are all over the place. I try to tell myself in the lead up to af that what will be will be, no amount of symptoms spotting or worry will change something that is or isn't already in motion. Never listen to my own advice tho and waver between feeling guilty for any alcohol, hard run etc I do and feeling like feck it I may as well do all those things as not going to get bfp. Gah. FX this is your month

Morning ladies. I've missed out on loads! Work has been mad busy and I've just not really stopped for the past week or so!

Sorry about AF Kath - hope you are starting to come out the other side of it.

Glad the therapy continues to be helpful PJs and enjoy your spa treat when it comes! It'll be lovely to be pampered for a change!

Sorry to hear that you are feeling low Jam - a tough day when you feel like that is always hard and they do tend to come at the end of a cycle. Try to do something nice for yourself today but also remember that it is ok to be sad and disappointed.

Can't remember who mentioned it but I'm also a drinker of Raspberry Leaf tea from AF to confirmed ovulation. I really enjoy it so its no hardship at all.

I'm 9dpo and had my 21 day bloods this morning, will get the results on Wednesday which seems really quick! Hubby has his SA at the end of the month too so feeling positive that things are happening.

jam

14dpo, and I am just wanting AF to arrive so I can crack on to next month............. i've never been good with patience.

Back in feb, my brother messaged me that my SIL was expecting their third. This was days before my would-be due date from my brief pregnancy last year, so i was a little upset (though obviously didn't say anything). I am now really looking forward to my new niece, so am planning a baby blanket for her. This is not something i was emotionally up to making before, but it feels ok now, and am actually looking forward to this project. They live abroad, so It will be a while before I will actually meet her.

I should add that I first thought about learning crochet last summer during my convinced pregnancy/menopause/AWOL-AF-fuckery when i thought i would be doing it for myself .... so its taken a long time for me to even contemplate doing it for someone else.

(what does raspberry tea do ??)

It's meant to tone your uterine lining Hep so I guess improve chances of implantation. Think it was Alexia that mentioned it and I'm one of those that is willing to try anything so drank around 3 cups a day at the start of this cycle.

Well done on the PMA, particularly around the baby blanket. Sounds like a really lovely idea.

Hep That's so amazing about the blanket (and the crochet!). Go you!

Flora work eh! It just never stops! I am less keen on the tea but I choke it down :)

Jeds and Kath - thanks! He is a good 'un

Otters those are the same supps I take (and equally spend a FORTUNE on) but I also take Vitamin B mega complex from Holland and Barrett

Hi everyone 👋 long time no see! I stopped snooping on you all a while back but as I approach the third trimester I found myself thinking of all the amazing support that this thread provided. I have been wishing that I'd see more of you on the grads thread, I continue to keep lsfx for you all and am so heartened to see that you are all supporting each other. So just wanted to say hey, I hope you are all well xxx

Hello fxskip !!! How is your bump treating you?

Where has my zen gone? I feel terrible today. Why isn't this happening?

hep its lovely you are doing that

alexia how are you? and flash haven't seen you in a while

Skip - lovely to hear from you xx but third trimester?! Has it really been that long?

Hello Skip! Always lovely to see you popping up, can't believe you're in the third trimester now!! How are you feeling?

Jam, I feel pretty shitty today too as AF is being particularly grim. No advice but lots of good thoughts for you xx

Sending you positive vibes, jam & kath - sorry you're having a rough time

flash, I was wondering about you too, though couldn't tell if I'd just been rubbish at keeping up - hope you're well xx

hep that's a lovely plan! Was baby bombed twice on Friday, but maybe will take some inspiration from you and knit something for them

Feel like am drifting through this cycle, think O is due in a few days...

So sorry for those that AF got

Thank you so much for all the kind messages and thoughts. More 'too early to be good news but not bad news' today - line progression. I'm not allowing myself to feel positive about it, but I am now feeling calm enough to try and take each day as it comes. Still only 14dpo so such a long way to go!

jam quiet thanks for thinking of me. Sorry I've been awol. It was my grandads funeral today so have been with the family this weekend. It went as well as they ever can, and it was a beautiful sunny day, which made it easier to remember all the happy times.

Just coming to the end of af, and it's DH's birthday tomorrow so hoping for a GOS to kick off FW.

Sorry not to have caught up properly yet, although keeping my FX for anyone who's getting to the end of 2ww. I will read through properly later. Hope everyone is ok.

Congrats Missy and Lisa! Great news.

Thanks for asking Jam, I've been laying low because I haven't been doing too good tbh, I'm so over ttc. Fertile week has been a complete disaster again 💔 so I'm out this cycle already despite being only CD17.

Sorry to read you've been feeling so down, it's totally understandable; the crushing disappointment of each cycle is so very painful. I really really hope you get your bfp this cycle hon. It would be amazing.

skipper I'm following you with interest girl even though I haven't been commenting (sorry!). I had nausea from 2dpo on a chemical pregnancy cycle of mine so it really can start early and I hope it means your bfp is coming! 🤞🏼

Hi FXSkip 👋 great to hear from you. Glad you and baby girl are doing well. Third trimester eh? Wow! If I'm honest it's kind of heartbreaking how far along all the Grad's are now and I'm still over here like... when will this torture end? Good luck with everything!

Hep the blanket is very thoughtful of you. Glad you're in a better place mentally.

Kath I'm so sorry af got you but I admire your strength and PMA

Your DH is a trooper Kerry, good luck this cycle.

Pyjamas hope af stays away but enjoy your lovely spa break. Glad to hear therapy is going well too.

Sorry to those I've missed x

Hey Flash glad the funeral went as well as could be expected. I always love the chance to meet up with family you don't see often and have a good old catch up and reminisce.
Happy Birthday to your DH 🎉

Flash - I didn't realise it was your grandads funeral today, I'm glad it went okay...You did have a beautiful day for it and with time you'll start to think of all the happy memories you have of him.

Alexia - thanks hon, I'm still not hopeful - the nausea has gone now, I think it was just a blip. I've been excited over weird symptoms before and my body has always let me down. Are you certain you are out this cycle? Is there no sex at all that might count?

Lisa so glad it's continuing to strengthen, continued crossed fingers for you

Ah flash, I'm sorry that must have been a sad day today. It's almost 6 months since my Gran died and I still can't believe she's gone. Hope your DH has a lovely birthday lined up with you

Alexia so sorry FW hasn't gone well I know how hard you find this. I've had a terrible day today to be honest, I've just cried and cried. Working from home thank goodness so I could weep, blow my nose and carry on emailing! Oh dear. It's the hormones but it's also the dawning realisation of what we're going through. It hurts so much sometimes.

Ah dear sorry we are having a tough time on here. You lot are so lovely I so hope we all get to graduate and look back together on all of this xx

Finally done with blood test!!! Results are not out yet but the doctor said it would ne negative coz they also did urine test and it was negative(today 19 days late for period)...she recommended me to take prenatal vitamins and to use ovulation kit...for 3 months and see the results!!!! Hope we all get bfp sooon!!!!

Sorry that some of you are feeling very down. It's awful that something we want so much is largely out of our control. At one of my lowest points I broke down at a family party (got hideously drunk and emotional as was on af and cried in front of everyone inc people who didn't know we were ttc). A few weeks later I had a bfp. Guess what I'm trying to say is we are allowed to feel shite as it is shite but even when we have crap days we are still travelling forward any way we can. Hugs to all xx

Rabiya sorry that it's not positive but at least you will know for sure. Hope af returns regularly soon. Have you been stressed or ill? Could delay af

Hello everyone. Sorry you are down jam and alexia. It's just so shit isn't it. You're allowed to be sad! But also I know you will feel better tomorrow.

Im totally exhausted as work has been really full on. Worked all weekend then flew to Frankfurt this morning for a 5 hour meeting. Had to get up at 4am and just in taxi back from the airport now....so so tired! Can't wait to get into bed beside DH.

Jeds55-I was stressed out for 1 or 2 days when my af was suppose to come but not tooo much but yeah i was...so i don't think my af is late coz of stress.....if it would be then it should have come by now...maybe coz of hormonal imbalance...never experienced such a long cycle..3rd cycle# ttc1...and yeah one more thing different i noticed that whenever my af is about to come my boobs hurt and leg aches but this time only i had leg pain....maybe i din't ovulate....well!! Congratulations for ur bfp!!!!

Hopefully your cycle sorts itself soon Rabiya
Unfortunately the bfp ended in mmc but was just trying to get across that we never know what's around the corner

Jeds55- sorry to hear that!!...hope so my cycle sorts itself..i don't want to take medicines to force af!!!

Always shit to wake up to reports of another terrorist attack.