We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

Fingers crossed noo!

I have found Sainsbury's very good - hold it to the light as they're see through. I've never seen an evaporation line on them but I could be wrong. Do you have any ov tests? They really went dark when I was pregnant.

So sorry for your losses nocats, and sorry to see you here - but also welcome. I'm 5 weeks post mc.

I had lots of ewcm yesterday but it was streaked with old blood post af. I've no idea if that's the end of af or start of ov! I did notice ewcm just after my period when I was tracking before the last pregnancy. But app says I'm due to ovulate in a coupe of days.

I keep forgetting to use ov sticks too! (Which is probably a good thing as I was obsessed before!)

EkphrasisI have never seen an evap on them either.The line is dark blue can see it from across the room.It's the IC that has got me questioning it.Couldn't get the things to turn -ve after my mc now can't get it to turn positive now I might be.
TMI but think the spotting might be irritation from constantly having to go to the loo and wiping.Has stopped now.
Have decided I am not going to buy any more but will use my points on one of my loyalty cards to pick them up next week.At least that way I've got a treat anyway(couple of pounds to spend to get enough points.

Thanks everyone - better day today
Fingers crossed for you noroom!
Mulder the wait must be so frustrating - but it may be worth it, just in case (I'm saying that as the world's most impatient woman...)

Welcome nocats - sounds like you've really been through the mill this year, I really hope it all works out for you soon x

Thanks noparticular and juan I will try and hold strong for the next month and a half!

We're the calves born this year? They must be so cute!! (Nb i dont know how long the calf>cow process takes so sorry if that was a dumb question Lol!!)

We calve all year round so our youngest calf is currently 2 days old. The gestation of a cow is the same as humans so 9 months! We currently have around 80 calves on milk, the same again which are weaned and are here, 200 ish between 4 months and 2 years who are out to grass at one of the other farms/ they are in calf/ waiting to be put in calf with their first babies. Then we have about 450 cows that we milk who are down on this farm. I've just got in from milking the girls and OH is still out cutting grass for silage! 200 acres down, 77 to go!!

I'm watching one born every minute. Slight victory or me since I've not felt able to since having the miscarriage and I did used to really love it!! Now I feel like it will be us one day rather than it might not be. Small victories and all that!

I just need to vent: met the wife of DH's friend yesterday. They suspected I was pregnant before my mc. Haven't seen her in months (obvs didn't really feel like socializing) and she said 'oh someone said you were pregnant' and giggled.

I am so angry. Have some effin common sense. I feel like she just had to say 'pregnant' to me to see how I would react.

What a silly cah lookatthemoon (No offence to your lovely ladies noparticular) I'd have been tempted to say 'yeah, I was'...but then I do like making rude types cringe

Hi ladies, sorry for all the insenstive people saying shit things out there.

I'm miserable and tears this morning. CD 1 again and DH is going on a lads weekend away when I'm due to ovulate this cycle. I just keep thinking I should be on maternity leave now and there seems to be pregnancy announcements all around. I'm really beginning to feel like my poor DS might never have a brother or sister. Even if I get pregnant again I have no faith it will continu. It's just so heart breaking. So for being so down in the dumps.

Believe me there are definitely more humans deserving of that title than actual cows! Well, they're behaving at the moment so watch this space . Sorry people are so bloody insensitive. I also favour the "well, I was...." when I know people are jut being rude or nosey!

Sorry your having a bad day wibble. I know what you mean about maternity leave and a gazillion pregnancy announcements. I spend a lot of time feeling guilty that my OH doesn't have a baby yet and all of his friends do. It makes me feel like a massive failure, but (and I'm aware this makes me a horrible person, but I'm not sure I ever thought I wasn't one anyway haha!!) I feel lucky that we have a wonderful, loving relationship when a lot of his friends seem to have tried to paper the cracks by having kids.

I guess we all know it's impossible to do, but we are just supposed to sit here waiting for our chance apparently safe in the knowledge that it will be our turn soon. Apparently.

Thankyou everyone for your nice words.
noroom I always fine pink line tests better than blue ones - but maybe that's just me. Hope you get answers soon.

And question for you all, would you ttc straight away and not wait for af after the mmc I've had, medical management 3 weeks ago, if a pregnancy test tomorrow says neg all is back to normal. I'm feeling fine in my head to start again I just wonder if I ought to wait for my body to have a period first....

Nocats the doctor told us to start trying as soon as we felt comfortable, no need to wait.

We found it too much pressure so even though we started to try, we're going to wait.

Thanks yellow I only worry as it's my 2nd mc in a row, no period now since beg Jan as I fell pg then mc then pg again no period now another mc. So I'm worried I'd be in trouble at the hospital if I fell pg again....well frowned upon anyway! But I feel each month passing with panic. I'm 40 next year and just feel I ought to try at every opportunity!

I'm 36 so definitely know that 'running out of time' feeling.
I don't think they'd frown upon it, as we were told, there's no reason to wait (obviously taking into account individual circumstances).
Is it worth waiting for 1 period? Believe me, it's killing me that we're waiting but hopefully it'll only be a couple of weeks (it's been 5 weeks since d&c), hoping AF will arrive soon, then I can start with my opks again.
for you though. It's so bloody hard to know what to do for the best, whilst feeling like there might not be many more chances

We decided to wait - I started taking ubiquinol and dh started taking preconception tablets for men and is cutting back on alcohol. We decided to give it at least 2-3 cycles to allow things to 'kick in'. In all honesty I think it's been helpful to completely step away from ttc. I did my first ov test today and was randomly positive, but I've used it just for tracking info.

I'm 40 too so I know the feeling. I needed to rest my mh though and I'm glad I did.

Yes thanks yellow I know what you mean I really feel that the sensible option would be to wait for one period. I'll chat to DH about it maybe and see how he feels. Thanks so much. X

And...sorry hit post too soon! Really hope af shows up for you soon yellow and you can get started. Hopefully now you've waited 5 weeks surely it must be around the corner somewhere.

Yes ekphrasis that word 40 can be scary suddenly. Glad you got a positive though on your ov test, good to know where you're at in your cycle I guess x

Made the mistake today of going to a trendy local market. There was nowhere to look where there wasn't a baby. Some incredibly tiny newborns. My dh just says it will be us soon, but it breaks my heart. I tried to explain, I feels like someone is ripping my heart from my chest.

Currently sitting in the loo with a timer on my opk. Need this to be our month.

Nocats I'm sorry for your losses. I decided to wait for af after my mmc. It's what we were told by all the medical team, and I'm glad we did. I will be anxious enough being pregnant again without bringing uncertainty about dates into it. But I can completely understand that for some people it is exactly the right thing to do.

Lookatthemoon I can't believe someone would do that. I think I'd have slapped her! :s

I'm 40 next year too and I can Def feel time running away. But I think I'm going to wait until I've had one period, I feel like my body's been through a lot hormone wise recently- also stopped b'fing the day after I conceived! - and it would be good to have a bit of an even keel for a bit. Obviously if it takes a while, or if I don't manage, to conceive I'll blame it all on waiting that month! All such a head fuck...

Gees, there are some seriously insensitive people out there. Sorry for those being caught in their wake and for those having a rough time.

I had been doing ok - due to go on hols on Monday and have really been looking forward to it. But this afternoon BF told me she is pregnant again and everything feels sh!t again. I managed to be pleased (which i genuinely am) while we met up but the minute I got in the car and the floodgates opened and I just wish it was me too. Now feeling really down and just hoping I can enjoy the holiday and have a much needed break.

Just found out my older brother & sil are having a girl in November.

Every fresh announcement is like a kick in the stomach. It must get easier

Oh yellow yes, it must. But it's so hard right now. Take care of yourself.

Sorry yellow. Take care . I find that one the babies are actually born it's easier, It's the announcement that are like a stab though the heart. I am comfort eating everything I can get a hold of right now, will probably put all 10 pounds I've lost back on in one sitting