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We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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Doublechocolatetiffin · 03/05/2017 17:55

I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

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Doublechocolatetiffin · 09/05/2017 14:12

Juancornetto I've got the ic's at the moment but the CB digis are on order

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Doublechocolatetiffin · 09/05/2017 14:18

Dancing I feel the same, I don't think I'll feel much better until I get a bfp. Even then its going to be a struggle. I've just had a look at SMEP, I've not read any of those yet so its really useful to see what they recommend. Best get on the case - we were supposed to try yesterday according to that plan!

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Juancornetto · 09/05/2017 15:29

tifffin I've mostly used CB digi's in my TTC journey - 21 months to conceive DD and then 3 months for my last (this?) pregnancy - I found that I ovulate quite early so start testing using CB digis around day 9. You need to make sure you test earlier with the CB's because they register the progesterone earlier than Ic's register LH surge.
Another important thing I think is to test in the pm instead of the morning.

"The impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant" says:

"To figure out what day to start testing, begin with the length of your shortest natural cycle (on the pill doesn’t count) in the past six months. Then subtract 17 days. (So a woman with a 27-day cycle would start testing on day 10)"

yellowfrontdoor · 10/05/2017 12:12

Having the most awful cramps :(
It's not agony but constant & rumbling.
Think I'm going to try to make a GP appt. Really getting me down Sad

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Doublechocolatetiffin · 10/05/2017 15:28

I'm sorry to hear that Yellow, it sounds like a good idea to see your GP if you can.

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Crazyvaperlady · 10/05/2017 16:15

Hi guys, haven't posted for a while as I've been in and out of hospital, incredibly poorly.
CD6 for me, AF finished yesterday, fertile window starts next week eeeek :) how is everyone doing?

Juancornetto · 11/05/2017 13:13

I feel like I did when I had the five day baby blues today, took Dd to playgroup and had to leave early because I was in floods of tears Confused

DancingUnicorn · 11/05/2017 13:25

Juan I'm so sorry. It's ok to have those days, it's such a lot to go through. Hope you afternoon is brighter.

Sorry you've been so poorly vaper. Hope you're feeling better now.

Cd9 today. Started SMEP yesterday. Feel really strange to have everything scheduled. Not feeling any enjoyment or excitement for this whole process now. Just feel the anxiety sitting on my chest. :(

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Doublechocolatetiffin · 11/05/2017 14:58

Juan it sucks doesn't it. I hope you have a better afternoon. I try and keep busy when I'm feeling down, helps to keep my mind off it!

Dancing I'm also back on the TTC wagon again. I've been using the opks and have only got faint lines so far. I can't decide when I should stop drinking! I don't want to drink if I might be pregnant, but equally I'm pretty sure it's not happened yet. What are you doing?

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NoParticularPattern · 11/05/2017 20:59

Juan I know exactly how you feel. I once had that exact problem halfway around Lidl. Saw some pregnant woman and I don't think I've ever left a shop so quickly. Couldn't breathe by the time I got back to the car. It really is absolute shit CakeFlowers.

No planning or OPKs here, but we usually manage to DTD every couple of days regardless so fingers crossed! SMEP is what we followed last time, and then since the MC we've sort of done the opposite!

I'm still having a "I desperately want a baby but I'm terrified of getting pregnant and also terrified of not being pregnant" moment over here. I should probably stop calling it a moment, I think that's just how I roll now!

DancingUnicorn · 11/05/2017 21:10

I'm not SMEP will be for me, but not sure we'd naturally be dtd often enough without some plan. I'm starting opks tomorrow. Never used them before. And I'm tempting this time too. Want to feel like I'm doing everything possible because I don't think I will cope with the next af turning up.

noroomonbroom · 11/05/2017 21:15

It's been a while since I've posted,have kept up the with thread just couldn't quite put how u was feeling down in black and white.
The disappointment of not falling on cycle#2 was crushing.
Then sil sent us a message with a scan pic on it almost cried.
Completely unreasonably ,other people are allowed to get pregnant.
Have now turned into a poas lunatic.Even when I know it couldn't possibly show a +ve.It is driving me crazy.I am not like this.
Now here is the rub and I'm hoping I will get the really good advice from you,( the help I got when was actually MC was amazing)poas yesterday cd30 and thought I could see a faint line, put the stick down meaning to check on it at the end of the time but got distracted,remembered about 40 mins later and there was a strong positive.Am now a day late but tested with a less sensitive test first thing and it was negative.I am pretty sure I didn't OV til the 30/04 so would only make me 11dpo which all fits with the first test.
Am now tying myself in knots trying to work out what is going on and am on constant knicker watch.
Have never tested early before,past pregnancies have always realised I am week late.
Not sure which is worse it being positive and losing it or it being an evap and af showing up or being in limbo.
Sorry it's epic but really can't face talking to dp.

lookatthemoon · 11/05/2017 21:36

Hi Broom - so sorry you have been having such a rough time. What brand test did you use for the positive? I've have false positives/crazy strong evap lines that appear immediately with CBs in the last two cycles I was ttc. Was there colour in the line?

It can take 48 hours for HCG to double so it might have been a bit early for the less sensitive test. Can u get more tests?

Don't feel bad about the testing at random times, even when AF is in full flow I often still think I might be pregnant (obvs not).

noroomonbroom · 11/05/2017 21:54

Was a Sainsbury's (have always found them reliable)Line was blue.
Am only questioning it because I could have sworn I saw a line after 2 mins so I left it to check when then the 10 mins was up.
Just forgot, but the test was still wet so don't see how it could be an evap and it looks just like the positive test I kept for the MC.
Also am dizzy and to make the knicker watch worse am having to pee every hour(always the thing that makes me realise I'm a week late normally)Am never late either.
It's really stupid because I know what ever the answer poas isn't going to make any difference to the outcome.
If I am pregnant poas isn't going to make me more pregnant and if I'm not poas isn't going to suddenly make me pregnant.
Making me wonder if it wasn' just better in ye olden days when you didn't think you were till you missed 3 periods.At least then I would get a bloody line that was a bloody line and not either an effing evap or an effing squinter that could be anything and as reliable as reading tea leaves or basing it on what way the wind was blowing.

noroomonbroom · 11/05/2017 21:56

Am now to bloody scared to pee in case af has shown.Help.

emvy · 11/05/2017 21:59

So sorry you're getting questionable results noroom. Your comment about poas did make me chuckle! Such a good way of thinking of it - keep repeating it in your head and give it another few days! I have everything crossed for you that it'll be a clear bfp then Smile

noroomonbroom · 11/05/2017 22:00

Now have pink spotting.Doen't look like af though.What is going on??????

MulderitsmeX · 11/05/2017 22:15

Oh noroom sorry to hear you're having a stressful time, imo sainsburys test are not
great, maybe try fmu tomorrow with a different brand if you have? I think boots own are supposed to be good.

Fx that the spotting is some implantation and not AT xx

noroomonbroom · 11/05/2017 22:51

Oh for pities sake decided profiteroles were the way to go.
Much better way to spend £3.50 and my sodding crown fell off my tooth with the first one.Seriously!!!!
Thank you for the responses, just wish I could stop having to wee every five minutes.Dp is starting to look suspicious.Dreading him asking me because truth be told I don't know,had I not tested this morning and with everything else I'd have just gone on my merry way til something definitive happened.Am taking folic acid and don't drink so wouldn't have made any difference.
Spotting has stopped now though.WTF.Am now trying to convince myself that there are too many birthdays in Jan anyway and the weather in March or April would be much better for getting out and about in.

swimchick1980 · 12/05/2017 08:57

noroom, keeping everything crossed for you. Some tests are more sensitive than others. Maybe try again tomorrow - I think the Superdrug ones are supposed to be good. I had spotting with both my pregnancies (one that lasted and one that didn't) around AF time, rather than earlier implantation type bleeding, so don't lose heart.

Hope everyone is doing ok,I have been away from MN for a bit, largely because I've been enjoying the glorious sunshine. I've lost quite a bit of weight so feeling a bit better.

CD20 so staying to get to headfk stage. I totally get the not wanting to pee thing noroom- I do that every single month!

MulderitsmeX · 12/05/2017 09:13

Hi- having a bit of a difficult time this week, got my referral for the rmc but it's 20th June which means I can't get pregnant again til July!!

I know it's not that long but part of me is just thinking that seeing as 2 of my losses were so early that its probably just bad luck and I'm just wasting time if I wait for the RMC. Do the RMC usually say all is fine or is it worth waiting? They've told me I can't come if I'm pregnant if had a MC in the last 6 weeks.... so conflicted Sad

emwithme · 12/05/2017 09:43

I've been struggling this week.

The week we found out we were expecting, DH's cousin got married. This was great because it mean we could tell the PIL our news in person (they live abroad). Obviously then it all went to shit, but the wedding photos came out this week and all I can think of is "I was pregnant then and now I'm not". I'm supposed to be at the "people are wondering if she's fat again or pregnant" stage right now (about 16 weeks) and I'm not. It's fucking shit.

But I am OVing this weekend (app says Saturday, EWCM showed up last night - typically when DH wasn't around for a shag) so I've told DH that he will be In Use every day until Monday.

MulderitsmeX · 12/05/2017 09:46

Aw emFlowers sorry to hear that, it's horrible when you get constant reminders.

, I hope this weekend if "busyness" goes well!

NoCatsHere · 12/05/2017 12:20

Hello everyone I hope it's ok to join here. I'm ttc after a 'normal' mc at 7 weeks and then I fell pg straight after but had a private scan at 9 weeks and was told babies heartbeat had stopped at 8 weeks so had medical management almost 3 weeks ago. Just waiting until Monday to test to see it's neg and then really want to srmtart ttc again. I feel I've been pregnant all year with nothing to show from it. I've read back a bit and sorry to all those having a rough time too. It's so tough, I found MN threads a godsend when I feel I can't go on about it all in RL sometimes.

NoParticularPattern · 12/05/2017 16:38

Mulder it's crap knowing you have a "we can't even try to be pregnant until X date". I had a lot of tough times knowing that we couldn't try until close to the wedding, I started to really resent it all and realised that was probably not how you should be feeling when you're marrying the love of your life!!

I'm afraid I don't really have any advice to make it go away, but you do have the RMC referral to "look forward to". It sounds shitty when you say it like that, but you know what I mean I'm sure. You will be closer to getting answers and hopefully some treatment for your next pregnancy so you don't have to be on here any more!! I'd tell you it's not long, but I know exactly how far away everything seems when you've got a specific date hanging over your head!

We are super busy on the farm this week, we are silaging and still have cows to milk, calves to deliver and calves to feed! Also super busy doing stuff for this wedding! So hopefully it takes my mind off the situation. I'm CD17 I think, so should have ovulated by now, but since I've done no tests or temped I don't know for sure. Hen do 4 weeks today so I'm sure we will know one way or another by then!!