We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

I was pretty sure I'd ovulated roughly 10-12 days after the miscarriage as I had lots of ewcm and many horny dreams! And I got af exactly 2 weeks later, yet even a couple of days ago, two days into af, I was still getting a faint line on a preg test. I don't know for sure I ovulated of course but my cycle seems to be back to normal, 4 weeks post mc.

Hello ladies, just catching up. This new thread has moved really quickly! We have been on holiday which was super relaxing but I've eaten and drunk really badly.... wine everyday. Ah well, I'm ready to turn over a new leaf. Off booze, healthy eating and I might even join the aspiring runners, or at the very least try for 10000 steps a day.
I'm CD 22 and about 8 DPO I think. No symptoms whatsoever so not feeling too hopeful although we did dTD cd 12,14,15 with positive opk on day 15. Af due next weekend and I'm planning on holding out til Friday to test.
Re cycles mine changed after my MMC , I've always been long with 7 days bleeding but it became 14 days each month, however my last mc seems to have sorted things out again...Every cloud and all that. Like everyone else I am desperate to be pregnant again but also somehow dreading the anxiety that will bring.
Good luck to everyone approaching fertile week and congrats to Miami on lovely scan.... hope everything is still going well. Have you been offered extra scans? Or will your 12 week one be next if no further probs?

Just a quick response to the question about ovulation while still having high hcg - I was still showing positive pregnancy tests after 3 weeks post mc and so went back to epu for another scan. While there, (scan was clear), I was told that although tests are still showing as positive I could still ovulate so to use protection until I got a bfn. The midwife even commented, "although it sounds strange, you can still ovulate...". So don't take it that you won't have kick started your cycle again. I also got my first af post mc exactly 30 days after surgery so I'm guessing ovulation probably did it happen at some point for af to arrive so bang on schedule

I think I'm going to give myself another week & test if no AF.

That would make it 5 weeks post ERPC.

I'm not mentally ready yet to see a BFN so I'm being a chicken & waiting another week!

It's such a bizarre feeling yellow - you want a bfn to get some kind of closure and a feeling of moving forward (I did anyway), but then you don't because it's all officially over. I found that both results, first the bfp that I was told I shouldn't get (although it seems lots of people do so that was annoying), and the bfn, resulted in tears. No need to be brave, let out whatever emotion you need to when you do test. I'm sending you lots of positive vibes though x

Thanks for the Hcg info. My only way of telling whether I'm ovulating is using opk's, I'm rubbish at reading my body myself. So as they can read hcg as lh, I guess there's no point me Opk'ing until I get a bfn.
I never realised how crazy it could make your hormones!

Just did an IC. Negative. Not a whisper of a squinter.
Feel relieved in one way that all's back to zero but still crushed.
Just want AF now so I can go back to opks.

I'm still getting some period-style womb pains though, 4 weeks on. It's not painful as such, just noticeable. Anyone else get these that far on from their surgery?

Hugs to you yellow.

I think I was still getting the odd niggle that far along, yes. Could it be ovulation or af signs? I noticed ovulation the cycle following my first af after mc which wasn't something I'd ever noticed before. At least that's what I'm assuming it was. It was accompanied by nausea as well though. Keep an eye on it. If you notice any discharge that is a strange colour or smell then it would be worth checking with a professional as they are signs of infection. Slight niggles will be expected though I think - your body has been through a lot.

yellow - yes i had that, went to the doc after 12 weeks and he said to give it two more weeks and come back. During that time i had another mc followed by pains, went to a different doc who said it was nothing to worry about []. I'm short I think they are just the body settling back down and not anything to worry about x

I had a follow on scan today and they found a clot the measures about 2 cm so recommended I go for medical management. So have to go in on Weds to go through the consent and hopefully have it done that day. Bit rubbish that I do have to have treatment now but hopefully it'll speed me up getting back to normal

@Juancornetto Ah that's a bit rubbish but like you said hopefully your body will go back to normal relatively quickly. Go easy on yourself though. I waited 10weeks after my erpc for my period to return and just ovulated on my first cycle. I stressed myself out so much with wanting to get back in the swing of things but these things take time and my Dr actually said to me the more you stress out the less likely it is that your body will return to normal. x

Sorry you have more to go through Juan. That's rubbish. Hopefully it will get you on the recovery road.

I'm in such a bad mood today. Lost all my limited patience. I would have had a midwife appointment this morning, so I think that's probably why. Finding it so hard to believe I would be more than 17 weeks right now. Urgh.

Anyway, have a busy afternoon which I'm hoping will take my mind off things.

Sorry to hear that Juan - hopefully it all goes smoothly and everything gets back to normal soon.

Feel for you Dancing - it really hits hard when something like an appointment or notable date pops up. Be nice to yourself today. x

Oh amy 10 weeks is harsh! So glad you're ovulating now though.
to you dancing the milestones are shit aren't they?! My booking in appt should be tomorrow. I cancelled it last week but they text me a reminder today

Sorry to hear that juan, hope the MM goes smoothly x

dancing it's so rubbish when you realise all the milestones you miss, x

The worst way to start the working week- period just arrived this morning shortly after I woke up, a couple of days early so just had a 27 day cycle after 6 months or more of 28/29 day cycles.

My cycles are very regular indeed!
Cannot believe no BFP during the 10 cycles we have been TTC since last summer, despite the endless amounts of unprotected sex!

Oh well, onto cycle 11- cannot quite believe I'm typing that out.

Next month will be 1 year since the dating scan that gave us the bad news. My body did an excellent job of tricking me into thinking all was ok.

Even a small bit of bleeding in the early weeks would've given the game away rather than let me get to 12 weeks + with that glowing inner excitement of being pregnant and only you & your partner knowing.

Hoping I don't completely lose the plot then...1 whole year, so unfair!

I think part of me secretly despises my body for letting me down. Does it know I'm quietly cursing it? Is that what's stopping getting this baby no.2 show on the road?!

Sorry everyone just having a rant!

@turquosedress - I know how you are feeling about a shitty start to the week. Friend at work told me today she's 20 weeks pregnant. I've been moaning about everything to her so feel horrible now but wish she had told me too. Such a nightmare. Xx

Nicola
That must've been hard to try and keep a poker face.

In general, only a couple of people at work know about my MMC but nobody knows about the TTC for over 10 months bit!

I'm just not close enough to anyone at work, also I've not really discussed it in detail with my actual close friends.

All the posts here are where I let it out!

My fear would be for everyone to know what I'm going through re TTC and then somehow being watched for my reaction to pregnancy news/new babies.

At least this way I just have to keep myself in check and not worry that anyone else knows what's going on (or rather, not as the case may be).

In any case, it's all just total fucking bollocks!

Thanks @turquoisedress - I have been quite open about my previous pregnancy losses but now part of me wishes I hadn't as two people have felt they needed to tell me separately about the pregnancys at work and I know people are waiting for me to say I'm pregnant but it's just not happening at the moment: plus I have 3 babies showers to attend in the next few weeks all of people who started trying after me and are now pretty much having their babies. life is being a bit shit at the moment. Xx

I know how you feel about being watched for your reaction or feeling like there's tonnes of pressure on to conceive. I told people about my MC because I needed them to understand why I just couldn't be around all the new babies that my friends had. Most people were exceptionally understanding but my best friend at the time has now not spoken to me for over 6 months because I dared to tell her I just wasn't ready to meet her new baby just yet! . I hate people telling me separately or not telling me- only for it to be a surprise at some point in the future when I'm likely not expecting it or I'm not in a position to process it inwardly and then offer the congratulations. Had it over Christmas with MIL "forgetting" to mention my OH's best friend was having a baby. So naturally we go out for a meal with them not knowing, and it's blindingly obvious, constant baby talk and mentions of "ooh it'll be you soon, you've got so many empty bedrooms!". I was exceptionally mad with her for that, because I could have prepared myself. I could have kept it together instead of coming across as rude and then having to explain it, and then apologise for making everyone feel bad. Argh!

I'm also massively feeling the pressure- maybe doubly so what with us getting married in July?! God it seems so far away when you say that, but not when you say 9 weeks!!!!

It kind of makes me feel like not announcing any pregnancy at all. I told a few people early last time and on the whole I'm glad, but I don't think we will tell anyone until it becomes absolutely obvious this time. If we ever get to cross that bridge! I just don't think I will cope with the constant baby talk- like the baby that I had didn't even exist!!

Sorry, that was long!!

It's tough isn't it @noparticularpattern. I will be telling my boss next time as I get early scans at 6,8,10 weeks so need to be able to go to those appointments. I just hope it happens soon but then again it's going from the worry of trying to get pregnant to then staying pregnant. I hope it happens for us all soon. Xx

no particular that's shit of your "friend". it's also rude for people to do the whole "when are you having babies" thing, even before ttc - far too personal!!

That's exciting about your wedding though - I'm glad you have something amazing to look forward to. It's gonna be the best day!!!

Sorry I've been absent for a few days, just feeling a bit fed up with it all and wanting to get away from thoughts of miscarriage and how I should be well into my pregnancy now.

I have a question thought, I'm cd9 and about a week away from my fertile week according to Ovia. When should I start using the opks?

@tiffin Are you using ic's or the CB digis?

So understandable tiffin. It's really sucks. Hope you are feeling a bit more positive now. I'm not quite sure how to get to that point without a bfp.

I'm following SMEP this month and it recommends starting using them on cd10. So I'll be doing that.