We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

Sorry for your losses lime. I too lost twins, diagnosed mmc at 8 weeks. I got my first af 30 days after surgical management and it was fine. It actually came about a week after mc spotting stopped. It also took almost 4 weeks post surgery to get a negative test. So try not to worry about those things. I also too had the same worries about things going wrong after surgery. And still worried about the latter two! Really hoping for just the one egg next time around as well. All your experiences and feelings sound very similar to mine and I'm so so sorry you're going through them. It does get easier, I promise, although at 3 months post, it's still very raw at times. This is a great thread to be on though with lovely, understanding, supportive ladies

@juno welcome and really sorry for your loss. We are very similar- we booked our wedding for end march 2018 when we got preg on Feb - and then miscarried. I am currently two week wait after second iui after d and c after missed miscarriage. My first period came five weeks after d and c and was pretty normal actually. My iui doctor looked at lining this round and said it was better than before - does that help?

Ah emvy sorry for what's happened to you. Would not wish this on my worst enemy. It's just horrible. Glad you got af quickly and it wasn't too bad.

Hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel!

Although if I do get pregnant again.. it's taken the shine right off! I'll be worried every second of it. Sigh!

@lime19 I feel you - same boat - see above. It didn't take too long to come back- five weeks and if you have no issues you can both start trying when you ovulate- whereas we are with donor sperm so we have to wait till post period. I am currently ten days post iui

angliski sorry for your losses. We never expected to fall so quickly then we were so excited about getting married with a secret bump! Fingers crossed you get some good news shortly! The waiting/not knowing is so difficult!

lime19 feeling the same. I thought I'd done everything by the book and it still went wrong so now I'm just going to be a bag of nerves for any future pregnancy!

Good luck emvy for tomorrow :)

Lime19 Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Fingers crossed it doesn't take too long for things to get back to normal biologically for you!

It really does take the shine off somewhat - desperate to be pregnant again/petrified of losing another baby it really does suck.

Thank you Bertie x

This morning's test. Another hint of a line that is so so faint. Really don't know what to think. This test has sensitivity of 10 and it doesn't look much darker than saturday's test. It does look clearer in person that saturday's but still not a significant change. Not really sure what to think... keep testing in another 48 hours?

I do see it emvy!

I see it too congratulations!

I have a very dark positive. Will be 11 days after my surgical management. Surely it's meant to be getting lighter by now! It's so dark still. I'll never be happier to see a negative test!!!! I just want it to go away. My boobs also feel very pregnant still. It stinks it really does. Hate the waiting.

Thanks guys. I wish the line was darker! I'm technically 3 days late now but it's still so faint. I guess I just need to be patient. Feeling a bit wobbly today!

Lime mine was like that too. My 3 weeks post surgery test was darker than the test I've just posted now! I also had symptoms for a while after. Hang in there. Do you have a follow up booked?

I'm going to ask for a follow up I think. They said if not negative by this Thursday they will do a scan

emvy I am SHIT at seeing lines and I see that one.

@emvy there is def a line there! Keep testing and/or go for bloods if you can? Tentative hurray for you!!! X

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Am day 11 post iui. Poas on day 8 and day 10- bfn. Now determined to wait till Friday evening! Help!!!

Emvy I definitely see a line. So sorry to see newbies here. All the ladies on here have been so wonderful, but it's definitely the thread you hope you never have to join. I'm in the waiting for ovulation no news stage! I think I'm taking advantage of being able to drink a little too much... but it's helping me cope, so screw it.

Morning all, I have been off MN for a few days so need to read back a page or 2!

@emvy that is definitely a clear line, can you test again in 48 hours with the same brand so you should see a darker line?

@Lime sorry you find yourself here, although like the others have said it is a really lovely group. I still had a positive 4 weeks after too so hang in there. It also took me 10 weeks for AF to arrive....that was a piss take i have to say and it seems the majority of AF's return after 4-6 weeks.

I am CD 15 today, no sign of ovulation for me yet although not sure it will happen naturally now. My DR has FINALLY referred me to the Hospital to start various fertility tests. She was really patronising to me on Friday when I said I want to be put on medication for PCOS (and so potentially not ovulating) I was told as i fell pregnant naturally in November 16, I would need to be trying for a year. I completely lost it and told her to look back at my notes. I had been trying for nearly 3 years when i fell pregnant, for it to end in a MMC in Feb of this year. I have had 4 scans so far this year and blood tests all pointing in the direction of PCOS. A different Dr has said i have many immature follicles on my ovaries that could be potentially cause me problems conceiving. If nothing comes through in the next few weeks i think i will have to go privately. Its the constant mind f**k that i can't handle and all the conflicting information i have received since the MC happened. I was convinced i would be pregnant again but we are now in June and it seems further away than ever.

Angliski I also need to hang on in there, probably will POAS on Wednesday/Thursday (12/13 dpo).

I have had LP spotting every cycle for a year, but this time, it has totally stopped as of 7DPO, when I had a temp dip and boobs stopped hurting, and temp has now gone back up, have started getting creamy CM and boobs are achey but different, and huge! I've also started feeling nauseous randomly, as well as dizzy when I stand up.

I don't want to be hopeful, but its the lack of bleeding that has really made me wonder (especially as we DTD on 8 DPO and there was no bleeding after that either!)

I just don't know if I should feel hopeful or not!

Amy, 10 weeks does seem a joke. I hate the wait and it's only been 11 days. Who knew that having a miscarriage messed you up for so long?! I feel like it's been going wrong since 26 April which is when I had my first drop of blood. Sigh. That's a long time of being in this negative state.

I hope the Drs help you soon. Agree sometimes private is way forward. I love the NHS but I had to pay 200 quid all in all for private scans because the epu told me to "sit tight til the 12 week scan". Always awkward when someone delivers bad news then asks how you would like to pay today!

Also it seems everyone in the world is pregnant. A trip round sainsburys and all I see is bumps. I know it sounds silly but we have 2 sets of celeb twins coming soon (clooney and Beyoncé). There'll be endless headlines on that. It's not jealousy I think it's more like I feel like I'm cursed or that "why me?" Feeling.

Stay strong everyone that is waiting to test. Distraction is key... exercise, eat good food, watch box sets, do anything to take your mind off it

I agree with the everyone seems pregnant comment - My Best friend, sister in law and 2 other close friends are pregnant...sigh!

Our time will come!

We had the awkward encounter of getting a refund for the Photo we had paid for at the 12 week scan after they had told us there was no heartbeat.... I had joked before we went in 'do we get a refund if there is nothing there' Oh to be so naive again!