We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

[Doublechocolatetiffin]

I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

Amy I think Bertie is the expert, but my understanding is that temping is the best way to determine you actually ovulated and not just that your body geared up for it. It's been a lot simpler than I thought it would be and is second nature now. It's because after you ovulate you start producing progesterone that causes your temperature to rise.

Ah ok, thanks I may start this month!

A bit random to post and TMI, but at last on day 38 I have spotting. What a relief!

That's good Waterfeature, sorry you've been in limbo so long.

Wonderful news em! And conker, so soon! Really happy for you both.

Turquoise I can't tell you how sorry I am things are this shit for you. It's unimaginably painful and scary not knowing what's going to happen. I wish someone had answers. You're so brave and strong, just to be cracking on as you are. I know there's no option but to, but I think you're awesome x

Af landed last night for me, a bit ahead of schedule, so the waiting is over, I always feel my most sane when it's here! And it's been very heavy but very short the last couple of cycles so should be tailing off by the time we go away.

Sending hugs to everyone today.

Any news Bertie?

Good things are settling down for you Grumpy.

How are you doing peach?

So sorry for your loss Stuck, if one mc seems like shoddy luck, the more it happens the fucking worse it gets. I'm under my local RMC as I'd had 3, ending in MMC at 12 weeks in November. First appointment was in jan, it's a fortnightly clinic, I've had a barrage of tests and have a treatment plan and it's been really positive. Had another early loss since in Feb but but as all my tests are clear my consultant has said it was almost definitely chromosomal. I don't have any living children yet. I don't know anything about St George's but it's meant to be very good. I hope they can give you some answers and/or help.

Dancing, sorry you've had tough bits of your weekend. I sobbed on Sunday like I haven't done for ages. We're trying to work out how to dedicate something to our mmc baby girl and I found myself looking at various mc sites trying to find wording which felt right. I howled. Part of me still cannot believe we lost her. I hope you're feeling a bit better.

Anne sorry AF got you too but IKWYM about feeling sane!

You are always so kind and attentive to everyone on the thread. for you.

Hello all. I joined a while back and then sortof fell off the thread, but wondering if I could hop back on?

To recap, ectopic last April, lost a tube, mid cycle bleeding/spotting since then, no obvious cause (have had swabs, scans etc). Started trying again in January but so far no luck.

Currently in the TWW having ovulated I think on CD10/11. Spotting started straight away, expecting AF late next week.

@Anne I second @Waterfeature - you are SO kind to everyone on this thread - thank you. I'm doing okay thank you - trying to stay calm and not get too stressed (though we just had an offer accepted on a house so that might be tricky!). Taking each day as it comes.

Also want to show the love for @Anne , I have often thought how lovely you are and you really take the time to answer peoples posts on here

Baby talk galore for me today. One of my friends sister has just had her baby and called it the name I love (and imagined calling my baby the same name) It was a blow but then i realised i am not actually pregnant and why the need to sulk!
CD 10 for me today so i have at least another week before my fertile window, that's even if a little shit of an egg gets released. Hmmmm!

How are all the pregnant ladies? I really hope symptoms are gearing up, I will never moan again at sore boobs and feeling sick!!

xxx

You lot keep me sane, big love back.

Hello, sorry I've not been on much.

I think I've had a chemical. Only knew the previous day and didn't think it looked strong.

Is anyone taking aspirin? Are you taking all the time and is it 75 or 81? I could only get 75 otc.

So sorry ekphrasis. :(

Anne I'm so sorry about af. Hopefully you can enjoy your lovely holiday and come back to a bfp and sticky bean!! You so deserve it!

I'm still feeling a bit sorry for myself. Going to drown my sorrows with cocktails tomorrow. And trying to arrange steak and cheese and wine tasting! But I'd rather be pregnant.

Turquoise I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. ❤️❤️

Thanks Dancing, I've been haring round the shops in my lunch break like a nutter buying last minute supplies! I'm going to eat, drink, sleep, read, pamper, relax, gaze at my gorgeous husband and remember what was good about life before we ttc

it's our first wedding anniversary while we're there as well.

Cocktails are awesome! I know it's shit, but as you say, enjoy the benefits and go mad on the forbidden foods while you can x

That sucks ekphrasis, so sorry

I'm on low dose aspirin, 75mg, from ov to bfp/af. Make sure you eat something proper before having it, I'm having a milk/oat/fruit type smoothie to properly line my stomach, or some bread and cheese or something.

It may be completely unconnected, but my af has been much much heavier since I started aspirin, about 3 days of flooding, then stopping. The consultant didn't mention but my GP thought it might be connected. It's not bad if so, but I wish someone had warned me it might happen.

anne sos sorry af got you - but glad you get to enjoy different aspects to your holiday and something lovely to take your mind off it all. good luck for the next cycle.

ekphrasis that's crappy so sorry.

Finally i have stopped spotting/bleeding today on what i think is day 12 of my new cycle after my mmc. i did an opk this morning and clearly nothing on it at all so will continue to check. However i don't expect this cycle to be anywhere near what's normal for me, the bleeding went on for too long so i guess its a guessing game this month!

Thanks, I'm ok - not sure what to think; we hadn't act very ttc this month and it was a line for a day so nothing huge. At the same time it's disconcerting I guess. But I suppose very common.

Thanks anne. Is there a reason to do it from ovulation rather than all the time or when bfp? Did your consultant explain it?

I was told to go on it from bfp when I had ds as he was so small. Then the gp said it was from 11 wks. Then lots of people on mn seemed to be taking it esp of older (I'm 40) but I couldn't work out when to. At my mc the dr said it was fine from bfp (I asked about taking earlier than 12 weeks) but I didn't ask about earlier than that. I'm unsure what to try for the best!

I don't have any sort of diagnosis for the mcs but he's convinced (nearly) everyone can benefit from blood thinners when ttc. I mentioned it at our first appointment and he was v dismissive but following the last mc he said to give it a go. It's to get more blood into the uterus and help implantation, so from around ov to to the end of the cycle.

He said I could take it constantly if I wanted to but the benefits are from ov so for the sake of my tummy to have half the month off it.

There's so much online it's incredibly confusing. Some people say it helps, some quoting studies saying it's dangerous.

I'm trusting my guy, got to be worth a shot and there are no side effects if you're not allergic to it. I'm switching to injected fragmin/clexane from bfp but like I say, no diagnosis, so I reckon go for it if you want to.

So sorry af got you @anne - and wanted to second @water - you have given so much kindness to all of us on here! Really really hope you have an awesome holiday and that the gorgeous warm sun sets you up for a nice huge bfp when you get back!!!

Thanks anne that makes sense regarding the tummy thing. Sorry about af.

I'm sorry some are having a hard time. This has affected me again this afternoon whereas I was quite buoyant before. I'm trying to be more positive and not think too much about these things; hard if you have to think of medical stuff on top (I'm hypothyroid too).

And enjoy your holiday! A well times holiday did me the world of good following my mc.

When I conceived Dd I took 75mg and took it constantly, from day 1 of my cycle to 12 weeks. That was me self medicating though so not under doctors orders.

I'm convinced it helped with conception though - first time I conceived after 21 months of ttc. It was also my first month of Clomid but my consultant said there wasn't any real point me taking that as I ovulate OK. This pregnancy I just miscarried, I conceived with no clomid just 3 months after starting to ttc. Dd was 14 months old when I conceived so I think that I still had good blood flow to my uterus from being pregnant with her

Did you take aspirin with your re eve pregnancy too juan?

*recent

Yes, but only from when I got my BFP not before. I was breastfeeding right up to the day after I conceived (!) I'd decided to wean DD to help fertility and thought I wouldn't conceive that cycle because still BF'ing and can't take aspirin when doing so. But started taking aspirin when I got my unexpected BFP.
Obviously it can't help if the MC is caused by chromosonal issues, not sure if that was the case for me this time but it may have been. Baby apparently stopped growing at 5+6 and I started bleeding at 8+4

How's everyone today?

Af much better than the last two cycles, I'm taking Tranexamic acid to make them less heavy and Mefanamic acid for the pain and I'm pretty comfy.

Sorted out our little memorial at the village church as well, which feels good.

Glad to hear you've managed to get AF under some kind of control Anne.

I have started spotting again at 4/5 dpo, which is standard, so just have to wait it out until next week when AF starts.

I'm considering Agnus Castus to try and regulate hormones/improve ovulation. Has anyone here used it?

Anne a memorial sounds lovely. I'd so love to do something, but think my husband would hate the idea. :( I'm thinking of booking the due date off work and doing something. I'm worried that would make things worse. I'm so glad af isn't as bad for you. Mine has been nowhere near as heavy as normal so of course I'm worrying a little now!

I'm feeling ok today. Cocktails planned for this evening!

I've never used it flash. What is it/what does it do?