We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

I'm spotting now which usually means AF is on its way, boo.

Conception lube is good if you don't produce much EWCM or you're not sure. It mimics the consistency so supports sperm. If you produce a lot of your own you're better off not using it.

I get stats from various places but the miscarriage risk one is from here:

spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php

emwithme, that's amazing news! Well done your DH :)

yellow, that also looks good to me! Congratulations!

Welcome tobeornottobe, sorry you're here. Also with you on the obsession and desperation with ttc but not sure about the lube I'm sorry!

Excellent news on the dh's job emwithme, hope Sunday comes around quickly for you!

Bertiebotts, sorry to hear af is likely on its way I have everything crossed it's just playing tricks on you!

Thanks Bertie. Interesting stuff! So sorry about af. That really sucks. :(

Congrats yellow!

Well, there's definitely line progression. AF is due today so will be checking for blood all day. I feel so on edge just waiting for the bleeding, when you have lost 3 pregnancies in a year you don't believe it can happen. I really need to take it one day at a time.

So things I did this month as I know I always looked at that when I saw people's BFP.

I didn't temp (I usually do)
Didn't expect to be pregnant as husbands brother passed away fertile week so just thought he won't feel like it.
Used digital ovulation sticks and had a positive around 7am - did the deed around 12 hours after that. Had a negative digital the following morning but dtd later that day anyway which was about 36 hours after first positive.
Carried on with my seven seas pre Natalia
Missed reflexology due to everything going on (although I did have a mini session at a spa a few days before I ovulated)

Think that's about it and I still have no symptoms. Xx

Lovely news yellow and halloumi congratulations.

tobeornottobe I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. I haven't followed a plan as yet, but maybebwill try next cycle if this one doesn't work.

Dancing I'm with you on the loss of positivity. I had loads of signs, I knew it was too early to be feeling nauseous etc but I'd felt sick before eating for a few days. Turns out I've got a d&v bug, feel really awful and not positive at all that pregnancy is likely.

Glad it's progressing Nicola. Must be scary, but today you are pregnant.

10 dpo today and bfn. :( As expected. I kept staring at where the second line would be and hoping it would appear. Eyes kept getting tricked. Feel like such an idiot for being hopeful!!

Tiffin I'm sorry you are ill. :(

Glad you have a darker positive this morning nicola. You're right, take it one day at a time.

Tiffin sorry you're unwell, and for the bank holiday weekend rest up!

dancing, so so sorry you've got a bfn. I'm right in thinking though that it doesn't always show that early? Could it just be that the process took a bit longer? I read something the other day about how long the longest time between ovulation and a positive was it said 19 days due to a variation in all sorts of things! I decided that until 19dpo I wasn't going to symptom spot at all! Ha.. yeah right. Don't give up yet dancing x

Yeah, it's really early. Af due on Monday. Last time I didn't get a bfp until two days after af was due. I didn't know when I ovulated that time though. I'm not ruling myself out, but not feeling hugely hopeful! That's ok though. At least my cycles are short, so I'll be symptom spotting again before I know it!

That looks positive to me yellow congratulations
Hi tobeornottobe sorry for your loss x
I've got my first post mc AF today - grim! It's really heavy and gushy and I keep passing big clots - boak! But hopefully means my body's getting back on track...

Congrats to all those with bfp i really hope everything goes smoothly and happily for you all!!
I never did use the digital test I bought.. Af arrived 2 days late with a vengeance :-( So I'm scrubbing bathrooms and catching up on episodes of casualty I missed living abroad last year and haven't been able to watch with the miscarriages too many babies and hospitals
Husband is away on his overnight shift tonight, family away to Wembley for the fact cup final and close friends all working so a quiet weekend in for me..
Hoping everyone getting on OK

juan good that you have af at last, sirtynits grim though.
yellow so amazing! It looks like a great line to me. Remind me why you kept on peeing on opks again. Where did you think you were in your cycle...
smurf so sorry af showed up. I hope you have some treats lined up for your peaceful alone time weekend.

Still spotting today. Day 9 of af. Hope it buggers off really soon!

Nocats I had NO IDEA where I was in my cycle. I thought I'd seen some EWCM & that prompted me to try an OPK (we'd sworn off them for the time being). When I got a positive result I thought I was ovulating so kept testing. By day 7 the test line was dark dark pink & the control was so faint, it didn't seem right.
Never in my wildest dreams did I think I was pregnant.
After that IC I got up this morning & got these with fmu.
I'm so shocked, excited but terrified beyond belief.

So having been absolutely delighted at th BFP, I've now had brown CM yesterday night and more today. I still have absolutely no symptoms whatsoever so I'm guessing this will turn out to be a chemical before much longer! Hopefully it will stick until Tuesday when I'll next be able to get to the GP and at least that'll make us two thirds of the way towards a recurrent miscarriage referral.

Wishing you guys all the best in the future, think I need to go feel sorry for myself somewhere else for a while.

Oh noparticular I'm sorry, you sound really down. Could it just be implantation bleeding? It's ok not to have any symptoms, I didn't really have any with my DD. Be kind to yourself, I really hope this is successful for you

Noparticular, I'm so sorry you're in a bad place. As Tiffin said, this could be implantation, don't write it off just yet. I understand your apprehension though and am praying this sticks for you

no particular I'm sorry your having a hard day! I hope it is just some implantation for you.
yellow congrats :-)
Thanks nocats If I'm honest I find alone time really difficult atm .. If I'm busy it's fine I can keep my mind off the mc/ pregnancy but on my own I find its all I think of. I just got a Chinese take away with my favourite dish sweet and sour but it just didn't taste right.. Maybe I'm just tired.

Cd1 for me. Far more gutted than I hoped I'd be, even though I'd been starting to expect it. Am away for the day, and have no painkillers. :(

I'm so sorry Dancing. I just did a ic test and got a bfn so I think I'll be the same. it's not fair is it.

dancing and double so sorry if af is here for you both. It's so tough. And you're right, it's really not fair at all.
smurf as the others have said let's hope it's something like implantation bleeding and not chemical. I have everything crossed for you over the next few days.

Bfn again for me too today. Sucks. Feel so stupid for having panicked about what I'd do with a bfp!

Really happy for you yellow conftaulsuins.

Sorry dancing Can you get some pills? Hope it's not too awful x

That sounds really stressful noparticular, hope it's just playing tricks on you and your little bean sticks.

Sorry for your bfn anne it really does suck doesn't it! I was so convinced that this was our month.. Including signs that I thought were all good signs of early pregnancy... Going between "awk well there is always next month" to "hmm not as heavy as normal af maybe I should take that test just to be sure" and I do know that taking that test will make no difference what so ever other than waste a perfectly good test that could be of use another month. I think because with last pregnancy I had "af" that did require pads and last 2 or 3 days and a week later I got a bfp at gp that it has made it harder for me to accept that af means no pregnancy this month. I know deep down that it's not likely to happen again and I'm just torturing myself but try as I might the thoughts keep coming back. Ultimately I am persuading myself with the fact that even if that did happen again I would find out a month later and the only difference it would make would be that a scan shows me further ahead than I expect as docs are still not doing anything extra atm other than give me early and additional scans.
Thanks for listening... Not really something I thing I feel I can say out loud to anyone as they wouldn't understand..

anne I'm sorry about your bfn too. Its horrible when you're just waiting for the inevitable af.

smurf that sounds really tough, when af doesn't necessarily mean no pregnancy! It must completely mess with your mind.

Sorry that af seems to have got lots of you there always seems to be a row of bfp's and a row of af's. Also really difficult that you had an "af" with your last pregnancy smurf, that must be so hard! As if the tww isn't hard enough!

I'm 10 dpo today and in full symptom spotting mode (actually only the first time I'm admitting this, I've been convinced I'm not doing it at all but I'm lying to myself!). Typical that the last week of my cycle is also half term and I'll have an entire week to dwell on things instead of being busy with work. Trying so hard to tell myself what will be, will be. Especially as I've had some mild cramping and breast tenderness which I got with last month's cycle about a week before af.

Anyway, I hope you're managing to enjoy some of the sunshine this bank holiday weekend and that it's helping to raise the positivity of those of you who have had bfn's or af xx