We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

I don't think I am pregnant. I'd love to be. I actually think I might be ok this month if I'm not... I dunno. It's a really busy month at work. And I have plans where there'll be alcohol. Having said that, I'll probably sob when af turns up.

Also, my cycles are so short... so if I get a bfp on Saturday I'll only be 3+3, which is bonkers. Only testing so I don't accidentally drink loads of booze!

Congrats on your bfp's nicola and no particular !! So exciting :D

Thanks for all your lovely messages. I was nervous about joining because my mmc was over a year ago but I do really need to vent!

Currently CD21, didn't ovulate until CD19 because I apparently have a heathen womb. Missed ovulation by 1 day, but dtd for 3 days before and the day after so hopefully caught it. This waiting is shit lol.

Well it looks like we are on a roll.. congratulations no particular and nicola! Got this when I got up to pre at 6am. DH has described himself as 'mutedly excited'. I think we'll both worry our way through the next 12 weeks so i will stick around here for a bit if that's ok? Hope my luck rubs off and the roll continues!

Amazing halloumi! Congratulations! Isn't it funny how we always seem have a spate of bfp's all in one go?! It's always reassuring!

Lilsnooze, never feel that just because your mc was a while back that your venting will not be accepted! I presume this is something that stays with us forever. I can also imagine that regardless of time, ttc again will certainly bring those feelings back to the forefront.

Dancing I also feel the same - really not feeling at all pregnant this month. I've planned a night out for night after af should arrive to drink away my sorrows (also secretly hoping Sod's law plays a part). P.s. How how do I put a strike through words like you guys do sometimes?

Halloumi, wow. Congratulations!! :)

Congratulations Halloumi!

Congratulations halloumi, nicola and noparticular
I wouldn't worry about no symptoms, I barely had any with my daughter. Everything crossed for sticky beans for you!

Congratulations on the BFP's ladies. All the best for uneventful 9 months.
I have been popping in and out to see how you are all getting on, I will keep an eye on you all but won't say much if that's ok. Don't want to go on too much.
We are 9+3 today, feels like eons already since Mondays scan.
All the best ladies. Keep the BFP's rolling. I look forward to seeing you all on the keeping positive board.

Congratulations Halloumi I bloody love squeaky cheese

AF due over the weekend (today if I've reverted back to 26-day-cycles, Sunday if they're 28-day). Had previously agreed with DH not to test until BH Monday (CD29). Now wondering why I did that and whether it'd be wrong to get more tests on my way to work today, and then thinking (a) I don't want to get my BFP in the loos at work (b) I don't want a BFN in the loos at work (c) it's a waste as I won't be using F/SMU anyway. Ho hum. So instead, I have put on the knickers that I always come on in (seriously, every month I've owned them except the month I got my BFP). These bloody pun entirely intended knickers get a biotex soak every month!

Wonderful wonderful news halloumi! So happy for you x

Take it a day at a time, look after yourself, find a calming mantra if you need one. And it's only 8 weeks to 12 weeks, not 12 weeks more ahead of you. Occurred to me the other day, 12 weeks/3 months feels like ages but actually by the time you know, you're a third of the way there!

Magical knickers em?! Really hope af stays away. The thing is, testing, even if you get a bfn, can sometimes sort of calm you down, even for a short time, as it's an answer, if sometimes a shit one. If you want to poas then do, you don't have to tell anyone!

Keeping you in my thoughts and hopes miami, the time seems to be flying by!

Thanks for all the good wishes. Had one of the best nights we've had in ages last night - made a lovely meal and ate it in the garden, with a bottle of lovely wine and some great music on. Felt so happy. We haven't had a garden before, bought this house last autumn, and the weather's finally up to eating outside. Just put the whole thing behind me for a night and I feel very zen today. I'm either pregnant or I'm not (still so crampy, but nothing else going on) and I don't want to lose sight of everything else in my life.

If I sound annoying and smug, remind me of it when I start freaking out again by the end of the day

So so happy about the run of BFPs. No one in the world I want to get knocked up as much as you lot

Hooray for BFPs and healthy pregnancies :) So nice to see you Miami!

I don't think urine time is especially important, FWIW... I know I was stressing about it the other day

AF is due tomorrow but I am still looking for signs (boobs, heartburn, coffee sensitivity, pulling kind of cramps, lack of spotting...) even though BFN at 10 and 12 dpo. Oh well. I think I'll get my hopes up every single month TBH! I don't know whether this positivity is a helpful trait or not. It doesn't seem to matter how many disasters, I can only see the good sides

halloumi I was looking at stats the other day and at 9 weeks the chance of miscarriage is at 2% and it doesn't change from that until after 12 weeks. So we're looking at 9 weeks as a milestone for the next one. But it's really going to depend on when you have a scan.

Congrats halloumi! Muted excitement all round :) Hoping for a smooth ride through this pregnancy for you.

dancing im the same, having to force myself to make nice messages to my pregnant friend, and its so crap because she totally 'deserves' this pregnancy, it's her first and she's waited a long time for it but it gives me a little bit of pain to read her messages and think that could have been me.... it's harder than i thought to be upbeat about it.

snooze welcome and sorry you're here and stressed about what should be a fun journey. we are all here to listen, you are not losing your marbles at all!

nicola congrats! don't be worried about the slightly fainter line - it's a line and could be any number of reasons its not clearer. And i've had 2 babies and never had a single symptom with either, don't worry about those things.
And congrats halloumi and noparticular so nice to see all these lines!

miami its always nice to see how you're doing, don't feel you can't ever pop on and give us an encouraging wave! hope the next few weeks fly by for you.

I'm annoyed i'm still bleeding for what i assume is af after my mmc. its only really needing a pantyliner change now the last couple of days but it's dragging. Normally its over in 5 days but this is day 8. perhaps its just my cycle getting back to normal? Hoping this is the last day for it!

Crossing everything for you Bertie for AF to stay away. Have you had any signs from your list?

Such a good point about stats and timings. It seems like the 12 week milestone is because that's the first time anyone else confirms the pregnancy, and it's timed for the tests they can only conduct around that stage of development.

Sorry it's dragging NoCats, hope AF sods off very soon.

Thanks Bertie that's really helpful. Where do you get all your stats?

So, I'm convinced this isn't going to be my cycle. Nausea etc seems to have eased off. Lower abdomen is doing some crazy things though, but I'm probably just more sensitive to it than I used to be.

Feeling really down. I thought I would be ok about it not happening this month, but I'm gutted. And I'd have been 20 weeks today. Half way through. Instead, I've known my precious baby had been dead as long as I knew it was alive. :(

Dancing and a hug xxx

I'm sorry your baby died. I don't know if that means anything but sometimes I just want someone to say that to me, and to acknowledge she existed and I loved her.

Sorry you're feeling so low.

Wow what a fab run of bfps!!! Huge congratulations ladies!! No one deserves them
More than you guys! Let's all keep
Our fingers crossed that the baby dust rubs off and it is our month aswell and that come Christmas we are strutting around in some gorgeous christmas maternity frocks!!!
This weather certainly helps with lots of good days - we have a teacher training day here today so have spent the day with ds and ds in the sun at a national trust place with lots of friends! And tomorrow ds turns 8!!!!! So hoping we get a dfp as an extra bday pressie!!!!

My af has begun doing that too nocats - having a proper bleed for 2-3 days is about normal for me now it seems and then about 5-6 of brown spotting that drags and drags! So annoying!

Sorry you're having a down day Dancing. Spend some time looking after yourself over the weekend to restore some positive energy but until then, you are more than entitled to feel emotional and spend time thinking about your baby

How did the day pan out in the end emwithme - af or no af? Test or not to test?

I'm currently soaking up some rays in the sunshine after a manic week at work. I can hear the newborn baby from next door crying through the open window. So annoyingly jealous even though it's clearly not a happy bunny at this moment in time!

Oh well, it's half term now which means a week of catching up on sleep, marking and planning!

Hello ladies,
Unfortunately i find myself on this thread. Ive had 2 miscarriages in the last year one at 7 weeks the other at 13 weeks . Im now obsessed with TTC this cycle and ive armed myself with vitamins, opks and conceive fertility lubricant. Im so desperate to be pregnant again its making me go crazy, as its all I think about. I guess my question is has anyone used conceive plus before? Ive read so many good reviews ,bt then again im desperate so ill believe anything right about now.

Sorry to find you other lovely ladies here too , x

So sorry you are here tobe. It's definitely a shit journey. Really hoping we all get the happy endings we a so desperate for. I've never used the fertility lube, so can't offer any advice I'm afraid. But totally understand your desperation and obsession with all things ttc!

Thanks for the kind words Anne and emvy. I know technically it was a foetus (as the sonographer said, and said he wasn't allowed to refer to it as a baby!) but it will always be my baby. Just wish I could have held him/her in my arms. But. I will be fine. So in need of this long weekend!!

Oh my god oh my god....

Is this what I think it is?

I don't wanna hope!

That looks good to me yellow

Emvy absolutely no AF and no signs of it being imminent. DH has re-hidden the tests because I found them earlier looking for a stapler. He will un-hide it on Sunday evening or maybe tomorrow if I ask nicely

We have had some excellent news, which is that DH has got a job! He's been looking since October (when his FT contract ended), he had some temp work until January, but this is a ft job in the field he wants to be in (and that he's got a very expensive MSc in). It's entry level, and crappy shifts, but it's a foot in the door in an industry that's notoriously hard to get into, so we're v happy.