We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

I'm struggling with the no symptom spotting!! Abdo is really tight, as if I've done loads of sit ups I definitely have not!! And my hip is weirdly sore. Only 6dpo, so ridiculous to be thinking about it so much!

Take a test yellow and let it be positive

Isn't they funny peach, I wonder what causes it? Sort of tired but really wired and hectic. Nnot going to get overly optimistic but travelling hopefully.

Oh conker, it makes you crazy doesn't it, I decide every month not to symptom spot and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

The nicest thing about my weird dream was the feeling of complete joy and excitement about another bfp. I've worried about how all the potential joy is overshadowed by the potential loss and awfulness of it happening again, but I feel like I'm really ready this time in case it does happen and I'll be able to embrace it. On the off chance.... remind me I said that!

Calm is never easy, settle for distracted and keeping busy to keep your mind off it as much as possible? Planning DS birthday must be fun Crossing everything for a little conker for you x

I could do with some advice as well.

Af due next Weds, we fly next Thurs. Recent cycles have been 28 days but I think I ovd CD10 so earlier than usual. Today is CD21.

If I get a BFP, I need two blood tests 48 hours apart and to start the clexane injections, which replace the aspirin, straight away. Which is why the doc wants me testing asap (head fuck). I can start the clexane before I have the bloods done and would stop if the second test didn't show a proper increase in HCG. But I need a letter from him to say why I have the syringes while travelling.

So in a nut shell, testing next Tues or Weds is way too late. I could start the injections before we go without having the bloods done, then have them done when we get back and just hope the bfp sticks.

It's probably not going to happen but it's stressing me out as we have the deadline of the holiday. Waaahhhhh.

So today is 11dpo potentially Anne? Are you testing with ics? Should show by the weekend? Maybe sooner with a frer?

I'm feeling quite excited about the potential of being pregnant again, which is nice. But then at the same time sad that that somehow means I didn't love my baby enough. Because I'm excited about a new one. And then at the same time I wonder if I'll be able to love a new one in the same way, because I desperately want my other baby back. All a bit of a head fuck.

Hi all,

Just had a catch up as it's been so busy! 11dpo here and pretty sure AF will be arriving Saturday - we didn't BD much due to husbands brother passing away. Already feeling like June won't be the month either as we are away on my ovulation weekend with family and it's a one bed apartment with two double beds in the same room so I'm feeling utterly depressed that the earliest likelihood of a BFP is July. On a separate note I've brought more lovely crystals. Anything for a positive mindset xx

I think so Dancing and bless you for reading all of that and making any sense out of it! x I have Frers but don't want to waste them...

You didn't know how you'd love your baby till you felt it. This will be a completely different baby, soul, life, personality, and I think you'll love it as much but maybe in a slightly different way.

I worried for a while about being less and less attached to each pregnancy as the risk of losing it seems greater, as a self protection mechanism. I bet that does happen.

But this will be another chance for you, something unique and precious that's made from the two of you, and a bright new possibility. You'll feel it growing and being its own person and you'll love it for that.

When are you going to test Nicola, waiting till Saturday?

If it's not this cycle, can you make sure you DTD as much as possible up until you go away? You need the swimmers already in there when you ov. Otherwise, daytime shagging? Doesn't have to be bed time. Fake a headache, go back to rest, get DH to come and keep you company?

Which crystals have you got?

I just bought my first ever frers. I can understand not wanting to waste them. Don't dare tell dh how much they cost!! 😮 I'm so, so hopeful for you this month. Have everything crossed. I'm testing at 10 dpo...... if that gives you an urge! ;)

Ha ha! Dancing I get them on amazon, next day delivery! And cheaper than the shops. I've found the superdrug ones good in the past but I have a letter from the consultant insisting I try a FRER or CB digi 7 odd days before af due. He promised me he didn't have shares in either brand... And the CB ones are even pricier.

I'm obvs not testing 7 days early, I'll just tell myself it's wrong if it's bfn and then do another one every day after literally pissing away money and mental health in the process.

Waiting to test here and I feel about as on edge as when I've got a big exam coming up. Stomach feels all fluttery and I'm not sleeping well at all. I'd love to think it's pg symptoms, but I know it's just stress. I'm feeling so fed up today, this is really hard.

tiffin (((((hug)))))

When are you testing?

Hi @annelovesgilbert. I might test tomorrow at 12dpo..I want to be put out my misery and don't want to ruin the weekend with a BFN(at least testing tomorrow I'll be over it) I've tried to attached a photo of my crystals but it won't let me. I got rainbow moonstone bracelet and a clear quartz tea light holder. Xx

Oh yay it worked.

Also called the RMC today chasing up my appointment as I was told it would be 12 weeks from my blood tests back in March and told only two of my results are back and they need to wait for the rest (15 more) and then I'll get a letter so likely to be another 4-8 weeks!! Actually can't cope!!! xx

I've now seen it up thread too! Must have taken a while to load. What a gorgeous haul! Enjoy them

Why the hell's it taking so long? How often does the clinic happen? Mine is every fortnight, for an afternoon. I got most of mine results back within 4 weeks, so I skipped a clinic then went to the one after, then had mc, then got the rest 4 or 6 weeks later when I was back in anyway.

Sorry it's dragging, sooo frustrating.

Thanks @annelovesgilbert - they are certainly making me feel happier. As far as I know there isn't a clinic and it's a consultation you have once all the blood test results are back and they give you a treatment plan (if needed) or tell you it was just bad luck and to keep trying (they did tell me 12 weeks at the start) but it's taking the piss that's it's more likely to be 16-20 weeks! Could job I've been trying in the meantime, not that it's actually happened anyway! When do you plan on testing? Xx

Still confuses me there's no standardised approach to RMC, I've never heard of the same approach in two different places. With mine you get a proper appointment with the consultant but you're given a time and then just have to wait, sometimes hours, because he gives everyone the amount of time they need. Good and bad bits about that!

Thursday I reckon.... Might hold out till Friday. Got a big night out Friday so be good to know not to go crazy. But I have the worse poker face in the world too!

I'll keep everything crossed for Thursday / Friday for you then.

Yes it's all so different across the board isn't it. My friend who had an appointment got told hers would be 18 weeks and she had her letter after 10 - so bloody typical.

I'm already feeling anxious about TTC next month - feel like I need to plan the days we can leading up to being away and it's making me feel so anxious which certainly isn't going to help the TTC is it?? Arghhhhhhh!!!

I was referred about 8 weeks ago but my gp did all the bloods and has said many people here will go private as it is a long wait... I've been told I'll get a letter 6-8 weeks before appointment with rmc but gp said she wouldn't expect to hear anytime soon!!
I have clear blue digital tests in my bag as I walk home from the shop... What you think.. Am I best to wait to tomorrow morning or can I do it this evening af due today or tomorrow..
Good luck for Thursday anne
My reflexology appointment got cancelled due to family issues for the reflexologist... So unfortunately not getting that tonight to keep my mind off testing!!

I'd wait until tomorrow. Digital ones aren't as sensitive x

Good luck to those of you testing soon, I'm praying for bfp's for you all!

Nicola, sorry the rmc is taking ages to come through that must be so difficult!

I have another question - I got ewcm 4 days ago, have had the usual sticky cm that I usually get for most of my cycle since then, and now today have had more ewcm! Anyone had this/get this/know what this means? My pregnancy (my first and only that resulted in the mc) was actually a twin pregnancy - could it be that I'm ovulating twice sometimes? I may know more than I used to regarding this ttc malarkey but there's still so much I'm unsure of!

Hi all, just catching up, it's been a busy few days! Looks like there's a few of us testing this weekend, fingers crossed for lots of BFPs! My attempts not to symptom spot are failing, but hoping keeping busy at work will help me hold off until Friday. Really hope it works out this month. I'm off to a wedding on Fri and just found out a friend who is going is about as pregnant as I should have been. So I will have to get my game face ready!

emvy I got really weird CM after my MC.

Anne strange that your consultant is so fussy on brands considering that ICs are more sensitive on the whole... Maybe they're too prone to error?

V frustrating here w BFN and no AF.

This is my 3rd cycle post mc waterfeature so I was hoping it'd begun to sort itself out. In fact, it's actually been pretty "normal" since... maybe it was too good to be true!

Oh no that's such a pain! Any sign of impending af? Some people don't show bfp until later, how late are you and when did you get your bfp in your cycle last time?

The kind of line progression I never thought I'd be happy to see..

Top is Friday - 3 days post MC completion. Middle is sunday - 5 days post. Bottom is today - 1 week post. Definitely getting fainter.

Good to see squirrel, it's a weird one isn't it!

One of my closest friends has just told me she's had a miscarriage. I'm heartbroken. Just... today. That is all.