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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC after miscarriage- March 2007

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duchesse · 12/03/2007 20:13

Sorry, guys, can't leave a redirect at the old one- it's not accepting new messages. I hope nobody's already set a new one up...

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gillydaffodil · 13/04/2007 17:10

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basilbrush · 13/04/2007 17:17

hello gillydaffodil, nice to meet you! - yup life does suck at times...but take heart from the story of my good friend who tried for three years to get PG, having two m/c along the way. She then had a DD and whilst fully breastfeeding her got PG again by surprise and now has two DC 14 months apart!! Or my BF's mum who had 4 m/c and one stillbirth at 8 months and then went on to have two amazing daughters...sorry, doubt mean to sound Ube Cheesy or patronising, just trying to think of Life is Fab Too anecdotes

Torres - v. jealous as to location on your work place. I can't go even go to my own local as it's always full of my own sixth formers getting mullered...

becklespeckle · 13/04/2007 17:18

Hello to all you lovely ladies! You've been very chatty today! After a very grey start here we now have lovely sunshine! Had a friend and her DS over today, she is 4 months pg now and not having the easiest time of it. She's a lovely girl though and in my category of people I approve of being pg! Everytime she mentioned being sick or anything she kept apologising and saying she is grateful to be pg, she is always very sensitive about how I feel - lovely lovely girl. We took the DCs to the park where they boiled in the fleeces I made them wear (thought it was chilly...!) but had fun, they are now trampolining in the garden.
It is now nearly 9 months since I m/c and more and more people are asking me if I am pg again yet, I was speaking to a friend on MSN earlier and she asked me "how it was going". What do you say when people ask you that? I was quite blunt and told her I was trying my best but as I don't know if have ovulated at all it might be a bit difficult! I feel a bit with myself now but I wish no-one knew we were trying again.
Welcome to Torres and Basilbrush, I know I've said it before but I don't think you'll find a nicer group of ladies than here, they have really helped me feel positive, calm and peacefull on the inside.
Poor you with that date coming up on the computer Wheelybug, is awful when they don't sort their records out properly. I had a call at the beginning of Feb (2 weeks before baby was due) from the Health Visitor wanting to book a home visit before the birth, she felt awful when she realised I had miscarried 6 months previously. Thankfully I was at DS2s preschool or I would have howled I think (instead I went into the toilet and stared at the ceiling for a minute or two). Glad DD was okay while you had bloods done, when do you get the results?
MrsMcJnr - it is lovely that you miss your DH, mine went away for a weekend a few weeks ago and I missed him like mad! Apart from the night before our wedding and 2 nights I spent in hospital after having DS1, we haven't spent a night apart! I found it really hard to sleep so I let my kittens into the bedroom (not usually allowed as they bite DHs feet...) and they curled up behind my back and purred me to sleep!
Hi to everyone else BTW

kensgirl · 13/04/2007 17:18

Hello to Torres and Basil - sorry to read of your recent bad times , wishing you a bfp very soon. Its lovely to come on here, it feels as though you are among friends you have known all your life who really care. I hope it gives you all the support and strength you need
gla everythin went quite well Wheely, apart from the date blip . Hope you are feeling as OK as possible (big hug).

becklespeckle · 13/04/2007 17:24

Goodness! More posts in the time it took me to write my essay!
Just wanted to say Gillydaffs that getting to your due date without being pg is very hard and I felt soooo sad on that day but now I have gone past it I find myself feeling calmer about it all. I also find it much easier to deal with newborns than with pg ladies but don't know if that is just me.
I think you a right about counselling too - give them a call, anything that can help you when you are feeling down is a good thing.

torres · 13/04/2007 17:27

spot on gillydaffodil (smile)! We were there in December, isn't it amazing? We stayed at the ecocamp- luxury tents with double beds and sheepskins (my slight concession to DH's camping obsession which I don't share!). Explora looked lovely!

torres · 13/04/2007 17:31

I am so slow at typing!

thanks becklespeckle and kensgirl. BTW i was reading the otherday about how you chose your nicknames- I thought that was lovely.

basilbrush · 13/04/2007 17:36

torres - ecocamp with luxury tents, that sounds right up my street..

becklespeckle - you are a very brave lady. it's sooo easy for folk like me to bang on about positivity when we haven't even had first AF yet. Not being pregnant again by November ( I was so looking forward to my Bonfire Baby! ) is a massive fear for me so its good to know that that you can come through that barrier...

gillydaffodil · 13/04/2007 17:45

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popsy76 · 13/04/2007 18:10

Woe this is the most chatter there has been in Ages! Hi new ladies - lovely to meet you. Hope you are feeling nice and "hugged" by us all (i LOVE Basil brush!!). I am feeling weird today. Think Af coming but had similar cramps when was PG so keep getting my hopes up (even though I know can't be possible). I am really looking forward to this AF - will feel like a fresh start!Actually is early CD24 after ERPC so maybe a weird ovulation if you had 2 weeks of it. Would love a predictor but as kennsgirl said I'd get totally scientifc and freaky about it (was pretty scientific and rigorous the first time anyway TBF) - poor DH
Went for a swim earlier. God I had so much more energy than have had in AGES. Must be getting back to normal at last- phew!. Bought some pretty knickers and summer PJs from Matalan (and a plastic tray with strawberries on it - couldn't resist). Am such a shopaholic - need to go to shoppers anon.
IKWYM about bedrooms. DH was about to smash out his built in desk in the spare room just before our scan but I persuaded him to wait thank god. Still feels like the nursery-in-waiting though.

popsy76 · 13/04/2007 18:13

Hey Gillydafs - glad you are feeling better - was worried about you! Is horrid when commitments get in the way of important days. Is the same when PG and when MC - everything else just carries on when you want to say "STOP A MINUTE I NEED SOME TIME OUT!!"

gillydaffodil · 13/04/2007 18:14

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popsy76 · 13/04/2007 18:34

Hi GillyRose (my new summer name for you). Trip up was busy and stressful (hence why I didn't call you). Mum loves to entertain so we had loads of dinner parties and celebrations. Easter day was good as was just us in garden drinking rose and playing games with my nephew but more people arrived again.... Drove to Yorkshire to inlaws on Monday morning. Was beside myself and ready to blow at this point so not a good mix. They were actually very nice but had to endure the usual 20 questions and way too indepth questionning about everything. We were both catatonic on way home ughhh. Weather was GORGEOUS - better than down here i think. Did you get out and enjoy the sunshine? We went down to the baltic and had a coffee. Usually go to the free trade inn but as was only 10am - was a bit early even for me . Also managed a glass of wine at the Bodega - our local. You live out of town don't you?

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hotchoc · 13/04/2007 19:06

someone is smiling at me, i just did a test because we are going out tonight and thought i would hate to overdo the wine if i was pg......... looks like there is no wine for me tonight - i am pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!it came out positive, i simply cannot believe it. i feel very apprehensive and will be at the docs asap. but hey, good things can happen girls, i wish you all the best news ever too.
i should be 'getting ready' but i am all over the place, better get a shift on, the babysitter will be here soon............

love from a very jittery hotchocxxxx

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patkica · 13/04/2007 20:03

I don't know you, but have been read all the posts in the last copuple of days. Hotchoc, you and all the others have been such an inspiration to me and I am just thrilled for you. CONGRATULATIONS. Such wonderful news. Have a great weekend all of you and thank you for welcoming me to your thread. I do feel so much better just being able to say I feel crap and sad and it WAS a baby to me. You also make me feel optimisitc.

wheelybug · 13/04/2007 21:17

well done hotchoc and mrhotchoc ! Lovely to have some good news on this thread. Good luck !

Furrymummy · 13/04/2007 21:58

Congrats to hotchoc!!!!

{{{{{hugs}}}}} to the newbies, hopw we can offer you the support you need.

Well, been busy last few days, CD27, no sign of AF still, feeling sick, with indigestion and fluttery tummy too.
Had a bit of a rant at my boss, his boss and our R&D manager aboout how I'm severly overworked, but at least they are doing something, me, boss and R&D Mgr have managed to persuade boss's boss that we are seriously understaffed and has agreed for to put together a new structure which will include recuiting more staff. I have my dream lab structure planned out, given copies to my boss (who was inpressed) and R&D manager to read and review and then we will meet up the thrash it our further and decided on a timsecale!!
PLus I'm also booked in for stress counselling as I'm still mega stressed...
Oh and my puddy cat is sat cuddled nect to me, staring at my lap top screen

Furrymummy · 14/04/2007 10:54

Now I really do have to de-stress because I got a BFP this morning.

Am excited but a little bit scared too...

feedmenow · 14/04/2007 11:03

That is fantastic furrymummy! Welld one, well done, well done!!
And well done to you too, hotchoc!

basilbrush · 14/04/2007 11:13

hotchoc and furrymummy - you don't know me as i'm a newbie but i'd just like to say congrats, what happy and inspiring news!
do you mind me asking how long it was since your m/c? (i'm sure i could find out if i scrolled down a couple of hundred messages but feeling lazy this morning!)

Furrymummy · 14/04/2007 12:08

Thanks, and no I don't mind - my m/c was middle of January, so about 2 months ago.