TTC after miscarriage- March 2007

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hi everyone, still waiting for AF too, (m/c at end of Feb), seems to be taking for ever and the symptom spotting for pg is driving me mad. i tested 10 days ago and it was negative.

mrsmcjnr, interested to see you are still waiting too, it is just so frustrating isn't it.

on a different note, anyone overdone the chocolate today? think i may go and have one more bit......

take care
xhotchocx

It can take up to 6 weeks for your af to return (assuming you are not pregnant!). Mine occurred about 4.5 weeks after.
It is totally frustrating waiting, we all understand.

hello everyone, Happy Easter.

What a doozy of an Easter weekend I've had! Dh went away Thursday night so ds and I have been on our own. On Saturday morning I woke feeling a little strange, had my breakfast which I enjoyed but couldn't finish, then by lunchtime was feeling distinctly sick... then started a bout of D&V, with diarrhoea worse than i've ever experienced in my life. I could look after my son because I could hardly stay out of the bathroom for more than 10 minutes at a time. God it was truly awful. I rang my mum at 2-ish and asked her if she could come and take ds out for a couple of hours because of the D&V and she said she couldn't because she was with my auntie about half an hour's drive away. I said okay and left it but an hour later I was beside myself and had to text her to say please come because I can't look after ds. Thankfully she did come and I could just go and be in the bathroom for the rest of the afternoon. Bleeeuuugh. Spent yesterday feeling wobbly and weird but today I'm right as rain thank goodness.

They do say every cloud though, and I weighed myself this morning and have lost 3lbs

Hope everyone else had a lovely weekend and made the most of the sunshine

Hello Wheely AF has finally arrived today, less grumpy but shattered (suspect that might have a lot to do with the over-indulgences over Easter though rather than AF but I?ll blame her anyway I know what you man, I?ll probably be happier in the long run that I didn?t conceive last cycle

Hey HotChoc ? nice to see you how are you doing? Sorry to hear you are still waiting for AF, after a 40 day cycle as opposed to my usual 28, I am pretty glad to see her! I hope yours turns up soon or in 30 odd weeks!

Hello Chickbabymummy ? the EPU told me 6 ? 8 weeks is quite a normal length of time for AF to re-appear! How are you hon? Fingers still crossed for you

Hello Peanutbutter poor you with the D&V, horrible!!

Hope the rest of you are well

Well it sounds like we all had a good Easter weekend - apart from Peanutbutter - you poor thing! Glad you feeling bit better now xx
Hurrah for AF MrsMcJnr! I had a friend who conceived after m/c without an AF inbetween and she worried constantly that there would be something wrong with baby, he was fine but the worry was hard. Now at least you know exactly where you are and hopefully you will fall again v v quickly!
Wheelybug - cleaning is definitely not my idea of fun! However, I do my cupboards every now and again just so I know they are clean and I can chuck out anything out of date! DH and the DSs had gone off to watch a Robot Wars demonstration thing so decided to make the most of the time. Managed to multi-task and cooked while I was doing it so DH came home (with some friends in tow) to a nice big vat of spaghetti bolognaise and a lovely evening was had by all! Weather was nice enough to that the DCs could all eat in the garden leaving the adults in some relative peace!
Hows it going Chickbabymummy? Things looking promising for you!
Hi to hotchoc and everyone else - hope you had nice weekends too
Good news and bad for me - am fairly sure I ovulated last week (hurrah!) CM not quite clear but did go stretchy ( tmi) and that alongside ache low in tummy makes me think I may have done. Now forehead has gone REALLY greasy and got a few larger spots which since m/c has been what happens 2 weeks before AF arrives . If AF arrives when I think she might then at least I will know that things have settled down a little and it would make this cycle around 36 days (not bad!)

Hi everyone, I've not posted here for a while, so i hope everyone is Ok and thatI'm welcome to
come back. We've been up to the lake district for some much needed r and r, and it was wonderful!

glad to see af has put a show in mrsmc, its a good sign but gives very mixed feelings doesnt it, but is a relief. Good luck totyou for next month

Hi Kensgirl, of course you are welcome to come back you daft thing! Sounds like you had a lovely time in the Lakes, sometimes a break from it all is just what you need!

glad to hear your af has finally come, mrsm, it must be a relief in a way. i keep convincing myself mine is imminent and then it still does not come, anyway, will do another test in one week or so i think if there is not progress by then. cannot believe it is 6 weeks already since the m/c, at least the sun is shining now although it is freezing outside. bye for now xhotchocx

Hi lovely ladies, I'm back from the Toon. God has been ages and I really missed you all - I've been like a tight spring holding all the emotion in. Saw lots of family and family friends who gave me bigger than normal hugs and looked hard at my face to see if i was "okay". Best acting I have done in a v. long time but helped me get through and home in one piece.

Saw the inlaws yesterday. Dh spilled beans about his company maybe going under so i worried that they all think am selfish bitch for wanting baby when we are in financial turmoil. Thing is I was brought up by mum on own and my sis is doing same so is normal not to have DH earning. We drove home in silent hell til i finally broke and we realised he needs a break from ttc so he can get his head/job sorted and i need pg NOW so i can move on. Hmm we have not been at an impass like this before?!? Have agreed to wait til after next AF at very soonest but have a feeling he'll need longer.

Inspite of this sex life is on fire so maybe he will get sick of the rubber interuption . I was thinking that to get thru this next "bit" i am going to focus on getting fit and healthy, losing the few pounds i have put on since xmas (littlebitshy i know what you mean-my little sis has also gone and got thin behind my back- kick a girl when she's down why dontcha?)and being as positive as is poss for a very depressed babyless nympho ha ha .

I shouted at DH that wished i was not friends with my 3 PG friends as is making me feel so much worse - he said they probably feel something similar and are hating knowing that I MC when they didn't hmmm is true - will try to see both sides from now on (or at least hate them in my head and not publically ).

Does anyone else feel an obsessive need to read loads of stuff and be proactive? I am a doo-er in every other part of my life so this treading water is killing me!

So comforting to know you are all there going thru similar stuff- i read about your days after AF (i still don't understand this - when do you count from and does erpc count? or do i have to wait til first real AF?)and think few am not mad after all or at least you are all as mad as me

Hope you are PG chickbaby god poor you all our hopes are on you

MrsMchocisdevilswork good to hear your system up and running again - think am a few weeks behind you so follow your story closely - I now want you to get PG in next cycle so I know I will too - no pressure

Becklespeckle You are my source of physiological knowledge I have been cleaning all day (off work on holiday yippee) - is very soothing - now on sofa with cat eating chocs and reading trash bliss!

Have to go get bits waxed. Decided when was PG and hair growing crazily would bite the bullet so have been hairy beast for 2 weeks - DH says to warn salon to get industrial machinery in (cheers!), sister says take pain killer yikes! I can't wait to throw that razor away!!

p.s. did anyone else feel that they knew something was wrong? I really did and friend said they felt something similar with 3 MCs then knew immediately that next was going to be okay. I felt that my body did not like what was in it and was trying to get rid from word go (constant cramps and weird this is not right feeling).

p.p.s. those migraines are better than docs at forewarning doom!

Becklespeckledegg ? here comes a very sad confession I now have a list on my freezer door and in my larder of everything in it and how long it?s been there. Called me a control freeeeeeeeeeek but it comes as a result of clearing both out last year and having to through so much stuff away. Very impressed with your multi taking, are you the perfect wife or what!? Hope things are settling down with your cycle

Hello Kensgirl ? as I said on the other thread, I?m glad you had a lovely break Thanks for your good wishes. After days of the brown sludgy stuff (sorry TMI but hell, you know what I mean!) I was delighted to actually get AF as at least I know where I am now.

Hot Choc ? hope you know where you stand soon ? it?s another type of limbo isn?t it?

Hi Popsy,

yes I know just what you mean about needing to be busy and proactive. I'm also a doer and get a bee in my bonnet aout things. We're also not supposed to be trying as my miscarriage was a partial mole, ans very much feel in limbo due to the weekly, hopefully now fortnightly testing, and if everything stays A1 it will be aroun August that we will officialy get the all clear to ttc. I just can't wait that long though and its killing me to feel I can't move on. with that in mind we agreed on a "let nature take its course" approach, a bit of a halfway house I suppose

I think the day of the ERPC counts as the 1st day of your cycle.

I also felt that there was something rong, and tried so hard not to get excited, and kept telling dh that we shouldn't count our chickens, risk of miscarriage etc, and we didn't tell anyone. Even when I began to bleed andd the scan showed everything to be fine, and we saw the heartbeat I could'nt jelp but lok at tha scan picture an feel that something just wasnt quite right. It didn't help me feeel any less devastated though, one of the hardest things I've ever been through.

Keep smiling though, honey

Oops, sorry for my appalling spelling etc, just rushing

hi kensgirl, is weird isn't it - we should listen to our bodies after all !
My friend had mole PG last year and is 12 weeks now with healthy PG (they look after you really well when have been thru that so at least you won't have to be begging for scans like the rest of us!).I always get really pleased when I hear someone has got healthy PG straight after erpc but I then there is always also someone who didn't - at least if it goes wrong again I won't be kicking myself for trying again to early!
Was going to go swimming this alvo but have just read is not good after erpc and any excuse to sit on arse suits me (I swam alot before PG but got worried about chlorine in the early days - i did swim before I knew but stopped soon after that - has anyone heard anything?)
xxxx

I'm busy looking for an excuse to sit on my arse too!

It's good to hear about your friend after molar, sometimes I feel really freakish because not many people have ever heard of molar pregnancy, never mind had one! A success stiry is just what I needed!

I was told not to swim, have sex, use tampons etcs until the bleedng had stopped, but I didn't feel comfortble with any until I had my first period. So roll on lots of arse sitting I say!

Sorry Popsy ? crossed with you! Glad you had a good time. Know what you mean about family, my Gran has been doing the same and won?t let me lift anything ?just in case? that said; she had a burst tube due to an ectopic at 6 weeks so she knows all about internal healing! She had 4 more kids after that I should add! Sorry to hear that there?s trouble on a few fronts I know about money worries too but you find a way don?t you? Your DH must be worried, I hope he comes round to TTC again very soon as you say, he might forget in his passion If you fancy losing a few pounds, we have a slimming thread here, come and join us! Quite fun so far and it?s only week 2. I think the ERPC counts as CD1, certainly the first day of MC bleeding does. That said, seemed a little pointless even knowing that this cycle as things were so different from usual and odd. In some ways I am glad to be on CD1. I?ll see what I can do about a BFP I think I knew everything wasn?t right even though I tried to override it, my diary is clear that I was concerned.

Poor you Kensgirl, it must feel like a long time to wait but I have to admit, I think the last 6 weeks have gone quite quickly don?t you? Let?s hope it continues that way until we get good healthy BFPs.

Hi everyone..I've finally stopped bleeding after my last mc...bled constantly for 17 days..

Now do I have to wait another 6-8 weeks for AF..? You'd think I'd remember (having had 4mc's before) but I think I just choose to forget!

Kensgirl - if it helps, my ds has just celebrated his 2nd bd - following a molar pregnancy 2yrs before his birth (inc treatment, not just follow-up - now on 6monthly monitoring).

However, be prepared for major worry - at 6mths pg I still couldn't believe it. I had a scan at 6wks with him, and they were 45 mins late - did not have any fingernails left by the time I went in. Then I went from relief every time I saw/heard a heartbeat to panic for the next 2 / 3 weeks just in case it had gone wrong again.

Also had mc in Oct 06 and 2 horrendous months worrying that it had all kicked off again as it took a long time to get back to normal. I think that that has put dh off, although didn't share all worries at the time - he seems to have an unerring method of ensuring that critical dates are missed (catching a cold, having a headache...)

So, yes, possible to have fantastic outcome after molar, although, if you're like me, it will still be there at the back of your mind and surface every now and again.

Hope that your break has left you refreshed and ready to ttc. Best of luck and fingers crossed for everyone out there ttc after mc.

Thanks Mistlethrush, I'm really pleased that you now have a lovely son after your ordeal, and sorry to hear of your miscarriage too.

The hospital have said I willl stay with Sheffield until the monitoring is over, but they will scan me very early, at 6 or 7 weeks in my next pregnancy. I think it will be a real nail - biting time though as I saw the hb at 8+4 last time and wasn't told it was mmc until 10+4, so the time from the 6w scan and 12 weeks or so will be a real killer.

I'm sorry to hear you had to have treatment - are you Ok now, or do you still have pains etc.
thanks for getting in touch - its lovely to speak to someone who has been through the same.

Mumto3girls ? god! that?s a long time. How are you feeling? Ok? Are you taking iron supplements? When you say ?Now do I have to wait another 6-8 weeks for AF..?? do you mean in terms of TTC or in terms of things getting back to normal?

Thanks Mistlethrush glad to hear you nightmare turned happy with DS.

Hi MrsMjr...

I guess i mean ttc, i know you can just go ahead but I've no idea at what stage of cycle I am now...
btw i saw you piccies..you're a beautiful girl aren't you!!

Busy here today !

Welcome back Kensgirl and Popsy - sorry to hear about the break from ttc Popsy but as you say it 'might just happen'. Fingers crossed.

Beckle glad cleaning isn't really your hobby. You had me worried there . LOL at your list MrsMc. I say LOL but it would be a great idea here - the other week I had decided to cook some seabass fillets which were in the freezer but couldn't find them so we had to order pizza or something. This morning I found them under the bottom drawer where they must have fallen out. Now if only I'd had that list...

Peanutbutter - sorry to hear your weekend didn't go too well. H ope you're feeling better.

Mumto3girls - glad the bleeding is over, sounds a long time. Some people are shorter than 6-8 weeks. Fingers crossed for you.

Had a nose at your photos too MrsMc- they are lovely.

Not much to report here - except the sunshine - its amazing...

Yes, very busy!
I've been feeling very tired, more cramps & indigestion, plus nausea, so yes looking good! But I'm trying not to get my hopes up!
I hope everyone is okay today, hope you all had good weekend, Peanutbutter hope you are feeling better this weekend.
Mum23girls, wow bet you are glad that's over. Just take it easy and get plenty of rest.
MrsMc- good to see you are feeling pretty relaxed about your af!
PS It's chickbabymummy Ive changed my name to something lest Eastery!

Hi there, not sure if I qualify for this thread or not. Had a termination in February (at 16 weeks) for a baby with anencephaly and have just started to TTC again. Not technically a MC I realise but still a very much wanted baby and a huge loss

Been lurking for a while and feeling comforted that I'm not the only one who thinks there are pregnant ladies everywhere!

Currently at CD19 after a few days of very weird sex! Is it just me that feels like sex has become some kind of weird milking ritual? Really hope it happens soon as I'm not sure I can do many more months like that

Katy - yes you are welcome, so sorry for your loss, that must have been a very hard decision for you and your dp to make. Best wishes to you and good luck!

Of course you are welcome KatyH - what a terrible thing to go through. I had friends who went through similar early last year and they are now due to have a baby in July and all is well. Good luck and best wishes to your family.

Furrymummy - great name although I'm not sure I want to ask where this came from ? . All sounds promising - when's AF due ?