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TTC after miscarriage- March 2007

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duchesse · 12/03/2007 20:13

Sorry, guys, can't leave a redirect at the old one- it's not accepting new messages. I hope nobody's already set a new one up...

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alittlebitshy · 04/04/2007 20:07

i kind of had to congratulate her. it was in a text. i think that apart from her dp i was the only one who knew she was due on yesterday.

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BeckleSpeckledEgg · 05/04/2007 00:54

Popsy - exciting maybe but hasn't done any good yet! Here I am months and months later still trying... Mind you, it definately helped to get back on the wagon (so to speak), made me feel as though I was moving forward instead of standing still. Get DH drunk and he'll be easy to persuade ! hehe!
ALittleBitShy - more to you. Is soo hard when friends and people around you get pg. My BF started trying when I started again after m/c - she's now 4 months pg. While I am over the moon for her I am sad for myself too. There was a bit on another thread about people conceiving straight away - they reckoned it was all a big fib and they just didn't want to admit how long it had taken! We are all here for you lovely so please come scream/rant/cry at us if you need to...
GillyDaffodil - I too have been buying clothes I won't fit into if pg, and sold my people carrier to buy a smaller car - c'mon Fate - you know you're tempted! I really don't know if achiness cd be ov or not! Have never really had any idea when before, my tender bit is left hand side too. No EWCM but plenty of other (sorry TMI ). Am on CD17 so I guess it could be getting ready if this cycle is not going to be as long as the last couple??!
Best I get off here and up to bed just in case.......!

popsy76 · 05/04/2007 16:08

Hi Ladies, much better day today. Picked girls up from airport and did not feel jealous! Have eaten a whole packet of M & S percy and friends for lunch - now munching oatcakes to try to stabilise sugar levels as a bit shaky ha ha.
DH business not going well so not keen to get started immediately but a few pints over easter at his fav pub and he'll be all mine
We started trying nov and had an early MC (didn't know at time) and then tried Dec and had this MC so think we are easily preg just very bad genes - think am going to just bang away (excuse expression) til we get it right (or a healthy cell division at least)!
oh god had forgotten how dry oatcakes are....
Oinker - if you need ideas I have a very good eating plan from a nutritionist from when I had candida - has changed me forever - no more diets they are crap (and unhealthy) and only last a little while!
going home to pack for big journey wish me luck with the family!!
xxxx

alittlebitshy · 05/04/2007 17:25

pospsy - glad to hear you sounding so positive!!!!!! lol at having to restabilise your sugar levels!!!! I know the feeling....... my weakness on the sweetie front is plain old fruit pastilles!!!

beckle maybe i am just not thinking down the right lines, but when you say not much ewcm but plenty of other what do you mean by other . I imagine i am going to be horribly embarrassed and sound rather too interested in your bodily fluids lol.

Well, i cried a LOT last night, and some more today and after a nice morning with dd, went off on one like a total cowbag bitch from hell, and it ended up with us both crying and her telling me i'm not her friend anymore [] we have made up now, phew.

I am still feeling all sorts of unidentifiable emotions about my friend's pregnancy. I don't think I can even bear to put some of the into words, they're too irrational and horrid. I AM pleased for her, cos i know they want a baby and in many ways the odds are against them with her back probs and his epilepsy and other assorted health probs (Bless them, they could open up a branch of boots). However, I feel incredibly sad and jealous that she got there first. I know it's not a competition, but I was meant to find it easier to get pg (well, i did, but my body messed up for me). God how nasty am i sounding?? I am nice, honest.

I am finding it hard knowing i am at the mercy of my cycles. We are deffo not going to start ttc again until af has come. sigh. I know it is the sensible option, and i don't think we could deal with it any other way, but .

Have to do my "checking it's negative" test on wednesday. I kind of can't wait cos once i know this is 100% over we can just wait, for hopefully not more than a couple of weeks when af should arrive.

I've just done the clothes buying thing. only sainsburys mind you, but still clothes for a non pregnant me. thing is, i lost over 2 stone last year (hurrah), and the clothes buying only started in the new size in late august, at which point, although I was getting a few summer clothes, cos we were off to nz in oct (bloody cold it was too lol), it was mainly winter. and i hoped i would not need "normal" clothes this summer. If i get pg next or 2nd cycle (wishful thinking lol) I won't be into mat clothes til at least sept or oct (going on memory from last pg... I was in a size up (that i only got out of last year) from about 16 weeks but not maternity til I was 5 months, i think).

Anyhoooooo. I bought some trousers (summery/springish) in a khaki ish green, a brown top, and to my dd's delight a pink top. we looooove pink!!!!!!

argh - rest of sainsbury's shopping is sititng unpacked in the hall ... i'd better go and be a good wife and mother and unpack it and do dinner.

Thanks so much for all being there. This is the thread i have felt have most belongeed to in all my time on MN!!!!!!

wheelybug · 05/04/2007 17:40

Hi All !

I'm back - hopefully for good now (well not for good on this thread IYKWIM but back online, on mumsnet etc). I have lost everything on my computer but there we go.

Am going to sit down tonight and catch up to see how everyone is but hugs to alittlebitshy - I still have good cries 8/9 months on - it releases the tension !

Anyway, CD 28 here but expecting AF sunday/monday and fairly sure it is on its way even though this was the first month things felt like they were back to normal.. which I guess is a positive thing in a way.

Right will post later once I've caught up on everyone.

Chickbabymummy · 05/04/2007 21:09

Welcome back Wheelybug
Gilly - Sorry you are feeling so down, it must be so hard for you

Every one else, hope you all have a lovely Easter!

BeckleSpeckledEgg · 05/04/2007 23:09

Popsy - Glad you had a good day lovely! Am sure you will be able to pursuade DH, and once you've done it once, you may as well carry on . Am sure that next time you will be fine and have a nice healthy pg! Good luck with the family too!!!
ALittleBitShy - you sweetie! Glad you feel like you belong here! I am finding this thread invaluable support - think we are a lovely lot. Sorry for my confusing post , left out a word! I meant other CM - lots of it but is white and not Eggwhitey IYKWIM. Hope you not embarrassed .

Bless you and your DD, I have fallen out with my DSs many times - mostly when I am stressed or upset - but we always make up. I always feel like bitch-queen-mother-from-hell afterwards. I have also come to realise that some days DCs are not necessarily naughtier than others - just my tolerance level is different. Don't be too hard on yourself, you have been through a tough time lately, it will get easier with time although I don't think it ever goes away comlpletely.
Have you been being careful leading up to your neg test this week? I think it is the only time I have ever done a test and hoped for a neg! Hopefully that will make things easier for you too - it certainly did for me. It was like I could start moving forward again.
New clothes sound nice! Well done you for losing so much weight! I have just bought myself some new spring/summer trousers too - a brown pair and a pink pair - I love pink too (so does DS2 - it's his favourite!). Hoping to drag DH shopping one day this weekend too for some summery tops.
Wheelybug - Hello again! Glad you're back with us although sorry bout your computer - hope you didn't lose too much important stuff. Glad your cycle is returning to normal - makes you feel so much better, like you are in with a chance!

peanutbutter · 06/04/2007 09:55

hello everyone

gilly - Little Friend is one of my favourite books so i'll be really interested to hear what you think of it. There was a thread on it last year and probably more than half of the posters said they didn't get on with it or that they found the ending spoiled the book (don't want to give anything away). I agree a little bit with that but all in all it ranks up in my top 10, definitely. I've got a signed copy of Toast too - love his writing.

Calgeo - so very sorry at the circumstances which brought you to this thread. You'll find this thread a safe and supportive place to be.

alittlebitshy - of course you're a nice person, but you're not a saint - who is? We all have thoughts and feelings we're not proud of: thank goodness we can't read each others' minds! I totally sympathise with your feelings. I posted on a TTC thread last year iirc that i'd bumped into a baby-class mum who's pregnant with her 2nd and I just felt bitterness. Not proud of it but that's how I felt. You'll start to feel better about it and these feelings will pass so don't be too hard on yourself

Hello Wheely - welcome back . GULP! at losing everything on your hard drive...had you backed anything up? Did you lose photographs?

Morning to Beckle, MrsMc and everyone else. The sun's shining here. I was putting my washing out at 6.30 and it was so beautiful across the field - misty, still, sun peeping on the horizon. Makes you feel special to be standing there while most are in bed, just enjoying how perfect it is

MrsMcEasterBunny · 06/04/2007 16:13

Afternoon ladies Happy Easter to you all!

Only got 10 mins or so to catch up so I?ll see how far I get!

Popsy ? I ADORE cosmetics! Not tired either of those. What?s your all time favourite items? Mine are Pout?s eyelash primer (I also use it on my brows) and their black mascara ? fabulous! LOL about the boobs going with the HSG, sorry hon! Hope you are feeling much better. I really hope you like the book, let me know if you need more detail from me. I am MN obsessed too, 2 days away and the cold turkey really hurt!

Welcome Calgeo! So sorry to hear about you losing Hannah, how awful for you at such a late stage and on that day too, I really am so sorry. Your other DC?s names are unusual I have not heard Callan before I hope we can help you get through the TTC rollercoaster and I hope it?s not too long until your arms are full

Hi Becklespeckledegg ? the tenderness on the side could be OV. Any EWCM? My trip did go really well thanks and I am so glad I went The work was hard but satisfying and my boss (who also happens to be the senior partner) said that one of the main reasons for the success was down to me which was nice. I also get on with him really well so it was easy to be in his company so much.

Alittlebitshy ? hello! I wish I could be more like you and not worry about make up, fact is, I can?t bear the sight of myself without mascara and I just couldn?t leave the house without my primer, mascara, concealer, bronzer and lipstick. I must be very vein My Mum is the same, she gets made up to be at home (I don?t do that ? well, just mascara!) No AF yet. I?m now on cd37 and as I might have OVd on 28/3, I am expecting AF any day. I?m so sorry that your friend?s pregnancy has made you feel down, it?s not about her and there?s no need to feel selfish, it?s just that you are in mourning so please be kind to yourself. Sending big hugs.

Chickbabymummy! Hope you are well.

my time?s up! I have to get ready to go out, I?ll catch up on the rest tomorrow! Hello to everyone I?ve missed

BeckleSpeckledEgg · 06/04/2007 18:03

Hi MrsMcEasterBunny, glad your trip went well, you obviously work hard and it is nice when your bosses appreciate you! Am seriously hoping the tenderness was ov. No EWCM, but lots of other stuff. CM is a bit stretchy today though but not clear yet. Would you expect to get the tenderness and EWCM at the same time?? Hope you have a nice time this evening wherever you are off to!!!
Hi everyone else, hope you having a lovely weekend so far xxx

clairebear123 · 06/04/2007 19:38

Hi all, just popped over from another thread which is helping me through a miscarriage to see what was going on. Not sure if I am quite ready for this thread yet but am getting there I think. Anyway I was just reading through and wanted to wish everyone good luck.

Calgeo I am just wiping my eyes after reading your introduction to your family including your "angel Hannah" That is a beautiful way of thinking. Nobody should have to go through what you have gone through and I wish you so much luck

BeckleSpeckledEgg · 06/04/2007 20:11

Hello ClaireBear - sorry you are going through a m/c . Life is shite sometimes. Please come and join us when you feel ready - there are some lovely ladies on here!

Chickbabymummy · 06/04/2007 22:48

Been out with friends, one is my pregnant friend, she's 15 weeks and has a little bump. I kept patting it in the hopoe it'll bring me luck Am happy for her, but have started obsessing, expecially as be suffering from mild stomach cramps over the last few days which feel like the ones I had when I first fell pregnant. It's CD20, so I really shouldn't test until after CD 30 as my last cycle was 30 days - help me be strong! Am okay at the moment, but I might start to waver over the next few days...
Hope you all are okay and thinking positive thoughts.

wheelybug · 06/04/2007 22:55

Hi All. Sorry I didnt' get back to this last night - DD had a bit of an evening and I didn't get her to sleep until 10pm. She's only just turned 2 but if she has a sleep in the day she then just isn't tired at bedtime - grrr. Generally she's a very good sleeper though so shouldn't complain.

Anyway, I have now read through and I've missed so much so don't think any post could comment/reply on everything I've read so please forgive me if I miss things !

calgeo welcome. what a sad story - I really can't imagine what you've been through. I had to deliver dd at 37 weeks due to problems which meant she may not have made it to term and that was bad enough but we were lucky. Thinking of you, your family (especially Hannah) and wishing you lots of strength.

welcome too Clairebear - sorry you have to join us. Please feel free to vent/ ask questions - we know what its like. Hope you are not in too much pain.

Thanks to everyone who's welcomed me back. peanutbutter I did lose everything on my ocmputer including photos but I don't delete them from my camera until I have hard copies so it could have been worse. I lost some accounts of a very tiny unsuccessful business I do at the moment but I should be able to recreate them sufficiently. At the end of the day, as we all know, much worse things happen in life but thanks for your concern.

Gilly - I too have an MA in heritage management. Unforetunately I then took a wrong turn on the career path and ended up as an accountant (a very long and dull story but was a result of me meeting DH so I can't complain really ).

MrsMc and popsy - interesting re the headaches/migraine. I have had migraines most of my life but not always headachey. The day beofre I started m/c I had the most awful headache and migraine. The day I started bleeding I still had it, was being sick and then had a sleep when dd had her nap (most unheard of, I didn't even nap when she did when she was first born), woke up - headache gone... immediately started bleeding. The GP told me there was no link but I have long suspected there was - if it was only that it was a sign that the hormones had dipped.

Beckle - fingers crossed it was OV for you. I usually find OV pain comes after a positive OPK so presume this means it is at the point of the egg breaking free.

Hello Chickbabymummy - love the new name. Think its a bit late for me to change now ....

Uki - glad all is going well.

oinker - good luck.

more hugs to alittlebitshy - hope you're able to enjoy the weekend.

Hello to everyone else - enjoy the long weekend if you're able. we had people to lunch today and sat out in the hot (yes it was really) sunshine. Lovely. Am off to see my parents and a friend with a new baby tomorrow, then going to friends for lunch on sunday (who have a 2 week old) and just us on monday. Then ... next weekend we are hosting 3 couples, my oldest friends - all of which are at varying degress of pregnancy. Gulp......

BeckleSpeckledEgg · 06/04/2007 23:47

BE STRONG Chickbabymummy - if you test now it will likely be BFN whether you are pg or not! Then you will feel down. Hate the "Am I? Aren't I?" bit, don't you?! Hope your friend's bump brings you luck!
Hi Wheelybuy - how about WheelyBigEasterEgg? - never too late to change, got a couple of days yet! I have no idea about ov at all, I don't do it often! Was just wondering about the ache and thought here was the best place to ask - have learned sooo much on MN in the few short weeks have been on here! Am keeping my fingers (but not my legs) crossed that it is/was ov. Keeping busy just in case though . Sounds like it is bumps and babies everywhere for you at the mo - can't be easy.

Chickbabymummy · 07/04/2007 06:23

Thanks.. though when I thought about,I realised I'm wavering the other way... to scared to test in case I get disappointed again. But still obssessing a bit!
Wheelybug - where abouts are you? The weather man promised me clear blue skies and sunshine yesterday, the lying bastard it was cloudy all day in Wearside(where I work) and Teesside(where I live)! Though it's looking a little more promising today!

wheelybigeasteregg · 07/04/2007 17:35

Thanks for the seasonal name Beckle - I love it !! Thanks for the hug too... they're always appreciated !!

Chickbaby - I had missed your post last night whilst I was typing my epic... Stay strong and don't test yet. Do you know when you OV to give you an idea of when AF is due ? My AF is due tomorrow or Monday. I have a few pre-menstrual symptoms but still can't help wondering if I am even though I'm fairly certain I'm not but you can't help hope can you ?! I am in London BTW and I hate to rub it in but we had beautiful sunshine today too. But we're be the ones suffering when it goes cold again having got the summer clothes out etc .....

Chickbabymummy · 07/04/2007 21:39

Well today has more than made up for the weather, wheely, it was absolutely beautiful today. Me, DH, DSS and DSS's mum went to Doncaster Dome to the water park, it was great had a really good time, it was busy though. Went for tea at a local pub afterwards then headed home. Really tired now! But all day I've been having weird flutterings in my stomach, sometimes very strong, not painful just uncomfortable, and I think that that may be a sign. As to when I ovulated I'm not really sure! It may have been around CD12-13, as I had EWCM on CD10, and I think I felt a bit crampy around then too, but then I also felt crampy three days ago (CD18). So to be honest not totally sure when I should test, hence waiting til CD30. I'm trying not to get my hopes up though...

Chickbabymummy · 08/04/2007 10:18

Easter blessings to you all!

MrsMcEasterBunny · 08/04/2007 13:12

Happy Easter Ladies I don?t think I?ll attempt to catch up as don?t have long and wanted to post for you all.

I?m feeling very grumpy and I?m finding it hard to snap out of it (definatley hormonal!) I?ve had some spotting the last 2 days and my temp was very low today so I think AF is on her way, hence the grumpiness! Today is cd39 so we?ll see what happens. Fingers crossed for all those hoping she stays away! Of course, I hoped I?d fall pregnant right away but it doesn?t look like that?s happened but I?m fine with it, AF arriving and knowing where I am will be a relief in itself plus I think that a cycle in between might be better for me given this has been such a weird one, hope the next on is my lucky one!

Speak soon!

BeckleSpeckledEgg · 08/04/2007 14:25

Hi everyone - hope you are all having a lovely Easter weekend! The sun is shining here, it is truly glorious! (and I am making the most of a couple of hours peace by cleaning my kitchen cupboards out...) Anyway - must go off and get on with it - catch up soon!
MrsMc - sorry to hear you think AF on the way - like you said though, at least you will know where you are.

Chickbabymummy · 08/04/2007 15:02

Yep, lovely and sunny here still. Went for walk and did some gardening but had to come in as I started feeling very sick and dizzy. Have had indigestion since I got up this morning (before I'd even eaten anything!), but I still managed to have a cooked breakfast (though kitty and dh ate the rest of my sausage & bacon as I couldn't finish!) and some easter egg!
Have just had a lie down feeling a little better but stomach still feeling a bit crampy and weird!
MrsMc, don't know what to say to make you feel better, so will have to settle for a vitual hug {{{{{{hug}}}}}}.
Beckle - Hi! Glad you are enjoying the weather too

MrsMcEasterBunny · 08/04/2007 18:50

Weather a bit gloomy here today but I've spent most of it cooking anyway - actually made a coffee cake that looks ok!

Chickbabymummy - things are sounding very interesting with you, keeping everything crossed! thanks for the hug, I'll be ok

Hello Becklespeckledegg

wheelybigeasteregg · 08/04/2007 19:59

another lovely sunny day here too - could get used to this !!

Sorry you're feeling grumpy MrsMc but if it means AF is on its way at least you will know where you are and if you're anything like me, had I conceived before first AF I would have worried even more that something would go wrong because I hadn't waited (although now of course I wish I had IYSWIM - there's no winning is there ?).

Sounds promised Cat/Chickbaby... fingers crossed.

Hope the cleaning went well Beckle and that you managed to enjoy your day too (unless cleaning cupboards is your way of enjoying yourself of course ).

Happy Easter everyone. Happy scoffing.