Thread 28, TTC #1 | We may be hormonal giraffes but we don't eat no low fat humous

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

[HepKestrel]

Sorry Alexia.

Not opking, but symptoms tell me I am ovulating on cd12. Good job it's the weekend

[Pyjamas81]

So sorry alexia 🙁 Take care of yourself over the next few days, it's such a horrible time 💐

🤞🏼 for you binky

Well we had our therapy session today and I must say I'm impressed. It was very difficult and I got a bit emotional (the anger over how he treats me bubbled up again), but she did help us see things in a different light and gave us lots to think about - especially about anger being a secondary feeling to what actually lies beneath which we need to pick apart in future sessions. She also highlighted the lack of support that DH has around him other than me - I talk about all this stuff with my mum and friends and on here, DH doesn't talk to anyone. We also need to find a way to communicate which deals with actual feelings (which I've always wanted) instead of the default of thinking of ways to distract ourselves and the clinical way he approaches things. I need to understand what triggers the white hot rage I feel and why. Lots to mull over - we're home now and spending some time apart to let it all sink in. We're going to carry on with weekly sessions. I thoroughly recommend it! Not easy at all, will probably feel worse before we feel better, but I definitely think it'll help in the long term.

[KerryLeanne84]

Thinking of you Alexia, sending you a big hug from rainy Venice! I'm on cd2 so we're almost in sync ❤️ I know how HARD you tried this month and what an amazing mum you'd be, this is just so unfair.

That sounds intense pjs! Good on you both for doing it, I'm sure you will come out of it stronger

[harrietm87]

pyjamas that sounds really good - well done to you both for going!

alexia so sorry - hope you feel better soon. So awful isn't it that AF coincides with hormones that also make you feel shit, as if AF isn't reason enough!

I did my first proper hard workout since mc yesterday and feeling stiff but fantastic. Going to aim for a 10k tomorrow as well.

[Londonjam]

Thanks skipper xx hope you're still tolerating it well

Hope you're getting some rest this weekend penguin and feel brighter soon

Glad to hear it went so well pyjamas it sounds like she's really helping uncover some of the thoughts and feeling underpinning your problems. I hope it's given your DH a good insight into your perspective too

Good luck pug!

Binky gah I hate fertility dreams! Clomid prescriptions seem very hit and miss from people's experience on here. I've bought mine off the internet and planning to book private scans to monitor it

Sorry alexia I hope you're alright 💐

[Flashinthepan]

Sorry about AF Alexia. Look after yourself.

Wow pyjamas, well done to you and DH. Sounds like you're both committed to getting the most out of it so hopefully it will achieve some good things.

[sk1pper]

Glad the session went well Pyjamas, it's awesome you both went ahead with it. It's a relief to know that your DH has aknowledged there is a problem...enough to attend the session. It shows a willingness to fix the problem which is all you need. Let us know how you get on with your next session.

[sk1pper]

I don't know if anyone remembers this but I fractured my wrist last year when a cyst exploded on my ovary and made me pass out at work.

Well the arm healed fine and the splint came off months ago but I think I've fucked it up again doing yoga last Thursday. I really push myself in those classes and I did a new pose that I should have avoided which meant I had to put my whole weight on my hands with my arms turned in.

Ive been in agony today, I think the ligament is torn again and I can hear and feel something clicking when I flex my wrist. I've bought a wrist support and I'm hoping that's enough as i don't really want to miss more work for additional doctors/hospital appointments.

Woe is me!

[Pyjamas81]

Oh no skipper that sounds so painful! I hope the wrist support does the trick.

Yeah it was pretty intense and the best way I can describe how we're feeling at the moment is 'flat' - it's pretty draining. I used to get that flat feeling after therapy before, it's normal, just means we're processing what happened. Doesn't make it nice though!

In other news - I'm still getting negative opks, am on CD11 and that's when I usually get a positive. It's like my stupid sodding ovaries know I've spent a shit load of 💰 on a perfectly timed spa break to coincide with next AF. Arseholes.

[Pugmummy87]

I think I'm out. Spotting started this morning and seems to be getting heavier and more fresh blood and I've been cramping on and off all day.

Sorry alexia hope you are ok.

pyjamas sounds like a positive step with your first session.

For those who asked, I find out if I was successful or not. I think there was only one other person who went for it, but their interview in Thursday as they were on holiday this week. Thanks for the good luck wishes.

[WingingIt83]

Sorry alexia xx

Well done pyjamas I'm not sure I'd ever be brave enough to do something like that, I hope you start to unpick things more at your next appointment.

Middle of tww for me and still feeling boringly normal. We only managed to HS twice this entire cycle so even though well timed really not holding out much hope!

[Starmist]

Winging we only HS three times in the cycle we got our BFP so it can happen. Keeping everything crossed for you & all the other lovely ladies on this thread. I keep checking in on you all & hoping you join the grads soon as you deserve it so much xx

[HepKestrel]

pug

Ouch skipper! I have a nice scar on my chin from when I split it falling forward from a yoga pose..... Yoga is dangerous! Am sticking to safer Pilates!


pyjamas you can still get your positive opk tomorrow. Just keep having fun DTD.

Hello star!

[Kathrino]

That sounds bloody painful sk1pper, I hope you manage to sort it at home and it's feeling a little better already today.

Pyjamas, sounds like a really productive session with lots to think about.

Harriet, you're a total inspiration. Good luck for today's 10k!

Pretty sure I ovulated yesterday although couldn't be arsed to OPK. We did manage to HS last night although it was probably too late so not holding out any hope for this cycle!

[Pyjamas81]

Oh no pug. Sorry to hear about spotting 💐

You did better than us at HS last night kath - neither of us seems to be able to want to enough at the moment. Going to try today, but I honestly can't be arsed and I can tell he feels the same way.

Just went for my PT session so feeling good about that. I just feel so tired of it all. I'm usually enthusiastic and full of energy at this point in my cycle, but I just feel 'meh'.

[Londonjam]

Oh no skipper! What a pain, literally. Please take care. I feel your pain re medical appointments - I've cancelled my dentist appointment this week as I've got my HSG Tuesday morning and didn't want to have to tell work I'd be in late twice. Such a pain.

Sorry pug hope you're alright 💐

It's all in the timing winging, fx

Thanks starmist xx

Kath you never know fx for you too

Pyjamas ahh I'm not surprised your not in the sexiest moods, hope you can manage a quickie if the OPKs are getting there

Hope you're doing okay alexia and your DH is enjoying his birthday weekend

We've had a mega family reunion this weekend for my Nanna's 90 birthday. My dad is one of 8 and they came from all corners to be together. Emotional and lots of laughter too, really lovely 😊. Had a few feelings of sadness that we don't have pregnancy or baby news to share but I'm grateful also that no-one mentioned babies at all. No annoying questions! Very thankful for that

Had EWCM yesterday which is early so I'm wondering if I might be ovulation early this cycle. No OPKs yet. Can't HS anyway due to HSG. Ho hum.

[QuietTime]

Damn, pug sorry

skipper how's the wrist feeling? Hope supporting it has helped - were you given any physiology exercises last time that might help? How annoying...

Yesterday's session sounded intense pjs but so great to get things out in the open. Hope processing things isn't taking too much of a toll

Am liking the exercise chat, guys, keeps me motivated to keep up with my (much less impressive) plans

Hope you're having good Sundays!

[sk1pper]

Quiet - well to be honest, I didn't go to the hospital half as much as I should have. There isn't a lot they can do for a fracture or torn ligament, there is a complicated op but it didn't seem worth it. I thought it had completely healed but guess not. The support is helping though...or maybe just a placebo.

Jam - your weekend sounds lovely, glad you've had a healthy distraction with no one mentioning the b-word.

My fertile week has started, I have MORE advanced clearblue opks for another study I'm doing. This time they seem to be picked up the estrogen very early but that could be the Clomid. I'm not going crazy with the sex this month. Just every other day while it's high and every day while it's peak.

[QuietTime]

Damn skipper sounds like a bugger. In case you were wondering, that was autocorrect - meant physio! Glad it seems a bit better :)

jam, how nice people steered clear of baby chat, sounds like a lovely occasion! Hope the TTC wait isn't too frustrating...

[Flashinthepan]

Have we all stopped posting because noone wants to start the new thread?

[Lisasimpsonsbff]

This thread moves so quickly! Hope everyone's ok, and sorry to those that AF got.

I'm a bit sad/frustrated today because I got a positive OPK yesterday but then DH couldn't finish. I'd been away since Friday (and so haven't had sex since Thursday night) so that's our chance for this month gone. He was upset about it so I tried not to show I was, and we did talk about having this as a month off after the second miscarriage anyway - but I can't help but feel a bit low about it today.

[Londonjam]

Ah crap - I hadn't noticed the thread had filled - will start a new one...

lisa that must be really frustrating :( your DH must appreciate your supportiveness an awful lot xx

[Londonjam]

NEW THREAD

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2923632-Thread-29-The-one-with-the-BFPs-please?watched=1

[Londonjam]

NEW THREAD

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2923632-Thread-29-The-one-with-the-BFPs-please?watched=1