Thread 28, TTC #1 | We may be hormonal giraffes but we don't eat no low fat humous

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Kav - good to hear from you :) I think you've explained it in quite an appealing way. It might be nice to show your child that picture in 5 years time and them to see how happy you were about them.

I think that sounds very nice Kav. It was more the evening gown + black tie while rolling around in the grass pics and which were only taken so that they could put 70 pics on facebook to announce the pregnancy. She's even wearing a blue evening gown so that everyone knows it's a boy.

I dare say there will still be a fair amount of laughter involved sk1p and Kath ... certainly from me if from nobody else! - but yes, this isn't a pregnancy announcement or anything (and I won't be doing the 'hands make a heart over the belly' - barf - thing either). This is less about attention grabbing and more about capturing a moment for me, DH, and depending on how naughty the pictures are, potentially the new kiddy in future. I totally get people eyerolling over the announcement photos - it all seems a bit twee.

What cycle day is your scan skip? sorry for all the questions - if I take it next month then I'll book a scan.

kav fair play. It was more the evening gown that sounded weird to me to be honest. Our wedding photography has done some newborn shoots with couples that are very natural and so beautiful - I'd definitely do one of those

Sorry flash and alexia getting AF around your DH's birthdays. It's not silly AT ALL to want to give them a BFP on that special day. They will love you and appreciate you regardless though.

flora that's why I don't temp. I can totally see why others do though. Getting a positive OPK and shagging like rabbits is enough for me.

Saw a post on AIBU this morning from a poster wanting to know what mums miss about their old life. Reading it didn't half cheer me up this morning. It also made me think of all the things I should be taking extra care to enjoy with DH before we do become parents.

So -
More spontaneous dinners out and weekends away
More lie ins with the paper / cups of tea / breakfast in bed
Enjoying having any disposable income - treating ourselves to something
Adult conversation! I get a lot out of my job and being with my workmates

Jam - the scan they wanted around CD 12-14. So just before or on ovulation, you may have to adjust if your average cycle length is longer than say 29 or shorter than 26. I was 27 so they said CD13 was fine. It's just to gauge how juicy your ovaries are around ovulation I think. And fine to ask me any questions, you know that ❤️

hello kav ! glad you and bump are doing well.

Thanks Hep - I've never wanted to leave this thread completely as it was such a supportive place when I was TTCing, and every time I come to check here I'm keeping LSFX for new additions to the grads thread. It would be so so lovely to have more company there.

Good list Jam. I am starting to get a tiny bit panicky about the fact that all the things you mention in that list are going to be impossible or a lot less frequent, and very soon. It was so lovely to hear Marmite's news but it made it feel that much more real! Like this morning - had a dentist appointment, and they asked me if I wanted to book in for my next one while I was there, and which times I'd prefer. I always ask for early mornings so I can get to work ASAP afterwards, but as this one is in four months time it suddenly dawned on me that - all going well - my next appointment would be with a 1 month old in tow and that the crack of dawn for an appointment might not be the best idea! I was told there would be no shortage of helpers happy to have baby cuddles but - meep - I'm in the third trimester now and time feels like it's speeding up with so much still to do ... clearing of spare room so we can set it up as a nursery is on the cards for this weekend I think.

Sending all the good karma I can to you guys. You deserve this so much. xx

Jam that post has been giving me lots to be grateful about too! So much so I almost get a deep sense of dread that we're doing the wrong thing TTC. I love our carefree, easy, happy life so much right now and have never been someone that particularly likes babies or small children. Eek.

Lovely to hear from you Kav and glad everything's going well. I think your boudoir shoot sounds lovely. I used to think of getting one done years back before I got married to exH. Not sure I'd be brave enough now though..!

Flash I agree your friend seems to be going at 100mph with her prep. I certainly hope there are no issues, but surely you want to leave lots of the fun shopping and organising until later on?

Sorry to hear your temp has dropped Alexia. Crossing fingers for you over here. Do you have some fun plans for DH's birthday to help focus on?

I've definitely had the same sadness at wanting to give DP the happy news on his birthday/other big events. I have day dreamed so many times about how I'd do it, but it seems like such mythical situation now.

Glad the Clomid isn't causing you any symptoms Sk1pper. Looking forward to seeing what the scan shows for you next week and what difference it makes to your eggs.

Sorry I have missed tons of action on the thread. This last week I have been struck with an overwhelming tiredness that's left me torn between wanting to hit people and bursting into tears. It's been awful, and all I've done is work, get home late, and struggle to sleep. Ugh. Managed a better night last night though and feeling a bit more human today.

I did an OPK yesterday for the first time in months as my last cycle was unusually short and I wanted to see if I was going to ovulate early again. It was snowy white though, despite having felt some sharp twinges in my lower right hand side which I thought might have been related. So we're just plodding on as normal over here.

Feels odd not having a bank holiday next week. Hope everyone is on track for a lovely weekend anyway!

Wow flash I so hope everything is ok for your friend. I had my MVA at 9 weeks last week. If I hadn't had the early scan I would have had no idea there was anything wrong - I had all the symptoms, no bleeding etc. I'm also jealous of that kind of naivety- if I ever get pregnant again I will be a wreck until the baby is in my arms!

I hate getting my picture taken as well so maternity shoot will never happen!

Going to check out that Aibu now jam!

Thanks very much Quiet, I'm fine. Definitely CD2, though. Had drinks with friends last night, though, which was really fun!

So sorry about the temp drop, Alexia.

Congratulations, kavanaugh !!

Thought you were a bit quiet Penguin, are you feeling you feeling tired physically or emotionally? Or both? I hope you start to pick up soon, perhaps when your hormones peak in the LH surge. Xx

I find some maternity shoots a bit weird too, so your not alone there kath.

Hi Kav nice to hear you and bump are doing well!

skipper a colleague used Clomid to conceive her daughter and she was telling me about some of the symptoms after I confided in her. She said she felt lots of sensations like you described in her ovaries.

I had my interview for the secondment today, not sure how well I think it went! Still will find out by end of next week.

Clomid arrived yesterday. Think I may invest in some cheap opks to use whilst taking it.

Alexia thanks for taking a look at my chart the other day. You were right, it has started to rise again.

Thanks for all the kind words ladies- being in a beautiful place is a really good distraction, just a few moments of sadness here and there.

❤️✨❤️✨❤️ Sending you all positive vibes! Especially Alexia ❤️

Ah thanks Sk1pper that's kind of you. It's been physical really - you know that kind of tiredness where your eyes hurt and everything aches? - but probably not helped by being fed up of TTC.

Really need to get some exercise this weekend, that'll help!

Pug - no way, really?! Ooh thats got me really excited. Glad yours has arrived too. Good luck for the secondment, do you now how many others went for it internally?

Penguin - yeah I get you, at least you have the weekend to recuperate. Just chill out at home or something, I love days off like that where I can just veg in my pyjamas all day.

I had a couple of busy days at work and missed so much on this thread!

Had to chuckle at the photo shoot chat - it's a 🤢 from me, but whatever floats people's boats and all that. Kav yours does sound more palatable however!

My friend who has two very small children called me a couple of nights ago at her wits end. Months (more like years) of no sleep and she had to leave the house and just leave her DH with the children to it for a bit - I really felt for her, it all sounded so desperate. As much as I'm desperate to start our family, it did make me appreciate the life (and sleep!) I have now.

FW started on Weds for us and we HS on Weds - haven't been able to since as we had plans last night and tonight. Have to say - Weds was the first time I wasn't into it at all and I really just went through the motions - I felt nothing whatsoever at all :-/ Partly to do with the difficulties we've had recently I think. Therapy starts tomorrow! Pretty nervous. I'm at the point where I don't even care if we HS or not - I'm sick of always being the one keeping track of my when the right time is.

Pyjamas, you're doing better than us. FW started here on Weds too and we haven't HS yet mainly because both of us have been working until late every night. Will try tonight but think it might be too late now and can't really find it in me to care. I hope the therapy session goes well today, I'm rooting for you.

Pug, keeping everything crossed for your secondment!

Hope you had a good sleep Penguin and are feeling better today.

Just doing a quick-ish catch up and wanted to say good luck pyjamas for therapy today 🤞Hope it's really useful for you both

Good luck pug with the secondment interview results- had a few in my nhs time and I always found them worse as the interviewers and results are around as a reminder! Hope they get back to you with a positive response quickly 🤞

Those in FW- LSFX for the weekend! And alexia are you the next tester?

I am officially in 2WW now and again have the most sore nipples- anything touching them almost makes me shriek out! I was excited by this symptom last month but now resigned to the fact it probably is just a new post ovulation sign to enjoy (sigh) Also had a dream that we went to our fertility appointment and they made a plan to start clomid etc and then said "come back in 2 years and we'll give you the prescription"- this isn't what will really happen is it?!

CD1 here probably going to be a bit quiet on here as I let these hormones slide and try my best to put on a smile for dh's birthday. We're not doing anything major but these cramps aren't helping!

Chart looks good Pug. GL with everything 🍀

Hope you've had a good rest Inspector and have a nice relaxing weekend planned.

Good luck Binky, hope this is your month! And no that's not what happens 😂

Sorry to those I've missed. Hope you all have a lovely weekend with lots of spontaneous shagging

Oh Alexia, I'm so sorry. I hope the pain passes quickly, but it's fine if you want to slink off for a bit. We'll always be here xx

I'm so sorry Alexia

Also Binks - I can confirm that if they put you on Clomid at your next appointment they will write you the perscription there and then 😝

Take care Alexia

And good luck pyjamas hope it's not too daunting today, thinking of you x

So sorry alexia 💐🍫☕️🍷 🛀
Take care of yourself and if you need time away we will be waiting and thinking of you x