Thread 28, TTC #1 | We may be hormonal giraffes but we don't eat no low fat humous

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

[Pyjamas81]

Sorry to hear you're feeling so low jam - feel free to let it all out here and good to see you're thinking about looking into RL support. I was diagnosed with 'situational depression' also known as 'adjustment disorder' a few years ago where an event caused it and I felt very much the same way you do - like there was a constant cloud over me and like I was wearing a permanent cloak of sadness, no matter how many good things I had going on around me. A combination of low dose antidepressants and CBT helped me turn my life around (I'm no longer on the medication). I'm of course not saying that you need medication or therapy as everyone's situation is different, but there is help out there. Really hope you feel better soon 😘

[SmittenPears]

Jam, sending you good thoughts. I'm so sorry. I can appreciate your wanting not to resort to medication, but also sympathize with the helplessness of feeling the way you do. Keep opening up, and accept help where it's offered. I think there's a tendency to try to "buck up" in situations like this, but we all need help sometimes.

[MissyJones80s]

Hi gaelech my ov pains tend to feel like a sharp tugging twisting feeling down on one side or the other. Slightly like period pain but less of a cramp. Sometimes it hurts a bit to go to the toilet or have a GOS too. Generally the pains only last a few hours but sometimes more.

[MissyJones80s]

jam so sorry you are feeling so low. I totally get where you are coming from. I sugggest seeing you Dr about it. Counselling might be a good step. Even though you don't want them they prob won't give meds anyway because you are ttc so all the more reason to try talking therapies. I'm off to counselling this morning myself.

[Londonjam]

Thanks for all the advice. I've been on ADs a few times for anxiety/panic disorder and they've been a huge help to me. I've never been depressive before so I'm not sure if that's what I'm going through. I would definitely like to have talking therapy again as a first step; the inevitable waiting list puts me off but I'll think about getting this in motion.

Ugh hay fever is really starting to kick in and I've read antihistamines dry up your cm. eye drops and tissues at the ready!

[HepKestrel]

Hi all,

so away at a (OH) family christening. 4 cousins pregnant and was asked 3 times when we were getting married/having baby.

sigh. If only they weren't so nice.

[Chlo22]

Hey jam, I'm away at moment but just wanted to quickly comment.i definitely think try counselling first. We pay £40 per hour which normally lasts longer and it's been so helpful. Being brutally honest, I didn't need it once we conceived as that was only thing making me feel all of these emotions so I would really try that before taking any medication as I think you're in a similar position. Sending love and hugs

[KerryLeanne84]

I know 100% what you mean Jam. BIG HUGS. I'm a really positive, upbeat person naturally, so my set happiness point is high, but long term TTC drags everything down and makes you so so sad. I feel like I probably am depressed but I don't want to go on any drugs either. I'm sure counseling will help you.

Anyone who's based anywhere near me who ever wants to meet up for hugs - I'm in Notts xxx

[florafoxtrot]

Morning ladies,

Jam - I can sympathize completely - a lot of the time I do seem to feel this overwhelming sadness and at present I seem to find the weekends very hard because I can distract myself a lot better during the week. I don't have any advice other than the aforementioned distractions and also just talking - if its on here or in real life - talking does seem to help me feel better.

I'm on CD9 and had some EWCM so guessing ov is round the corner. We've managed a GOS twice and thinking about going for EOD this month rather than SMEP... Hell knows what is better - neither has worked so far! Did have a chat with my Mum at the weekend though - I knew that I hadn't happened overnight so just asked her outright how long and she said a year - she then found out I was en route at the fertility clinic so that's actually made me feel a lot better. Apparently my brother didn't happen overnight either but was less of a wait for him.
I'm pretty resigned to the fact that we just need to keep waiting and trying. It absolutely sucks though - there are just so many babies in our wider family and I'm struggling being the freak that can't get there.

[sk1pper]

Jam - you're in london aren't you? I can get there in an hour on the fast train if you want to meet up one day for coffee or anything. Offers always there xx

[Pyjamas81]

Same here jam - I live in London (work around Embankment) and live in SW London, happy to have a coffee and lend an ear if needed x

[HepKestrel]

jam

[Carley27]

Hope you're ok Jam

9DPO here, time is standing still. No spotting yet (started at 7DPO last month ) so that's good. Although I had spotting 1-4 DPO this month so swings and roundabouts really!

[Londonjam]

Bless you girls 🌸🌺🌼 you are the kindest

[Pyjamas81]

I just remembered my GP recommended this place for therapy jam - www.citypregnancy.org.uk/home_2.htm

[Carley27]

Urgh reckon the spotting will start tonight or tomorrow .. few period-like twinges and CM has totally dried up. At least I will be expecting it

[Kathrino]

That place looks very interesting, thanks for the link pyjamas. I am generally terrible at any kind of counselling/therapy but, like others, I do wonder about the long term impacts. Another one around Embankment too of course ;)

Sorry about the cramping Carley, hope AF stays away.

Flora, glad you were able to talk about it with your mum. Hopefully she'll be a great support to you. Best of luck for this month!

Hep, we have the same with DH's family. So hard. Lots of for you.

[Londonjam]

That city pregnancy place looks perfect, next time I'm feeling very low I may try giving them a call

Carley hope you're wrong 🌼

An old uni friend messaged me on Facebook today to say they are 30 weeks with their first. I messaged back congratulations and said we've been trying 18 months and I'm finding it hard. She replied to say they tried for two years and conceived on their first IVF cycle. Nothing medically wrong ever found. It's so much more common than I ever ever imagined.

[Hopefulbunny]

Hi ladies,

Thank you for all your well wishes. I am out of hospital now. It has certainly been tough dealing with the pain and I can't walk or get up very easily at the moment so It's quite difficult.

I am so pleased that the surgery went well, the surgeon said he removed a 7cm fibroid and a 3cm fibroid which was slightly bigger than he had originally thought. I think the worst of it all was going for the general anesthetic but I had the nicest anesthetist who reassured me and looked after me well. My surgeon and the staff were all lovely so it makes copying with it all so much better. Its going to be a difficult few weeks but I'm so grateful it went well.

Hope everyone else is okay and sending Flowers: to those struggling.

Nice sunny day today hope you've all enjoyed the sun.

[glitteryvibes]

Thanks for all the congrats guys.

jam I've heard accupuncture can be good for situational depression (and anxiety and fertility for that matter). Personally I find exercise really benificial, namely running, but any kind. Endorphins and all that. Hope you find something that works for you though.

Fx af stays away carley

flora must be hard having so many babies in the family, I suppose though some of them may have also taken a while to conceive? If you are close it might be worth talking to them if your up to it.

hep with you on those questions! At my (younger) brothers wedding everyone was asking me if I was upset it wasn't me first/when was my turn etc etc!! They mean well but doesn't make it any less annoying.

[Flashinthepan]

jam hugs for you. As others have said, do whatever you need to feel better for now, there is no right or wrong, but don't feel you can't ask for help just because you know why you feel sad.

Here's hoping for a smooth recovery for you hopeful.

I would like to share with you all that I have the most horrendous constipation. It appeared out of nowhere a couple of days ago, the pains in my stomach are so bad last night I just laid in bed groaning and feeling sorry for myself. So if you could all wish for some ELH round at my house I would be most grateful! And sorry to bring down the tone of the discussion, but I can't suffer alone!

[KerryLeanne84]

Glad the surgery went well hopeful look after yourself!

Flash you poor thing! It is awful isn't it - have you got some prune juice?

Jam - for the list, my next period / BFP is due 1 May - the day we fly away on holiday!

[sk1pper]

Awww Kerry that sucks...I've just been scrutinising my app because if ovulation is late again, AF is going to be smack bang at the start of our honeymoon. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck. So romantic...

[KerryLeanne84]

Oh shit Sk1pper! That is rubbish! Where are you off to?

[Pyjamas81]

Oh no skipper!! What a bitch!

Glad you found the link useful kath and jam 🙂