Thread 28, TTC #1 | We may be hormonal giraffes but we don't eat no low fat humous

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

[HepKestrel]

jam i wouldn't take 1/2. you need a low dose otherwise it may be dangerous. so the equivalent of 1/4 or these 75g pills.

i looked into this in the past.

[Londonjam]

With these NHS appointments we both have to be there kath. I don't really understand why - they aren't doing more tests, they are going through results and referring us (hopefully). It's so frustrating.

That's my main concern too re. egg sharing. If the recipient gets a BFP and I don't I really don't know if I would cope.

Thanks hep I'll look for those 75g ones.

[AlexiaB]

So true Skip

Yes Jam. A friend on FF is going to do it in October. I don't think I could do it though. I'd always wonder where my babies were and struggle with the thought I was biologically their mum. It is selfish as I know I'd probably use donor eggs if it came to it

Kath you could probably get around that by PGS testing all your eggs. Then you'd be transferring back chromosomally normal eggs so at least you'd know you had good ones it was just bad luck or implantation issues they didn't stick. Such hard life decisions!

[SmittenPears]

Alexia I have been OPK-ing but now I feel it's less useful because it's hard to pinpoint when I should be using them with the irregular cycles. I feel like I'll spend a fortune on tests, even cheapies.

I have felt like temping will bring out the obsessive in me (...even more??) -- but maybe I should think about it.

[AlexiaB]

I know what you mean Smitten but if you do it right temping is very easy compared to peeing in pots and staring at opk lines. Obviously I wish everyone's cycle was like clockwork! If you sleep solidly and temp at the same time each morning (set an alarm) your chart should be reliable. You can pick and choose when to temp once you get the hang of it and know your norm.

I've attached a long anovulatory chart of mine. Temping saved me from going insane during this period. It will confirm whether or not you're ovulating. Knowledge is power

[KerryLeanne84]

I feel/think precisely the same Alexia. A good friend of mine is on maternity leave atm and we could/SHOULD have been pregnant/on mat leave at the same time. Sometimes it feels like a sad little glimpse sliding doors style into another life that I could have had if this wasn't all happening.

HUGS TO EVERYONE

[Londonjam]

Alexia / kath the embryologist / specialists carefully divide the eggs between the donor and recipient so that you get as fair a chance as possible.

Alexia there would be part of me that would think about that egg for the rest of my life, but like you say, I would probably use donor eggs so I would have to make my peace by focusing on how I am helping someone else become a mum

[KerryLeanne84]

Re egg sharing, someone I know who got pregnant on her HONEYMOON donated eggs (okay so that's a super nice thing to do) and both her people got pregnant on the first try.

Some people just have all the good eggs!

[sk1pper]

Yeah I'm not too sure how I feel about egg sharing. I would be gutted if mines fails and theirs was successful but that's such a selfish thing to say. Then part of me thinks...well even if it's not meant to be for me, at least I can give someone else a chance at happiness. And you have carried on your genes in one way or another then. You just don't get to do the bit you actually want which is nurture and raise...

[KerryLeanne84]

I got some of the low dose aspirin - this is it. I got it from Tesco for 85p a pack and it wasn't with the regular aspirin/ painkillers

[Londonjam]

Kerry I got regular 300mg aspirin and am quartering it. Couldn't find the baby stuff! A metaphor for my life

[KerryLeanne84]

🤣 Jam! My post should have said it WAS with them

[Pyjamas81]

I'd feel the same way about egg sharing - not sure I could bring myself to give some up. And with my low AMH, I need all the eggs I can get!

Really hope you and your DH can get to that appt jam

Well am on CD11 here, got a flashing smiley this morning, then got positive cheapie opk at about 7pm - this has happened before, I seem to surge in the evening!

[Flashinthepan]

I don't know if I could do egg sharing. I'd like to think so but agree it would be hard to know that someone else had a child that was biologically half yours. It's good to know it's an option though. What's the view on here re surrogacy? I would really love to be pregnant as well as actually having a child so I think I would find it hard but would also consider it. Not sure what the cost implications are?

[Flashinthepan]

Get on with the GOS pyjamas!

Sadly my LH have been less than E despite all your helpful hints, which I have tried! Also I think I am about 5/6 dpo but boobs have only really started hurting today. I don't feel good about this cycle.

Lovely to have you back Alexia People are only allowed to leave because they've got a bfp and even then it's better if they keep hanging around!

[SmittenPears]

Thanks for sharing that Alexia; so that whole cycle was anovulatory? What's the dip on Sunday 11th?

Ok, sourcing BBT thermometer... let's do this...

[AlexiaB]

Yeh that was odd Smitten. I think those few days were my body trying to ovulate post-mc but not following through. I had quite a bit of CM at the time too. My temps never got over 36.35 though and dropped back down immediately so I know I didn't O.

Temping really does give you a lot of control with irregular cycles. I've reached a point where I know my temps so well that just one or two BBTs could tell me whether I'm in the lp or not. Good luck x

Boo for no ELH's Flash. I'm hoping you've released an amazeballs egg so your progesterone is sky high causing the constipation

Hope a GOS has been achieved pyjamas

Interesting reading everyone's views on egg sharing. Definitely not an easy decision. Kerry how lucky is your friend to have a honeymoon baby!

Night ❤️

[Mrsbluebell17]

Hi all.

Just wanted to drop by and say hi, I'm still lurking here as well as being in a grads thread as I'm still early days and incredibly scared but wanted to say I've got my fingers crossed for you all for BFPs very soon!

Hope you don't mind me hanging around.

[sk1pper]

Hey MrsBlue - how is the grads thread? Many stuck around?

[sk1pper]

Also my mum has worked out it took her two and a half years to get pregnant with me but she didn't really count and she didn't do anything to help: opks, vitamins, temp etc. So hopefully I won't be as long? 😩

[Pyjamas81]

Got a GOS in last night and did a cheapie opk this morning and it's even more positive than it was yesterday! Argh!! Proper blazing line. Yep, I'm right back in OPK making me batshit crazy land...

Fx it doesn't take you as long Skip - if your mum wasn't tracking anything a lot of it could be down to timing and remember everyone is different - my mum got pg immediately for example and she was roughly the same age. I clearly don't take after her sadly!

Great to have you back alexia 😊😊😊

[Mrsbluebell17]

Hi Sk1pper. The grads thread is really good but I'll be honest and say the worrying doesn't stop
Fingers crossed I'm worrying over nothing hey!
I keep thinking of you all, and coming back to see how everyone is getting on. So hopeful for you guys to get BFPs soon!

[Carley27]

Very interesting read regarding the egg-sharing, not something I was aware of. I'm not sure I could do it but massive respect to those who do.

No sign of AF yet (due today) but BFN today. Pretty sure AF is just waiting so it can come on holiday with me

[QuietTime]

Fx it stays away carley

bluebell I can imagine the early days are stressful/uncertain - hope the worries ease as the days pass; glad the grads thread is good (though nice to hear from you here! )

pyjamas hope testing isn't driving you up the wall - at least latest GOS was well-timed :)

[sk1pper]

Pyjamas - thanks but I'm not so sure, we were comparing everything fertility related and we are complete mirrors of each other. The horrendous periods, the ovulatory cysts, even the level and feeling of pain and the timing at which it's all occurred since coming off the pill. I just hope I have some edge by tracking my cycles.

Fx Carley!!