Thread 28, TTC #1 | We may be hormonal giraffes but we don't eat no low fat humous

[Londonjam]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

What the actual F ??? Coming to get you at 730 - is he your dad??? Pyjamas you are standing to this shit so well. I hope you have a truly lovely evening with your friends. Could you stay at one of theirs?

PMA wobbled a bit, had to go for a cry in Regent's Park at lunch. Getting back on track now though 👍🏼

Kav those profiles are fascinating

Welcome Lisa 😊

I know jam - fucking ridiculous.

Just escaped the office for an hour for a cheeky 'fuck you' glass of wine with my best friend who happened to be in the area. I feel so much better! She's so angry for me. I let all the rage out! Which is a good thing before going out tonight ha ha.

Totally normal to have a PMA wobble jam - the first day is always the worst. I hope you feel better xx

So sorry jam 💐🍫☕️

Welcome Lisa- so sorry to hear of your losses

Pyjamas He said WHAAAAAAAT??! My goodness, you poor thing- no wonder you were angry! (I'm a pushover and I'd struggle to hold back in that situation!) As others have said, you definitely need to have your fun tonight and speak to him at another point when you can speak calmly. Being controlled will not help you TTC, only add to stress that you don't need- I really hope he sees that soon. Sorry you're having to go through this and he's not helping in such a shitty TTC time x

Sorry you're feeling rough Jam xx

I'm going to use a test tomorrow, I saw this morning I have three going out of date this month. That's how often I don't test and that's how long ago I bought them how depressing.

Ladies, you may need to sit down for this...I have been prescribed the mythical and coveted progesterone pills! Had scans, he said I have a very healthy looking cervix, what a flirt! and said my womb lining is building up already and I'm only cd8 which he said is also a good sign.

Thank you for all the lovely welcomes, everyone!

harriet I remember your from previous threads - I'm so sorry that you've now had a third miscarriage. I know exactly what you mean about just wanting the third one over with so they'll do investigations. My doctor has been great, and I had a blood test to check my thyroid yesterday, but I just feel like I've lost all faith that it'll work for me.

pjs (I also remember you from another thread! hello!) sorry that your DH is being so unreasonable about this. Do you mind me asking how long you two have been together, and whether you've been through tough stuff together before? I think that can be when you really see who someone is.

Good work on the vino pyjamas, I'm so glad you've got good people in your life that can support you.

Jam, wobbles are totally understandable. Hopefully you can enjoy a few drinks tonight and the long weekend.

High five for your healthy looking cervix Flash! Does the doc reckon the progesterone will help with the random bleeding?

Last day of AF here. The calm before the storm...

Oh FUUUUCK. I think I've started AF early too and it's taken me by complete surprise so I've soiled my knickers...

Need to get home!!! 😭😱

Oh bollocks sk1pper, that happened to me a couple of months ago. Just adds insult to injury. Are you able to head home now?

Oh Skipper what a bugger. You too *jam. So sorry to hear.

Pyjamas I think you're doing a great job staying positive and enjoying yourself despite the shit you're getting from your DH.

Yes kathrino he thinks if I take it for 3 months, it should help to regulate things. Especially as my LP has been 14 days for the last couple of months, thanks to the b vits. I forgot to ask if I should keep taking then alongside the progesterone. Anyone know? Ive got Provera, in case anyone is thinking it may help them and plans to use an online pharmacy or ask a doc about it.

The generic name is medroxyprogesterone acetate.

Oh no Skipper! Can a friendly colleague help you out with supplies if you don't have anything with you?

Hello Lisa! Don't mind you asking at all - we've been together for four years, married for one. Nothing major to go through before - other than when my beloved dog died, I was devastated (lots of people don't understand but that pooch was my family 🙁). He didn't really understand then and we fell out about it - I had a niggling feeling then, but ignored it. I shouldn't have.

Hurrah flash!!

I've emailed a counsellor who specialises in couples therapy and has a lot of experience with infertility issues. She's already emailed back with availability which is great.

I've also booked a few days off work when AF is due next month so I can go away. I can't deal with this bullshit again.

Well done for contacting a therapist pyjamas. I know different people have different ways of coping with stress etc but some behaviour is never acceptable and your DH seems to have stopped bothering to even pretend he's sorry for making you feel this way.

So sorry AF has gotten you Jam and Skipper! 😔💐 look after yourselves!

I am shocked by what your dh said too PJs about coming to pick you up - jaysus Christ! I know you think you blew up but it sounds like he had it coming. I hope the counselling will help.

Flash - that's great news! Was it your consultant who prescribed them?

Tgif!

Managed to get sent home early. Now running a much needed bath, I can't call it CD1 unfortunately because it's just runny spotting but I normally don't have enough to go through knickers like that. Sorry for all the TMI.

I'm still doing the pg test because of the expiration, you never know! Of course I know. I feel pretty angry to be honest, I can deal with AF but it just seems to screws me in a new, inventive way every cycle.

Sorry skipper I totally feel your early AF pain xx

Great news flash glad they listened and have done something to help

Kerry are you testing soon? Fx

Pyjamas a relationship counsellor is a really sensible step. Hope you have fun tonight

TGIF

Ahh Jam - me too! OH just got me pizza and beer.

Pyjamas - have a lovely night out hon xxxxx

Interesting Flash, my GP mentioned progesterone in passing when we were talking at high level but haven't really explored it much. Off to Dr Google I go.

Well done on emailing the therapist pyjamas, sounds like a really practical step forward and I hope your DH engages in it. Hope you have a lot of fun tonight!

Sk1pper, glad you got home early and DH is looking after you. Hope the pain isn't too bad this cycle.

I am definitely very much TFIF today (although have an insane amount of work to do next week which I'm trying not to think about...)

Skipper glad you've had some tlc from dh and that you got to go home early.

Kerry it was a consultant gynaecogist at the hospital, I was referred by my gp because of my LP spotting. He also said he will write a note back to my saying to refer me to the fertility clinic in 6 months if I haven't got pregnant by then. So that's positive.

kathrino yes he just offered it, I didn't ask. He said he would have put me on the pill for 3 months but as I'm TTC he didn't want to do that. He has also taken swabs for chlamydia etc but said he doesn't think I have it it's just a precaution. I have been tested before and was clear so not too worried about that.

Alexia looking forward to getting your view on progesterone etc. Always keen to hear what you think on supplements/medication etc. I've decided to start temping again this month too, so will be handing my chart over for scrutiny whether you like it or not! 😃

Busy day on the thread! Sorry I've not been around had a manic day at work, then a late dinner with DH and now he's gone to see some childhood friends which is lovely because they're not from here and haven't seen each other for years. Think he's drinking (which is very rare) so I'm sure he'll be hilarious when he gets back! I know it's sad but I miss him already lol

Skipper and Jam what the actual F I'm so sorry girls! Great PMA Jam but you're only human, this hurts. Hope you've drunk your weight in beer!
Skip your DH is a sweetie - pizza and beer whoop! Obviously a BFP would have been much nicer for you both but for some terrible reason great people are punished for no good reason! I still believe you'll both get there sooner rather than later xx

Hope you're having a crazy good night pyjamas. It's all been said before but the way your DH is acting is not normal. Hope the therapy can bring you back together and ready for a baby. I was actually daydreaming earlier about your DH kicking off about you feeding your child broccoli instead of asparagus!!! 😂 what the fuck haha Best to get on the same page now!

Welcome Lisa, I get the feeling you'll fit right in here. Sorry for your painful losses

You work so hard Kath! Enjoy your weekend

Hey Flash, of course throw your chart my way! (and you too Quiet). Great news your gynae has put you on P supps 👍 I think it's a very positive step and if for some reason it doesn't do the trick maybe he'll add Clomid or likewise into the mix later on. Depends how proactive you want to get. I don't see any reason why you would need to stop B complex either. Loved the comment about your cervix 😂 Oh and if I was you I'd want to be on the P supps almost all the way through the first trimester just as a precaution. Not sure if he discussed that with you?

pjs I can't believe your DH! I am furious on your behalf. I hope you won't feel offended, but his controlling behaviour about drinking is a red flag for me. I agree with the others that a heart to heart/accessing counselling is the right step. He needs to know that it's unacceptable. Hope you are out enjoying yourself and sticking two fingers up to his behaviour!

jam and skipper so sorry that the witch has shown her ugly face again.

harriet glad you are holding up ok.

Welcome lisa. This is a lovely group and there ate a few of us who have had early losses. I had an early miscarriage at the beginning of the year at 5 weeks.

jam I've not put a testing date as not sure when AF due to be honest. I'm pretty certain I'm in the tww now, temps are looking a bit up and down so hard to say exactly when.

So in good news front, I applied for a secondment for a band 7 post (I'm nhs) and I have an interview next Friday. One came up in the autumn last year but I didn't apply thinking it wouldn't be worth it as ttc. Anyway this post has come up and I thought fuck it, I'm not tonight let this pass again just on the small off chance I might get pregnant. It's a secondment to cover long term absence, so only temporary so even if I did get a bfp and successful sticky bean, its not going to be a big deal.

I've also just gone and ordered Clomid from the Oxford online pharmacy. Going to look into follicle tracking scans and have progesterone tests done to see if it makes me ovulate.

Glad you managed to get home skipper and how lovely of your DH 😊

That all sounds really positive flash!

And those beers look positively heavenly jam 😁 🍻

Well I went out, had a lovely time with my friends, had a couple of G&Ts, nothing crazy, and was home before 9.30. Not even slightly drunk, which was my intention. I came in and DH had the expected face on - I said hello and he said go to bed. I said that wasn't so bad was it? I went out had a laugh with my friends and came home, was that so difficult? All said very calmly. He said your very aggressive pyjamas, go to bed. I got up and before I left the room I said 'you need to apologise to me' and went to bed. And now his dad just arrived. And he's staying until TUESDAY. FML.