Is it a line? Time for some wine? Yep, it's TTC after miscarriage thread number nine.

[BertieBotts]

Hello ladies

Hope you don't mind my little poem...

Fingers crossed for some sticky beans this time.

(Newbies welcome too!)

Halloumi
Scan booked for 24th may at 9 weeks. We have scanned earlier before and had a hb only for it to go by 8 weeks. So this time no scan before that unless there is bleeding or whatever. Doesn't seem to be any point putting ourselves through that again. We'll see how we cope with that.

Great news WLM! So happy for you.

Miami sounds like settling & stretching, how exciting!

Hopefully I'll be a bit more up for dtd once I get rid of my now 4-day migraine 😩

Getting back into every other day has been hard (ahem!)

Halloumi
Yep you may have ov'ed late. Unfortunately it will just be a waiting game for you. Some people have had 6 week cycles so hoping it resolves quickly for you. Obviously i am hoping it resolves into a BFP for you.
No worries on the couple of drinks front. Beans don't share your blood supply until much later so don't be stressing yourself out.

Huge congratulations @WLM !!! And great news on the FRER @miami - somlovely to click on this thread and see such fab news!
And well done on the cake making @anne - my husband makes wedding cakes as a hobby (only for friends so nothing big or anything!) and I know how much effort goes in!
Your husband sounds absolutely lovely - it is so good to be in a relationship where you are both on the v same page! My husband has been absolutely brilliant at deferring everyone who keeps saying 'oooh maybe you should recover more / wait/ change your mind' and firmly telling them that this is our choice!

So glad things are looking better Miami. Sounds like a good strategy for your scan. Really hoping this lo clings on tight for you. I already know if/when I'm pregnant that an early scan wouldn't be reassuring for me as baby measured 9+4 when I found out about the mmc at 12 weeks.

So think I probably ovd on thurs/fri. Dtd last night and was starting to get a teeny bit hopeful that there might still be a chance of catching it, until my oh pulled out last minute. Was a bit gutted. Guess I now I'm ready to try again now at least. Willing af to arrive early now!

Halloumi fx that you ovd late and there's a bfp waiting for you. When will you test again if af stays away?

Hi guys,
Just catching up with you all, miami glad it's going well and the frer was strong, hope everything goes well for the scan.
halloumi fingers crossed - you may just have ovulated late, so you will hopefully get a bfp soon-

anne sorry to hear your DH was struggling yday, I hope dsd has that little baby sibling soon. Good luck with no symptom spotting- it takes willpower of steel doesn't it.

I got a bfp last week which would make me 4+4 today, got 1-2 weeks on the digi which sounds right (I had ovary twinges 2 x Sunday's ago) Super worried and nervous though as no symptoms at all am going on holiday this week so hopefully that will make the next week go fast and will look at doing some tests etc then I think.

Congrats mulder
What a great flurry of bfps. Yeah the lack of symptoms is officially wrecking my head. Nothing to do but wait. Being on hols for a distraction sounds like a great idea. I just cooked all our dinners for the week, including a curry that I am seriously reconsidering. It's one of those thai curry jars, but on tasting it's too limey and lemongrassy. Not sure I can stomach it!!
Also thought I was being really smart by getting spelt pasta, in order to be gluten free (vague suggestion it helps settle the uterus, or some such bollocks, but you know I would literally stand on my head every day if someone told me it would help). Spelt has gluten in it, so feeling a bit thick now. But you know, that's the weeks food sorted at least. Maybe.
Have a good Sunday everybody.

Mulder congrats!

All these bfps are amazing!

Thanks guys just crossing my fingers now...

Ah thats a good idea miami saves so much time in the week- GF is supposed to give more energy too so can inly be a good thing!

Wow lots of recent BFPs!
Have my fingers crossed that all goes well, it must be a nerve wracking time.
Please throw some magic baby dust in my direction

I'm here just feeling sorry for myself as I realised that it was on this day 1 year ago that I got my last BFP!

A beautiful sunny Sunday, was out in the park with LO before lunchtime and decided that I needed to test as I'd come off the combined pill the previous month and hadn't had a period apart from withdrawal bleed.

Presumed it was just delayed coming back, what with me knocking on a bit (was 37 at the time)- was such a shock to get a BFP!
We'd only had sex once (CD14) since I stopped the pill and I must have been around CD41 the day I tested.
DH was in such shock when he returned from abroad that evening, such an exciting time and planning for our Christmas baby.

Sadly all ended at the dating scan when I was 13 weeks.
Started TTC straight away rather than wait for first period...and we are still TTC and on cycle 10 now
Another sadness is knowing that I/we will never have that innocence and same happiness again after knowing first hand what can go wrong.

I so could not have imagined this scenario 1 year ago!
Sorry, just having a bit of a moan at the unfairness of it all

Trying to keep positive, CD13 today and noticing signs of impending ovulation- have to say that over the last 10 cycles or so, I have learned so much about my body in terms of reproduction!

Having spent most of my adult life on the combined pill, I had no clue about my menstrual cycle and what was normal for me etc.

Not bothering with OPKs anymore as I know ovulation is around CD15/16 and we just DTD every other day or so during the fertile week.
Ah onward and upwards!

Mulder congratulations. Really hope everything goes perfectly for you!

Congratulations mulder, so lovely to have some good news around here!
Sorry you're having a tough day turquoise. I hope you get some good news soon.
I'm not sure when to test again. Guess I'll hold out as long as I can next week! DH is now constantly asking if i'm 'ok', I've just had to say I'll let him know if and when AF turns up - hope he's not getting his hopes up too much!

turquoise it is unfair, there are no two ways about it. for you.
Good luck with DTD this month, hopefully a bfp will wing its way to you soon.
Congrats mulder brilliant news

I everyone! Is it OK if I join? Had my MC on 7th March, first AF 7th April and ovulated this week so waiting on AF (or lack of) 7th May. Congrats to all those with their BFP.

Congrats to all those with BFP, great news! Sorry your having a rough day Turquoise but here seems to be a good place to let it all out and have a good moan. I too am CD13 - did an OPK as no idea when I will ovulate following surgical management of mc. It was negative but as you say going to try and dtd every other night!
Welcome Lulringo

Congratulations Mulder! Don't fuss over not having symptoms yet; you may get more than you can handle soon! Or you might not--particularly nausea does not seem to be as universal as people think (my own mother had morning sickness with only 1 baby out of 4).

Luluringo, I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you are feeling OK while ttc/waiting for your BFP, but if not, do of course feel free to rant on here, we all understand!

Thank you everyone, we're very happy (if cautiously so)! We had a nice day today at a supercars driving experience which was DH and FIL's Christmas presents, then out for a delicious lunch. Hope everyone is raring for the work week!

How lovely to see so much positive news here! Congratulations to everyone with bfps here's hoping the bfps are catching and there are more to come!

*Turqoise I'm so sorry, your post really struck a chord with me in that you'll never have that same excitement about a pregnancy again. Just nervousness.

Luluringo I'm sorry for your loss, you've found a good place here though. Everyone is lovely, fingers crossed this is a good month for you.

Hi there
So I started bleeding a bit last night. Did a cb digi this morning that says 3+ at 4+6 so trying to cling onto that as a good thing. Been to gp who was incredibly kind and did hcg for me, back on Wednesday. He was a little bit concerned about the amount of pain I am in and had a feel of my tummy which is a bit tender on the left side. So looks like I am query ectopic as well. He rang the epu and they said hcg first and let's see what that tells us as a bit early to pick up anything on a scan.
Fuck this, why can't life be easy sometimes? Oh and of course the gp was full of smuggos with their babies this morning.
P.s. I know they are not smug really, it's just sometimes I am like can you stop rubbing your perfect baby in my face.......
Sorry I really am feeling a bit all over the place today.

I really hope all is ok for you Miami! If it helps, when I had my mc the clear blue digi went back to 2-3 weeks really quickly. And I was only beginning to spot then (and was 6 + weeks) so hopefully that is a good sign for you!

Right, I'm back from my trip. No idea when AF due but should be about now... have ordered 10pk cheap tests to arrive tomorrow, so I'm sure I can be good until then! No spotting yet.. hope that's a good sign :)

Good luck Miami.

Oh Miami I hope everything works out OK! It is so scary when you can't tell what's going on in your own body. The HCG is a good step forward, I hope it ends the waiting limbo for you (and of course I hope it's a good result!)

Good luck Bertie! Fx

I hope everything is ok Miami, it's so horrible isn't it. Sending you positive thoughts.

Oh no Miami
I have everything crossed for you!
Thoughts like that are completely understandable in the circumstances, no need to apologise.
Take care

Mulder! What fantastic news!

We seem to be a roll all of a sudden you lot, keep shagging and keep the BFPs coming.

How shit and worrying Miami, but really good you've been seen and they're checking HCG. I also think it's positive you're getting such a strong result on the digi date one. Try and keep calm, sending peaceful vibes and love. Take time off work if you need to. Your health and comfort are the only things that count. Keep your support system working, counselling if it helps, reflexology, hugs from DH.

Hey Bertie, nice to see you. Fx for you for tomorrow!

Very sorry for your loss Lulu

How are you doing today Turquoise? My heart broke reading your post. I can relate to what you've been feeling so much and it's beyond crappy and unfair and unjust and shit. When I had my night of bawling last week part of my rant at DH was how of course I want to be pregnant again but even then it won't be the experience I wanted, or, actually, the one I just stupidly naively ASSUMED I'd have. You know, plan ttc, shag a bit, poas, then spend 9 months glowing. What a twat I feel now....

We're so lucky to have a great RMC and a good plan ahead of us, but there's nothing good about the rest of it. The drugs and worry and anxiety, the pain and loss that's behind and the stress that's inevitably ahead of us.

Chucking loads of baby dust at you and sending you a hug. I hope today's easier.

Big love to everyone x

@Miami Gutted that you're being put through the mill again but the digi results seem positive - FX that you get a good outcome from the HcG as well. It is SO unfair that women who have miscarried already often seem to have these scares - you'd think we could have plain-sailing pregnancies after having to go through a loss. So unfair.

@Mulder Congratulations! So over the moon for you. Loving all these BFPs.

@Halloumi Well done you on holding out. Hoping AF stays far far away...

@Lulu, @Turquoise So sorry for your losses. I waver between thinking that in my next pregnancy I'll just enjoy it because I know that worrying won't make a potential loss any easier to bear and after struggling to conceive a second time I will be SO happy to be pregnant again - and then thinking that actually, knowing what I know, I'll be anxious and worried and checking every little sign. I just don't know how it will feel. But I'm praying I get to find out!

@Anne How are you doing today?

I had my reflexology on Saturday and she gave me some top "homework" tips in case anyone's interested! You can do it yourself on your hands - the areas to concentrate on are the sides of the wrists and across the top. Try to visualise an orange colour while you do it. I'm not sure how much I buy into it all but it can't do any harm, right?!