Is it a line? Time for some wine? Yep, it's TTC after miscarriage thread number nine.

[BertieBotts]

Hello ladies

Hope you don't mind my little poem...

Fingers crossed for some sticky beans this time.

(Newbies welcome too!)

Ah cool thanks miami will take a look

I did a huge reach into my kitchen cupboards and felt a gush, that was the start of my mc.

The baby stopped developing around 2 weeks ago though according to sonographer so I've been trying to think what I did; even though I know I didn't do anything. It's mind-melting.

OH & I had a mini-fight last night about his DB & SIL. I KNOW I should feel happy for them and I know I have to face them at some point. To me they've got everything I wanted.

I think because I'm still bleeding & still in pain it's all raw. I want to see a bfn & start again.

Sorry for rambly rants post.

How does temping work? I use Ovia and they have a way of tracking it but at what point in the day do you need to temp? And are you looking for a rise or fall?

Yellow you will be happy for them, but it's still so new. You need time. I'm so, so sorry. It's unbearably difficult. ❤

Conker I've never done it, but I understand it needs to be first thing, before you get up/out of bed. Ideally the very first thing as soon as you wake up.

I think at ovulation you should see a rise in temp. I'm not sure about after that.

Hi @conkerchops and sorry to see you here, it sounds like you have thoroughly been through the mill of late you poor thing.
In terms of temping you need a bbt thermometer, I think the one I have is called baby mad or something. It's from Amazon and came with its own little booklet. But yes, temp first thing in the morning before getting up to pee or anything, ideally as soon as you wake up, and at a consistent time. It generally is very helpful for people with long /short cycles to pinpoint when they ovulate.
In my case i found it very helpful after my mc's to prove to myself that my body still worked and still ovulated.
So there are two stages the one before ovulation where your temp will be low, then at ovulation there is a shift up the way. It won't help you with timing dtd as if your temp has risen, generally the egg is already off and out in the ether. But as I say it does give the reassurance of knowing what's happening. It also saved me a fortune in hpt's as when my temp dropped again at the end of cycle I knew that AF was due to appear. If it stays high you know you may be onto a winner!

Hi, just checking in. Sorry to see new faces on here, it's not an easy place to be.

I've found running really helpful in helping me feel normal again. I'd lost some confidence in my body after my mc, like I couldn't trust myself if that makes sense? But now I'm pretty much back up to my pre-pregnancy speed and fitness and feel much stronger again which helps.

I think we should be DTD around now, but in some ways I feel quite worried about the idea of being pregnant again. Which doesn't make anything feel very sexy We're trying anyway, but I'm not feeling optimistic for this month, and/or not sure if I'm quite ready anyway.

Anyway, I hope you're all enjoying the long weekend.

Hi all and sorry to see more newbies here.

I've just passed my fertile window for the month, used clearblue digital ovulation tests this month and think I picked up my surge at the start (Thursday afternoon) and tested it out until this morning when it was negative, although I have ovulation temp dip today so have done the last 3 days and am now in need of rest and chocolate tomorrow.

Those of you discussing running, I ran throughout my pregnancy first time which made it to 8+4 and my second I stopped as I was so worried and didn't even make it to 5 weeks - I found out just over 3 as I tested early (never again) so I think it's right if there's something wrong it won't make a difference. That being said I probably will just power walk next time I found out with it warming up I want to be careful.

Just into my TWW now and feeling relaxed at the moment; could be to do with my reflexology on wedneaday but I'm going to try not obsess and worry I may or may not be pregnant. Had a few glasses of fizz yesterday and will have a few tomorrow with a roast. See how long I can stay feeling this way.

Hope everyone is enjoying the long weekend and has a happy chocolate filled Easter Day tomorrow. Xx

Hope everyone's doing ok - so sorry to see so many new people.

I'm pretty gutted tonight - taken another test and this one came back fully negative (I would have been 4+6). I thought I'd accepted that this one definitely wasn't going to stick but turned out I was still a bit hopeful that it was just going to take a bit longer for the test to get darker. Just waiting for the bleeding and so hoping it's done asap. Not sure whether to TTC this month - I don't think there's any reason not to when it's so early but the thought of doing this three times in just over three months is a bit unbearable.

So sorry to hear that Lisa. I had a mc followed immediately by a chem. I'm three months down the line now and that time has definitely allowed me to build up some mental resilience for ttc again. That being said, the only reason I didn't ttc straight away was coz dh was away. Would have gone for it otherwise. Be kind to yourself over the next few days!

So sorry Lisa. Thinking of you.

Sorry Lisa
Take it at your own pace and just see how you feel. We took a break for 3 months after last mc and it was fundamentally good for us both emotionally and physically. Saying that I completely wanted to get back to it at least half that time. Genuinely only you can know if you are ok to go again.

Hi everyone...

Joined mumsnet 2 mins ago. Guess I jus thought needed to not feel alone.

Found out last month I had conceived (not planned) got my head round it spoke with partner (he was ecstatic) and 10 days later bled so hard. I didn't know what to do called 111 and they told me to ride it out. So here I am... a new month. Trying to conceive and still dealing with a mixed bag of emotions. Very strange emotions.

Just checking in... princess so sorry for your loss, you're in good company here and just remember everything you are feeling is valid. Feel free to let it out.
to lisa too, I hope the bleeding is out of the way soon as rubbish as that sounds.
Miami congratulations! How are you holding up?
I'm into the last few days of the TWW, AF due Thurs, and I'm trying not to raise hopes too much but have had similar symptoms to when I was pregnant before in the past couple of days. I just need to not think about it too much until I can test!
To wade in on the running debate, I also worried running contributed to my MC, but I think others are right that there's nothing any of us could have done any differently to prevent it. And with running I feel like the positives probably outweigh the negatives, so I probably would keep at it.
goes off to Google TWW symptoms

Thanks so much all - woke up bleeding this morning so at least didn't have to wait too long for that. Feel better today than yesterday. I think I'll go to the GP on Tues - nothing they can do, I know, but to have it logged a second time.

princess hugs to you, and sorry for your loss. It's hard when you and your partner are the only ones who know, so isolating--sometimes you just want to shout at people "your problems are nothing, I've just lost my baby ffs!" Sometimes you can't wait to be pregnant again, sometimes the thought of going through it all scares you to death. So this is the perfect place to come to because we all understand and we don't judge
lisa I'm so sorry, definitely speak to the GP. From what I've heard it sounds like although they might not refer to RMC until after 3, they sometimes, depending on the GP and situation, can give other recommendations. Take it easy this weekend, honey!

wlmcl did you enjoy your spa day? The Galgorm is lovely we went to a wedding there in the summer and unfortunately didn't get to use the thermal spa at the time as I was pregnant and had to work the next day in Belfast but definitely considering a visit back just to try the spa..
princess and lisa sorry for your losses. It's tough when you haven't told people and it's early as some people don't understand how you feel but you have some good company on here.
lisa definitely go to your gp as mine told me if I ever get a positive test even if it then turns negative I'm to tell them as they like to log it. I have a fantastic gp (even if I do need pyschic powers to tell me I will need to see her in 3 weeks time in order to ever get an appointment!) i went to her after a chemical pregnancy at end December (bleeding was heavy, crampy and lasted 10 days so I only did a test at that point and it was positive) and at that appointment in feb found out I was pregnant again but it was caught incredibly early. Unfortunately it ended in another miscarriage for us so that is 2 missed miscarriages and then the one in December which doc said could have been a chemical pregnancy but for purposes of referral to rmc she is going to count it. Her reckoning was that while another pregnancy has a good chance to work out well she didn't see any point in waiting to see if it goes wrong and making me go through that all over again. As wlmcl says I think it depends on your doc and maybe where you are but is worth keeping in touch with themy..
Hi anne how are you? I'm doing OK. Had been trying to avoid obsessing over mc and pregnancy and stay off Internet/ Google... Not always working though. Just had a few days away with my husband to stay with his parents. It was nice to get away and get a bit of a break. Although I was a bit worried going that his family would ask me about the mc.. They didn't directly Thought they might have between themselves as There were times no one would translate what was being said (they are Danish and mine is somewhat limited so I wouldn't have a clue if they were!)
Maybe better to remain oblivious and it was nice to get away for a few days and read lots of books :-)
Happy easter hope everyone enjoys lots of chocolate today!

Smurf Were you in Denmark? Would love to see it! And Galgorm is completely worth a trip if you can use the thermal spa village! I would do it with my mom or sister if they visit when I'm definitely not pregnant. They've thought of everything, and it's all with the aim of making you feel comfortable and relaxed--no matter how busy they may be behind the scenes, the place just oozes serenity. They were concerned that I may be pg (it's another 5 days until AF is due, 7 until I'm letting myself test...) so I didn't get a full body massage as booked by my SIL, but it was no bother for them to switch to a facial and head-neck-arm massage instead. X

OH, and my MIL knew the massage therapist since she was born. Of course. Can't walk 5 steps down any street in town without running into someone she knows--heck even every time we go to the airport!

wlmcl yes we were in Denmark for 5 days. We went to billund in south Denmark, near legoland. It is lovely but it was still cold and wet! We lived in Copenhagen for a year last year and it is definitely worth a visit also especially Tivoli gardens, last year it was about 15/ 20 degrees most days from the start of may! altho it was too big city for me to live it! (I never thought belfast was small until a year in Copenhagen!)
Oo that sounds lovely and it's great they were do accommodating! Fingers crossed for you next week!! I'm on day 14.. I've only had one af since erpc so hoping to be back into a regular cycle this month.. (I'm trying not to think too much about the possibility of being pregnant again! its not working )

Happy easter everyone - hope you are all having relaxing days!
The spa sounds absolutely amazing! My friend has found one near us that we can do while children are at school and be back for pick up so we might give that a whirl in next couple of weeks!
@lisa I would definitely tell gp and have it recorded - I had a chemical last year and didn't tell gp so technically won't count - although when we had the first of the two erpc's for this pregnancy the gynaecologist did say she would send off the tissue for testing as I have had three miscarriages just not in a row - had ds in between number 1 and number 2 and then number 2 and 3 in last 5 months - we are waiting for the results from that now.
According to ovia we have just entered the first fertile window after miscarriage 3 so have been having fun with dh - has been nice to reconnect that way after miscarriage and not just have all physical stuff as dr examinations if you know what I mean!!!! Not hoping for anything this month as I don't think I ovulated the first month after miscarriage 2 but do have lots of ewcm so you never know!!!!!
Hope you are all enjoying lots of chocolate!

I've an appointment to get bloods taken at the gp surgery on Wednesday morning.. My gp said these results are required for when I get the rmc appointment. The bloods had to be done 6 weeks post miscarriage, I'll be just over that Mark on Wednesday. Gp did give me a list of what they are doing blood tests for but I can't find it can anyone help me out? I think there were about 6 different things, I know one of them was for rubella immunity but can't remember the others...
Also will they just take one thing of blood and then test it for everything or will they need to do it more than once? While I'm glad they are doing it as maybe it will give us some answers I really don't like needles...

Smurf
They will take more then one vial I am afraid. But they will be quick and super professional about it. If you need them to stop just say, I did as I started to get a bit panicky.
I imagine they will test for clotting, thyroid (if you have any risk factors), maybe some baseline hormone ones?
See pic for all the rmc tests. Hope that helps. Xx

Hi everyone, can I join please?? So sorry to see so many others in the same position but so pleased to find a thread about this at the same time. Fell pregnant first time TTC #1 and have a happy healthy 2 and a half year old. Started TTC #2 in October, fell pregnant January and ended up a MMC found out at around 8 weeks after cramps and browny discharge. Scans showed blighted ovum and just a small empty sac. Had an op 2 weeks later and here we are now after one cycle and back to normal I ovulated Friday (using OPKs religiously as DH is in RAF and away during the week) and DTD four times over Friday/Saturday - a solid record for us since DD was born!! Anyway in my 2WW now and still feeling a bit empty about the MC, best friends are so supportive but one just had a baby 2 weeks ago and the other is due in about 2 weeks so feeling a bit lonely, has been so helpful reading everybody else's stories. I'm such an impatient person and hate having no control over this. FX to everyone in this thread we will all get our BFPs soon xx

Sorry you have to be here mamabear. I've only been here a few weeks, but everybody is very welcoming and supportive. It must be really difficult with your friends having their babies. Hope the tww gets better for you!