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[MotherOfBeagles]

I get twitchy at the end lol! So next rollover thread. Roll call?

Yes jam he's seeing a therapist for his issues and we both are seeing a counsellor to workout how to reconcile and move forward. Tough times, as I won't know what the end result will be until we get there.
Hope u manage to get a session with Dh!

Kate sorry bfn, still got fingers crossed. Any cramps?

Tee hope u are well and enjoying holidays x

Kiki time has really flown by! Nice to hear your progress. Keep us updated x

Kate not sure how I managed to miss your post yesterday, I'm so sorry it was followed by BFN. How cruel hope your DH got on okay, do you get his results soon? Fx for you both

That's great he's seeing the therapist footy even acknowledging he needs this is a really positive step

Disappointing sure, but totally expected. BFN on IC today.

Not sure when we get results. I'm not expecting them before our Aug 28 appt. LOW EXPECTATIONS. Every step of the way it has been going in with an idea of what will happen and then it not happening which crushes me. So I don't expect to get results, treatment or really anything other than info (maybe??) at the next appointment. If I go in expecting them to offer solutions and they don't, well experience tells me I don't cope well.

Take it steady Foot. I agree it's fantastic that you guys are starting to communicate, but don't do anything you don't want to do, just take it steady.

For once, my body is actually doing me a favour and starting af 11 dpo.... started spotting! At least it shortens the wait to next fw??

So going for Day 3 tests. I suppose CD 1 will be tomorrow so day 3 is Monday?

Low expectations is the name of the game. I tried to explain this to a friend the other day - long term TTC means you lose hope to avoid disappointment. But losing hope is shit as you feel sad all the time. Really hard balance to get right.

Can't believe they're making you wait that long for sperm results - can you definitely not call up for them?

I'm trying to to nag dh too much about this and everything else. He'd have to call up I assume... not sure he was given info how and when.

Not sure having the results before the appointment would really help us though... if they're fine it's all down to me. Not sure I need to find that out without the explanation of what the results mean. I think the results only help if there is a game plan.

Was it definitely AF in the end Kate?

Still no AF here and for the first time in a while, no cramps in LP! Usually I start noticing them a good week before AF is due. Maybe it's the lack of stress in the 2ww (as this was a non-trying month), or maybe we have been conceiving and those pains are linked to my body working hard to reject potential pregnancies. Who knows, but it's certainly unusual for me!

How's everyone else going? FW for you Jam?

Oh @tee, that sounds promising! !what dpo are you or you were not keeping track? It would be amazing to see a sneaky bfp.everything crossed for you hun.

Any news @kate?

Good luck with lots of dtd jam

No it wasn't af... not sure what is was. Still bfn (on ic). 13 dpo today, so expecting af on Tuesday (and I mean expecting).

It might be because you've just switched off a teeny bit tee... symptom spotting is the worst and we simply imagine symptoms that aren't there or magnify tiny anomalies into full-blown symptoms.

Ttc is shit.

Yes I think it's most likely all down to being more relaxed tbh.
Mimi it won't be a sneaky bfp this month. When I say non-trying, I mean we used protection from a week before I was due to ovulate. The Consultant was very firm about us waiting until my results were in, so this has been a very long month! For the first time I'm actually keen for AF to arrive, so we can get started with the new cycle and medication plan.
If it doesn't arrive, than it would truly be a miracle and I would be in for a good telling off! Would also be very on edge about miscarrying again.

Kate there must be a tiny part of you wondering about implantation bleeding?

I suppose I am wondering. But in this madness, I'm sure it was just one of those things?? Nothing I can do to change the outcome...

cd three tests this week to look forward to and I guess that appointment where they will tell us nothing and postpone everything and then make me do something daft like one more test (day 21 likely)... and it will be of no use is on the 28th.

I'm not sure if this is just self preserving pessimism or depression.

Oh sorry @tee, I didn't realize 🙈.lt surely must have been a long cycle but also relaxing because you are not calculating every day. Hope your new cycle with new medication will bring some joy at the end. Are you back from your holiday?

Sending you hugs and chocolate @kate. Ttc is shit and depressing hundreds. Be strong

Yes it was long and very disheartening at the beginning of the cycle knowing I was so far off 'trying' again! But actually in the end it was good to have a break. Got back from hol yesterday, off to an Afternoon Tea in a bit, so that'll be nice.

How's it going your side?? Any more insight into your dates? Does DH know yet?
If I were you, I would be very tempted to go for an early scan to determine where you might be? x

Enjoy your afternoon tea with lots of cake .

Dh came back last night and is still in shock. He thinks lm pulling his leg. Will try and get an appointment tomorrow for the scan. Can't wait to know how far l am .how l wish I was like one of those on "I didn't know l was pregnant " .only to be told lm 6 7 months gone hmm.

Very wise to wait for his results Kate it will save you lots of stressful googling. Hope it's a surprise BFP for you but can understand you having low expectations

Glad you've enjoyed the break from the madness tee
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Mimi* he must be in shock! How old are your DC?

FW starts next week, sure it will be fine as usual. Feel like I'm coming down with a bug though

Hope you are feeling okay today @jam .think dh will believe when I get a scan .l too don't have symptoms and it's rather bizarre because with dd , I puked until the day l delivered. Kids are ,13,9,3🙈

Any af yet @kate?

How was your tea tee?:any af signs?

14 dpo bfn on an ic. Really bad cramps this morning. No af (yet) but it's imminent... I can just tell. Not quite sure why we bother anymore! I am sure I will feel better closer to our appointment.

I've read on the clinic website they claim to start 'treatments' within 4 months... at this rate (2 appointments two months apart), not holding my breath!!!!

Mimi you have a 6 year gap with your youngest 2, how do you find that? I'm looking at that kind of gap for my DS now I think. He's 5 in September, he'd only just turned 3 when we started TTC!
Can't wait for you to have a scan and give us all the details!!
Kate I think you will feel better when the ball really gets rolling with your referral. It's pants you've had so much waiting.
Really hope we are all upduffed by Christmas.
CD1 here, 2 days late! Wasn't tempted to test because we 'prevented' this month! Quite pleased with timing now as I am likely to ovulate on a Saturday, which is always best placed for DTD. Booked DS in for a sleepover with Nanny already.

tee the gap is not bad at all. the older sister takes good care of the younger one . You will have it a lot easier because they will be so eager to help out with what the baby needs ,unlike having 2 little ones who need your total attention. I lol at your dtd plans. best of luck hun.

Like tee said, you will feel better when the ball starts rolling kate.l know it feels like forever but just look at the journey we have already covered, there is light at the end of the tunnel dearest. You will love your lo a lot more

So where the hell is af?! I'm a day late at 15 dpo. Bfn on frer this morning. I just want it to start for once so I can get my bloods done!!!!!!

I suppose she's just trying to annoy me and she'll show up in good time (to make the bloods awkward).

So I feel like my head is going to explode!!! I noticed that my follow up is on August 28, which is a bank holiday. So I rang up and they thought it would be pushed back until september 11th but to ring back in a few days to confirm. That's 10 fucking weeks since the first appointment!!!!!!! They said 6 max!!!!!!!!

I suppose it's a bit moot as I still can't do the day 3 appointment because my fucking period still hasn't bothered to arrive!!!

Oh fingers so tightly crossed you don't need the appointment and af is no show Kate!

She's heeeere!

How the hell are you staying so positive Jam? I honestly was suicidal for a minute back there.

I think I'm really angry about the appointment because that is my entire summer holiday spent just waiting for it. And that means I've had nearly two months off work, show up and say 'hi, I need a day off and no I don't want to tell you what it's about'. They said 5-6 weeks. That's 10.

I can't even just go somewhere else because It's not like they can do the tests and get me results more quickly now, is it?? It's every time I have a slight hope that something will happen and it doesn't that my world falls apart. In the scheme of things, what is august 28 vs sept 11? But I had that date in my head.... and now it's gone.

Does anyone know how long day 3, chlamydia and rubella bloods take to get results? So if I rang them up, when could I (demand) get an appointment for and my results would be ready?

So turns out it takes 4- 5 weeks to get the chlamydia test - which they did NOT tell me. I am so ridiculously angry at thwese people!!!! Booking my appointment for bank holiday when they're shut, not telling me how late night the test result takes!!!!!! I think I need to change clinics but then it's just more fucking delays!!!!