40+ ttc: bring on the bfp's!

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Continuation of the long-running 40+ ttc thread.

Link to the previous thread.

Hi Clara

I've got to go to the hospital on Wednesday afternoon for my day 21 blood tests, fingers crossed I should get the results early next week. I would say I have ovulated as I had a positive OPK and my temperature went up and so far has stayed up. AF is due a week on Thursday so fingers crossed.
I had thought naively it seems that I would have had a baby by Christmas, this is my last month for that to happen. So therefore to save on too much disappointment, I have now said that I would like to be pregnant by Christmas. Fingers crossed that reduces the stress I initially put myself under.
I have a feeling if I'm to fall pregnant at all it's likely to be over the summer holidays, when I don't have to put up with classes of teenage school children and the stresses of my job.
Hope everyone else is ok. Anyone got any good news to share?

Hi Jelly, how did your appointment go on Weds? I think you're right that our chances are better when work stresses down, just means more energy all round!

Hi Clara, I had 5 viles of blood taken. I should get the results back early next week.
I have a friend at work in her 30's who has been ttc for 3 years now, her consultant said stress has nothing to do with conceiving! i have no idea why they would say that!

Hi everyone, I've not posted for a while as nothing's been happening with me, very glad to see some bfps, congratulations and hope they are sticky!

I'm in my first actual fertile phase for 5 yrs and quite excited although chances very low, of course. If not successful this month we will start ivf next month.

Hope everyone is well and hope there will be good news soon!

Hi Caluna,

Glad you've recovered from the op and am keeping everything crossed for you. Have you got everything lined up to start ivf next month just in case?

Nothing happening with me either. It's coming up to a year of ttc so feeling quite negative. But AF due Weds so no wonder I'm feeling negative. I know I'm not pg this cycle. And starting to come to terms with the fact it might not happen.

Sorry you are feeling low, Alibaba. Was also feeling like that last month. Part of the reality of ttc in our forties, I suppose. At 41 though (I think that's your age?) your chances are still really quite good. It's hard though.

How come you're sure it won't be this month? Was the timing not good for you this month? It's a nightmare for us this month with the Easter holidays and work and other commitments, we are hoping just to dtd twice days 10 and 11, expecting to ovulate day 12. Just hoping it's enough but realistically we just can't dtd all the times we need to.

We are phoning the clinic tomorrow to get the ivf set up for CD1. Are you going to try anything else?

Thanks Caluna.

I just know AF is coming. Spotting and no pg symptoms. I was fairly optimistic as timing was good and it happened this time last year. Weirdly absolutely no cramps this cycle. I normally get them from 5-9dpo onwards. But zilch. So perhaps no fertilisation this month - who knows!

We've had a stomach bug for the past week which I'm sure hasn't helped with ttc. I've not been raking any supplements and have been eating junk food!

I'm out again this month with the arrival of af this morning 😢
I've just phoned my docs and the receptionist said my day 21 results were in and all normal, but the earliest I can get in to see the doctor to go through the results is next Wednesday 😔
Having turned 49 last week, I have a feeling that my time may be up and that our only option would be for donor ivf so going to broach that again with my oh later today 😔

Oh dear, Jellybean. Sounds like donor could work if you would both be happy with it.

Alibaba, fingers crossed for you, hope your af doesn't come. Tummy bugs can upset things as well. I don't think missing a few days off supplements makes too much difference, I missed mine today as I had a long day at work.

So it's CD 11 for me, got a nearly positive opk this evening so either just missed the surge or it's just coming.

Well I posted a few weeks back. I was due my AF yesterday. I done a cb digital and got a positive pregnant 2-3 weeks. He or she will be born around 19/12 how exciting. I'm 41 btw 😀 I am a bit nervous due to my age and could do with some others my age on the same journey??

Congratulations! Come over to the 'pregnant at 40 and over' thread in Pregnancy!

Thanks greedyduck I am on my way over 😀

Congratulations Oldschool I've just turned 40 and am getting worried it won't happen for us. Love hearing of the bfps on this thread x

Thank you minime. I know it's so frustrating at times but I found when I used the clear blue dual ovulation tests I conceived straight away. I was on cd2 of trying and fell. Keep trying and good luck 😀

Congrats old school and good luck! Was it your 2nd cycle trying? Any other tips?

Jelly, sorry for AF.. v tough. Hope chats w oh go well.

Ali, hope you're ok. Hope your time will come.

Congratulations old school! Makes me happy to hear of another bfp - lovely news!

Hi Clara,

Thank you, yes it was my 2nd cycle. Not cd2 ha ha.
The only tip I have is use cb digital dual ovulating kit. It helped me track my highest peek and to dtd as much as possible 😀

Thank you cluna 😀

Great stuff old school.. I've never had much success w opks but will maybe try out next cycle.

How is everyone? Just starting tww here..

I'm in the 2ww as well Clara. Not sure where I'm at in dpo but am on cd22 and waiting patiently 😊

It's worth a try Clara, it worked for me 😀 good luck x x

Also in tww, af due around 26th. Good luck to us all!

Congrats Oldschool 😊
I had an appt with the doc on Wednesday and she said my progesterone level was on the low side but not impossible. She gave me a prescription for 4 months of chlomifene which I know I'm very lucky to get on the NHS considering my age - I was 49 at the beginning of this month. She did suggest that we start looking into donor ivf straight away though so that it can be in place in the autumn should the chlomifene not work. OH doesn't like talking about ttc at the best of times (although he did come with me to the docs this time), he doesn't want it to take over our relationship and take away from why we got to get her in the first place, and will not consider ivf until we've had the 4 months of the meds 😔
How is everyone else?

Great you have a fab GP Jelly! Did she give you the progesterone level? Fingers crossed the Clomid works. Have you started it yet?

I'm ok, in the TWW but not hopeful as had 2 bugs recently. A v&d one followed by a cold. Was so dehydrated around FW, had no cm at all!

I'm becoming more relaxed the more time that passes. Very lax with my supplements, liquids and exercise.

It's really out of my hands, not much I can do as we won't be having any intervention.

Just need to get my positivity back!

Just thought I'd post for a bit of moral support wallows selfishly

We only decided to start TTC when I was 38 and a half, so this is our own fault for leaving it late. Since then we've been pg twice, both ending in 1st trimester miscarriages. Now we're looking into adoption but still holding out hope of a biological child. AF arrived today - every month it's like a little bereavement. I feel awful to be so down about this when I have so much to be grateful for in my life.

Anyway instead of drowning my sorrows in hard liquor I thought I'd vent on here a little bit. Rant over!