40+ ttc: bring on the bfp's!

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Continuation of the long-running 40+ ttc thread.

Link to the previous thread.

I meant bfeeding!! Silly auto text!!

I have been reading this thread for a while now whilst desperately trying to conceive and I thought I would share my good news. After two years of ttc I have just found out I am pregnant. My partner is away at the moment and I want to tell him when he comes back so I have not yet told anyone. This will be my first baby and I've just turned 40. I had an appointment at the fertility clinic last week and was waiting for my period to start so they could arrange for a hycosy test, my partner had just had his tests done too. I had been getting very down and we were contemplating the fact we might not be able to have children. I know it is still very early days but I just thought I would share as I was always encouraged by other peoples good news. Good luck to everyone who is trying.

Congrats Cottage!!!

Congratulations cottage! That really is great news! So happy for you.

nice to see a bfp!! congratulations cottage!

Congratulations cottage!! Great news! Hope you feel well

Congrats Cottage!!! That's great 😊

hi Rugby, don't think I'll test early, tend to just wait and see, also had hysteroscopy this month so little chance. Just asking on bf as giving it up helped me conceive dc2 after a year of trying I think! Good luck!!

Congrats cottage! Love a bfp! :)

Thanks Clara - yes I gave up a few months ago so I hope it won't affect things now. Interesting that you got pg after you gave up.

Hi ladies! Can I join?
I'm 38. I have my DS naturally. He is 7. I started TTC almost 2.5 years ago. One miscarriage 19 months ago. Recently, I discovered I have low amh at .6 ng/ml = 4.2 pmol/l. I did my first ICSI but only 2 eggs retrieved. 2 embryos ( grade one) and one has Chromosomal distortions. So only one transferred in day 6. Unfortunately BFN. Another RE said: "Don't do any IVF or ICSI, your chance is less than 5% cause of low amh ". He made me so depressed, so devastated and so sad. I'm crying all the time😭. Why did he say that?! I still have few eggs. I think some ladies have amh less than mine but they still do IVF or ICSI!!
What you think ladies?!
Give me some hope plz. Can't imagine that I can't get pregnant again😭.

Hi Ladies,
My husband and I have been trying for over a year. I'm turning 41 this weekend, he's 39. We went through all the tests and all is good, but we still have NHS IVF coming up in December/January if I manage to lose the weight. I've been on a Low Carb diet since June and went down 12lbs so far. Need another 14lbs though.

Sorry about that, accidentally hit post. :(
I'm on 14dpo today and no sign of AF so far. My temps are still up, but since this is only my second month on Low carb, I was wondering if one of you has done this and noticed any difference in their cycle? I wonder and worry that AF could just be late because of my change in lifestyle.

i dont think lifestyle changes make that much difference to cycles imho mare - fingers crossed your temp staying up is a good sign!! when i got pg at 44 i was working shifts, drinking too much, still smoking and dp and i didnt even live together. now were doing everything "right" and bfn every month. i think a huge proportion of this is down to lady luck.

memeg so sorry ive no experience with ivf and dp doesnt want to discuss it as an option. you might get more experienced peeps on the infrertility boards as i think a few posters there have or are having ivf...good luck though x

Hi everyone. Just checking in, hopefully to get some more action on this thread. I am in my two week wait, this is the last month before IVF, so I feel like I have a lot riding on this. But I know in my heart it's negative. I have zero symptoms nothing at all. Boobs are flat and lifeless. I am eight days after presumed ovulation. I'm feeling especially down right now as I think I was expecting this fairytale miracle to occur. This is really emotionally difficult. Next month we will have to begin the saga of IVF, deciding who to use, where to use them, whether to do testing, and obviously the saga and drama of whether it will even work. It's hard to imagine the disappointment of IVF not working, given the disappointment I feel right now. I want to just run away and hide and not do any of it but I know I will regret it.

TillBill i know exactly how you feel. Month after month of hoping AF won't show but she always does. I think we have sex on the correct days ( i know exactly when ovulation takes place ) and boom there she is again. I have read some hopeful stories on here so keep your chin up. How old are you again? I'll be 40 in two months and swore if it didn't happen again by 40 I was done. My daughter is 15. What is even more worry sum to me is my BF has never even gotten me pregnant. We have no history of miscarriage because we've never gotten that far. I fear there's something wrong with his swimmers.

I'm 41.5. Officially on the second half of 41. I wish I could go back to not thinking about it all the time, but that's impossible. Loss in Feb, right at my 41st birthday.

There might sound bad but for me right now a loss for me right now would give me hope that it might happen in the future. I got pregnant four years ago by someone different and was a total accident. Lost that baby at 2 and a half months. My partner has an eight year old but no one thinks the baby is actually his. We all think the ex cheated and got pregnant but told him it was his.

Hi Till, feel for you the tww is really tough, esp when it feels like it's just not happening. AF came a few days ago for me so only 24/25 day cycle which doesn't seem good! I think I'm having to get used to the idea that no3 may never happen. But I'm a few years older than you at 44. Hopefully at 41/42 you can still get another one in!!! My Ds was born at 42 after a year of trying and one mmc.

Where have you got to on IVF planning. Have you done amh etc and your Dh SA? We're also considering IVF this Autumn but I have to work out if there's any point at my age!

Hi all. Just popping by to say hello. Being reassured by this thread and glad I'm not alone try at 40. I'm cd11 and have had the fattest most positive opks all day. Have had no mid cycle pain which is the first time in ages. Wondering if that's a result of the reflexology I've been having. Feeling optimistic and trying to stay positive to see if it will make a difference (along with taking coenzyme 10, keeping feet warm, drinking more water...trying all this month )

just checking in. i got a peak on the clearblue opk yesterday but its moved my fertile window meaning today is the last day - i didnt even know i was in it.

im also now considering seeing a consultant on infertility privately just to know im doing all i can and give me a reality check. why did i get pg at 44. another pg is now feeling unobtainable. i think if a doctor told me to give over id find it easier (except i cant put the possiblilities out of my mind!)

So now I'm on day 26, absolutely nothing going on in symptom land. Just waiting for AF to come any day now. I've gotten all of my labs done, begin the priming protocol with the RE on day one of my cycle. Really hoped for the miracle that would mean it wouldn't come to this but no it's not gonna happen. It's all out-of-pocket, so we are prepared to do one cycle and see how I respond. If I get very poor response, which is predicted, we will probably just stop there. My AMH is so low, there's really no reason to assume that this will work. But I suppose we will give it a try. I'm actually quite scared of the hormones and what it might do to my emotions, they've been all over the map for the last six months despite being a previously pretty healthy person both physically and emotionally. So hopefully I can make it through without scaring my kids to death.

i think im the oldest on the thread . it just doesnt happen at 45 does it.

till im considering see a consultant privately for options. please do let me know how you get on..

I will. I don't think I'll be able to make it through this without narrating and documenting all of this saga through it all. Please keep us all updated as I'm dying to hear from each of you as well.