Thread 26. TTC #1 - Calm as a hysterical cucumber

[AlexiaB]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Here's our Grad's Thread. May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly, don't convince yourself that you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Oh gaelach that must have been a huge shock. I hope you're ok. I can only imagine how that feels but it is completely natural to feel jealous and envious and don't beat yourself up. We've all been there (and felt bad for feeling it). However a couple of things you might reflect on:
If she's having triplets, chances are she had to do more than one round of IVF - it's unusual for clinics to put more than one embryo back in UK at least unless there's been failed attempts or she's over 40 (which I'm guessing she's not). What I'm trying to say is that she has been on an incredibly hard journey and no doubt has been trying for a very long time. When the shock has passed I think you'll be able to be happy for her - she's kind of earned it if that makes sense?
Secondly, maybe she has advice for you regarding your fertility that could help you get pregnant quicker. Did you ask her what made them try ivf? Not sure if you have that relationship.
Try not to feel upset she didn't tell you. I haven't told my sister - I haven't told anyone except one friend doing ivf at the same time. It's so hard to talk about, for some people it's just too difficult to tell family.
I hope when the shock passes you can see some joy that you'll be an auntie, and hopefully you'll have a baby not too long after her and your babies will have cousins of a similar age which is an amazing blessing!
I don't blame you for feeling shit though - if my sister or BIL beat us to it, I'd be very upset too after 2 years trying. Hugs from me. Stay strong.

Turns out running 8 miles with no training isn't the best idea. I feel like I've been hit by a truck 😩

Have you tested Kerry? Fx

Kath I'm pretty sure I did have that test but I have no idea what the result was and I had to leave it with the consultant. He looked at all my numbers and didn't bat an eyelid so I'm not too worried. I'll ask when we have our follow up. Fx AF stays well away, are you off on hols?

Skipper big hugs from me that sounds so hard. Maybe give yourself some distance from the pregnants for a while, if you can. I've distanced myself from a 'friend' who has a one year old and is very braggy and competitive - it's helped no end not seeing her. Hope AF isn't too bad for you and you have some nice things to distract you this weekend.

Hi kav

Gaelach bless you that must be so hard - of course it's completely natural to feel that way. I'm pretty sure most of us would feel that way too. I'm one of four and the only one married and everyone assumes (including me) that I'll be the first to have a baby. If one of my sisters got pregnant now it would totally knock me for 6. You will get used to the idea and you'll have three amazing little nieces/nephews who will be cousins for your LO. Are you able to talk to her about her TTC journey? Sounds like she's had a time of it too.

Gaelach, that sounds incredibly hard for you. I life in fear of my younger bro and his girlfriend announcing that they're expecting and I can't even imagine what it must feel like.

Jam, I'm sure if there was a problem, the doc would have mentioned it. I think there's a big range of 'normal' for AMH results too so I'm sure it's absolutely fine. Sadly away next week for a work trip and not a holiday. It should be quite fun though (if I ignore the fact that I have to present to a couple of hundred people at a conference as part of it!)

Thanks for the support. I just realized that if she's been going through a lot, there's a good chance she's on here so I've removed my message. I'm feeling a bit better now than I was earlier. Honestly so shocked. But thanks kath jam and geeup yous are so good.

Kathrino that's so weird. I am also going to be at a conference next week. Where is the conference you are going to?

Flash, it's in New York (what a terrible life I have...). Are we going to have yet another weird coincidence on this thread??

Haha, no we're safe. Mine is in Marrakech. I'm part of the organising team and one of the only women of child-bearing age so it would have been pretty easy to figure out who I was!

It would be quite fun to meet up with people on here. Maybe when we all finally get our sticky BFPs!

New York sounds fab!

Gaelach - geeup has got there before me and given you a lot of solid advice. Don't think of this as a competition, think of it as an opportunity to learn more about what happened, her route into IVF and the reasons why. I think a good heart to heart will be incredible for you both.

Jam - thanks mate. AF has been utterly horrible. I thought I was over the worse of the cramping but last night I got woken up at 2am with chronic pain. Took some Paramol but threw up 15 mins later from the pain and wasn't sure if I should take any more. So at 3am I had a bath in scolding hot water, stayed there till 4am. Then got into bed wet and drifted off for maybe 15 mins before being woken by wave 2. Horrible! I'm now at work completely zoned out from exhaustion. How are you doing? Is AF gone yet?

Oh Skipper that sounds awful, you poor thing. Take it easy and make sure you have a really relaxing comfy evening on the sofa (unless you have other more exciting plans!)

I've decided to go have a curry with OH and have real alcoholic beer or 3. Does anyone else have any nice plans?

Christ skip you really go through it 😩 you must be exhausted. Sorry if I'm teaching you to suck eggs (weird saying) but do you use heat patches or hot water bottles? Heat really helps me a lot. Also mefenic acid from your gp - that stuff is amazing. It's an NSAID so not great for fertility but I think once a month can't hurt. Curry and beers sounds just what you need.

Hope you enjoy your work trips kath flash and good luck giving that talk kath - hats off that is a lot of people!

This weekend will be quiet, I'm going to try and get started with some sorting and clearing out ahead of moving. DH has just set off to Denver and will be home Sunday. I'm eyeing up a ceramics market opening tomorrow and I've got birthday drinks for a friend tonight at her flat.

Happy Friday all xx

Marrakech sounds fab Flash, I've always wanted to go there. I hope you get some downtime to explore!

sk1pper, you poor thing. I've never felt so lucky to have relatively unproblematic periods! Curry + beer are always an excellent choice though.

We've got a busy weekend. MIL's birthday tomorrow, DH running a half marathon on Sunday morning and then a 1st birthday party for my friend's son. Plus I have to pack at some point!

I'm off to Marrakech tomorrow so no fun plans for me as will be working all weekend. But some nice meals and hopefully a swim or two will make it a bit more enjoyable!

Great work on the run jam. I'm a bit of a running junkie so that why I remembered. I'm one of those boring people who loves to talk about running at any opportunity! Just think of the pain and good pain 😉

kath and flash The work trips sound amazing. Seriously, I'm excited if I get a free lunch on a course I go on!

sk1pper so sorry about AF. She sounds like right bitch. Hope you're holding up. Pregnant people and babies are the hardest to deal with. You should be proud of yourself for dealing with that and hormones, beer is the perfect reward.

kerry any news?

gaelach I missed your message but gee's advice sounds amazing (as always!) I hope you're ok.

First weekend in a while I've not been to see my bro. He's doing a bit better now so has lots of friends visiting. We're all piling down next weekend for his birthday.
So this weekend is going to be chilled...bliss! Coffee, dinner, a bit of house stuff, shagging and a big long lie in!

Happy Friday to you all...you're all bloody brilliant.

All your jobs sound so interesting compared to mine haha enjoy your trips kath and flash

Aw sk1pper I hope the pain goes away soon, sounds horrendous what you have to go through each month

gaelach I didn't see your original message but get the gist from what the others have said, that must have been a huge shock. My SIL told me the other week that she had to do a pg test as AF was late, it was negative but I found that really hard to hear as she's much younger and not even ttc. Hope you're ok.

We're off to Nottingham this weekend to meet up with friends which should be fun, although it's normally really boozy when we catch up but I'm in the TWW but not far enough in to test so it's going to be weird not drinking..

Have a lovely weekend everyone

Hey gals, sorry thought I'd written a long message this morning but doesn't seem to have posted 😫 Sorry to all having shitty times, and thanks for all the support (especially loved the beautiful womble comment 😂).

AF is a bitch and I am so sorry she got you skipper , and that last night was such a struggle 💐 Your DH sounds incredible though- what a lovely message 😊

Sorry for your results hopeful, hope you're doing ok 💐

Well done on the run jam! (And last nights wine 👍)

Pyjamas hope all ok with your DH now?

Glad your brother is doing better macs, fantastic news!

Gaelach just guessing at what's happening from others posts, but it is human to feel upset when someone else has something you're so desperate for. The others have written it so well, stay strong 💐

Sure I've missed people but trying to remember what I wrote earlier- there's too much chat to go back through again! Hope you all have lovely weekends and forget this TTC shit!

I had my scan today (waiting in a room with about 20 pregnant ladies was not the best start 😑)- I've got polycystic ovaries. Have just got home and finally burst into tears- know it's not the end of the world but now I know there's something definitely making it harder to conceive it makes me feel like it's pointless trying until we have medical help. And CD34 so just waiting for AF to rock up now and make me wallow in self pity a bit more! Woe is me!

Ah binky that must have been a shock. Did you have any idea before? It's a lot to process but hopefully now they can help regulate your cycles. Is it metformin that helps with pcos?

Glad your brother is doing so well macs. Ah so you're a runner! Any recovery tips? I am struggling badly today. Running 8 miles with no training is such a bad idea!!

Anyone else see that BBC interview today with the kids who burst in? I must have watched it 20 times, it's so funny 😂

binky grr to today what a bitch but yes yes yes not the end of the world you know what the deal is now and can now make positive steps. Don't give up it's totally possible without intervention but you now know what you need to help you further. Sorry you had to sit in that waiting room of doom though hmm not the best

jam totally did was sniggering at my desk did you notice the lady had her pants down a bit looks like she must have been on the loo or something when they made a run for it

macs pleased to hear about your brother good news oh and your weekend sounds lovely just what I need but noooo we getting our cloakroom sorted out so it'll be scruffs for me and paint in hair time

skip that sounds awful hope it has eased off and you get a good nights sleep beer might help you drift off

I'm having opk shitness either I'm doing it wrong or I still haven't ovulated hmmm I did miss one day when I was away for the night and didn't pack a test...what's the likelihood that if you miss the exact day it won't show up at all the next? Have had had a few vague lines but no strong line yet meh

Oh and CM has been random as well like quite sticky weds and yesterday white and egg whitey at the same time and today clear (sorry tmi)