Thread 26. TTC #1 - Calm as a hysterical cucumber

[AlexiaB]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Here's our Grad's Thread. May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly, don't convince yourself that you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

I just typed a big reply and lost it arghhhhh!

jam not much symptoms more moist (leading to a lot of knicker checking) and some cramps/stretching. Bit less today but have mostly been sitting down and less active today. I think your OH has got in to a habit which we are all probably guilty of. Think it's a British thing to pop down for a few to the pub. We drink because it's the weekend, had hard day, had good day, or because IT has crashed the systems 😂. We are not really a culture for sitting down to food and a little alcohol unfortunately. Will be interested to hear if your consultant gives a different opinion again, seems to vary from doctor to doctor.

In terms of ttc/pregnancy I think it is hard for men to connect with it. As women we have physical changes we can read and feel and experience. Men only have to have sex when we prompt them. And although this seems easy for us I think they also feel that they are not as involved or invested as we are if that makes sense? In a way it must be quite scary to be involved in something so life changing but not have any control over it? I don't know about you but I was raised to believe that the minute you have unprotected sex you will fall pregnant and have a baby. Most men, bless them, think they will have sex with us and their super sperm will impregnate us instantly! Think their ego's take a bit of a battering when they realise it's not that straight forward.

I feel like I've been hit on the head with a brick today. I don't feel like I've woken up! Maybe because it's grey and cold and yesterday was warm and sunny.

Aww flash hope you are not getting the bug we have all seem to be getting its horrible

Eurgh I hope not peaches. I do feel really run down today, and headachey, so will tuck myself up tonight after acupuncture with a good meal and an early night!

Sounds like a plan flash. I'm having roast chicken and veggies for dinner and can't wait to get curled up on the couch and watch some TV under my fleece cover. We need the sunshine back!

Peaches I think you have hit the nail on the head there, particularly their thoughts about their super sperm! I think DH thought he just had to look at me & that was it! Although we're on cycle 3, this is our first proper go at lots of sex during FW, and he's so on board & enthusiastic that I think he will be in for a shock if this month isn't ours!

Relaxed symptom spotting has revealed some ewcm... at 7dpo. This is very weird altogether. Any advice/experience? I had a static smiley and +ive opk on cd13. Also have been running to the loo quite a bit, and to quote someone on here a few threads back, some non-urgent diarrhea (tmi, sorry).

flash I'm very interested in this acupuncture lark. Can you tell me a bit about it?

Gaelach, I'm trying to think of the most delicate way to say this...sometimes I find that...enthusiastic...lavatory happenings can dislodge stuff that's got left behind. I hope it's a good sign for you in any case!

I think you're spot on Peaches (and it totally links back to the conversation about booze). I feel like everything I do and every decision I make is rooted in TTC whereas all DH has to do is occasionally perform. Other than that, I don't think he ever really thinks about whereas god knows how many times I think about it a day.

Hope everyone feels better soon as well. I thought I was coming down with something but I think it's bastard hayfever starting earlier than ever.

kath enthusiastic lavatory happenings! another excellent description. Yous are wordsmiths in this group.

gaelach I definitely had that symptom when I got my last bfp. Then again I sometimes have it before AF too...argh!

Harriet I nodded at knowing he will love it when baby comes. My DH is so paternal towards our cat it's ridiculous. He infantilises him more than I do!

Peaches so so true! Yes they have less control and yes it must be a massive ego blow. And about the brits and our booze culture - so true.

Gaelach I think clear cm is not unusual in the TWW but I'm not sure about EWCM - pretty sure you're only meant to get that when your fertile? Kath makes a good point!

I am having a bit of a mental cycle this month. Even though I had my period and I've now ovulated I keep getting thoughts pop into my head that I'm pregnant it's completely ridiculous. I think it's my poor brain just addled with wanting it and it's overriding my senses. I don't test anymore and am thinking maybe I should start testing again as at least my brain can't argue with BFNs?!

I think so girls. When men tell their friends or work colleagues their OH is pregnant it's all firm hand shakes and pats on the back and very much a proud peacock moment. Where as us women are like, oh, how are you feeling? How far alonger are you? Where you ttc long? What's your secrets or tips? Haha. But that's because we know exactly what this is all about!!

kath absolutely. We are all about this 24/7. Thankfully we have each other to keep ourselves sane! 😊 and love the enthusiastic lavatory happenings 😂 made me laugh too gaelach.

kay when it was clear it wasn't going to be a quick bfp after our mc my other half started goggling male fertility factors. Now that was an eye opener! 😂 the super sperm myth was soon debunked!

jam you know best if you should test or not. Strangely enough, I dream about a bfp/babies loads but in run up to this bfp I had a really weird dream I was presenting on a stage and my period came mid speech, like epic spurts of blood appearing all over my legs and the audience was shouting at me to make it stop! Woke up in a sweat and sure I would find af had started. I'm putting that one down to my not being well and having a temperature but wow it was horrible!

Ladies sorry about being AWOL. Fricking horrid time... I guess I am getting there. I have felt very supported by you all just have been having problems concentrating for any length of time and I know how fast this thread moved!!

I have not read through what I have missed but hope you will tell me about numerous BFPs.

gaelach ooo going to the loo a lot is good! Sucks about the shits though, I'm one extreme to the other the last few days! I'd be more than happy to share about acupuncture. Is there anything in particular you'd like to know?

kwick massive hugs. We love you. peaches got a bfp in case you hadn't seen!

Kwick, you don't need to apologise for anything at all and you have nothing to hang your head in shame about. I've been thinking about you often and am sending you so much love and strength. I can't even begin to imagine what you've been through

Congratulations peaches!!!!

I love you too flash and kathrino 💕

Have any of you tried the parking threads? I think one of you recommended one about nicolarse? Well I have been on 3 different parking threads in the last little while and each one has been deleted by MNHQ!!!! It is most disconcerting when a thread suddenly disappears!!!

Hope everyone is doing okay today! Has anyone tried the one-step ovulation tests (little dippers?) - I switched to them this month but I'm not finding them as easy to use as the clearblue ones - any tips?

DH just asked why I'd put the cheese straws in the cleaning cupboard. My first thought was, maybe it's pregnancy brain! Oh 7 do, how I've missed your craziness....

Kwick 😚 we've missed you. No need for apologies you have been through the wringer. It's lovely to see you, I've been thinking of you lots too. I hope your family have been taking good care of you. MNHQ remove parking threads??? What's this madness 😤

What a dream peaches! Bet you were glad to wake up

Kaydee I use the one steps and have no problems. What are you having trouble with?

Flash that's exactly what is happening to me - expect for I'm 3 DPO and I'm still hung up on the last egg! Let alone this one! I've lost it.

Thanks for the replies yesterday guys- was a mental day and I crashed and burned when I got home. Collected my blood results today- anyone know anything about high sex binding hormone globulin??! The GP hasn't rung me about the results but it does have a star saying "appointment booked"- not sure if this means my scan follow up, but that's just a scan, I want to speak to someone! Especially as I'm going to have to change my scan appointment as have a work thing I can't get out of 😫 Dr Google not that much help so far and obviously now I'm driving myself crackers catastrophising! 😕

Thanks london for the list. Sorry that AF hit winging 😞

Hope your dream comes true flash...not long til testing date! FX for baby brain! And macs how's knicker watch going??

Skipper 💐 sorry to hear about your cramping and that you're feeling so down. Your OH sounds so supportive and that you've discussed possible future options is excellent. And don't some people say that once they think of another plan it just happens for them, like they take the stress off?- really hope that's the case for you

London sorry that you've had a disagreement with your DH. The ideas about rewarding good behaviour like a pet sound like a plan!

Hi bluebell, sorry you've had a bad time of it. FX that the shorter AF is a positive sign 👍

Good luck with the HS pyjamas- hoping sperm and egg are on collision course!

Harriet it must have been such a rollercoaster of emotions for you both, if your DH is anything like mine he might be trying to be pragmatic to help support you? Men often approach things in a totally different way don't they, maybe his way of coping, sure when it's your sticky bean he'll be a fab dad

That is another cracking description kathrino, can we adopt ELH as another thread abbreviation?!😂 I second the hay fever problem- and the meds I take aren't compatible with TTC 😞

Hey kwick, we've been thinking of you 💐 No apologies needed. Hope you've been looking after yourself and taking time to grieve, you have been through a truly shit time. So so sorry for your loss x

jam as I was reading about your comment about your DH and your cat I looked over to my DH who was holding our cat like a baby and rocking him backwards and forwards in his arms 😂

I can see alcohol causing potential arguments here too, DH doesn't drink much but when he does he drinks a lot. He's got a few friends who are still very much into drinking games so it's hard for him to say no to it without saying why.

Sk1pper I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it. Really hope things start to improve soon

Sorry for AF winging, it's the same with me on here too, as soon as I post symptoms on here AF appears!

Sorry Binky I have no idea what that is but I hope you get some answers soon!

Lovely to see you on here kwick, I hope you're doing as well as can be expected

Fx for all of you nearing the end of the TWW

I second ELH as an abbreviation! 😂😂

So lovely to see you kwick - you've been in my thoughts a lot.

I've had an absolutely shit day - for some reason my mood is absolutely shocking. Feel really short tempered and don't even want to talk to anyone in the office. It's like AF is about to arrive, but that's not possible on CD sodding 13! Have to HS tonight and seriously can't be arsed, but, we will!

You pretty much described my drinking habits jam 😂 Weirdly, I think my DH is actually more prepared for having a baby than I am - I'm the one who seems to freak out more at prospect of life changing! I know I'll love our baby when it's here though. My mum was the same, not maternal in the slightest until me and my brother came along!

Ugh AF is so heavy and super crampy this month. Soaked a super tampax in under 3 hrs this morning. It's turned me into a crazy googling lady and trying to convince myself it could have been a chemical?

Hence totally sympathise with the delusional thoughts jam