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Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

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Miami81 · 05/02/2017 20:07

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 13/02/2017 15:50

DontBuy, really hope they give you the all clear tomorrow. It varies hugely how big what comes out is. A clementine sounds massive for a 5 week fetus.

Did the pain get much better once the big bit passed? That's sometimes a sign.

Thanks for the good wishes x

It's a shit feeling iecgi but it does mean you can move on to the next step and ttc again when you're ready.

Um, Crazy, do you think you might be pregnant? 8DPO isn't unheard of and sweats were a sure sign for me.... Unless you got a false negative with the previous one. You need to poas again! Do it, do it, do it! Shock

Crazyvaperlady · 13/02/2017 15:53

No I mean I have hot/cold sweats as the test was positive! Eeeeek!!!! I can't poas just yet as I've been at work (bar job) and have drank my body weight in soda water so don't think a positive would show up again... I DTD almost every day since my bleeding from MC stopped so pregnancy is definitely an option... just so nervous to find out if I am.

Crazyvaperlady · 13/02/2017 15:54

Will do another test this evening and tomorrow and keep u all updated!!!

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/02/2017 16:12

Oh! Well you never know Grin God I hope you are, we need some good news round these parts. Have you got more tests at home? FMU tomorrow? I got pregnant without af after second mc. I ovulated 4 days after I stopped bleeding and got knocked up. It was awesome. Bit weird putting day of your LMP as the day you miscarried but they've seen it all before. Fingers and toes crossed for you x

TeamLentil · 13/02/2017 16:17

Cashmere, I miscarried at 7 weeks and the biggest clot I passed was only about 1cm, which was consistent with the measured size.

emsler · 13/02/2017 16:28

Fingers crossed for you Crazy!

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Miami81 · 13/02/2017 16:30

Cashmere
I have the private report of our scan at 7+4 at home and the wee baby was measuring only a 6mm but the sac was 22mm. I definitely felt that pass it was around the size of a big marble. But for loads of people this has broken down already before the actual miscarriage. Hope that helps. Some of my clots were massive.

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Miami81 · 13/02/2017 16:31

Oh crazy I really hope it is a BFP, we could really do with good news on here.

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DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 13/02/2017 17:35

Thanks all for info - it's the not knowing that I'm finding hardest atm.

Fx crazy!

emily86 · 13/02/2017 18:00

I really hope it is something new Crazy.

I hate to put a dampener on things, but I had a negative after my last MC and then a positive which turned out to be retained products. The consultant did say sometimes the HCG level can drop and then rebound back up but I don't think it is very common. AND I started bleeding the day after the BFP.

So yes, massive finger crossing all round!

Waterfeature · 13/02/2017 18:03

Definitely fx crazy!!

Dontbuy, my 1st mc was "natural" and I passed some huge clots (mc was 9 weeks, baby was 6 weeks). I could literally feel them needing to come out. Horrible. I assume it was placenta/lining. I didn't see any trace of a baby -- I gave up looking after a while. Much sympathy Flowers

Noora · 13/02/2017 19:49

I'm so sorry about your MCs girls. I know how it feels. I know how painful it is. I still remember how I felt after mine and that was horrible. My dh and I have gone through a lot during past 8 years. I had 3 MCs and I should say they broke me, my mental and physical health. Each loss was unbearable. I was stressed and depressed all the time. Sometimes I can't believe I survived after going through all that shit. Though our tries to ttc didn't give results, we moved on and we are waiting for our baby to be born via surrogacy. I want to say that there are still options available. So don't give up! Don't let stress to control you and your mind.

Crazyvaperlady · 13/02/2017 20:17

Thanks ladies, decided to hold out til tomorrow morning, so hoping I can give u all some really good news!!!

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/02/2017 20:18

We're here whatever happens crazy Smile

user1480930113 · 13/02/2017 20:38

Oh Crazy I hope it is a positive. Fingers crossed for you Flowers

I need to vent ladies. I had a ERPC last Monday and I have tested and it still says positive. Hit me like a tonne of bricks. I had just assumed it would be negative :( every day I feel like I'm on the verge of an emotional breakdown but trying to hold it together. Doesn't help my bf is desperately trying to get pregnant and sends me her ovulation tests everyday. I'm trying to be happy for her but I find it so hard. I was 12 weeks when I found out about my MMC and I think about it all the time. I'm so keen to fall pregnant again but it took 3 years to get this positive and now I'm dreading the trying/disappointment again. Sorry for the negative rant I just feel like I can't talk to anyone in rl at the moment. OH is supportive but again every time I try and talk about how I feel I burst into tears and no longer want to talk about it all. Ahhh life is rubbish sometimes!

Owl1011 · 13/02/2017 22:06

FX Crazy!

User I waited 3 weeks post ERPC before I tested as instructed by the doctor, I did bleed for about 5 days afterwards as well so maybe leave it a little while and test again in a week? I'm sure you're body is just adjusting itself and it'll all be ok soon.

Hope everyone is having a good week though Smile this thread is so lovely and supportive x

emily86 · 13/02/2017 22:54

Oh user that sounds really tough with your bf. Does she know about your MC? Could you politely let her know that this is all a bit too much for you right now?

MouseLove · 13/02/2017 23:19

Cashmere it does sound like you passed your baby. X

I had a mmc at almost 10 weeks and the sack I passed which contained my baby was around the size of a large cotton ball that was tear shaped. I passed at A&E and so they confirmed it was baby. You can usually see a lighter grey/white within the sack which is obviously the baby and actual sack. I think my bleeding slowed right down upto a few hours before I passed the sack. It was completely unexpected but as soon as it happened, I knew. I just knew.

Sorry for everyone having shit right now. User sorry about your friend, I've had a similar experience but my friend has ignored me and had a go at DH for telling them what we were going through. They had a very early miscarriage around a month ago and despite us having pregnancy problems and serious worries we were there for them throughout. I was dreading telling them our good news. Never thought they would be so mean when telling them our sad news instead. Everyone takes the news differently. X

swimchick1980 · 13/02/2017 23:47

FX crazy! We need some good news!

I passed some big clots (MC at 8/9 weeks) but none were as big as a clementine on their own - they were more broken up. I basically spent a couple of days on the loo at the worst of it so didn't see the size properly on a pad or anything.

user, that's so tough with your bf. I agree if you haven't anyway, it's maybe worth just saying it's a bit much just now.

I can't remember who asked about the Clearblue dual hormone indictor, I used three and found them helpful, although with both BFPs I had (4 years ago and now), they were both months where we DTD the least amount and also are getting the smiley face.....

Anne , in terms of having a DC anyway, I think it probably has helped me a bit. I do feel that it I do manage to get a BFP again (which has proved tricky for me!), I've had my bad luck and hope it will be ok best time. My pregnancy this time felt very different from before - it felt like it wasn't going to work out from day one, which I didn't feel last time. I was anxious about getting positive scan results last time but this time i just knew something was going to go wrong. I'm not sure if it's just that I'm older and so more worried but I hope I don't feel that way again. I just so how that your next one is a sticky one, you really deserve it.

I did find the not getting a BFP this time around for so long my harder this time. I guess I have more "mummy friends" now and seeing all my DC's friends becoming big brothers and sisters (some two times over) has been tough.

FX for all of us Smile

swimchick1980 · 14/02/2017 06:46

Re-read my email again guys morning and realised if sounded a bit heartless. I know those who have had more than one MC have had a lot more bad luck. What I meant was that when I feel down, I'm trying to be positive and tell myself that I've had my bad luck, statistically anyway. I may never get a BFP and if I do, I may well MC again, but I am trying to be retain hope.

user1480930113 · 14/02/2017 08:08

Thanks all, you're all a lovely lot! She does know about my MC and was in tears when I told her and was so supportive. I know she's just excited for her own journey which I understand but I feel like she is turning it into a competition.
I didn't know I had to wait 3 weeks to test, perhaps I shouldn't be so eager and as you say let my body do its thing and recover. The hospital didn't actually tell me anything after I have gathered my info off here x

user1480930113 · 14/02/2017 08:09

Hope everyone has a good day...Flowers

Crazyvaperlady · 14/02/2017 08:10

Hi ladies... unfortunately my BFP seems to have done a big fat runner... however, I have heartburn, nausea, andddd (TMI sorry) I have had very weird CM this morning, so not out of the running this month yet

Crazyvaperlady · 14/02/2017 08:21

But now I think I see a line again... :/ I can't get a picture without it looking negative though

swimchick1980 · 14/02/2017 08:29

Got everything crossed for you crazy

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