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Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

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Miami81 · 05/02/2017 20:07

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

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swimchick1980 · 12/02/2017 20:03

Thanks everyone, it is a maybe relief to have found it. DH says I can't wear it out the house any more Grin.

Gees water, it is everywhere. Found it 2 more friends pregnant and due in July. Swithering about whether to watch Call the Midwife and have a good old cry or watch Die Hard 3.......

TurquoiseDress · 12/02/2017 20:14

Congratulations Amy!

Your message brought a tear to my eye- fingers crossed this one sticks!

MouseLove · 12/02/2017 20:27

Congratulations Amy that's lovely news!!!

Ladies hope you've had a lovely weekend. I have another week off work and then it's back to normal.

I have not been taking any kind of vitamin this past week or so. I'm not sure what to do? I was taking pregnacare original and before that I was taking folic acid / centrum pre-pregnancy vitamins. What would you recommend. (And I know. Bad me for not taking at least a folic acid)

emsler · 12/02/2017 21:05

Amy I'm so pleased for you, congratulations!

Mouselove, I took a break after my miscarriage too, I was so angry and hurt I couldn't bear to take them. I'd go back onto your folic acid and conception vitamins when you're ready. I also take magnesium and Omega 3, 6 and 9, plus high does vitamin D.

noroomonbroom · 12/02/2017 23:25

Went with Call the Midwife and a cry.
Mouselove I'm having a bit of a break from the preg vits can't see the point at the moment.
Went through a bit of a 'some people seem to do everything wrong and get away with it' moment .
Then felt rubbish for feeling that way.
Think I have turned into the ttc version of a bridezilla.
Not pretty and I don't know where it has come from.
So lovely to hear some positive news.Congratulations Amy.Hope everything goes well for you.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 13/02/2017 08:51

I just take folic acid pills and call them my Stupid Womb Pills.
I was taking pregnacare conception when I got pg with DD and this time wasn't taking anything. So I am stupidly clinging to that if I take my SWPs then when my stupid body works again then maybe I'll be ready next time.
Stupid body.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 13/02/2017 08:52

BTW congratulations Amy and well done for getting your ring back Swim!

fluffiny31 · 13/02/2017 09:10

Dontbuy i call my body stupid although I have a healthy baby first time my stupid body failed and ejected her early if it had its way would of been earlier but the hospital kept her in for a week and although she was poorly she isn't now. This time round my stupid body couldn't even miscarry properly never mind protect my baby. Hopefully next time my body won't be stupid and will behave itself. My fingers are crossed. Just need it to go back to normal now. Good luck.

emily86 · 13/02/2017 10:15

I just take bog standard folic acid. Tried pregnacare for a while but found they messed with my cycle and I'd spot for 5-7 days before my period started. I too have always had a break from folic acid whenever I've had a miscarriage. After this last one I've started taking Ubiquinol as it can help improve egg quality but it is quite pricey. And take vit D when I manage to remember.

Sometimes I feel like I'm going to be taking folic acid for the rest of my life!

swimchick1980 · 13/02/2017 10:45

I went with the start of a Liam Neeson film (can't even remember what it was called) but fell asleep. Watching Call the Midwife now as need a good cry - another close colleague announced her pregnancy this morning, I honestly can't believe it. Am delighted for her as they thought they would need fertility treatment, so a little miracle, but it's so hard.

I went back to the Pregnacare conception vitamins, wasn't really sure what to do but I just switched from the pregnancy ones back to the conception ones.

emsler · 13/02/2017 11:05

@Swimchick1980, I feel for you. It's really difficult (although like you say, a bit easier when you know the person has also struggled). My two best friends are both pregnant (one due on my birthday, one on what would have been my due date if I hadn't miscarried) - and last week my ex told me that he and his new girlfriend are expecting. Not easy, but FX we're the next ones to be able to share our news, right?

lightgreenglass · 13/02/2017 11:09

Congratulations Amy. Nice to hear a good news story.

I'm taking folic acid and vit D when I remember.

I've got my ultrasound next week, not looking forward to seeing my empty womb. My FW started at the end of last week and I've started using OPKs - the Clear Blue dual hormone ones. I've had 5 days of high fertility now, starting to think the bloody thing is broken. Has anyone else used them before?

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/02/2017 11:11

I take a pregnancy vitamin and vitamin D. Been looking into Ubiquinol after Turquoise mentioned it but can't find much on the benefits for people under 35, whether TTC or not.

Back at work today. The bleeding's been really heavy so feeling tired and weak, but it's tailing off and the pain is mostly gone. Called the EPU to see if I still need a follow up HCG. Otherwise I'll just hope for a bfn by the end of this week.

We ttc for 7 months emsler, then had early mc, then 12 week MMC, then a month off, and now another early mc. So I've got pregnant first try each time since August, which in itself is a bit mad, so there may be something in what you say. But we had nothing for 7 months beforehand.

My mum asked DH over the weekend what we'll do "if this keeps happening". He doesn't know, I don't know, I'm not sure the Doctor knows....

Those of you with DC already, does it help to know you're not in fact broken and that you can do it and carry a baby to term? Or does it not help because you didn't but then you couldn't?

I've read so many articles about people who had loads of losses, never found out why, but they got their baby in the end. Which is wonderful, obviously better to end up with a baby than not! But it makes me wonder how many more losses and for what reason before we get one which sticks? And assuming there are people out there who had loads of losses and left the forums they were on because they never ended up with a baby, how do you know when to stop putting yourself through it?

I'm not there yet. But what if I get pregnant again next month (fx I guess) and then another one craps out? What then?

Really hope this is your month emsler

Sock, I had a slightly longer cycle than normal post MMC. And someone mentioned boobs - I've had exactly this! Always had a week of sore huge boobs before af and it's completely gone. Started getting sore boobs this month but it wasn't af, it was pregnancy. So weird.

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/02/2017 11:20

So much has happened, I'm still catching up! Miami, I'm so so pleased you had a good appointment, I was thinking of you. A good doctor, tests and hopefully a plan - I'm sure and I hope they look after you well Smile

Do you know what they expect to change or stay the same over a 12 week period between the test?

It's good you can get back to ttc when you're ready, I'm sure they'd have said if you couldn't but def phone them and ask if you want to be sure.

emsler · 13/02/2017 11:33

Oh @AnneLovesGilbert, I really feel for you. I can't imagine what it's like to go through it again and again. I really hope next month is a BFP and a lovely sticky bean for you!

emily86 · 13/02/2017 11:34

Anne, I know what you mean about knowing where to draw the line. I'd always had in my mind 4 MCs would be the most I can take but if I do end up having a 4th one I imagine that will change. I guess eventually you get so tired of it all that you don't want to put yourself through it anymore. DH and I have provisionally said if we haven't got a family by the time we're 35 we will think about adoption. By then we will have been trying for 5 years. So 3 more years, but I hope we don't reach that point.

As for the Ubiquinol, I read about it in a book called It Starts with an Egg. Seeing as my last MC was due to a dodgy egg I thought I'd give it a go. I found a lot of the book a bit too much, things like stop using tupperware and wearing nail varnish and perfume to help your eggs, and the evidence is largely from couples going through IVF but it is quite an interesting read. I haven't thrown out my tupperware however!

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/02/2017 11:51

Tupperware is the only thing that makes me eat healthily during the working day emily Grin And nail varnish makes me feel human, feminine and sexy, even when my body is letting me down over and over again. But it's good to hear different approaches and I've heard people rave about that book.

The tests from the MMC showed there wasn't anything wrong with her and she made it through to 8+5 so something was going right. It was me that somehow stopped her from growing - either an issue they haven't diagnosed or a tiny glitch that could have been a one off. I cling to knowing there wasn't anything wrong with her but then it makes no sense, so it's not actually helpful at all Sad

We're on 4 now, but the first one's never really counted in my head as it was ages ago, unplanned and with my ExH who was a twat.

One dodgy egg is probably a complete fluke isn't it? Does knowing what happened give you a way forward or anything that can help - either physically (like diet, tupperware avoidance etc) or emotionally (having had a reason and thinking it's unlikely to happen again)? Do they know why a dodgy egg implanted? And just because it wasn't a perfect egg doesn't mean it wasn't your beautiful baby who you loved x

I hope you don't reach that point either, I so hope it happens for you soon.

fluffiny31 · 13/02/2017 12:18

Anne i have a beautiful dd already it doesn't make me feel better just because my body didn't work properly with her either i went into labour at 33 weeks luckily the hospital stopped it which held her off for just over a week they gave me steroids for her lungs when she came just over 5 weeks early by emcs she wasn't breathing once they sorted her out and gave her to me it all went downhill. She was very poorly but she survived and you wouldn't know now anything was wrong. But i still blame my stupid body. So before my mmc i expected something similar into way labour went i knew my body is shit but then at about 8 weeks i just knew the pregnancy wouldn't carry on so i feel even more of a failure. But i am thankful i have her.

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/02/2017 12:27

fluffiny Flowers You made a whole, beautiful, person. Your body did something incredible. I hope it happens for you again soon x

fluffiny31 · 13/02/2017 12:56

Thanks anne still feel like I gave her a rubbish start but things could have been worse so i am definitely grateful for her. You'll all have your chance. Fx soon. Smile

Waterfeature · 13/02/2017 13:15

For me the uncertainty has hit me like a ton of bricks. I had all five DC very easily, conceived straight away, straightforward births etc. So to have had waited a while to conceive, and then had two MCs, has been a really big shock. I didn't fully realise before just how lucky I was.

Obviously age is now the big issue for me. I half wish we'd started TTC sooner but we had major health worries with youngest DD.

Question re OPK. I've never really managed to test consistently so I've got nothing to go on. My cheap ones say you should let the urine come to room temp before testing. Really?! Also, I had a light 2nd line today -- does that mean HCG is rising?

I thought I'd stopped bleeding so didn't wear a pad today -- cue massive flood...

Seeing the doc tomorrow so I'll see what they say.

If I have another MC I'll definitely give up and count my blessings.

Sorry for long waffly post.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 13/02/2017 14:22

TMI warning. Sorry.

Was walking the dog today after lunch and felt a huge flood, literally thought I'd wet myself at first, and then realised that there would be blood all over the front and back of my jeans. Felt sodden. Have to walk through part of town to get round my loop (was half way at this point) so was almost in tears. Kept bending down to 'tie my shoelace' and couldn't see anything obvious. Got home and had no marks whatsoever but pad v wet and huge clot (?) came out. (Well not huge but largest for me so far.)
Isn't it odd how you convince yourself of things.

I have my check up scan tomorrow, to check that my 5-week-measuring-foetus hasn't accidentally sprung a heartbeat (I would have been 11.5 weeks tomorrow!)

Just want them to tell me I've passed it already, but I don't know what to expect, how long it normally takes to pass, whether I should already know whether it's come out or not: someone on here I think said they passed something the size of a clementine but nothing that big has come out yet.

Sorry for the verbal diarrhoea. I guess everyone comes here and vents.

Anne and everyone else I keep my fingers crossed for everyone else going through this. I have DD to give me comfort and I realise how lucky and fortunate we have been. It does help to have a child already, for me. FX for everyone. Flowers

iecgi · 13/02/2017 14:47

So I got my post MC bfn today..... Just like that she is gone (I think it was another girl not sure why but was right with my guesses for my other DC so I'll just go with it) not sure how I feel about trying again so scared to miscarry again.

Crazyvaperlady · 13/02/2017 15:34

So I have a strange question... after a negative hpt after miscarriage is there ANY reason it would revert back to positive? Got a very very very very faint positive this morning but am only 8dpo :/ having hot and cold sweats and wondering if I'm imagining the line and of course, in my shock I threw the test away, convincing myself it was nothing... AAAARGHHHHHHH

iecgi · 13/02/2017 15:43

No I don't think so especially if you know you ovulated as you can't ovulate if your body still thought you where pregnant? FC for you

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