Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

swimchick1980 Waves, it was me who asked about the clear blue OPKs, are you using them now? I'm on day 6 of flashing smiley. Trying to be relaxed about it. In some ways it's helpful as means I know I haven't ovulated and dtd every 2 days to cover all bases but then what if I never ovulate. Gah.

Fingers crossed crazy how many dpo are you? Maybe hold your wee and no drinks for 4-5 hours and test again? Are you testing on FRER?

I had a flashing smiley with an OPK this morning -- 2 weeks after ERPC. Reading the small print, though, it says not to use the kit for 2 months after previous pregnancy... so who knows.

I'm still bleeding anyway so it's a bit academic.

Still crossing fingers for you crazy!

No I'm using Internet cheapies... had what I think may have been implantation bleed this morning though :/ would anyone be adverse to me posting a TMI picture so I can get your advice?? If not just say so please

Post away crazy. I had a tiny one for the first time ever with this last pregnancy. It was more like pale pink CM, not proper blood.

What's nice about this corner of MN is there's no thing as TMI.

Hope everyone's okay today.

lightgeeen - I haven't started using them again yet as still pretty soon after MC and couldn't face it. I never had so many days of flashing - generally 1 or maximum two flashing and then the still one. I know for some they got a few more days, although 6 does seem a lot......

I had bleeding both times but was when my AF was due - was light (in both volume and colour!) and didn't come to anything. FX crazy

Post away crazy especially if it will help you.

Def post whatever is helpful for you crazy. I think we're unshockable here.

I had my followup appointment today. They said everything looked normal. Offered me antibiotics in case my previously pongy discharge (sorry, yuk) was caused by infection. They said they could do a swab and see so I agreed to that. But meanwhile said I shouldn't TTC... I'm a bit unsure of what to do because I've got no other symptoms and I'm desperate to get on with it!

Glad stuff looks normal Waterfeature. Where are you at in your cycle?

I well know the panic about cracking on but I had an infection after my MVA and thrush, so we had to wait a bit. My only symptoms of the infection were crippling pain, but high up and on my side, where there isn't anything. Everything internally looked fine and no discharge, but it was better within a couple of days of the ABs so they were right in what it was - though not very specific! Look after your health.

Is everyone using OPKs? I always get mild cramps, bloating and ewcm so make sure we dtd every day around it. Are OPKs for if you're not sure when it happens? I know people swear by them.

Anne
I tried to use opk's and they made me more mental. I am like you in that I get clear signs. Like cramps, cm, toothache, pains in left and right side, bloating, feel "funny" down there. Basically lots of symptoms that conspire to make me feel as completely unsexy as possible!!

Maybe I should have used them this month though, I think I am 4dpo today, but the pains I am experiencing are like AF is about to appear. Wtf. Post mc body can just knob off with added weird symptoms. We used protection this cycle through the most fertile days (but possibly not the early days as we have never been successful in those days so assumed we didn't have to bother). But weird cramps are making me hope (I am certain they are just a weird mc thing)...... so annoyed. We were going to wait until we get appt through for revisit to rmc so that we at least know what the blood tests say.

After my pretend AF last week I now have full on AF, my first after MMC. I just want to hide in the toilets at work and cry.

Hopefully my opks tests arrive soon. Do I use them every day or just around the time I think I'm ovulating?

Okay, does this look like implantation? CD18

sock I tend to use mine 2 days after I start bleeding as I'm an early ovulater... usually CD 10-11

crazy, it does to me because of the brown colour and the CM consistency. I really hope so - FX for you. x

Omg omg omg 😁😁😁 posted on another group and they said the same! EEEEKKKK! Gonna now test obsessively between now and 25th (AF due) just because I have lots of cheap Internet tests

Sock, it's a horrible feeling when your AF arrives but try to remember that it means you get to try again really soon. It might not help you but I thought of it as the signifier of a fresh start and that made it much easier.

I used my OPK tests from the day I stopped bleeding for the first two months and then once I'd established I O late (Day 19) I started testing from around day 12. We try to DTD at least every second day from when I stop bleeding (just in case I O early unexpectedly!) and then once I get the positive LPK, every day for 4 days.

Crazy I didn't realise your AF wasn't due until 25th - so the timing points towards implantation too if you O'd on Day 10-11! FvvvvX!

I've never got on board with OPKs. Miami, I'm with you, I think they would make me more crazy and just be yet another thing to obsess about. Just go for the old fashioned DTD every 2-3days after AF has finished until she shows up again.

Crazy I do hope it is implantation bleeding.

Hi all. Can I join? Firstly I'm really sorry to hear that you are all in this position, I'm struggling to accept that I'm am in this position too.

I found out I had lost my baby after my 16 week midwife app and subsequent scan on the 5th Jan and had medical management to deliver my baby on the 7th. I never in a million years thought this would happen at this stage, especially after a healthy 12 week scan, even after the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat at my app I still tried to remain positive, I just feel so stupid for that.

I was obviously upset at the time but now I'm Feeling worse as time goes on. Yesterday would have been my 21 week scan and today my baby is being cremated. I should find out Friday if there are ashes to collect, I really hope there are.

I'm hoping that I just feel so terrible as nothing is finished with it. Just waiting on a consultant appointment for results. The bereavement midwife said that they have test results back now, just waiting on a post-mortem report. I really hope I feel a bit better when I have all the information.

Sorry to go on, I just need an outlet today. Nobody I know has been through this, although eveyone has been supportive, nobody knows how I feel. Dh has been great. I have one dd, I'm struggling with the guilt that I feel like a rubbish mum if I'm sad and not giving her the attention she deserves.

Thank you for listening, hope everyone is doing ok and you have your rainbow babies soon. I really hope I do too

Before mc I could tell you when I had ovulated but now it seems I have cramps all through my fertile week so I haven't a scooby. I googled about cb OPKs and from the sounds of it when you use it for the first time you get loads of high fertility days.

Waterfeature I had the pongy smell too, didn't pick it up for 2 months - suspected it was BV and stopping me from conceiving as previous 3 pregnancies have taken on the first month. Took ABs and hopeful that now there's nothing obstructing conception. Irritating for sure though.

That's helpful and makes sense on the OPK issue, thank you. I read the sperm meets egg plan which we were considering trying, but I have the same doubts about that, and it relies on OPK's, because she tells you when NOT to dtd. I think it was 3 days on, after a positive OPK, then one off and then another on.

Surely if you're just trying to make sure there's sperm hanging around whenever the egg lands, doing it every day throughout the month is as good?

Mine was much lighter crazy but it certainly looks promising! So so hope this is it for you

Oh Strawberry, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. How awful, especially to have a healthy 12-week scan and feel reassured.

I lost my baby at 11.5 weeks (a MMC) and felt relatively okay after finding out and after the surgery. It actually hit me two months later and I suddenly was overwhelmed by the grief. So I can completely understand you saying it gets worse as time goes on. I think often after a traumatic event, your body goes into a kind of "crisis mode", allowing you to deal with the immediate aftermath, and the grief comes later. Try to be kind to yourself and feel what you need to feel, know that it's okay to feel that way. Let other people pick up the slack a little bit for a while - can your dd spend some extra time with family or friends?

Ty anne me too... only miscarried 2 and a half weeks ago but feels like a lifetime and would make me feel so much better if I was pregnant again

Hello Strawberry. I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. I had a mc at 16 weeks in October so have some idea of what you're going through.

You're not a rubbish mum but human with emotions and I'm sure she thinks you're the bees knees. We are all allowed off days.

AnneLovesGilbert It's all a guessing game I suspect but I read that it's better to go for every other day (other than in your most fertile days - goodness knows how we're supposed to accurately predict those though!) because it improves sperm quality and velocity (lol). Not sure how true it is mind you. But I think that's where the "when NOT to dtd" rationale comes from.