Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

Anyone else get loads of creamy CM when either pregnant or due af?

Anne, I had tons of pinkish creamy CM yesterday and the day before, which got my hopes up, but now i just have spotting and cramps so it looks like it will be a really short cycle

Anne I had more creamy CM when I got my BFP and last time DTD was more intense if that's what you mean?? So maybe....

My normal end of AF spotting has shown back up so have managed to go back to being rational and will not be peeing on any blooming sticks!

Anne i found it was more intense since surgery i obviously wasn't pregnant but wondered if it was to do with the surgery for me. Really strange.

Ladies
Weird one. I have been having pretty intense cervical/ everywhere pain today. Don't have an f'ing clue what is going on. I have just finished AF, too early for ovulation pains (and very different to my normal pains). Start of cycle 4 since mc and really don't know what to do. Supposed to be starting back ttc, but scared that there is something wrong now.......

Would it be worth getting a doc to take a look. I'm sure it's nothing and just your body getting back to normal

Sorry you're in pain and worrying Miami.

Is it a cramping pain tummy or inside cervical soreness? Trying to think what it could be. No temperature or other symptoms? How long's it been going on for?

I agree with fluff it's worth getting checked out. Hopefully nothing but better to be safe. I've found people to be as paranoid as I was with anything post mc.

keepon, good job on keeping sane! You put me to shame, but sometimes it's an awful compulsion! And yes, that's exactly what I experienced last cycle and this one. I couldn't remember last month what different types of CM meant but googled loads and there's a mixed bag on what creamy means! Not complaining about the dtd stuff though

Funny you felt it was different post op fluff. How are you doing today? Are things alright with your DP? Your DD sounds like an absolute cherub, she's a credit to you and I'm so glad you have her.

You never know Lentil, people get spotting and cramping which isn't AF. Don't give up till you're sure the witch is here!

fluff so sorry. Do you think he maybe just needs some time?

miami I've been having really weird stabbing pains today and yesterday - I'm hoping it's ovulation pains - if so then it's both ovaries! is that definitely not possible for you?

anne I don't usually have much CM before AF. Have had bit of creamy CM both times I've been pregnant though. Hope it's a good sign for you!

Miami, I agree with Anne that it might be worth getting seen. Could be an infection, easy to clear with antibiotics.

Small update.
Just been to the loo and cm has started. Maybe in for an early ov this cycle or something. Will keep an eye on it and head to docs on Monday if still weird.
Thanks so much.

Anne I definitely had lots of creamy CM when pregnant - fingers crossed for you!

Miami could you have bruised your cervix somehow? Vigorous BDing maybe?! I had it badly once after removing a tampon too quickly - it seemed to get irritated and cramped on and off for a day or two.

I'm on CD 14 and have just got EWCM. Bit confused as my cycle is 30 days and I usually O on CD19. Very annoyingly I forgot to OPK this afternoon so will try later on but I know it's not the best time. Will DTD anyway to be on the safe side! At least it's a weekend!

I've had really odd cramping all day. Some brown spotting but nothing else has come from it. Im not actually due on until next Wednesday(ish). I stupidly bought a test earlier and I'm sure if I really really squint I see a second line. I'm only 10 days post ovulation...someone tell me it's all in my head and a positive wouldn't show yet. I keep day dreaming....

anne i haven't really spoke to him since as he went to work last night and not home till tomo. I'm ok today still hate him though. O should of had my 16w check today and heard hb instead I've made a little charm bracelet made me feel better. How are all of you lovely ladies.
harriet he needs a thick ear i think. he's one that likes to sleep. Alot. And he's now decided it will be too hard to have another baby. If he has one hour less than normal he's horrid.

Oh anne not sure about a cherub she's just bit me and laughed.

miami fingers crossed it is early ov.

Can i ask do you ov on last day of ewcm or in the middle of it?

User I've read it can take anywhere from 9 to 19 days from egg release to bfp so if it's implantation bleeding it should take 2 days apparently to get a bfp I've been researching.

Thanks fluff It's so hard to not get my hopes up!
Like the sound of the charm bracelet. It's hard when you get to the milestone dates. I would have been 16 weeks on Monday and on that day my bf told me she was pregnant so it was really bitter sweet. X

User looks like we had the same due date. Maybe our sweet babies are playing together in heaven. how far were you when you mc?

Anne that is TOTALLY a thing for me

DH got a great promotion at work this week :) Someone told me when I had my first miscarriage "The baby just forgot something, they'll be back" which I thought was awful and twee at the time but does make you wonder about timing. If I'd had the one which was due at Christmas things would have been very tight and extremely stressful whereas we should be much more comfortable in a couple of months. Come on baby. We're ready for you now, or will be soon!

Seeing other people having the same thing makes me think how lucky we all are! You'd think after all the dtd when ttc people would want a break and I found early pregnancy exhausting so slept a lot but hormones were going crazy and epic dtd was an unexpected bonus!

fluff I feel for you so much. You sound like such a lovely mum and I hope you and DP find a way through this.

I've been having lovely cuddles with DSD, she's such a seeetheart. DSS has a weird new shark toy and said it was half DHs DNA and half mine. So basically our weird mutant shark offspring. Kids are weird. But they'd make such wonderful older siblings to a baby, please please can we manage to bloody well give them one....

fluff that is a lovely thought isn't it I had a MMC so only found out at my 12 week appt when there was no heartbeat. The nurse said it looks like it stopped around 10 weeks!

Bertie I have to agree with you on that one. My due date was August which is the busiest time of year work wise so I was worried about it from the time I knew I was pregnant. I've often wondered if these things happen for a reason x

People say such funny things bertie and I know it comes from a place of kindness and a wish to help.

Thankfully only one person told me they thought my MMC was "meant to be". Took all of my self control not to strangle her. For us it was the perfect time to have a baby. Got married last summer, done up our house, jobs going well, both fit and healthy, due in May. Already had a mc so knew how much we wanted it.

But you're also right that for you now would be better and I so hope it happens for you soon. That's great about his promotion, congratulations! A lot of the time things absolutely do happen for a reason

Same thing happened to us user. It's absolutely fucking awful.

I've now had 4 mc but the other 3 were earlier and nowhere as traumatic. That was my baby which I'll never forget and I'll always miss her.

Same as me User i found out at 12w 1d. Apart from i made them bring my scan early because i wasn't due to go until the Thursday. And because i knew something was wrong i had a private scan at 11 weeks which showed he was small. He died between 11 w and 12 but measured just over 8w.
bertie congratulations on dh promotion. I think you all deserve your rainbows now.

Can I ask how did you know something was wrong?

I was like a complete zombie when they said no heartbeat. Just went oh okay like no big deal....deffo in shock looking back now it was a blur. Then it was made worse by them having to refund us £10 for the photo we didn't want after I had made a stupid joke about it before we went in

Anne I can imagine it being worse than the earlier ones. It's the idea of a baby which makes it so sad, at least for me anyway. I know it was so tiny but I'd already planned so much since getting the positive test and that's what's hard to deal with. X

I just knew too when I had my mmc. Strange as I had nothing to compare it to having never being pregnant before.

I did have symptoms, but they started to wear off about 11 weeks apart an awful exhaustion that had come over me around 10 weeks. My scan was at 13 weeks exactly, although I had started to bleed 2 days before. For the last few weeks I felt like I was acting the part of a pregnant woman, I just couldn't imagine physically holding a baby in 6 months etc.

That's exactly it user. So many symptoms, which didn't start to fade till I'd had the surgery, so many plans and hopes.

And I was exactly the same! Went into the scan, she said my bladder was too full so to have a wee. Came back in, she did an abdominal then an internal. Coughed. Went to get a colleague. We could see the baby on the screen and my DH was squeezing my hand really tight. And she said there's your baby but it's not the right size and there's no heartbeat, I'm really sorry. Her colleague put a hand on her shoulder and asked if she was okay!

She said she'd read my notes and saw it was my third loss so the good news was that we'd be referred to a special clinic. I was completely numb so said okay, well thanks very much for letting us know. Madness.

She popped out to call the epu at the other hospital, I turned to DH who had tears in his eyes and was still gripping my hand and I let out this awful howl.

It was quite funny because she walked back in while I was sobbing half bent over DH and naked from the waist down and said oh, you're upset, I thought you were taking it well...

So I've waffled on as usual but the answer is I had no clue AT ALL anything was wrong. I had text book symptoms because the sac etc had continued to grow and I was still very pregnant, the only thing not growing was our baby.

The rest of it was a blur of medical stuff, options, tests, drugs at the epu after a hysterical 45 minute drive in awful traffic. We weren't offered a photo but I'm glad we got to see her. She was tiny and still but perfect and beautiful.

And all losses are tragic and can affect you massively. When you lose your baby, however and whenever it happens you lose a piece of your heart. But for me getting to 12 weeks and then finding out, feeling like the previous 4 weeks had been a lie and as her mum I should have known something was wrong was too shocking for words (or at least logical conversation!).

With my last mc last cycle it was super early and blood tests showed early it wasn't developing so we didn't have any time to get attached to it.

Onwards and sodding upwards now. But my innocence about the whole baby making process has buggered off for good and I'll never look forward to a 12 week scan again.