Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

Emily1875 I'm so sorry that you're suffering that way. You are certainly not alone, as this board is evidence! I know it feels like years since November--time passes so slowly when you're counting every day. Have you had any counselling following your mc? It might help with the feelings of hopelessness and frustration you're describing. I had a difficult time with a psychological problem that meant I had no chance of conceiving, and the counselling (I went to Relate) got us there in the end. Your mind is a very powerful thing; you want it to work with you not against you! X

crazy I missed your positive... congratulations!!! You are hope for us all. X

ZylaB and Peony I'm sorry you find yourself here; however, it is just the place if you're looking for support! We're all at different stages in our post-mc journey, which is helpful. Take your own time with it all!

Ty user fingers crossed this one sticks! 2 days late for af and just sent OH up to our local lloyds for digital tests as I can't wait any longer, and have a horrible recurring nightmare that this pregnancy may be a chemical :/ will update very very shortly

Oh fingers crossed crazy keep us updated!

Big fat "Not Pregnant" :(

Ohhh crazy hugs x

Sorry *crazy
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My digital took ages to go positive even with a decent line on a FRER but it then progressed weekly and I just got my 3+.

So please don't lose hope yet, a line is a line

The thread has been busy this evening.

Welcome to all the new ladies. I'm sorry for your losses and that you've had to join us.

Oh crazy, what a confusing place to be in. I'm not really sure what to suggest.

I've been considering a name change for a while now and I think now is the time. Will report back in a min once new name has been selected.

emily86 is now defunct and from now on I shall be writing under this name.

Anne thanks for the info I'd probably get it all wrong and not feel the right bits knowing me.
Sorry all you new ladies are here.
Crazy how confusing hoping that silly test is wrong.
Well I should be 16 w today had a few tears and should of been at the midwife Friday. Getting a bit stressed. Going back to work this week but I'm dreading it i do an emotional job and there are loads of staff pregnant due weeks around my due date i am so anxious I'll just cry.

Well ladies I have woken up this morning to very thin, watery bleeding :( guessing this isn't a good sign.

Hi all,
I've literally spent 2 days going through this feed and it's been so helpful. I had a very early MC on the 3rd of Feb. Initially it was suspected ectopic as my hcg was so high but I'm out of the danger zone it seems now. Im still showing to be pregnant however my epu told me to go back there if I'm showing to be pregnant still by this Friday. Looks like I will be!! Has anyone else had this issue of raised hcg for so long?
From reading all your messages I completely resonate with everyone's journey on when to ttc again. I also go through the constant battle of my body being useless but have to find some hope in the future. Unfortunately for me I also lost my dear mum to cancer last June so the ttc journey has been really tough. This MC has definetly taken me back some steps in the grief process. I'm now at a place where I want a baby to give me hope and something to look forward to although I'm also scared to ttc straight away in case my body can't deal with it. I've been having acupuncture and doing anything to chill out. Has anybody been in a similar situation and have advice on how to get through this? Xx

I have had such a strange start to the day. I had to go to my doctors for my b12 injection, which I have to have every 12 weeks. The nurse who administered the injection asked how I was doing and I just broke down.

I told her how I felt I had been badly treated by the hospital when I had my mmc in January and how desperate I am to be pregnant again. She was so lovely to me and said she thinks that my doctors may have a pre-conception clinic and she is going to find some information for me.

I'm feeling so down that I've come home instead of going to work. Going to have a cry then pick myself up and go back to work. I feel so sad as last week was supposed to be my fertile week and I used opks but they never gave me a positive. I feel like I am going to be babyless forever

Sorry crazy, what a rollercoaster you've had the past week or so. Still keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Welcome to the new joiners, sorry you find yourself here. It is a lovely group though and very supportive.

keeponrunning and any others who discovered later that all was not good, how did you know? Did you stop bleeding initially? I've mentioned that i got bleeding (probably medium flow AF style) 4 dpo or so and it's been going for 4 days now but is getting lighter. Not sure if this is just an early AF and everything trying to get back to normal or something i should get checked out. My MC bleed stopped naturally after 6 days and i haven't had any scans.

I am absolutely shattered and this morning i am feeling pretty sick. I KNOW it's just being tired and the fact I haven't had breakfast yet. It's so hard not to get hopes up and symptom spot though isn't it

swimchick I stopped bleeding after 2 weeks and had a negative test 3 weeks after medical management. I was then waiting for my first AF to show up and did a test to see if I could have a glass of wine at the weekend. It came back positive but then I had cramping and bleeding the next day. I assumed it was a chemical but I went to the recurrent miscarriage clinic a few days later and the consultant scanned me and said it looked like retained products. She said the hcg can drop and then rebound back up occasionally. Fortunately everything came away on it's own and I just went back to EPU a couple of times for blood tests and one further scan which showed everything was clear. I think if you're worried just give them a ring and see what they say.

So my AF symptoms were pregnancy symptoms and I got a BFP this morning on a FRER.

Crazy keeping my fingers crossed for you - I've never used a digital and always used a FRER. Maybe test on a FRER again and see if the line has got any darker?

Shitting myself about a chemical or miscarrying again. I know I won't feel remotely 'safe' until I get to my 16 week appointment.

So sorry for your loss Zyla, but welcome. I had an MVA (like an ERPC) for a MMC in November and I stopped bleeding really quickly afterwards and got a bfn 10 days later, then af arrived 28 days after the procedure and everything settled down for me.

It's good you're getting tests done. I had them from mine, we found out the sex and that there wasn't anything wrong. Which was a mixed bag for us but I'm under the recurrent miscarriage clinic now.

Everyone feels differently but we waited a month while I had the MMR jab it turned out I'd missed then ttc again. I got pregnant straight away but have had another early mc. A lot of people subscribe to being more fertile straight away, and an equal number find it massively annoying and stressful because of course it doesn't happen for everyone.

We ttc for 7 months and since I got my first bfp I've conceived every tome we've tried since. But I keep losing them, so it's cold comfort!

Wishing you luck and hope you're feeling better soon

Thanks keeponrunning, I'll try and call. I tried at the time I was having my MC what seemed like a million times, but could never get through. Hopefully will have more luck this time.......

Congratulations lightgreen

Lightgreengrass amazing news. Congrats!!!

God I was well behind, my page hadn't refreshed, so much has happened!

sock I'm a fellow B12er. Had my latest jab last night. I go every 10 weeks so it's possible to have them closer together if you need. Sorry you're having such a shit time

lightgreenglass Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Very gentle reassuring hugs to you darling, you've brightened up my morning One day at a time, one day at a time....

crazy It's a fucking rollercoaster isn't it, so so sorry you're having such a confusing awful up and down time of it

Have you had any pain, or just thin blood? I've never bled while pregnant but some people do it loads, off and on throughout. If it's only light and you don't have back pain or cramps you never know?

Feeling for everyone today, sending love x

crazy, Anne is right - I had bleeding at the start of both my pregnancies (one successful, one not). It never came to much - was like a very light period.

Hi girls just trying to catch up. Hope you are all well.

I am on cycle 3 since my MMC in October.

Using the clearblue kits. Got a LOW Friday LOW Saturday HIGH Sunday night then a LOW Monday morning and low today. On CD 21 don't know whether to continue to use them then now? Don't know if I have missed the boat. I thought u were fertile for 24-48 hours.

Had quite a lot of left sided pelvic pain all last week as if I was ovulating but all tests low fertility.

Had a meltdown yesterday work mate phone to tell me she's 12 weeks and then my clear blue said low fertility and it made my cry 🙈 What's wrong with me!! I was just post nightshift so I blamed that!!

Keep thinking I would have been 28 weeks now 😭