Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

Well AF has shown up this morning, 4 days early for some reason. I have to say, I'm relieved for the TWW to be over. All that wondering and hoping sends me crackers.

Sorry emily , but same here mine was early this month too.

Hi all just dropping in to say hi - will catch up on thread later. I'm in FW now - day 2 of flashing smiley on clearblue (first one after mc few weeks ago) so hoping against hope will miraculously conceive again. I'm taking baby aspirin, folic acid, vit b complex, vit d and omega 3 - should prob just buy a multivitamin!

Good luck harriet!

Sorry to hear that emily But as you say, at least the waiting's over.

Do you mean judging where it is etc fluff?

Emily is it yojr first af after mc?

Anne the whole lot how do you know what to check for or how it should feel ect? I'd probably best not to try as my cervix is a bit incompetent so would need to ask a doctor first. But really intrigued by it all.

I don't do any cervix monitoring, I know about the mucous due to fertility friend mainly.

I know what you mean about the age gap. Because I'm not with DS's biological father there was always going to be a larger gap but we talked about TTC when he was 5 and then when he was 6 and now he is 8... It's definitely a whole different thing to get your head àround and that's why I want at least 2 more. I want to have two close together. DS has always been a dissatisfied only as well, he doesn't love his own space, it's a shame.

Hi All,

Joining in this group for some support. have been trying for a second for 2.5 years. Had a miscarriage in November at 10 weeks. Been trying since then, but so far no luck. Feeling increasingly hopeless and distressed and disaapointed and frustrated and alone.
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I didn't bother for ages fluff but then I started and it's a nice way to monitor stuff so I've kept at it. Only do it once a day, takes a second.

Sit on the loo, pop a clean finger up there and feel to the back, you should feel a sort of donut shape. Everyone will be different so it's about knowing how you change over the course of your cycle.

It gets higher, softer and the hole a bit more open when I'm ovulating, so the sperm can go in.

Between ov and af it gets firmer (the change is pretty minimal) and a bit lower.

During af it's low, soft and open, so the blood can come out. And when I've been pregnant it smooches right up after ovulation, sometimes I can't really feel it, and soft (if you poke the outside the donut gently, never the hole).

I check cm at the same time.

bertie I agree, I'd like 2 close together too now, although wanting and getting what I want seem to be 2 different things. I had no help at all when ds was a baby, being the only 1 in the family I had nothing to relate the stage too apart from on here, now I know everything goes so quickly I think I could just push through it with 2 close together. ds is quite happy being the only one for now, hes only ever asked for a brother once but not even sure he knows what he meant. emily were pretty similar also been trying for around 2.5 years, have you had any advice from your gp at all? sorry if you've already written this above, theres tons of posts to go through.

anne that all sounds so technical, Im not sure id even know which bit I was meant to be feeling, but if your gonna do it I suppose sitting on the toilet is as good a place as any, I have visions of women lying on the floor with a mirror down there trying to turn their neck the right way to see it .

If anyones interested in the magnesium thing I popped into Home & Bargains before and they have huge bags of magnesium flakes to put in the bath for the bargain price of £2.49. Not sure it will do anything but trying everything this month. Also did a happy dance as I got the hospital to change my consultant bringing my appt forward by 5 weeks so sad this made me so happy but it has.

fluffiny it is my 3rd AF after my MC but probably my first proper one. I had a non-proper one in Jan and then found out I had some retained products just after. Then had one early Feb but it was much lighter and shorter than usual. Hopefully this one everything will be back to normal.

Welcome emily1875. So sorry to hear about your loss.

Buddha I'm glad you managed to get your appointment moved forward. Enjoy your first magnesium bath!

I never used to check my cervix, have been having a feel this month - currently low and soft and AF is due tomorrow, combined with dull pains I think she's definitely coming.

Sorry ladies need to vent. I think I mentioned before my best friend is ttc and was sending me daily updates of her ovulation sticks. Shes just told me she's just had a positive test. Of course I'm happy for her but it's just a kick in the teeth. I should have been going to my 16 week appt today and I'm now sat crying like a moron. Argh x

Can't even keep up with all the messages in this group. Hope everyone is OK x

Vent away love

That's so difficult. I'm sorry. Of course part of you feels happy for her but another part is sad you don't have the same thing now. We've all been there.

My friend is pregnant with a surprise not very wanted baby that messes up a new exciting job she's got and she's now cancelled her wedding.

All I've been thinking is how if it was me I'd be fucking over the moon!

But we're at different places in our lives and I also understand (sort of) how she's feeling.

What's helped me is that no one is having MY baby. Other people getting pregnant doesn't mean I'm less likely to be in time. There isn't a limited numbers of healthy pregnancies or babies and I don't want anyone else's. I want mine.

Honestly, vent and rant and do whatever makes you feel better. We're here for you. I was bawling yesterday about how shit and unfair it all is. Didnt helping anything. But we all have our moments!

Hi everyone, can't keep up with messages either!

First proper month using Clearblue dual hormone monitor- am on CD16 and finally got a solid smiley this morning to indicate peak fertility!

I would've been excited several months ago, but this is similar to what I got with the cheap OPKs and we usually try to have sex every other day during my fertile window.

So the CB hasn't told me anything new but it's made it clearer that I probably ovulate around CD16/17- I do like that it's much easier to read- negative, high or peak.

I guess I've seen it all before and not fallen pregnant yet after MMC last summer.

Thanks *Anne that was what I needed to hear. It will happen in good time. I have one DS already and he is amazing so I need to look at the positives.
In other news I now have my negative after my ERPC 3 weeks ago so got the all clear to get cracking again. Oh the joys. X

Sorry how do I change my name does anyone know? Would like to have some kind of identity on here

Hi, hope I can join, though I'm sorry anyone is in this situation.

I've just had my second mc. We have a two year old daughter.
First mc was in May last year, I was 8.5 weeks when I started bleed, had had a scan at six weeks and seen a heartbeat, had another scan after start of bleed and was told baby looked ok, just cross everything the bleed doesn't get any bigger, then passed the baby at home the next day. We took it to EPU and they sorted out the cremation which was nice and respectful.

Got pregnant again at the very start of Jan, again saw heartbeat at six weeks. I'm diabetic so they always check viability when starting appointments. They organised a scan at nine weeks to reassure me after the last mc, and there was no heartbeat and baby was measuring eight weeks.

I had ERPC yesterday.

I don't even know if I can face trying again, I'm old and feeling time pressure though.

user Im sorry, I do know how it feels, I have 1 friend who is currently pregnant and has delighted in complaining about every little thing, I do bite my tongue from screaming at her that id give anything to feel what she's feeling, But anne put it in a much better way than I ever could, they are having their babies, and we will have ours. they will be completely different pregnancies and babies at the end and I wouldnt want anyone elses, I just want my own. rant away here though if it helps.

Sorry I've got mixed up with both the emily's!

turquoise not used the clearblue hormone monitor, what does that do exactly? I only ever used the ov sticks and to be honest got very bored of having to wait 5 whole minutes for it to work. dp would be banging on the door of the bathroom as he was often late for work and Id happily be sitting staring at a stick waiting for a smiley face, so went back to the cheapies.

Oh, should add...this baby is having the genetic testing. They normally don't do that until third consecutive mc but took pity on me because of age (will be 40 later this year) so we will see what that says, but a bit of me wonders if we should crack on a see if the 'more fertile after a mc' thing can help us, as it took 8 or 9 months last time.
Also, we can't just let things happen if they're going to, as due to the diabetes we have to plan really carefully and I have to keep my sugars really tightly controlled (which they are and I've been told had nothing to do with losing my babies) and have to keep taking super strength folic acid, so we can't leave things to chance.

user i think you go to your account/profile. its in there somewhere.

Hi zyla sorry you've found yourself here. I've not had any procedures (mine have all passed naturally) but I know a few people on here have so it may help to talk, I do however completely understand the time pressure though, its more that than anything else that makes me stressed.

Hey Buddah the surgical management was actually ok and I'm not even bleeding much today. I had th choice and didn't want to do it at home again, I didn't want to be waiting to start bleeding whilst running around after my toddler.

zyla sorry you are going through this...I had an erpc 3 weeks ago today. I only bled for 2 days and felt well enough to to back to work after taking one day off. Emotionally it's a different story. Keeping positive though and sending hugs

zyla I don't want to come across as insensitive, but if it gives u any hope, I had a MC between 26-28th last month, stopped bleeding on 31st, got a negative test on 6th Feb and I got my BFP on Thursday just gone :) it can be done if you feel you'd like to try again right away!

Hi everyone, can I join?
I've just found this thread and some support would be great.
Found out I'd had an MMC at my 12 week scan on 6th Feb. Opted for medical management and miscarried on the 9th, I should have been 12+5.
After bleeding for just over a week and spotting for another week - eventually had a couple of days spotting free!
Finally thought my body was getting back to normal but today had what looked like lots of EWCM but slightly brown (sorry TMI)
I don't know what to think...!
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