Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

I'm persisting in the congrats crazy! A line is a line!

I'm ok thanks Anne. Hoping that my first ever positive OPK + DTD might have done the trick (I only used cheap OPKs before and never got past the "room temperature wee" thing with those. What the Jeff?!) But it's really busy and full on with 5 kids (no sh*t) so I'm a bit more reasonable about that being it for me.

I'll feel different when AF arrives no doubt!

That's tricky about having to get in the system straight away Anne.

FX for everyone!

Is room temperature wee cooler than body temperature wee?

I hope this was the one water fx for you. You must be superwoman to juggle all you have on, massive admiration from me! I'm bloody knackered with 2, and part time at that. So you'll handle another bundle of joy when it comes to you.

Step children I mean. But twins

Anne if your dp is fine I'm sure everyone else is too.17 is serious mass catering.I did 12 for Xmas and that was bad enough.
iecgifx crossed.
anneat least with a plan in place hopefully the odds will be in your favour.
It really sucks at the moment.
I have a friend at playgroup who is literally a visual reminder of where I should be pregnancy wise.
Just hope I get a positive soon.She has already noticed I'm avoiding her if possible,makes me feel truly horrible and I thought I was dealing with the MC really well but that is too much.

That's got to hurt so much noroom, so sorry I'd say is it worth trying to explain how you feel but as it's not her fault and no way round it probably no point. If you bump into her could you just say you're having a tough time with some vague health issues and are keeping your head down?

Good point about DH, hadn't thought of that, thank you. He's still snoozing but looks healthy! Time to turn in I think.

When were you due if you don't mind me asking? Mine was May so I'd love a bfp by (preferably a few weeks before!) then. And if not we'll go crazy on holiday and I shall rediscover the cocktail menu

Anne my foots okay now thanks for asking. Toe still a bit swollen, but that'll teach me to throw silly childish tantrums I guess . Becks blue is amazing! Love it even when I'm not possibly pregnant, as I'm not a big fan of alcohol anyway. Hope you're well

It's quite bitter for someone who likes sweeter drinks! But it's a winner all round. And barely any calories. I checked the bottle the other night. It's basically brown fizzy water

I think we're pretty sure you're knocked up, would be so nice to be sure.

I'm okay. Dodgy tummy and musing a bit on the whole future/babies thing tonight. But it happens. I had a whole glass and a half of Sauvignon so that might be why! total lightweight these days.

Well i hope all your symptom Spotting turns out to be bfp. I'm wondering why I've got really achy back and random cramps. Don't think af is due till later next week and never use to have cramps.

Still a bit of bleeding going on, no idea what is going on at CD16 and 4 DPO, no obvious reason! Got asked yesterday "do you not fancy a number 2?". Burst into tears! Why do folk ask these questions, whether it's 1,2 or 6 (water!). Clearly not dealing as well as I thought I was!

Anne, definitely good to plan ahead and not put your life on hold. I guess if you go somewhere it's easy to get back if the worst does happen, probably a good plan. I went to Ibiza at 7 months pregnant and it was still good fun

I would have been July so a little bit of time to get my two lines.
Just keep thinking of wasted time. That's the beauty of a mmc,at least had I known I could of moved on sooner.4 whole weeks before I found out it was over,then almost 4 whole weeks the sorry process dragged on.
It's just so unfair,could have been going for my new 12 weeks scan a week after I might get a positive, if it had all just happened straight away.
Of course I wanted that baby but it wouldn't have made any difference.
Any way here is to new beginnings and fresh starts even if we are toasting them with non- alcoholic larger.

Noroom yep the feeling of time wasted is very difficult. I was July too. This weekend away has been wonderful but hard at the same time. The two girls have both recently had babies and they are super supportive and have listened to me ranting. They told me their gorey birth stories (to prepare me for when we do have one) and I shared my equally gorey miscarriage stories, as both of them wanted to know for various reasons, to offer me comfort, to understand miscarriage better themselves. It has been a weekend of ups and downs. Downs include when they both told me that they are going to be trying again soon. And my brain automatically hops forward a year to us still in difficulties and both of them with new babies. But at least in a way I am now prepared for baby bombs from them. Just feels like time is marching on and we are being left behind.

ohswim people really don't think.I have so many 'time for another one,'comments.Would be 7 for us,so I slap a smile on and say 'oh no,we have enough to keep us busy,' while thinking I'd give my right arm to be pregnant.
God forbid we should tell anyone the truth and make them feel uncomfortable though.
fluffy who can tell what our bodies are doing.Everyone seems to be out of sorts with new symptoms in this strange new post MC world.
I'm sat here expecting every twinge to be an infection or problem that holds everything up again or wondering if OV is going to happen or am I going to miss it when every other month I I could pretty much tell you exactly what day it happened.
Really is what will be will be.

Anne, I have no idea what is going on. Spotting stopped completely yesterday evening so after a boozy dinner (I was making the most of it as today is my first day of not drinking anymore.) DH and I decided to make the most of the super king size bed in our hotel room, if you see what I mean. However this precipitated some bright red bleeding. Cue teary outburst about my useless reproductive system (another good reason to give up the booze). Anyway, time will tell I suppose.

I hope your tummy is better this morning. And booking a holiday sounds like a great idea.

Can't remember who said about their cat but I often look at mine enviously. Their life seems so simple! Sleep, eat, get stroked. Where's the stress in that?!

Swim YANBU for bursting into tears! I have no problem seeing/cuddling other people's kids, but I could slap random strangers at work sometimes. "When YOU have kids you'll understand" or "Now you just need your own little ones" or "I'm sure your parents would love some grandchildren" (seriously, fuck off!) or "Do you have a family yourself?" (Just told you I have a husband, are we not a real family until we have kids or something?) It is not anyone's business whether I have tried to have kids, whether I want kids, whether I don't want kids, and people still feel they have a right to a) ask and b) offer their opinion, as if a random stranger's opinion will make the slightest difference to my life choices! [END RANT]

I'm on a bit of an emotional weekend myself, for no real reason other than the fact it's been 2 weeks since I miscarried (likely hormones swinging by a thread), and my scan would have been Friday. I tried to distract us/ give us a break by going for an overnight in Derry for a science festival cocktails night. Our science festival is awesome btw! But every drink I was thinking "I wish I couldn't drink this because I was still pregnant". How twisted is my stupid mind?! I keep getting all teary-eyed at random moments. Not good as I've been back to work for a week and need to keep it together! Xx to all

I've not posted here for a couple of weeks, still plodding on- on cycle 7 after a MMC last summer.

CD15 today and have been using Clearblue dual hormone OPK- does anyone have much experience with them?

My cycle seems to be between 28-30 days, so I started testing on CD8 as instructed. Now on CD15 today and had day 4 of flashing smiley (high fertility)- have used loads of sticks now, hoping to get a peak fertility in the next day or so.

I cracked last month and splashed out on a Clearblue kit!

Up until then I made to with the internet cheap OPK sticks- things are getting a bit desperate now! With those cheap OPKs I seemed to get a peak around day 14/15 but I was never quite sure.

Anyhow, not sure if I'm going to be buying more sticks for the Clearblue monitor!

Nice to see you turquoise. No experience of OPKs but others on here do and can hopefully help.

How are you doing?

My tummy is completely better, no idea what that was all about. Having an okay day but had a massive bawl earlier about how unfair and shit it all is. Quite cathartic actually and we were in the car so DH rubbed my knee and agreee it sucked, which was nice.

I know he's always desperate to say it'll all be alright but it's more helpful to just have the understanding that where we are is difficult and that's what he's doing now.

I've wondered how this all would have been if I was still with my ex. He had some good qualities but was fundamentally a total abusive prick and would probably have been unsupportive and always said the wrong things. So lucky escape all round.

Hope everyone's okay today x

Isn't diarrhoea a sign of early pregnancy? I'm sure i read that somewhere? Or maybe I'm just making it up. you can go either way glad your tummy is better. Anne

Blimey, never heard that fluff but you never know and thankfully all okay again today! Thank you.

I wasn't sure if thrush was a sign last month, another joy, and turned out to be.

Not 100% on when I ovd but 5 or 6 days ago I think and if I wanted to I'd be symptom spotting. Awful back skin, had that before, cervix soft and high, loads of creamy cm, all like last time. But still got this awful super smell thing from last time so could be post mc hormones up the creek and I'm not going to really think about it for another week.

Anyone watching Taboo? It's incredibly absorbing and violent, a good distraction

Hi all, just been playing catch up reading through...Anne hopefully you haven't poisoned anyone Diarrhoea is most definitely a sign of pg, fingers crossed for you.

Turquoise...I remember you from last summers boards...I'm still here 😡😡😡...and will be for a little while longer as af arrived this morning.

I was given a cb monitor by someone on here late last summer, I did actually get pg with it but that too ended in mc, plus the cost of the sticks put me off too so I've gone back to the cheap opks, but this month I'm going all out, pre seed (has anyone used this), folic acid, magnesium baths, bit of pma and sperm meets egg plan anything I've missed out?

Buddha what the frig is a magnesium bath?!

Hey buddha, sorry about af, it's shit. But sounds like you're full steam ahead and have a plan. I was sure we were using preseed but turned out I'd bought conceive+ which is very similar and it worked last cycle.

Are you on a general antenatal vit? I'm on a general pregnancy one for the folic is extra vit d now as everyone's on about that. Cheap on Amazon. And how about baby aspirin? I can't do that cos the doctor wants me on clexane at bfp which is also an anticoagulant but if I wasn't I'd defo do the aspirin thing as I've read loads of people try it and it can't hurt.

Stuff to avoid is a long list but sperm meets egg lady says don't use antihistamines as they're bad for cm, which was news to me. I get hives so usually hammer them. No more.

Loads of water, fruit, veggies etc, usual stuff. I'm having a smoothie a day to cover my bases. Frozen fruit, banana, oats, honey, oat milk. Mega natural probiotics, protein and 3 lots of fruit.

I know you didn't ask about food stuff but it's something I'm thinking about so going for minimum effort maximum benefit. Having an apple at work and some sort of veg like frozen spinach later and I'm good.

Fingers and toes crossed for you x

Also, what emily said. I'm intrigued!

Magnesium is a muscle relaxant and can be used to stop contractions. I think it's not really strong enough to stop miscarriage but they gave me some the first time I was bleeding and cramping because they'd seen improvement on the second scan so they were hopeful and I got the sense they wanted to do something! Needless to say it didn't work but it is something I've thought about and I'd probably get some in. I found it comforting to have it to take.

Buddah I've heard preseed is good if you're lacking EWCM. If you've got lots of EWCM then even preseed isn't as good as the real thing, it's just better than the bogstandard Durex type lubes. Yes I was going to say I've read about aspirin but have a read up because I'm not sure how it works. And the ladies on Reddit are always going on about pineapple core?? I think you have to eat it. The really tough bit in the middle you'd usually cut out.

I have booked our trip back to the UK so if next cycle behaves, I've got one shot to get pregnant before then. That would be good because it would be nice to see people when I'm pregnant but of course after two miscarriages I'm thinking hmm, likely to be away from home when I miscarry again, OK, not great. But I think I'd be okay. If it did happen like that it would be very early, I'd know what to expect as would have done it before and I'll definitely be among friends/family, so while not nice, not awful. If nothing happens next cycle and everything stays on track timing wise I'll literally have ONE DAY to jump DH before leaving!

If nothing by then, we'll look into further investigation when I get back. It will have been over a year.

bertie I didnt know that about magnesium... I was chatting to a friend whose having similar trouble getting pregnant and she'd been advised to take lots of vitamins - 1 of them being magnesium, and after a bit of research she found the quickest way to get it into your body was to have a bath in the magnesium salts. Had no idea that its recommended for stopping contractions.

I also had to google EWCM - I feel like i've failed the whole ttc community not knowing what all these things stand for, but Yeah I do get quite a bit, but still would give the lube stuff a go - Getting desperate. Im putting so much pressure on myself, i'm constantly awake by 4am, googling the slightest symptom - I just keep thinking about the age gap between ds and any other ds I may have... when we started it would have been 3.5 years and now it's going to be at least 5.5 years I dont know why that makes a difference guess its just not the way I had imagined it and it's hard to get my head around it all not going to plan and taking so long.

as its day 2 of af I have to go the hospital for more bloods, also going to ask to change consultants so I dont have to wait another 8 weeks for my results. anne yep throw all your advice this way please...I'm finding af arriving and not being pregnant slightly harder than a Mc at the moment.

Blimey all you ladies are doing so much. Think I might be doing something wrong. I'm only taking folic acid and trying to get fruit and veg down me. I take pregnancy vits as soon as i find out I'm preg. That magnesium bath sounds like a good try. Wish they said that with my first pregnancy as went into labour at 33w. How do you all know about the cervix? I wouldn't have a clue where to start?