Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

Hi girls

Hope ur all well.

I'm on day 16 of my cycle had some clear discharge then some left sided pain. But OPK negative I have two apps I'm using and they both show sepereate fertile weeks.

My cycle last
Month was 30 days & month before 35 so when should I ideally been ovulating? Sorry to be a pain in just a bit confused

The best way to tell when you ovulate is opks or BBT. Apps just take an average and won't reflect your true dates unless you put in this data.

It's the part between ovulation and period which stays the same which means your ovulation date will vary when you have varying cycles. This part is called the luteal phase and is usually 10-16 days long (but your own will usually be consistent) so your ovulation could be anywhere from day 14 to day 26. You can narrow it down more by monitoring your fertility signs.

Makes sense Crazy, and I'm the opposite! G&Ts for me, and the driest of wines, cheese over chocolate, crisps over sweets, no sugar in my coffee. My god I could eat cheese......

The whole post mc cycle thing is a complete head fuck love. I've never had mid cycle bleeding, ever, in over 20 years, and now that's a thing. Try and distract yourself from thinking about it and just see what happens over the next couple of days? Honestly not sure what else you can do

Weird on the vomming Bertie, hope you're not feeling too rough. Could well be a symptom though, people randomly get morning sickness never having had it in previous pregnancies. Fx for you x

So i went to get the swab done today to test for infection and the nurse said it looked like my period was about to start. It then started about 1 hour later, probably medium - light flow. cd42- is this normal? Blood is quite red which I think is good

Also do you think the nurse started the period?

Did she give you any idea what the pain was caused by? Good job for getting it checked out.

If she took a swab from your cervix she'll have agitated/irritated a bit, not in a bad way, and that might have spurred your period on.

Erm tbh the pain has kind of gone, it's more just "feelings" but she didn't really know; I may have over reacted a bit on reflection about that. I can't really remember if I used to have those feelings every now and then or not. Will see how I get on after my period.

Ah ok that makes sense, I'm glad I went in that case, she said she could see blood in the cervix so hopefully it hadn't been there for ages waiting for someone to break the seal!

I was so worried about ashermans (I know having a period doesn't mean you definitely don't have it but thinking positively) I was getting really stressed about my period not coming!! Hopefully I can get into the actual TTC bit now

Thanks Anne don't know whether my cycles buggered or what, I do tend to be a tad over dramatic though and being as my period isn't even due til Saturday I think I may be over reacting

Not being funny you two, I think at this juncture a bit of extra vigilance and drama is forgivable xxx

I remember standing in the freezing cold at some stupid family event, miles from home, 3 days after my MVA, thinking shit, this feels like cystitis but I don't want to bother anyone.

A couple of hours later I was doubled over in agony, barely able to breathe and heading to a&e.

Once we there the pain lessened and it felt like I was making a fuss and should wait to see the GP in the morning. I was being a complete muppet because I didn't want to put anyone out.

Turns out, that when you present at a&e with abdominal pain a few days after surgery they take it pretty bloody seriously and a few hours later I was in a bed being prodded by a surgeon. Massive dose of ABs and codeine and I was better in a few days. But it could have been anything.

Had it been up to me I'd have got rapidly worse at home, not making a fuss or bothering anyone, and could have got very very ill.

Thankfully, DH is a persistent pain in the arse and made us get help and drugs!

When something hurts it might be nothing. But any doctor or nurse who doesn't want you to get checked out when you've recently been through a miscarriage is a prick. No one hands out prizes for us choosing to suffer.

Or, crazy, for pretending to be relaxed about something so innately stressful and emotional and fucking traumatic. I doubt you're overreacting x

I'm having a shit day at work and keep getting stabbing in the ovary area. I'm pissed off and tired. Sorry for ranting

anne that sounds awful, so painful.

hope you're done with work soon and can go home and rest up- the weekend is so close!!!

Anne that sounds bloody terrible, so glad you got sorted! I'm an over thinker, always have been! But it does tend to make me into a drama queen. Last year I had flu, proper flu, for the first time ever. However, because I was on my period, I convinced myself that I was actually dying from TSS and practically begged OH to take me to hospital. (He didn't and I lived, obviously)

I was back on my feet in a few days mulder but it was a useful lesson in looking after myself and listening to my body. I don't know why but once the MVA was done 5 days after we found out I felt like my time for crying and sleeping and generally carrying on was over and I needed to crack on. Absolutely ridiculous. I should never have gone away for the weekend, it was madness

Thank you. The weekend should be nice. I hope af isn't too rough on you. Rest up and look after yourself.

Crazy I'm very glad you lived. I've never known anyone actually have that, though some girls at school said they did so they got of swimming in PE!

Anne it comes from having a nurse as a mother. I know much more medically than I should, but also not enough to prevent these crazy self diagnoses . I hate what a hypochondriac I am but I just can't help it. My latest thing is that I am CONVINCED that I have an under active thyroid, probably to excuse my chronic laziness and inability to say no to food resulting in me being fat...

Just came across this: www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-38602473

Very useful to have a Mum who's a nurse!

at chronic laziness. You and me both love.

I read that earlier Anne. I thought it was a nice little article and good that the BBC is putting something about pregnancy loss up. Sorry you've had such a crappy day.

I was 100% convinced I was going to get TSS when I first started using tampons!

ladies I think I have my BFP

Eeek

Oooh! I think I see it crazy. Are you going to test with FMU tomorrow?

I asked DH to give me a pessimistic pep-talk earlier to try and get me out of this mind set that this month we'll be successful. Had some brown CM this morning and then nothing since. Implantation bleeding???

Anyway, in the spirit of not being pregnant (yet, hopefully) and being on holiday I have just had rare steak with blue cheese sauce all washed down with red wine.

Yes I am... here's the other test

:)

Well, I can definitely see a line on that one! Even with my wine goggles on! Tentative congratulations and much finger crossing.

Thank you emily ooh I so hope I am! Will update Saturday for definite :)

Oh crazy, congratulations! Fab news!

I can see it *crazy

congratulations!!*