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Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

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Miami81 · 05/02/2017 20:07

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 14/02/2017 15:14

Strawberry Flowers I'm so so sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking and you're doing well to be upright, out of bed, dressed, getting on with stuff, looking after your DD and not in pieces. A loss that late is just shocking. Did your baby have a name?

You're in limbo now waiting on the ashes and waiting to find out more from the tests. Hopefully finding out all the information you can will help you. You're not a rubbish mum, you're dealing with a massive shock and a lot of trauma, you're keeping going and doing your best and that's all you can be expected to do right now. Call in favours when you can so you get a break and make sure DH is doing what he can to support you. Find what time you can to just be together, you're both grieving and need to be gentle with each other.

We never want new people in this club! Wouldn't wish it on anybody. But having people who really truly understand is incredibly helpful and you're welcome here, vent away x

emsler · 14/02/2017 15:14

Crazy I didn't realise your MC was so recent (I'm so sorry for your loss). Just be aware that this can mess up your cycle first time around - it did mine - so timings could be less accurate than usual. Still crossing my fingers!

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/02/2017 15:19

velocity Grin

I've completely stopped bleeding today and tonight I'm getting back on it. I bought some new underwear and it's not going to waste!

TeamLentil · 14/02/2017 15:20

Strawberry, here is a virtual hug. One of my best friends miscarried at 16 weeks and it was devastating.

Crazy, I'm crossing my fingers for you!

I'm hopefully on the last day of my first AF since the miscarried. I feel like I've been bleeding non stop for four weeks now. I thought I was coping relatively well but I'm sad. So sad that I've turned down an opportunity to travel with DH (for his work) and now he's worried.

putputput · 14/02/2017 15:32

Hello, I hope you don't mind if I join.
I had a miscarriage at the end of December when I was 6+2. I've waited for my first cycle which has now come and we've decided to start trying again.
I am so scared of it happening again but every part of me wants to become a mother.
I can't imagine what it's been like for some of you ladies, especially those of you who have had very late or repeated miscarriages. Wishing hope and joy in abundance.

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/02/2017 15:43

It is sad Lentil. Sad and unfair and shit. And also early days. You probably have been bleeding for ages too, so you're understandably a bit naffing tired.

If you'll be happy having quiet time while he's away then it's the right thing to do. I'm sure he understands you're low on energy and need to hunker down.

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/02/2017 15:48

Sorry for your loss putputput Flowers

It's terrifying trying again. It's terrifying getting another bfp. Until that happens you can't have another loss, so when it's there you remember what can go wrong. But the odds are hugely in favour of a positive outcome and a healthy gorgeous baby at the end of it. So you focus on that x

Crazyvaperlady · 14/02/2017 16:07

emsler that's why I was obsessively testing with opks but all was normal, ovulated CD10 as usual

Strawberryfizzylaces1 · 14/02/2017 18:48

Thank you for your kind replies.

emsler I'm sorry to hear about your mmc, I think that you are right with the crisis mode thing. I think now the shock has worn off I'm just at that acceptance stage. I know time is a healer. It's just that you have to live through it. I just want to speed time up!
I probably should lean on people a bit more, I have had offers for looking after my dd, but I'm silly and turn it down mostly. Why?!!

light so sorry you have been through the same thing. How are you coping now?

Anne we currently don't know the sex of our baby. At the time, the midwife was honest and said she couldnt tell me 100% and didn't want to give me wrong info. I respected that and didn't try and look myself, but at our app, we will find out and will name baby. I know I will be devestated all over again when I find out this information. Hope the new underwear goes down well Wink

lentil thank you! I too am on last day of first AF. I was happy to see her, but sad about having to have a period. But at least I'm getttong back to 'normal' I guess.

put sorry for your loss. We have started ttc again too. I'm also petrified, but I know I want a second, so I am just really hoping it doesn't happen again.

Waterfeature · 14/02/2017 19:17

So sorry put and strawberry.

BertieBotts · 14/02/2017 21:09

Tch I always miss the new threads! Oops!

I think I might have finally ovulated. So our valentines celebration was had this morning Blush CD29 and fertility friend tells me my period is due in 2 days but no sign of ovulation until now this cycle. I think I will have to exclude it from the calculations.

Owl1011 · 14/02/2017 21:47

So sorry for your loss strawberry and Put, sending hugs and positive thoughts your way ladies. This thread is so lovely and supportive and I hope sharing your stories has helped during this hard time Flowers

Still waiting on first AF since ERPC, she's due to show up this weekend whilst we are away on a short break 🙈

I was wondering if people had any thoughts on TTC straight away or wait for a full cycle to pass first? x

TeamLentil · 15/02/2017 05:00

Owl, my GP told me to wait until the first AF after the MC and then go for it, but other sources say they only tell you to wait so that it's easier to track when conception happened, i.e. the dates are easier to figure out. These sources also say you are more fertile immediately after a MC. Whichever way, it didn't work for me so now I'm back on the usual cycle wagon.

88claire · 15/02/2017 05:43

Hello ladies. I'm just dropping by to say I got my BFP yesterday, confirmed today with a FRER.

I didn't have a period inbetween my MC and this BFP.

Just praying this one sticks!

Will be floating around here hoping for some BFPs from everyone. Smile you all massively deserve it!

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Miami81 · 15/02/2017 06:20

Congratulations claire. Great news.

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Crazyvaperlady · 15/02/2017 07:41

Yay! Congratulations claire ShockGrin

emily86 · 15/02/2017 08:18

Congratulations Claire! Fingers crossed for you.

Owl my understanding is they mainly say that for dating and so you can be certain it is definitely a new pregnancy. Have you had a negative sine your ERPC? I didn't wait for my first AF, after my first 2 MCs. Did after the third because of retained products.

Waterfeature · 15/02/2017 08:18

Wow, Claire, congratulations!

TeamLentil · 15/02/2017 08:20

Congratulations, Claire!

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/02/2017 09:46

claire that's wonderful news! So happy for you. Look after yourself Smile

88claire · 15/02/2017 09:49

Owl

Just so you know I didn't wait and got a positive test a month to the day of my miscarriage. Very bittersweet.

In terms of dating I know when I ovulated which helps.

I am extremely anxious though. But keeping everything crossed this is a sticky one!

noroomonbroom · 15/02/2017 10:45

Off to the epu to see what's going on.
Line is definitely getting fainter so hoping there is nothing left.
Congratulations to all those with new bfps.
Hoping for the most uneventful times ahead.
Will be waiting to join you as soon as I get the all clear.

emsler · 15/02/2017 10:56

Claire That's absolutely wonderful news, congratulations!

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/02/2017 11:20

Good luck at the EPU noroom Flowers

BertieBotts · 15/02/2017 11:47

Gentle hugs claire! Fingers crossed for you.

Temps have stayed up :) Back in the game.

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