#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Taking care of yourself. Sorry, mumsnet froze on me.
It's such a shitty thing you are going through. I'm thinking of you.

Hello,

Sorry to barge, but I noticed earlier on your thread you were talking about single mums and UK birth certificates? You may have already had this answered, but just wanted to say that in the UK as a solo mum using a sperm donor, you leave the space for father blank. As for the counsellor who said you could put 'donor conceived' etc. on the form - that is extremely worrying that she is so badly informed. I am a solo mum to 10 year old twins, and their birth certificate is blank under father.

Best of luck to all of you on this thread!

C xxx

I go away for a long weekend and you guys have been busy!

kwick oh my darling, I'm so sorry for your loss. There are no words, it's just a pile of crap. I'm sorry this has happened to you again. Just please take care of yourself.

Everyone else, hi!

www.carefertility.com/blog/new-test-which-identifies-one-of-the-causes-of-recurrent-miscarriage/?page=2
kwick may be of interest x

Morning everyone, after cramping all of yesterday I woke up this morning with bright red blood on tissue.

Thanks for all your words, especially shoes. It has hurt but I'll pick myself up and keep trying. I will phone my clinic this morning to see if I can try again this month.

I've come into work and getting sharp stick like pains in my right hand side am I being paranoid. It hurts and more so when I breathe in. To make things more confusing I use a walking stick due to flare up of sciatica and the top of my shoulder hurts but I am not sure if that is due to leaning on walking stick or something else. I phoned early pregnancy unit for advice and they told me I should have come hospital yesterday. I am so confused as I'm in work and don't want to leave unnecessary if being hypochondriac . Bleeding not very heavy

Hoping id got to the EPU in case it's an ectopic. I could be imagining this, but I think shoulder pain is related to ectopic pregnancies. As they said you should've gone yesterday, you should go and get seen. And as I've said, I'm not sure whether that's something I've made up or not, but some alarm bells are ringing. Hope you get sorted soon. X

Hoping, if you're not feeling well you should definitely see a doctor, better safe than sorry. Have you called your clinic yet?

Not sure if that is of any help but I'm getting sharp stitches (I had them last month too) and I'm pretty sure I am making these up, so I think it's possible for the body to create these. It's so hard to see clear between what is real and what is a product of our imagination...

Thanks I'll go and get checked out as I'm just sitting here worrying. I'm also worried it's my imagination and they will think I'm silly going but pain still there so I'll go. Feel a bit of a plonk.

Plenty of people see doctors for imaginary symptoms and there is definitely something happening in your body as you had detected a pregnancy on HPTs so don't feel silly!!
And you probably need answers before you can move forward anyway, I know I would in your case.

I'd go and get checked too, Hoping. It's better to go and get seen, just for peace of mind rather than anything else.
Like Pez said, you had enough hormones for it to be dectected on a HPT so it's better to be safe than sorry! Let us know x

hoping I hope you are ok. I think getting checked out is the best thing. You know you had implantation so it's best to find out exactly what is going on.

kwick how are you doing?

Hello still in hospital. Tested my pee twice which was negative( I also tested it with Frer and got the faintest second line) she also checked blood pressure and looked ok. She was going to send me away as their tests were negative but she called someone and now waiting for blood test for hcg. I will need to come back in 48 hours for another blood test. So I'm not pregnant, probably not ectopic and likely chemical pregnancy. Feel poo :(

If you have shoulder pain you must insist they scan you to check for ectopic Hoping. Be balshy if you have to.

I agree with shoes here, hoping. I knew I wasn't imagining the whole shoulder pain/ectopic thing. It's a few hours since you said about it so I hope you got a scan.

Sorry to just barge in with my brash feelings; but I am sick of waiting to TTC. It seems like I'll have to wait another whole year if I go to Australia. I've had to put it off from the end of last year due to my laparoscopy. Now I have that booked and it's five weeks away, I just want to try after that. I've waited two years due to saving, which is fine, I knew I'd have to wait that long, but now I'm in a position where I can, I just want to. It's still a good few months away because of recovering from my surgery, but that I can wait. Not a whole year, I don't think.
Nobody else understands my urgency for it apart from you ladies... I feel at such a loss. I don't want to let my grandparents down after I said I'd go (no monies has been paid out yet) but it's principle. But a baby is more important.

Just got home. Blood test showed hcg level was 3. If ectopic hcg would be a lot higher as still 'pregnant'. Told me if pains come back or pain goes severe to go back. Also they only do scans in the morning. Thanks for advice everyone - not sure what I would do without all of you! I at least feel reassured and know for definitive not pregnant ( yes I googled and found breakout bleeding last night even though extremely unlikely still starting hoping a tiny bit perhaps)

kwick I'm exhausted emotionally after today and had you in my thoughts and how must have been for you. Hope you doing ok

Hope everyone else is ok. miri and pez how's it going and caution did you have your appointment today? Xx

Nope sorry I meant karen! Hope iui went ok. How you feeling cx

Caution, in that case why don't you go ahead and TTC this year. You could buy some refundable/flexible tickets. I'm sure your grand parents will understand and it will give you peace of mind that you've got it all covered!

Right, that is Monday ticked off the list and I'm nearly half way through my TWW.

For all of you trying in the future, Pickle, Caution and others, I'd suggest you write down everything that is happening in your bodies during the luteal phase now! I wish I had done that while charting, it would have stopped me from reading too much into any cramp, CM, breast tenderness etc I'm having these days, which I probably always have but now seem to drive me crazy!!!

Hoping, give us some news

Kwick, you are in my thoughts throughout the day

Sorry just seen you posted while I was writing hoping. It's good you got the answers you needed (even if not the news you wanted)

Have you spoken to your clinic yet re starting a new cycle?

hoping I'm so sorry. I think you are safe from an ectopic though. Although if the pain comes back then go back in. I thought I had shoulder pain too, but I think I was just stressing over everything, cauing my shoulder to knot up.

caution skip Australia. That's just my opinion, but I think that you are ready to try and will regret putting it off.

I rested after the iui, but had a very tense cramps abdomen this morning. Not ovulation pain, just a bloated feeling. I had the o pain saturday/Sunday. I'm normally bloated after an iui, so I'm not concerned. Feeling better now. Beautiful day here, finally seeing some sun. Hard to believe my folks in Nova Scotia are being pounded by a blizzard!

Yay pez one week down. I agree good to note how body is before period. I started tracking how I felt most days with an app called clue - it really helped me as most 'signs' I knew I normally had. Hope this next week goes quickly for you.

Yes I've spoke to clinic and I can go ahead this month if I want to and I've said yes.

shoes you mentioned you had also had chemical pregnancies - do you remember if they affected when you ovulated? ( did it happen sooner or later than normal) welcome thoughts from anyone else. I normally ovulate cd14-16 but just wondered whether this will change anything.

Thanks karen x

Fingers crossed for you

Sorry you're having a tough time hoping DP had an ectopic pregnancy after our 3rd cycle. She didn't have any shoulder pain (although it is a symptom - all medics questioned her about it obsessively). Her HCG was never as low as 3 either until after all treatment was finished, so I'm sure that's not what you're having. A chemical pregnancy is horrendous and I really feel for you, but at least you can try again soon (there's a 3 month wait after an ectopic, which we found very hard).
Still thinking of you too of course kwick
We're fine, and now officially halfway through the 2ww. Today is 7 dpiui; this time next week we will know one way or the other (if AF doesn't arrive first).

😔hoping sorry you've had such a rubbish day! Glad it's not an eptopic tho-phew!!

Thanks pez and all, I use the Ovia app so fill in most symptoms. Seem to be getting less and less each month of anything symptoms except bloating. Been worrying recently that maybe I'm not ovulating properly and that's why periods aren't very heavy cos the linings not building up much to break down....I'm prob overreacting 😕I'm taking my temperature this morning and onwards to try and see if there are any peaks etc to indicate ovulation

Yeh caution i don't think I could wait any longer
After your op have they said u need to wait any length of time?
When was oz being planned for? (Sorry I regularly forget what's going on)