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#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!

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kwick · 19/01/2017 10:05

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!
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HopingForALittleOne · 11/02/2017 15:39

karen yay! Good luck for tomorrow ( even though I will also say that tomorrow as well) and fingers crossed x

CautionHormone · 11/02/2017 18:32

Karen that's great! I'm glad you got your surge, but sorry it's bad timing! I understand what you mean about it being too important.
Good luck for tomorrow with your IUI; I'll have everything crossed!

I know what you mean about Australia. If I go, it means another whole year and a bit of waiting to try. And I don't want that. I've waited over two years already due to saving... Now I'm in a place where I can start (things being good with my laparoscopy on 22nd March) I can start beginning of July time, having given myself three months to recuperate fully... As you said, Australia will always be there and I could travel with a child, and Mum and Dad will go in a few years time, so it's just deciding whether I miss going this time around.

pickle162 · 11/02/2017 18:46

Ooh good luck with iui tomorrow karen

pickle162 · 11/02/2017 19:24

OMG I've found this program on tlc on sky Called outnumbered busby quints- they had iui and ended up having 5babys 😱Scary

kwick · 11/02/2017 21:22

Apparently the Royal College have criteria which I do not meet due to size of egg sac...still cannot get my head around this. But at the end it makes no difference. Baby is gone. I feel like shit. Heart is broken.

pez I am keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

pickle I am getting so excited for you!!!

shoes I actually have had an ok day - my friend picked me up from my mums and we went to see 50 shades - she knows not to ask me anything but lets me talk if I need to. After she drove me to where we work so I could pick up my laptop. When I got home I did some urgent bits of work, updated my bosses on my absence and applied for the job I want to change to. Laptop is now switched off. Crap TV on. I am "ok" if distracted but had a meltdown this morning when I said to my mum that I would be off next week and she said "oh are you on holiday?" And I said "no I am off sick" and promptly broke into tears. Both nephew and her gave me a nice hug. She is really suffering, I know, but I just wish she could be a bit more tactful... she either puts her foot in it, is angry, or says and does nothing.

karen best of luck for tomorrow!!

caution why not have treatment in Australia? Wink

hoping doesn't your clinic do a Beta HCG test?

Thank you all once again - feels good to know I have you rooting for me.

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pickle162 · 11/02/2017 22:31

I was watching my best friends wedding, love that film but does make me cry (like most things do currently). Glad your friend was able to take u out for distraction. I think anyone would piss me off in ur situation. I don't like being patronised or being ignored , sometimes I like hugs othertimes I hate even being around people depending on what's going on in my head.
Have u booked an appointment with ur clinic to discuss options or are you going to take a little break from seeing them ( I know u possibly can't do anything treatment wise for a few months)

Thanks all, as it gets closer I'm freaking out even more, will it happen, will I have 5,
Will I lose my friends,will I cope, will I have enough money etc etc. I know I'm doing the right thing otherwise I'd be panicking about the money I've just spent out for donor but think these next few months are going to mess with my mind. kwick I hope you don't think I'm being insensitive, I know your going through a lot worse x

Pez82 · 12/02/2017 08:52

Good luck today Karen!

kwick · 12/02/2017 09:09

Not at all pickle this road is a hard one to walk - but you will get there and it will be all the more worthwhile given the obstacles you faced along the way.
No clinic appt yet - not really sure I am going back there.

Right I am going to slap a face mask on and watch some old Silent Witness which I found on Netflix!!! Then I am going to cover my grey and get up!

karen all the best honey!!!

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INeedNewShoes · 12/02/2017 12:47

Sounds like a good plan for the day Kwick and I'm pleased your friend provided some distraction yesterday.

My mum isn't great at saying the right thing in a crisis either, but at least they're there for us in other useful ways Smile

I always do what I call 'Friends therapy' if I'm having a crisis. I watch tons of episodes of Friends back to back starting at Series 1 Episode 1. Eventually I'll realise that bits of it are raising a smile at a time when I thought I'd never find anything funny ever again. It always makes me feel a little bit better.

HopingForALittleOne · 12/02/2017 13:20

Hello everyone,

I think the risk taydex warned me about is about to happen. 15pdiui I still got a light line on Frer this morning but cb digital now saying not pregnant. I've also started spotting not brown but pinkish red so I'm waiting for the inevitable af to start. Three days past my expected period date and a string of positives on a variety of tests over the last few days. I'm truly gutted and feel foolish at testing early and despondent about my eggs all at the same time.

pickle162 · 12/02/2017 13:45

Oh hoping :( did u do this cycle naturally or with meds?
Don't give up hope that this won't happen though, 1st attempt would be very lucky. Totally fxxxing sucks tho :(
Do you get a blood test with ur clinic anyway to check ur levels?
Sending lots of hugs x

CautionHormone · 12/02/2017 13:54

Kwick - I'm glad you had an okish day yesterday and that your friend provided a distraction for a few hours. I like what Shoes said - Friends is a very good pick me up. Or my go to is Harry Potter 😂 It never fails to make me feel better; each to their own I suppose!
I would do treatment in Australia, but I'm only there three weeks and I don't think my Nan & Grandad would be best pleased Blush

Hoping I'm sorry lovely. Maybe ring your clinic for more advice? When is/was your OTD? I can't imagine how you must be feeling. X

Pez82 · 12/02/2017 13:54

Hoping, I'm so sorry to hear that, it really sucks. Can you get a beta done tomorrow to check?
Reading you, I am now firmly decided to not test this month. I'm going to let either AF or the clinic break the news to me this time...

CautionHormone · 12/02/2017 13:54

Thinking of you Karen!

INeedNewShoes · 12/02/2017 14:00

Hoping - this happened to me on IUI #1 and #3. Sorry that it looks like you're experiencing a chemical pregnancy Flowers

For your first attempt, I genuinely think you can see this as a positive thing (I did with mine), and that early testing was worth it because we now know that:

a) you created an egg which was fertilisable
b) you had IUI around the right time
c) your clinic did a good job of inserting the sperm and got it to the right place
d) the sperm found the egg
e) the egg implanted (you can't get a BFP without implantation)
f) your body started producing HCG like its supposed to

Those are hurdles that you now know work for you. Some women have to have many attempts before they establish that they've got a problem with one of these things.

Don't be too disheartened. You'll be better mentally prepared for a BFP on a future attempt and you've gained a lot of useful info from this attempt.

I would say don't throw your money down the drain having your clinic run blood tests or do a scan. You have had a straightforward chemical pregnancy which is very very common and par for the course in TTC.

I know it sounds like I'm belittling it but chemical pregnancies are so common that they barely figure for most people (because they don't know that it has happened) so try not to build this into something bigger than it really is, although of course its disappointing because life would be so much easier if you had success first time!

pickle162 · 12/02/2017 14:32

shoes honestly you are never allowed to leave us here until we are all preg. You have such a lovely way with words and so knowledgeable Star

Karendvm · 12/02/2017 14:33

Ah hoping. That's crap. I agree with everything that shoes said. So many women will never even get to where you did, but that doesn't make it easier to deal with. I know how disappointing this is. Hugs.

kwick · 12/02/2017 16:00

hoping Flowers
What shoes said

shoes what pickle said

Shit, fuck, wank, bollocks! Pain is excruciating. Like period pain on steroids. Trying hard to disguise agony from family - I know it will just distress them and there is nothing they can do.

The parking thread I was following has been taken down by MN. Sad

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pickle162 · 12/02/2017 16:59

Parking thread? About parking?

INeedNewShoes · 12/02/2017 17:02

Pickle - you really need to explore Mumsnet a bit more Grin There's a whole world of entertainment on here.

CautionHormone · 12/02/2017 17:07

I wholeheartedly agree with what pickle has said, shoes.. You're never allowed to leave us!! You're so knowledgeable and have such a way with words and you're so comforting. Reading what you said to hoping comforted me, and I'm not even going through it!

hoping I agree with what shoes said. It sounds like a chemical pregnancy. Doesn't make it any easier to deal with, but at least you know. I'm sorry lovely.

And yes, parking thread?! I do occasionally lurk around on MN but I've never come across a parking thread... 😂

INeedNewShoes · 12/02/2017 17:09

I actually think I'm quite annoying and blunt on this thread sometimes!

I'd find me irritating Grin

pickle162 · 12/02/2017 17:40

Lol shoes honest yes but annoying no Grin
I know seriously need to snoop around more on MN but at mo don't really have any need to add anything else in, when this thread goes busy I can barely keep up with this one let alone anymore. I did save a recipe from something that was emailed through from MN :)

pickle162 · 12/02/2017 17:41

karen I have no idea what time it is in Canada so can't quite work out whether you've had iui or not yet but hope it goes/went well x

Karendvm · 12/02/2017 17:47

Lol pickle. I think I'm about 5 hours behind you guys. Just home from my iui. Things went well. Uncomfortable as always. 16 million post wash. I have the 3 follicles, so there was the talk about triplet which at my age I think is far fetched but I guess the possibility is there. Just hoping for one healthy baby at the end of all this.

kwick I am so sorry for your pain. I had very strong pain killers for mine. I hope you have a good hot water bottle and are taking a