#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

I'm sorry Hoping Maybe 10 dpiui is a bit soon for a test though? You should definitely re-test before you write it off.
The disappointment sucks though.

Pez good luck today! It was a nice afternoon on the slopes yesterday and I was thinking of you but sounds like your afternoon was even more exciting!!

Caution hope today is better although I know if you have problems you might get more than one day of hell :(

Kwick hope you feel better today today. There is so much going round, I've been ill/had ill colleagues almost constantly since about September! Must be hard not to worry. Is your scan later this week or next week, I've lost track of my days?

Char that sounds really hard. You might be surprised how counselling can help - probably more than one session. It's great that he's wanting to try and get over the feelings. With that as a starting point I think you have a reasonable chance

Pickle so close to getting started!

Miri good luck with the wait!

Hoping I'm just going to repeat that's it's early. Hope it all changes in a few days.

Cherry I know it seems strange but it might well just be because you are waiting for it. Bodies are strange things. Hang in there.

Karen good luck with the scan today.

Best of luck pez!!! Have been thinking of you.

This AF is really taking it out of me... Barely slept an hour last night without waking up, and the pains are just as bad this morning. I want to chop my lower half off. 😫

caution I hope you get some relief soon.

hoping still early days yet. Fingers still crossed for you.

Scan went fine. 20 and 14 on the left, 18 on the right. Dr seems to think I'll be surging any minute, but I think I'm still a day or 2 away based on what my body is doing. Time to start peeing on sticks!

Thanks Karen. No relief yet. Been tearing my hair out all day.
Great news about your scan. Are you doing medicated or unmedicated IUI? Either way, your follies sound like they're coming on great!

caution I'm sorry to hear that. :(. I'm doing medicated, but barely. 2.5 mg of letrazole days 3-7. Any more and my follicles go wild and I over stimulate. Last time it was the worst pain I've ever had. I'm super paranoid about it now. I'm so tired though. Molly is 13 weeks and still not sleeping through the night. I tested this morning, negative surge. Just tested again now but used the same stick. Idiot. Lol. Ah well, pretty sure I'll surge tomorrow or the next day. I'll just keep testing. Hate this part, it's the most stressful for me.

Thanks witch I have not got the lurgy or anything just felt very heavy in my womble and out of sorts... now I just feel knackered...
Scan on Thursday 😬

hoping way to early!!! On another TTC thread I am on we would give you a "hooyah!" for that FX you will still get your BFP.

karen wow, wow, wow!!! You are one juicy mumma too!!!! This is fab news!!

caution you must be going spare - have you resorted to yet?

Re-org at work starting up - there is a new job I like the look of (same boss, less travel) - sent email to said boss highlighting my interest and asked if I should just go ahead and apply. CV all at the ready! I did not get the impression she wants me to apply but worth a try!

Get lots of rest kwick. New job sounds better, especially with less travel. I am hoping for a great scan on Thursday for you!

All done All went well so I'm now in my TWW#2. I can't be in London for the blood test on OTD so I'm booked for the day after. So an extra long TWW!!! I'm not on the progesterone this month (yay!) so I'll find out before anyway as AF is never late (and also any symptom will be real). The doctor had another chat with me re triplets, I guess it's procedure...

Karen, great follies, probably just a matter of days now... the testing for the surge is very stressful indeed!

caution, I think you might need to follow kwick' s advice and fetch a bottle of your favourite tipple!

Kwick, if I'm not wrong I think you might be the next milestone of the thread, unless karen surges before then . Good stuff to look forward to!

Thanks karen

Great job pez.... I hope the magic potion is AS WE SPEAK doing its thing!!!
No pressure then pez!!!

I hope so too kwick! Although it's unlikely I've ovulated yet, I'm only about 24h post surge.
It's funny how the second time it feels like 'been there done that'

Thanks for all the people listening to me moan. I started my period today. I looked up home remedies last night and drank a glass of milk with cinammon. Not sure if that's why as more likely just coincidence!

I got a bill through from my fertility clinic today. £300 to store the donor sperm. Looks like this will be each month. They never mentioned this before and I hadn't factored this into my calculations. Does anyone else have this?
I'm going up for my beginning cycle scan tomorrow so will question it then. I just feel that they keep dumping surprise bills on me, rather than breaking it down clearly at the beginning.
The clinic told me £1,000 for the donor sperm to buy but it was nearer £1,800 after the shipping and pregnancy slot. I'm starting to think that CREATE may have been the better choice (I'm with Harley Street Fertility Clinic).

Ooh exciting times pez & karen

I hope the scan is positive kwick and the Womble discomfort is just ur body preparing to house ur growing bambino

Sorry you still feel poop caution hopefully tomorrow will be heaps better

Karen that made me smile! Can't believe you used the same stick to test with - brightened my gloomy day a bit! Hopefully testing won't be as stressful for you this time around... Let us know when your IUI day is! Molly sounds super cute. I love puppies!

Kwick that's great news re your new possible job! Less travel would be better, wouldn't it, especially now you're pregnant?...

Kwick & Pez - Haven't resorted to yet but I'm so close. I rang my drs and demanded my dr rang me back as they're closed tomorrow and he did at 5:50pm. He's given me some meds called Spasmonal - apparently they're specifically for relaxing the intestines (they're good for IBS - pickle, they may be worth a try?) and uterus. Anybody heard of them before? They seem to have taken the edge off but haven't taken away the sharp pains in my right side. If only I knew what they were...

Pez great news on your IUI! Are you more relaxed now you're not on the pessaries? Fingers crossed that IUI cycle 2 is your cycle!!!

Kwick will be thinking about you on Thursday. 😘 How far gone are you now?

cherry sorry about AF £300 a month???? That is extortion!!!! Are you sure it is not the annual amount?

what is a pregnancy slot?

Thought I would share my "patent pending" TWW list with you:

I hope it's the annual amount. I'll be asking tomorrow. They never told me there would be a storage charge!

European Sperm Bank ask you to buy a pregnancy slot if you live in the UK as the UK limits how many families the donor can be used with. It is transferred if there is no pregnancy with the donor so at least I won't have to keep paying that but it was roughly £500.

I wish you better Caution. I only have mild period pain but had it during class today (I'm a teacher) and got a little grumpy with the children.

Good luck with your scan Kwick and enjoy the pineapple Pez!

Cherry, I find it odd the clinic charges you to store the magic potion while you're undergoing treatment with them. Definitely worth checking. I've also paid a pregnancy slot with ESB but as I've ordered 3 vials the unit cost was roughly around £600 I think (I only paid 100€ for shipping).
Unfortunately fertility clinics are money making businesses! Yesterday they said, let's do a blood test to find out whether you're surging and that alone cost me an additional £105!!! And they also wanted me to buy the trigger shot 'just in case' but I knew I wouldn't need it so said no.

Kwick, I didn't know about cayenne pepper. I'm off to my spice rack to see if I have any!!

And yes Caution, I'm glad I'm not on the pessaries, especially as it means I can symptom spot for real this month ahahah. Hope the spasmonal helps and you can get a good night sleep.

cherry I've had similar but I have to pay £541 per transfer but that includes 3years storage and if use within 1st year then get back £300 back (I think, I can't remember) At my clinic you only pay for this per transfer so if I did one each month then I'd have to pay each time or if brought batch would only pay once.
So just brought 6 straws and including VAT, transfer costs, 6months pregnancy slot- it was £2736 to that sperm bank and then will have to pay the £540 to my clinic- so yeh hadn't prepared for this either

Pregnancy slot is where u can use that donor for 6months without it going to someone else to use so rather than doing 2 tries and then they say oh wait sorry now he's had 10families u have to find someone else they hold it for u until either pregnant or given up on that donor

I now have -£200 once the transfer has gone through so need to save for next 3months so can actually afford to have any iui's 😔

Thanks for the list kwick I think I'll find not having a bath for 2weeks the hardest, if I'm not in bed I'm usually in the bath 😫Is it cos of the heat?

Aw Cherry; what year do you teach? My brothers girlfriend is currently training to be a teacher at uni. She's in her final year on her last placement. She's doing primary teaching; she loves it!
Fingers crossed it's the annual amount. Let us know?
Slightly envious of you at the moment though for only having mild period cramps

Pez; thank you. It's taken the edge off slightly which I'm happy about because that's something... Hoping I can sleep a bit better tonight. Something to eat then off to bed!
Happy symptom spotting

cherry sure hope that is the annual amount, and I hope the refund it if you don't end up storing for the year.

pez I envy you. I'll be on the progesterone and I hate it. Not only for the pregnancy side effects but also because it gives me pseudo gout and severe pain in my foot. Worth it though. But still wish I didn't have to take it. Patiently waiting for my bladder to fill and concentrate. Very early morning so looking forward to getting home and hanging with the dogs.

pickle try 9 weeks without a bath 🛀!

It is due to risk of infection - IUI/IVF is an intervention after all. This is my clinic's recommendation anyway.

Hmm this pregnancy slot thing is interesting... wonder if different for me as magic potion came from USA? I bought up last straws.

I was meant to be 6weeks no bath after each leg op so 18weeks in total . Found ingenious ways of using cling film and laying in the bath sideways so didn't get wet....can't really keep womble from getting wet in a bath 😂Doh!

I have learnt a lot in last couple of weeks about preg slots and donoreserve (another 💩Name for it!
Hoping there are no other hidden costs for any of us 😖

Cherry at lwc they mentioned a price to hold sperm. The nurse quoted £500 for up to two years. I was incredulous as planned to buy one vial a week before period so at most they would store it for three weeks. In the end she wrote down it was £325 for one year which I still thought ridiculous for three weeks storage.

I looked at esb but used the London sperm bank in the end as when I started adding up all the extra costs it looked like would cost slightly more from esb. I 'only' (gulp) paid £950 for sperm. When I paid for iui treatment on the day I paid £850 for treatment and £40hefa. They didn't mention the storage cost so I didn't though I am expecting I could still possible get an invoice...( although London sperm bank is downstairs from lwc)

pez you are my inspiration as you are a few steps ahead of me. Glad iui went well and wishing you all the luck for cycle #2. Do let me know if it gets any easier I've found this TWW really hard.

Good luck miri fingers crossed for you and your partner too!

karen I found waiting to surge rather stressful too I just wanted it to happen so I didn't miss it and I couldn't wait for it to happen so could have iui and have a chance of being pregnant. Not sure if I will calm down if I have to do this again.

kwick you have amazing energy to do your job and all that travelling. New job sounds good if you ready to reduce travelling?

I've always been career motivated looking to take on extra work for next promotion. It's worked but meant the last ten years my life has been about my career. It's funny though as now I want to ( and I'm trying) to have a baby it's like there has been a switch in my brain and I'm already not making the same career choices/ decisions I would have done even three months ago. Not sure anyone else had this change of feeling ?

caution hope you feeling a bit better xxx

Thanks for your support re early testing. I guess I got excited and hopeful about those tales you read of others getting squinters/ lines at this stage. Also with no symptoms it's hard to imagine the result will change in 4 days... also period on my tracker says period due 9th but 14 th days post iui is 11th. My tracker showed ovulation on day I ovulated ( even though I was convinced I was late due to spotting) so I'm minded to believe it's prediction about my period too.

So I'm not sure if I should be pregnant by 9th or 11th? Or when af is meant to come 😐 any advice / thoughts welcome