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#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!

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kwick · 19/01/2017 10:05

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

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kwick · 28/01/2017 11:23

Jesus shoes I would have found that very traumatic too!

The valve that regulates how mych water goes into the cistern seems to be the issue.

Best of luck with IUI hoping!

So excited!!! On way to Lakeland!!!

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pickle162 · 28/01/2017 11:24

hoping thinking of you, hope ur iui went ok. Enjoy your mini pineapple

I don't take any meds for my ibs apart from peppermint oil capsules if bad bloating. I was on amitriptyline for a while about 5yrs ago which was fab however it zonked me out even more than usual and it made me want to eat EVERYTHING in sight. The last couple of years I've only had the odd acute flare up (still get some effects always but can cope with them) so have been quite lucky and then they go boom it somehow feels worse. Went shopping this morning and brought lots of food that is healthy,balanced and shouldn't cause too many problems....ooh I even got this need mince that they somehow have combined with harrigot beans to make it much healthier and lower fat

CautionHormone · 28/01/2017 12:01

Happy IUI day hoping :)
Have been thinking of you..!!

tygr · 28/01/2017 12:33

Good luck hoping

I recently had that problem Kwick. Luckily I have home plumbing cover so a man came round and replaced the gubbins in the cistern.

Am away for a 40th birthday spa weekend. All I've managed in the spa so far is crying, yes in public, after getting overwhelmed by the expense (paid for by mum and sister) and that I'm 40 and don't want to be. We're going to try again later after lunch and hopefully I've pulled myself together again.

Sorry to those with BFNs. Onwards and upwards.

kwick · 28/01/2017 13:02

Sweetie try to enjoy your treat. 40 is not that bad - it is the new 30! Take care tygr Flowers

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pickle162 · 28/01/2017 14:36

Happy birthday celebrations tygr try and enjoy your weekend being spoilt

witchmountain · 28/01/2017 17:46

Sorry Tygr, it's tough when you get to a landmark age and your life isn't where you want it.

Late, did you hear back from your clinic? Hope all is clearer.

Kwick when my cistern was continuously emptying due to continuously filling it was because there was a bit of limescale caught under the valve so it couldn't quite close. I had a good look expecting to have to replace the valve but it turned out to be simpler. At least in the short term - both my bathroom and kitchen need replacing and there are several things I've been holding off doing and am really hoping don't catastrophically fail before I'm ready!

CautionHormone · 28/01/2017 17:46

Happy birthday celebrations tygr. 40 is the new 20, don't be disheartened! Enjoy being pampered!

Ok, so, I looked back on MyFitnessPal from when I used it in November last year (from when I started to lose weight from my gyno told me to lose weight, if that makes any sense?!) and I'd logged my weight as being 1st7lb heavier than I am now, so in actual fact, I have not lost just 8lb, I have lost 1st7lb....!!!!! And on my old phone (I've changed phone since November) I found a body pic so I could compare in the future so I compared it with one today. I think I can see some difference - what do you guys think?! Left is November, right is today. Any feedback (positive or negative) would be appreciated!

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tygr · 28/01/2017 18:16

Caution! Absolutely definitely can see the difference. Well done. That's brilliant. Much more toned. I'm sure the gynae will be pleased. Hope you are too.

pickle162 · 28/01/2017 18:18

Wow caution there is a massive difference!!! Go you! I have to say in the second picture before I enlarged I thought your elbows were you boobs lol.

late any news?
hoping how'd your appointment go?

I'm feeling a million miles away from starting after getting excited about beginning of march which would be about 5weeks ago and now back to end of April which is 12weeks 5days away!!! I know it's my decision and needed to delay cos nothing getting done in time etc etc but feeling a little glum about it Sad

HopingForALittleOne · 28/01/2017 18:18

Great tatts caution! Yes I can really see a difference well done you

Did you get toilet sorted kwick?

Happy birthday tygr

All done and went smoothly ( apart from the four attempts to get the speculum in and get access to cervix- I hope it's easier getting something out than getting things in! )

15 million sperm and 70% and stayed lying down in room for 25 minutes after. I was trying to talk to nurse as it calms me so I don't tense muscles and she was like 'all done it's gone in' but because speculum was still in I wanted to keep talking so I think she thought I was weird that I carried on talking about the weather lol.

When she left the room I also didn't know what to do so I got my book out my bag and just carried on reading until I thought I was absolutely going to wet myself if I didn't get up.

Not sure if that's the normal thing to do but I felt very calm about it. I still feel calm at the moment as I've feel I've done all I can and now my body can do what it needs to.

Well when I've said all I've done I've now munched through some pineapple, put an extra pair of socks on and notched up the heating a bit from 19C. Know I need to keep warm but I get so hot (though feet stay cold) so I'll see how I go keeping body warm for a cozy womb environment lol

Testing date will be 11 th February. I'm in the TWW Smile

pickle162 · 28/01/2017 18:23

I don't think I helped myself as I found this tshirt that I really want but can't get as I don't want to jinx anything(she says with her spare wardrobe full of baby stuff)

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pickle162 · 28/01/2017 18:25

Congrats on entering the tww hoping and for being so lovely and calm :)

CautionHormone · 28/01/2017 18:25

Thanks guys Grin I thought I could see a difference but wasn't sure if I was going mad because I wanted to see a difference!

tygr, I'm hoping my gynae will be pleased. I'm very happy - I can finally stop worrying. Knowing I did most of it subconsciously is quite weird but I've done it all the same!

pickle LOL you make me laugh. They are, in fact, my elbows Wink

hoping - thanks lovely! I love my tattoos - I have so many of them haha but obviously you can only see those two. I have a half sleeve too - the one on my leg isn't quite finished, in case you can't tell Wink
That's great news! The stats sound great, and I'm so glad you're feeling relaxed and calm about everything. That's the way forward! 11th Feb really isn't that far away - hopefully your TWOT isn't too bad for you and you continue to be relaxed :)

HopingForALittleOne · 28/01/2017 18:36

pickle I love the t-shirt!! X

kwick · 28/01/2017 18:59

caution well done!! Excellent progress!!

Toilet not professionally sorted. I am at my mum's this weekend.

Very exciting hoping!!! Remember to laugh and do lots of PMA!!!

pickle That t-shirt is fab!!! I have not bought anything except for a kidney warmer band and a heated clothes drier!!!!

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pickle162 · 28/01/2017 19:06

I'm not going to buy anything for myself until I am further along-gotta get to doing the bloomin thing first Hmm

Pez82 · 28/01/2017 19:15

Welcome to the TWW hoping, so glad to hear all went well and good stats too Smile

Wow caution, that is truly impressive, we'll done!!! You're right to feel proud about it and you should!

Love the t-shirt pickle. One of my best friends bought me a 'mummy dear' mug for Xmas and it's currently hidden in a cupboard. Can't wait to take it out!

I treated myself to a nice jacket today and I'm off to the restaurant to celebrate a birthday. No sign of AF though...

CautionHormone · 28/01/2017 19:44

Thank you kwick & pez Grin I'm chuffed with myself. I don't mean to keep harping on about my weight, but it's such a big thing in my life right now because it's the barrier between me and starting the journey!

pickle I love the tshirt. It's so cute!

pez enjoy your evening celebrating the birthday, and try not to worry about AF not showing. X

Pez82 · 28/01/2017 21:22

Well I hadn't thought this would be so hard... currently sitting opposite 2 of my pregnant friends and they've been doing baby talk non stop for 2hours. I think I might need to find an excuse and sneak out... I can't even listen, let alone take part in the conversation

I feel these gatherings will be too difficult for me until I get a BFP. All my friends are parents and most are expected their second children this year.

HopingForALittleOne · 28/01/2017 21:33

pez I could have written your post I know exactly how you feel it's hard isn't it? Flowers

( wish there were a few more emoticons on here - a heart or hug would be fabulous and what the diddy-o is this?Archers!)

StorkAhoy · 28/01/2017 21:37

pez I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe in a couple of weeks you will feel differently? I know if took me a couple of weeks to get my head right after my bfn in December.
I'm the other way around now though, my friend who has helped me through my ivf is pregnant with twins, due end of March, and I have gleefully taken part where I can in her pregnancy, and revelled in every bargain she's found, each scan she's had, and it's really pushed me into an uber positive place.

As an alternate point of view: My acupuncturist is Sri Lankan and in their culture they surround themselves with pregnant friends, and family, and also pictures of happy babies are added all around the house while they are trying to conceive as they are great believers of manifestation. I.e. Surround yourself with and focus on what you want and the universe will provide.

You are absolutely entitled to feel the way you do, and if they (your friends) knew what you've just been through then they could use a bit more tact. If they don't know, perhaps you should share?

Unfortunately for some of us, it may take many tries to have a strong healthy baby, unfortunate, but true.... so given that, are you comfortable separating yourself for a time from your friends? Would that loneliness not be more hurtful? For me it would be the worst.

But, you have to be you, and feel what you need to feel, and we are all here to help you get through it. Xoxo

pickle162 · 28/01/2017 21:42

Oh my darling pez totally get it! Are they aware of your plans? Biggest cuddles xx

Pez82 · 28/01/2017 21:49

Thank you both.
I think it was just too soon and too intense for me tonight. I'm ok when I'm with my friends who know but tonight only one person at the table knew and everyone went on and on talking about babies and family life. I'm really excited for them but it was just too much for me.
I've just left saying I was not feeling well.

I don't want to cut myself from the world while I'm on this journey but I think there will be times when I need to listen to my gut and decline invitations. Baby showers would be very difficult for me to handle for example...

Pez82 · 28/01/2017 21:50

Just seen your post hoping, thank you to you too

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