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TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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SayItIsntSo1 · 11/12/2016 08:16

Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs Grin

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notparticularlypatient · 30/01/2017 20:24

Sounds similar to me, littlefox. I want to start trying again now, I think. At the hospital they said it was fine to start ttc again whenever I felt ready. For me the physical part has been fine, so hopefully my body can deal with another pregnancy should I be so lucky to conceive quick (doubt it, though). Physiologically it's been harder, but I think trying again will be a way of distracting myself. How about you?

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/01/2017 20:33

notparticularlypatient my first AF was 29 days after my surgery. I had a bfn about a week after surgery and think I ovulated a week later.

I have short cycles usually, about 24/25 days. It lasted 4 days and ear lighter and less painful than usual, but heavy enough for me to be sure it was af and nothing else.

My next cycle was 30 days, unheard of for me but again, a normal af.

Keep a note of everything, an app or a note to yourself, so you can keep track of it all.

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/01/2017 20:40

leigh, your baby was so beautiful Flowers Did you name him/her?

It's so important to remember our babies however we want to. They were real, they were ours, we will always love them and remember them. Not everyone will understand but it is important to talk about them x

LittleFox10 · 30/01/2017 20:48

Leigh, I agree with Anne. I always talk about my first baby, we called him Riley. I gave birth to him so to me it was all real and he was a proper baby 💙 all our babies are beautiful and will always be remembered.

Yes I think we're going to try again straight away, the hospital also said that there is no need to wait and when we are ready to try again. So I am going to start my next cycle of Clomid tomorrow evening! Eek! Scared of trying again but it is all I have ever dreamed of! Hoping for lots of BFP next month xx

leighdinglady · 30/01/2017 20:49

Thank you so much Anne. We deliberately chose not to find out the sex. The doctors have it on record though so it's only a matter of time before I cave and call them. The due date birth stone is ruby so I've been thinking of him/her as Ruby

leighdinglady · 30/01/2017 20:50

Good luck little fox!!! Let us know x

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/01/2017 21:31

That's good you can find out if you want to leigh.

We hadn't considered being able to find out so had stuck with the name we'd given the baby throughout the pregnant (and long before actually, when we were planning it).

But when we got the results back of the tests they'd done the doctor asked if we wanted to know and I just blurted out yes! It was really nice to know, completed the picture for us in a way.

Our little girl is now called Bernice, long story! No one will ever replace her.

Ruby is lovely. Have you thought of getting something with a red stone on to remember your baby by?

We had a good chat the other day about mementos.

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/01/2017 21:32

*pregnancy, not pregnant!

leighdinglady · 30/01/2017 21:40

Yes I bought a little pendant with a ruby in. I felt silly buying it, like people might think it was stupid. It just felt so wrong to walk away from the clinic and carry on with absolutely nothing at all to mark the loss. It's only a tiny little thing, but I guess so was s/he (I'm so going to end up calling the Dr to find out the sex. dH doesn't want to know though. It makes it more upsetting to know I'm a way. More real)

leighdinglady · 30/01/2017 21:41

Bloody hell! I've just this second had a flashing smiley OPK. Just 12 days later!

BertieBotts · 31/01/2017 10:12

You can normally get to the star symbol on a phone keyboard by going into page two of the keyboard which has the special symbols. You just need to put a star either side of the word you want to bold. They've also recently done it so you can put an @ sign before someone's name and it works but you have to spell the name exactly right then. With stars it doesn't matter.

Great about the OPK! I think? I ovulated pretty soon after both of my miscarriages.

This month I don't know when I will ovulate because I've been ill and it seems to have delayed things.

Littlemisssugarplum88 · 31/01/2017 11:15

Ahh great news. At least you know your body has recovered. I'm cd 13 today and got a flashing smiley face this morn Grinxx

leighdinglady · 31/01/2017 11:24

I'm still showing as flashing smiley today at day 13, so I'm about 2 days behind normal.

I'm not holding any hope for TTC this month though. Surely nothing can stick if I'm still spotting?? Plus it's a massive turn off to see blood! ConfusedConfused

Has anyone ever heard of someone getting pregnant the first month?

Did any of you try the first month, or is it better to wait until I've completely stopping bleeding?

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/01/2017 11:32

Good news leigh! Can't remember if you've had a bfn, sorry if you've already said.

I got a bfp with my last pg without af in between that and my previous mc, I conceived twice in 6 weeks. But I'd stopped bleeding after 5 days and ovulated about 3 days after that.

Never used OPK myself but it is certainly possible to conceive straight after a mc as I've done it.

I'm now 12DPO and CD25 and got some very low down cramping, not sure what it is but going to POAS tomorrow morning if no AF before then as I have my RMC apt. Going to be pretty gutted if AF does show. Tried not to get my hopes up but it's happened against my will Blush

leighdinglady · 31/01/2017 11:38

Good luck anne! Thank you for sharing. I'll keep my fingers crossed

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/01/2017 12:10

Thank you x

I was so relaxed ttc before the losses, this time around I feel more than a bit manic.

leighdinglady · 31/01/2017 12:27

Join the club. I feel like I need to start immediately and practically dived on DH this morning. I feel desperate to get pregnant again. To make it like this horrible thing hasn't happened. DH isn't ready and doesn't want to try whilst I'm still bleeding as he's worried about my health but I don't care. I just need to get cracking!

I may need to calm down but I just can't bare thinking it'll be another 18 months of TTC

BertieBotts · 31/01/2017 12:37

It's completely up to you. I have heard of people getting pregnant immediately afterwards. I was still tender and spotting too so we didn't do much and my gynecologist wanted us to wait (for no medical reason, mind.)

TeamLentil · 31/01/2017 13:07

Hello - I feel like I'm joining this club nobody wants to be part of Sad. I miscarried two weeks ago, first pregnancy after we were told we were rather unlikely to conceive naturally (we did!). Still spotting a bit but most of it is over now. Still in shock at how violent the whole process was (4 hours from when I started bleeding until the scan confirmed the miscarriage). Feeling rather weak and very, very sad.

leighdinglady · 31/01/2017 13:33

So sorry teamlentil. It's shit isn't it. We didn't think we could get pregnant either but we eventually did, just to lose it. At least you know you CAN get pregnant now. That's what I'm holding on to

emily86 · 31/01/2017 13:41

So sorry lentil. You are right, no one wants to be in this club but at least everyone in it is nice and supportive!

It is my birthday today and I'm moping around a bit. Another year passed and sadly one more miscarriage achieved and no closer to having a baby. And I've eaten too much cake and feel sick!

Yesterday I went and put down a deposit for my tattoo. Getting it done at 2pm tomorrow eek! 3 little birds for my 3 little ones who didn't make it. Also going to the memorial service in the morning which will be emotional but good I think.

Fingers crossed for everyone in the TWW. I hope it isn't driving you too crazy.

leighdinglady · 31/01/2017 14:23

emily I love that idea for a tat. I was thinking of getting a tiny Ruby

TeamLentil · 31/01/2017 14:24

Happy birthday, emily!

I just ordered a little Buddha pendant to remember my little one.

oliversmummy26 · 31/01/2017 15:26

leigh I got pregnant right after my mmc last year. I had an early scan yesterday and am currently 8+3, I had my mva on 2nd December, so got pregnant again almost immediately. We did wait until I'd stopped bleeding to try again, but that was over really quickly, and only because I think there is a chance of infection if you're still bleeding? But we didn't want to wait for my first af as doctor's suggested, there is no medical reason to wait after you have stopped bleeding, it's only so that they can date your pregnancy properly...I dated this pregnancy from the first day of bleeding from my mmc, and was only 4 days out!
So it definitely can be done. Best of luck to you and I'm so sorry for your loss, your little baby was beautiful and you should be proud of little Ruby Flowers

theotherendofthesockportal · 31/01/2017 17:36

Ladies, are any of you knowledgeable on follicles and ovulation?

I had my post miscarriage interval scan today and the doctor who scanned me said it looked like I was back to producing eggs as I had follicle on my ovary. Does this mean I am close to ovulation? I am keen to start TTC as soon as possible

Thank you

And happy birthday @emily86 Cake