TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Congratulations Kirsty. Here's hoping for a sticky one.

My HCG has come down to 11 so slowly getting there. Just need to have AF now and then get back on the horse.

I floated my tattoo plan past DH earlier and to my surprise he said he thought it was a good idea. He said he's a little worried it might remind him of the miscarriages every time we DTD so he's going to Mull it over for a couple of days and if he's dead against it I won't go ahead.

I've just started painted our small bedroom to be a study. It isn't what I imagined doing when we bought the house but overall I think I'm feeling more excited about getting it nice than sad.

Thanks everyone. Fx there are more bfp's soon x

Hi Anne Not sure if you'll remember me, think it was early december we both posted at the same time about our Rmc appintments, well mine got cancelled so still waiting for feb 16th, just wondered what happened when you went?

I was gutted it had been cancelled, only got notification the day before, But in a weird way i'm really looking forward to it, finally seems something is happening rather than me being left in limbo each month. currently doing the 2ww also, except not holding out much hope, got period cramps already and due on tuesday

Hi everyone. We sadly lost our baby last week at 14 weeks. We've been so upset, in part because it took us so long to get pregnant in the first place (18 months). We have very mixed feeling about TTC again. Almost like we'd be betraying our poor baby. On the other hand, another pregnancy would give us both some happiness. We're both so desperate to start a family.

My question is this - how long does it take to ovulate again?

I had a surgical abortion following our babies terminal diagnosis which meant it would never be born alive. I've hardly bled, but am still spotting a tiny bit. Ordinarily I would ovulate now, at day 11 but I don't have any cervical mucus (sorry TmI!) so I'm not sure what's going on down there?

Also - my pregnancy tests are still showing positive In your experience how long to this take to change? I've lost all my pregnancy symptoms already

I have no idea what is going on with my body so I had that little bleed in the week but stopped, and now today I've have very light red / brown blood (only when wiping) sorry for the TMI !! I just don't know what's going on. Anyone else had this before? Is it normal? X

I am so sorry for your loss Leigh that is really really tough. My most recent mc was at 8 wks and I took the tablets to induce the miscarriage after confirmation scans at 7wks and 7.5wks that babies hb had stopped and no growth. My ovulation happened around 12 days after I passed the pregnancy.
As you were further along and have more pregnancy hormone it may take longer for you. I think they said anything up to eight weeks for next af so I imagine it must be anything up to 6 for ovulation?!
Pregnancy test wise, after my first mc I made my gp do a dip test for me around a week later and it was still positive (I just couldn't look at a test without becoming slightly hysterical), anyway a couple of days later I got a massive headache and just woke up knowing that all the pregnancy hormone was gone. I did a test and it was negative.
It will not feel like this right now, but try and trust your body. Women have been doing this forever and our bodies are efficient (sometimes brutally so) at sorting themselves out. If your pg test is still strongly positive I would leave it alone for a few days/ a week and do a retest. I think (I don't know for certain) that you are unlikely to ovulate with a strong positive.
Be kind to yourself in the coming days and weeks, it is a minefield of emotional upheaval, try and rest, take some vitamins and give your oh lots of hugs.

Little is this your first AF since mc? Or are you somewhere else in cycle (like potential ovulation bleed??).
Things have gotten weird for me since most recent mc. I have experienced ovulation bleed for first time ever and AF arrived today and it is incredibly sore. Wtf, like life wasn't already enough of a pain.

Thanks Miami, i had a mc 22nd Dec with twins, stopped bleeding around 28th Dec. I haven't had any signs of anything since Tue when I had bright red blood and a few clots when I wiped (thought it was my AF) but didnt stay around. Then today I wiped and brown/pink slight red blood again when I've wiped. Guess I will just have to wait and see if it gets heavier. Just hate this waiting game xx

Thank you Miami x

Morning all

Hope the decorating's going well emily

So sorry for your loss leigh With my early mc I ovulated exactly a week after it started. With this last one, which was further along, I'm pretty sure it was about 2 weeks after the surgery. But from what I've read it varies hugely, so try to focus on looking after yourself, eating and sleeping well and resting. It's such early days and you're bound to be in shock about what's happened for a little while. My first af came 29 days after the surgery but a lot of people find it's more like 6 or 8 weeks after, as Miami says.

Hope you're doing alright LittleFox, how are things today?

I'm finally free of thrush

BFN this morning because the symptom spotting has got out of control and DH went to sleep last night begging me to POAS this morning! But I'm only CD10 so not sure what I was hoping for....

I've fainted, I'm exhausted, I'm craving sweet things, mild nausea, can smell everything everywhere, right side cramping, pale pink CM (first time ever, weird). But who the fuck knows.

Buddah, of course I remember you! So shit your appointment got cancelled. I'm due tomorrow as well. Fx for you, you're not out till you're out x

At my first appointment the doc took a history of my pregnancies, bit more detail on the most recent one, past operations, general health, lifestyle. Talked me through the test results of the fetus. Mentioned rough facts e.g. I'm at no greater risk of anyone else who hadn't had a mc with my next pregnancy and in my situation it's only 15% chance of a future loss. Which was nice.

He didn't have the test results to hand but we got there in the end after much ringing around.

Then he briefly explained his approach to recurrent miscarriage and said he was sending me for blood tests. In particular looking for a clotting issue which he can then treat with clexane injected once I'm pg again. He said this is his approach, not everyone's, so I wouldn't expect your clinic to say exactly the same, but it would be really good to hear what they suggest to you.

The appointment part tool half an hour, then I had the bloods done, and we're back there for results and next steps on Wednesday.

There's a sign on the wall about waiting times of up to 2 hours so I'd take a book or a magazine with you, and maybe a snack. We ended up waiting about 15 mins so not bad at all. But it's a fortnightly clinic where you get an appointment time, but then have to just wait to be seen as in ours there's only the one doctor.

I feel like once again I've waffled on and the above may not be relevant to many people but PM me if you'd like to, very happy to chat and really nice to have someone to compare notes with.

Btw, if this is your month, don't wait till your appointment to tell them, phone the clinic straight away and get seen. They couldn't have been more insistent with me that they need to know STRAIGHT AWAY!

Thanks Anne,

I'm okay, I still have the bleed, which has turned more red this morning - so I'm pretty sure it's now the start of AF I'm having a few period pains too. Quite glad I've got the week off, however I am meant to be decorating our sitting room as havent got round to doing it since we moved in nearly a year ago. If the bleed continues then it means I'll be starting Clomid again tomorrow

How many mcs have you had Anne? Do you have any dcs? After my last mc, the hospital said that if I have another one then I'll be referred. Xxx

Anne sometimes you just have to pee on that damn stick to get it out of your mind for a while!

I'm starting to get impatient waiting for AF now. Going off the bit of bleeding I've had since my last MC I'm anticipating her showing up at the weekend. I do think the enforced break from TTC has done me some good in terms of head space though.

I've had 3 Fox, got referred by the EPU after the third one to the RMC clinic in the same NHS Trust.

2 very early ones and one MMC.

No DC yet

I had a funny one at the weekend, I was at a party and the host's sister and I were chatting and playing with her gorgeous baby. Later in the evening she came up to me and said she'd been told I'd have a mc (I think the host was worried how I'd be about the baby?! I adore babies but I guess nice of them to worry?) and she wanted to say how sorry she was and that she'd had one before her baby was born and that I'd never forget it but she hoped I'd get my rainbow baby and knew I'd be a brilliant. Totally out of the blue.

Even though she can't see the future, it was kind and I was touched.

Hi anne Thanks for all the info, not waffling at all, I'm really trying to find out as much as I can so i can go in and have an appointment without knowing something and its just delays it a bit longer, so fab to know what they ask and do.

The hospital here is a one day a week clinic that only runs for 4 hours at a time, hence the long waiting time in between appointments (more than a month later!) My appt is for 9am so hopefully not waiting for ages but will take a book with me.

Fingers crossed for you for tomorrow too, Good to know that If by some miracle I do get a BFP soon to call them, I would have waited till my appointment. Promised im not going to test at all until friday though - I used to rush and do it but these day Ii think ignorance is bliss and id rather be wondering for a while longer than worrying.

Hi all- was sent to this thread from another post.
In first month of TTC after misscarriage in July 16.
Have a 2YO DD already. Monitoring OV by reading my body and using online apps to track intimacy etc tmi I know.
Petrified to test in February!

Hey Doris, glad you've found us.

Absolutely no such thing as TMI round these parts, and an app is a life/sanity saver. I'm using Ovia - it's great for ttc and pregnancy, two separate apps.

Buddha, anytime, do keep updating on what happens at your appointment. I had no idea what to expect from ours. I did write a list of questions down beforehand and then forgot to take it in, but it was good going through all our thoughts for a couple of days beforehand and actually by the end we or the dec had covered every one of them.

I have a bunch more questions now as want to be prepared if I do need the treatment in a future pregnancy and want to know about side effects, how long you take the drugs for, whether you can travel on them, if it affects delivery options etc. Once I have a bfp it could be full steam ahead with drugs so I want to know what all of that means.

Going to write another list!

Awwr anne! It's hard being around babies after a mc, but it's nice she spoke to you about it and actually knows what it is like to have a mc, I find my friends with babies/children have no idea what it is like losing a baby so when they ask about me then always say "are you going to try again?" All I have ever wanted is a family of my own and never thought it would be this hard and especially didnt think I'd have to take tablets to help fall pregnant. I've had 2 losses so far

I work in a nursery so surrounded by children and babies everyday. I recently applied for another position within the nursery because I am not happy where I am, and got it, so I am going to be managing the baby room in a different nursery (same company) sometimes i wonder if it's the right decision. should be starting there in a few weeks. X

Can anyone tell me how to make someone's name bold?

Anne i know just how you feel. My step sister got pregnant 2 weeks after me and has just put her 12 week scan photo on Facebook. I was so looking forward to doing that. I can't help but be jealous.

We were so happy to tell our friends. Now we never get to share our scan picture because it's so painful to see the thick black line behind its neck which was the first sign of Edwards. I hope you don't mind if I share it here? I feel like we're ashamed. I'm not. I want to shout from the rooftops that we had a baby but it's too sad

leighlinglady

To make it bold you hold ctrl and the small star button at the same time, on my keyboard its on number 8, not sure if thats always the same though??

Also not sure if you realise or wanted this but your name is on your scan picture? You can ask MNHQ to remove it for you, then use an app to block out your name (or microsoft paint on your laptop) then upload it again?

If you know it's there and dont mind then ignore my comment, and so sorry you've also found yourself here.

Thank you Budda. I don't think I can do it on the phone app then.

I totally forgot about my name, but then again, like I said it's nothing to be embarrassed about and maybe more people do need to be open about miscarriage. I do feel like we're keeping it a secret when we shouldn't be.

Fingers crossed for everyone TTC x

Leigh that must be very hard. Im so sorry for your loss. As others have said, take time to heal. You will probably feel better when time goes by, but at least for me those first weeks were very hard to get through.

TMI alert...: I am currently thinking that AF has arrived, although it has been less than four weeks since my mmc (at 10+4) and medical management (four weeks tomorrow). My cycles are usually long, so I had expected the opposite. I had also expected a heavier AF, this is light, which is strange, as usually day two is the heaviest day. Anyone with experiences on first AF? I just really hope it is not some random bleeding as I am rather impatient TTC again. Pregnancy test is stark white, so at least there should not be anything left from the pregnancy. Wish this was a bit more straightforward...

On a more positive note: FX for those of you in TTW! Hope to see some good news soon!

I have an appointment with a fertility doctor tomorrow. Not sure what to expect. We've started initial testing with bloods and SA which are all normal. Anyone any ideas?

To recap, I'm 36, TTC for over 12 months, 1 MMC and two possible chemicals

Not particularly, my AF started last night, started off being brown and has turned red today and like you it has been lighter than normal. I thought it would also be a lot heavier. It's my first AF sine mc in Dec. Will you be trying this month or will you wait another cycle? Xxx